What causes the "orgasm" in the body and why do you get so tired afterwards?
Reading the answer below me, makes me laugh hysterically because people can be so stupid, and sad at the same time, because these people are giving advice.
When a woman orgasms because certain parts of her are stimulated (G spot or clit) there are a lot of nerve endings that come in waves creating a euphoric feeling. You get tired afterward, because you spend so much energy during it.
Here is a website you can browse and read up on.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/ic_femaleorgasms.shtml
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okay.. well i was just wondering.. its a wierd question accually but i was just wondering.. when a guy fingers you.. what will he be expecting? hair.. cut hair.. not a lot of hair.. none at all.. im very confused about this.. people tell me it differs.. i guess im just asking whats the norm?
He is hoping for some warm wetness and hopefully some moaning that will lead to his turn.
Don't be self conscious and worry about what he wants. It is about you and should be that way. Groom the way you feel comfortable, and most likely he will be thinking about the fact that he is in your pants and not really care what kind of hair is there.
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ok, im going to be straight forward with this...
i have an unusually large penis, 10 inches, and my girlfriend is afraid to have sex with me because of it. She has no issues with any other kind of sexual activities, but she does NOT want that thing in her. what do i do?
Ease her into it. If she is really that frightened, then go slowly with her.
Most women respond very well to some kind of romantic kissing and touching and such. If you are very gentle and slow, you may be able to ease her into it if she is comfortable that you will be gentle and easy during sex. Once she is used to your size, then you can bang the shit out of her.
She probably just has to trust that you will be gentle and not hurt her during sex. So, do so.
Don't listen to the dipshit underneath me. You don't want to get her drunk. Easing into sex involves trust. If you take their advice, it might backfire on you.
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ok it has been two years for me liking this guy we have went out and broke up several times... currently he is going out with this other girl and it is making me annoyed! I really don't want to like him anymore but i just can't stop and anyways i no for a fact that he likes me bc when i told him i liked him he asked me if i would ever go out with him after him and the other girl broke up...
what should i do about no likeing him anymore cause i really dont want to like him!!! please respond quickly
P.S. know i just cant let go ive been trying for 2 years!!!!!!!!!
The fact that he asked you if you would go back out with him AFTER he breaks up with a different girl should be one big huge giant flashing red warning sign saying "He doesn't love you...He doesn't love you."
Right now, you are back up. Sorry. If he wanted to you and loved you as much as you claim to love him, he wouldn't be with that girl and he wouldn't be asking you if you would date him WHEN HE DECIDES TO COME AROUND AGAIN.
How about not waiting for him, and find someone who is available and wanting you. As wise friend of mine once said...
"The best way to get over a boy is by kissing another one."
It is a waste of your time and energy to want someone who is taken and not available for you to have. Just date around. You will much happier doing what it is you want to do then waiting on someone who may or may not come around again. Go out with your friends and meet new guys. New and better guys and pretty soon you won't be thinking about whats-his-face...
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this is probably the wrong category. again. but oh well.
i've been asking lots of questions lately so sorry.
okay. this is goingn to sound dumb but whatever. when i get horny i masturbate, and blahblah. but once i climax, i'm done, and i'm just like, "okay. whatever. how could i not resist doing that?" i don't know why, and it's kind of annoying. maybe i should just stop doing it so much and then my 'orgasm' if that's even what it is, would last longer.
i also feel kind of guilty afterwards, because i'm already paranoid of having something happen to my family or pets, and though i'm not really, really religious i do believe in god, and i pray occasionally, so i'm worried that he's going to punish me for masturbating, even though i'm not hurting anyone or thinking of anyone when i do it.
sorry my questions are all kind of messed up but i don't want to ask people in real life. haha.
thank you.
Masturbate all you want. God himself masturbates 5 times a day. What do you think sleet is? He really only gets horny when it is cold enough to rain, but not really cold enough to snow.
But, I don't believe in God so I think you should be able to do whatever you want.
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I had a question on here about a week ago. I had been raped and I wanted to be tighter again so I could feel like i was a virgin. Most people suggested I do kegels. I did kegels. The weird part is I think I got myself to tight? is that possible?
Id just like to kno because if sometime I do find the right guy, and maybe anytime soon I dont want it to hurt very badly.
It takes time to develop muscles. Doing kegels for a week or so isn't going to make you too tight..
