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What should you do if you are sex-starved ? Thank you in advance !
Touch yo' self!
Seriously, it's the next best thing.
I had oral sex twice, and before you say anything hear me out. I was 16 years old and very naive. During that time I was going through an emotional and mental roller coaster from abuse to suicide. I'll admit at the point in my life I wasn't 100% there. Even when I did oral sex it wasn't sexual for me, i panic and reacted to the situation. I was always panic when I'm around guys because i was abuse sexually. Anyway, I feel in my heart that I am a virgin because what I did honestly wasn't sexual at all. Am I still a virgin?
In my opinion, I believe you are still a virgin. Of course, there are going to be people that will tell you otherwise, but what matters is what you think.
I am a 20 year old boy and i don't know why am i living in this world.I am poor at academics,my friends don't consider me and my mom always scolds me for the silliest of reasons.I don't have any close ones either ,both in boys and girls, to tell how bad i feel at myself.I have been having suicidal thoughts since last year but i don't have the courage to commit suicide either.My friends just use me when they need to get some work done.Even if i share my feelings with someone he shares it with everyone in class and next day im the jackass in the class.every night i sleep thinking that i dont wake up the next day.I dont think my life is going to be successfull and just want to die as soon as possible.please advise
I'm 20, also (female). Not everyone our age has close friends. Personally, I don't. I just have acquaintances.
There are so many things that I'm not good at, but I try not to let it blind me of the things that I am good at it.
Everyone's mom yells at them for silly reasons. Don't let it get to you.
To change your life, you are going to have to adopt a better attitude about your current situation or work towards changing things in your life.
Suicide is not the answer. It sounds like you're just feeling down, but so many people feel that way. You are not doomed to a life of sadness. Your life is full of choices and you can choose happiness. Seriously, I hope you see how you can go on and that suicide won't solve anything.
17/f
Hi, so I'm a very active person, participating in yearly sports including cross country, triathlon, mountain biking, and the every so often hike or some other type of physical activity on my own. Last summer, my ex/bestfriend attempted suicide and I got depressed. As a result, I got a little out of shape.
I'm trying to work back up to my initial level of fitness. So far, my stamina seems to be setting back in; however, I cannot help but be a tad bit irked by my body's inability to reflect my fitness level.
I work hard daily, and yet I've not been able to see any chance in physical appearance. I'm still somewhat thick looking, and those extra few pounds don't seem to be falling off how I had hoped.
Is there anything that could be contributing to this lack of physical fitness being reflected in my physical appearance?
Also, something I'd like to add that may be a contributing factor; my daily regiment of food and nutrition intake is somewhat sporadic. I have severe GERD, and it causes me to not be able to eat as much as I should be. I try to get around 1000-1200 a day, but it's often times a struggle.
Thanks for any advice given.
Do you do any muscle building or toning exercises?
It seems like you do a lot of cardio, but cardio won't "shape" you. Cardio burns fat, but it's muscle building that will change your shape.
Are there any painless ways to commit suicide? I have given up on life and pretty much want it to end since nothing seems to go right anymore. If you want some back story then I will be breif. I am 22 and have attempted suicide two times and they were obviously failed attempts. The first time I shot myself in the chest and survived, the second was overdosing but again failed. I have tried changing my life around but to no success. I have no parents to turn to and I have no siblings. My friendlist is zero and well...I think this can only be fate I suppose. Can anyone recommend a simple method?
Everyone has trouble in their life. Anyone who doesn't isn't living. It's human nature to get down about life, but it's part of our purpose to figure out what needs to change. What do you have to do to make your life better? Give yourself a chance to make a change. You know what, I have no friends either. That says nothing about my value as a person. Taking your life would be a tragedy. You are here for a reason!
I just watched the Asians in the Library video by that UCLA girl and I just feel so sad, depressed, and suicidal now. Why do people have to be like this?
I just saw that video yesterday and I agree, it's sick, but don't let it devastate you. A majority of the population aren't like her. If you read her YouTube comments you'll see how angry viewers are because they don't share her point of view.
My roommate is kind of weird. I moved in with her in the beginning of December to prepare for this upcoming semester of college. We live near campus. She's been going to this college for 2 semesters already so she knows all about the school. That isn't the point.
She's really quiet and keeps to herself. She always, always eats alone. We never even watch TV together. I hardly ever see her really. I don't know if she has any friends, but I know if she does they never come over. I try to get her to go out and have lunch with me sometimes but she ALWAYS turns me down and says she's busy (usually reading some book, writing some paper, or doing some "research" about something or another). She always DOES seem busy because every time I've been in her room she has stacks of papers and books and it just looks like she is doing a lot of stuff. Anyway, she always seems kind of sad or depressed too though. And it scares me that maybe she's suicidal or severely depressed or something.
What should I do about this?