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OKay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 8 months , and we are definantly in love. Lately we have been talkin about sex, a little more and more each time we talk to each other. Like last night we were texting each other and he said and i quote "Blaire, I love you, & you no that, i would do anything in the world for you. And , well now, i think im ready, for well you know, to have sex. I think we should try it. But only if your ready"
and the thing is , were young. He is 16, im almost 14.(one more week) and well, i would really love to loose my virginity to him, but he has already had sex(he used to be in the major party scene. He quit for me.) So should i have sex with him?
-Confsed
I am laughing at some of the replies you have gotten here. Many are just saying "No you're too young" or "He just wants the sex and doesn't care about you"
That is pretty funny since in the time he has been with you, he has quit partying and HASN'T PRESSURED YOU into sex. You have been together 8 months which is a long time to be together without having sex.
He is brining it up because he is ready and is trying to find out if you are. If all he wanted was sex, he would have left by now and found someone who would have given it up.
Since the two of you are having open conversations about sex (which is an excellent thing by the way) tell him that you would like to lose your virginity to him...just not quite yet. He is over 2 years older than you and he should take that into consideration.
He seems like a decent guy..despite what these other twats are saying..give him a chance to show you and ask him to wait for you a little longer until YOU feel that you are ready.
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okay so everyone at school calls me a slut n even my friends. like i no there jsut kidding and all but it really bugs me and i want it to stop. ive had sex with 4 people.. is it THAT slutty? im 15. i dont no wat to do i just wish it never happend. i just want to earn respect from my friends and clear my bad reputation. ]
any ideas?? it would be greatly appreciated
What you do is your business and no one elses. If you want respect, usually you have to act in such a way that reflects how you want to be seen.
Since that isn't really an option for you, you need to stand up for yourself. You need to stand up to your friends and everyone else that calls you whatever. You don't have to fight, you don't have to yell, you just need to be no-nonsense and serious.
4 partners at 15 will seem like a lot to the others around you and there is nothing you can do about that. But if you don't/refuse to take it, they will get the message. People will still call you a slut. You are probably far more experienced than most of your class.
But everyone has things they are insecure of and sensitive about. If they can exploit yours, you can exploit theirs. Maybe if they understood how crappy it is to be singled out, they wouldn't be so quick to do it themselves.
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What is a shocker?
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=shocker
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Ok, both me and my boyfriend prefer..having it shaved "down there". The only thing whe I try to shave i still have littel studs that don't totally go away. I want it to be completley smooth there. Can I use nair down then? Or what can I use beside waxing it..thnx
Ok, here is the low down...
Nair, smelly and does not work well on coarse pubic hair, it does work, but not as well as you might think. Oh did I mention it smells...like ass!
Nair is not to be used on the VAGINA, since no hair actually grows on the vagina, which you would think other advicenators would know, you should be ok. Hair does grow on the labia or lips, and you can use it there. Just be careful about not letting it get inside you. If it is strong enough to dissolve hair, you don't want it getting anywhere near the senstive skin around your vag.
If you want it completely smooth, the only solution is the ever so painful waxing. It sucks, but that is the only way to keep it pre-pubescent. As you do it more often, it doesn't hurt as bad and the hair becomes finer and easier to remove. It's getting it there that sucks.
The grooming sucks, but the upkeep is worse. Gahh, I personally hate it, but I can't stand the shag either.
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me and my boyfrend have been going out for 2 months and anytime we kiss i feel an urge to jump ontop of him is that normal
Yes, congrats! You are horny. Welcome to the club. It's hard when dating someone new not to want to jump on them. I feel the urge to jump all over a guy too. Unfortunately for me, he is not a trampoline. Maybe it would help us both if we went and bought one. That way whenever the urge strikes us, we can jump on it instead. Guys don't have the bouncing power trampolines do. Only if they did...
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I am a sophmore in highschool and I have been thinking about careers for my future. There has been one thing that I have been interested in for a while now. I want to become a sex therapist to cousil couples about their sex lives.. Sort of like Dr. Ruth? (Short little lady that talks about sex alot). The thing is.. I'm not sure how to approach my parents about it, because they would probably think it's a horrible career choice and wouldn't agree with what I'd be doing with my life. In my personal opinion I think it's admirable career.
So, I have a few questions here. One would be how should I approach my parents about this subject? The other is what colleges would actually have that course? Or is it made up of multiple courses?
If you have any helpful websites about schools and programs that would be great too.. Thanks if you can help!
In order to be a therapist of any kind you need to get a degree in psychology. Just a general degree in psychology with a focus on research or whatever...your psych department at the college you will attend will have all of that info for you. After you have graduated with a degree then you must take an exam called the GRE or the GRE Psych specific. Some grad schools require you to take both. These exams are expensive and cost about 100-150 dollars each time you take them.