The fact that she always eats alone and turns down invites to go to lunch could mean she has an eating disorder. idk. maybe that will make sense?
Ive been wanting to commit suicide for the last 3 years, i think ive not done it yet because of fear. Im 23 i live with my parents, my 2 brothers and sister. My family are nice to me, ive been trying to tell my mum about my situation, all she says is dont do it u will go to hell. I dont get love from my family the way my sister and btothers do. im a very shy guy, i struggle to make friends, ima student at uni, i just hate going there. ive told my family i dont want to study and i will get a job somewhere, but they are forcing me to study! Ima muslim my parents want me to have an arrange marriage with my 1st cousin, which i find disgusting because ive always treated her like my sister, ive got a feeling i might have to marry her because i will get emotionally blackmailed. for the past 6 months ive been constantly getting headaches, i get chest pains, i know that im not wanted, i need to take big deep breathes all the time and i jus want to kill myself. i can leave my family, but i dnt want to do that because they raised me.
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME?
If your family is willing to emotionally blackmail you...why would you feel obligated to stay with these people? Who cares if they raised you. A loving family wouldn't do that.
If I were you, I would move away and make a new life for myself.
i'm 18 and still a virgin. i'm definetly not ashamed of it, actually i'm kinda proud. its not like i'm ugly, actually alot of people are surprised or don't believe me that i'm still a virgin i just refuse to give my virginity to someone who doesn't deserve it and i haven't met anyone worth giving it to yet (i know i'm old fashioned but whatever). i've had a few boyfriends and definetly many opportunities but i just didn't want to. but i feel like everyone my age and even a little younger has had sex. when i hang out with certain friends thats all they talk about. i mean somethings i can contribute because i've done everything else except actual intercourse. but i just feel like i'm alone. is there anyone out there my age virgins?
I'm 19 and haven't even had my first kiss. It's no big deal.
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ohkay so lately ive been thinking that i might have been sexually abused as a child..alright, well lately when me and my boyfriend have been doing sexual things ive felt kinda guilty afterwards not because of anything he did or i did. idk its just a feeling. and when i think about it i dont have any memory of like younger than 10ish. when i was little i used to always wanna play "doctor" with my friends but like with clothes off, wed usually hide in a closet or something. and as from when i was little till a couple years ago i used to hump things like anything i could find. when i was little i used to hum hampers and beds and couches and my parents would catch me and tell me to stopp. and as i got older and still humped i felt guilty afterwards. i dont know why im feeling this way. i dont understand it. i even had a dream a couple months ago that my dad was trying to "touch" me but he would NEVER do soemthing like that. i just dont know what to think. any help would be appreciated. thanks.
Your childhood sounds a lot like mine. That's kind of awkward to admit, but being curious is normal. From what you described, you weren't forced to participate in that kind of behavior. It seems like you chose to do it because it is what you wanted. Honestly, I don't think you have been violated as a child considering I have a similar past and don't feel bothered by it.
Ok im 18/female i hate saying this because it makes me feel like im talking about my man behind his back but last night i was trying to wake my man up so that we can go to bed and i tryed to get him up like 3 times and then he told to shut the fuck up like after that and i told him dont tell me that and he said it again maybe 3 more time and i kept saying dont say that and then he got up and pushed me with his chess and said what you going to do about it and walked away in the bedroom then later after i stoped crying i went in the room and we talked but when i thought he was going to tell me hes sorry he told me to give him a blowjob and he pulled his pants down its was dark so the whole time i was doing it i was crying it felt like i just got used he acked like it never happend so the questen is why do i feel like this we have been together for 6 years and plan to marry also i told him this morning and he said hes sorry and hes not useing me and he loves me! so why do i feel this way still sorry so long please help me!!! anybody!!!!
For him to demand oral sex without you agreeing to it is wrong! From how you're describing him, I can't see why you're with him. He DID use you and he sounds selfish. Rethink why you're still with him because to an outsider, he sounds like he's no good!
17/f
okai so i've gotten a bit suicidal recently. i've lost all my friends & now it seems to me that there isnt really a reason for me to live anymore cause there is noone who really cares about me & i dont know .. if i die noone would really bother you know?
i just feel like i'm worthless & i'm always alone & just sit in my room. i mean it wouldnt really make a difference if i sit in my room or 'rest in peace' cause either way noone cares.
everyone just walks by me & ignores me & i seem to lose every person who i was ever important to. i fail at everything.
i dont want you to tell me how to make new friends or whatever.. i just wanna believe that even without having friends life is still worth living & that i'm worth something. and telling me that im still young & can still have a great future doesnt help either cause i've tried telling myself that loads of times. help? i just hate this feeling.. i always cry & honestly just wanna kill myself... & the feeling that noone would care if i DID is just horrible.
I've felt this way during my highschool years, too. Right now, I'm 19 and have gotten past this part of my life. Recognize this as just a "stage". Your life does not have to be this way. You have every right to be happy! This is your life, so take charge! Put yourself first! Take the time to love yourself and when you feel ready to...give your love away! the love you give away won't be lost. it will be given back to you in abundance! love will lead you to a happiness that lasts. sorry if this all sounds trippy lol
if you want to talk, send me an Email. lisaxfaith@yahoo.com
you DO matter!!!
I haven't had sex and im 15... Am I a freak? Cause it seems like all my friends are talking about having sex and I don't even WANT to until I am married.
I'm 19 and haven't even had my first kiss. It's not as big a deal as everyone's making it. You're not missing out and I pride you on having the will to wait till marriage!
Do i moan when my boyfriend fingers me?
I think you should. When he's pleasuring you, it makes sense that you would show some indication that it feels good lol
Is there any way i can get myself off while on my period? Maybe that doesnt include touching my bleeding vagina.
use the faucet in the bathtub. it'll get you clean down there, also!
sooo ok dont judge me because im asking this. im completely normal, i just love my boyfriend so much. weve been dating for 2 years and he suffers from schitzophrenia and he refuses to take medication because he hates the way it makes him feel. i feel so horrible 4 him because he is in so much pain and its just getting so much worse. i know he doesnt want to live anymore. yesterday he asked me to kill him and at first i didnt think he was serious but we talked for a while and he said it was the only way or he would do it himself. i dont want him to go to hell for committing suicide so i told him i would kill him so id go to hell instead. i havnt decided if im going to kill myself yet because my boyfriend says he doesnt want me to do that. but i dont know if i could deal with the fact i killed the boy im in love with. but what happens if a 16 year old kills another 16 year old who asked her to do it? jail? death penalty? psychiatric center forever? im not crazy im just putting the one i love out of his misery because i cant stand him being in pain any longer. id rather be in pain for him. just wanna know what would happen. dont try to do all that talking out of it and stuff either. wont work. thanks
Sounds intense. You seem to have a very big heart, but you need to invite your mind into the situation. Think about it: of course you are going to be dealing with some sort of punishment. There is no way to rationlize taking someone's life. This is about your future...do you want to lose everyone's trust?
This year, being my freshman year in highschool, I decided to completely stay away from drama and what not. Of course, I some how got sucked in and spit out, losing my best friend and my personality in the process. It's not that I don't know who I am, it's just that life is so dull, I don't know what to do. I'm not making any new friends, I'm not interested in anyone, I'm just sitting here waiting for something exciting to happen. I used to be the person to cause the excitement. I feel so dull. I guess I'm just sort of thinking a lot. I read "The Last Lecture" the other day, and I guess, corny as it sounds, it go me thinking about life itself. Maybe I'm just spending to much social time in my head? It's just awkward around people now. I feel like I'm losing my friends because of this. I don't know how to snap out of this trance. It's not like it's always like this. I was grounded a few weeks ago for about 2 months from my comoputer, phone, and ipod, and I found that I'm much happier without these material items, but now that i'm ungrounded, I've gone back to being addicted to all of my things. I guess I just want to know what's causing this dullness inside of me...I feel like something really big is going to happen in my life soon but I'm not sure what it is or even if it will, so I'm waiting? I just don't see the point of life anymore (not in a suicidal way). Please help me snap out of this trance.
Here's the problem: you have too much down time.
I just overcame this problem, so here's my input...find an activity that you can really contribute to. Anything that requires responsibility and your time will work out just fine. You learn more about yourself through experience and not just sitting in one spot thinking about every detail of your life. Believe me, just participate.
how cn u tell if ur horny or not
If you convince youself that you'd do something sexual with someone, but normally you know you wouldn't do that kind of stuff...you are probably just aroused.
i think my girlfriends dad sexually abuses her. her parents are divorced and she has five older brothers but they all live on their own since there alot older than she is. i went over there for dinner one time because she said she was scared but she wouldnt tell me why and the whole meal her dad kept making perverted comments about her chest size. shes like a 36d which is nice. her dad was like wow molly your tits look huge i just wanna grab them. and she kept telling him to stop and saying not now dad please. and he kept asking me when i was gonna fuck her next. and he thinks she would be good in bed. she kept getting really embrassed. then all of a sudden he did grabb her and then she started crying and her dad told me to leave but she looked so scared i couldnt leave her. i took her to my house. and i kept asking her did he always do this to you and she wouldnt answer me. i dont know what to do. do you think he rapes her and sexually abuse her. thank you in advance.
If you are at the point of questioning that type of activity, then report this behavior to the police. You've seen him touch her and you whitnessed the amount of verbal abuse that went on. That is not a typical conversation between a father and daughter. Do what's right: notify the authorities.
what is it?
lumpy fat deposits, esp. in the thighs and buttocks.
(dictionary.com as my source)