This is a general exam much like the SAT or the ACT except it is much more harder and much more involved. After you get a good score on that, you must apply to graduate school. You cannot become a counselor just by graduating with a four year degree. You can get your masters which is only two years, but you will not have the freedom you want.
You can only be a high school counselor or a social worker with a masters. You might be able to teach a psych course at some community college. You may be able to work in a hospital, but you will not be able to have clients of your own. In order to have your OWN practice and be able to have your OWN patients or clients you have to have your PhD. This can be up to 8 years including research and a apprentiship under another licenced Therapist. Then after you receive your PhD you must take the board exam for whatever state you are in to get a licence to practice.
It is hard and it is long and it takes a huge amount of commitment. I am telling you all of this ahead of time because I didn't know all of this when I decided I wanted to become a psychologist. You are going to have to have great grades because right now psych grad school is so competitive that to be able to go anywhere good, you have to have an excellent resume.
If you do decide to go for psych anyway...which I want you to know is honestly a great field and worth while to those who really want it....when you are in college, get to know your professors. I know it sounds teacher's petish...but you will need them after you graduate. You will need letters of recommendation and you want professors who know you and can say great things about you, not just "Oh she got an A in my class and showed up on time every class period." Depending on where you go...volunteer. It looks great on a resume and will help you deal with the population you are going to be trying to help.
Find a job or volunteer at a mental health facility. I know it might sound scary, but I did it, and there is nothing to be afraid of. You can also get a job with your psych department. I also volunteered with the LEAD Institute, they had a crisis hotline where you got training to handle crisis calls and then would take shifts answering phone calls of those who call in. I was really scared the first time I did it, but honestly, these people just want you to listen and talk to them. You also have the police and an ambulance available to you if indeed you do have an emergency.
So if this is something you want to do, start now. I assume that you are still in high school and have plenty of time to figure out what you want to do if psychology isn't the thing for you. If you do end up becoming a sex therapist, doing all of these things will help you anyway in your daily life.
As for talking to your parents, tell them you would like to major in psychology and eventually become a therapist. Later once you are in college and actually decide for good what you want to be, they will most likely be more understanding. You won't need to tell them anything until you are in grad school. By then you should be in your early to mid 20's and they have no longer have any say in what you do anyway.
Good luck, and, sorry for the length. If you have anyother questions, you can always ask me. Or if you want other points of view, I recommend Dr. Chad. He may be able to fill some gaps that I have left out.
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ok well for school we have to wright a persusive essay about something we feel strongly about adn i choose to wirght about abortion..well i was thinking that i dont really no that much about it but that it kills an innicoent child adn what it says on the internet..but i really need peoples opinions about why they are for or against it...i really need this nad its due tomorrow yes i no stupid to do things last min. but you no i forgot..
so whay would you be for or against or both on abortion?
please help!
You have chosen a very, very, very, sensitive topic. Be ready for a huge discussion that can get very heated. People feel very strongly on both sides and they tend to not get along. There were a few discussions about abortion in some classes I have taken over the years and very few (only one I think) did not end with screaming and tears. Extreme, yes. It may also depend on where you live. I live in Missouri, people tend to be more conservative. Views differ depending on what region you are in. Good luck....
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alright, i dno if this is allowed, but when i have sex, the guys penis doesnt always go into me where its supposed to go into easily. It always takes quite a while, and it really bothers me, because i love sex, and it takes up more energy trying to do that than anything else. please help w. any ideas and i rate 5`s all the way unless its a smart ass answer
Where is he trying to put it? If it is going where it is supposed to, there shouldn't be any problems. The only way it should be difficult is if there isn't enough moisture. Try some lube and if that doesn't work, make sure he knows where he is going. You could end up with a....surprise....you don't want.
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um when youre havig sex and the guy is on top, is the only place to put your legs on his shoulders?
If you are old enough to be having sex, then you should be able to figure it out or at least search it on your own. I am not here to show you how to have sex. But since you did ask an actual question...
Google Kama Sutra.
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I was talking to one of my guy friends and he said that the taste of a guy's cum depends on his diet. Is that true? Like, he said that if the guy ate fruits and stuff that it'll be sweeter.
Yes, it is true. It only will change the taste slightly. Pineapple will make it sweeter. Acidic foods and things of that nature will make it more sour.
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i was on birth control for about a year and i just recently stopped because me and my boyfriend broke up. i figured i didn't need to be on it if i wasn't going to be sexually active. so now that i'm not on it is my period going to be really messed up? i'm just wondering so i'll be aware of this..
If your period was irregular before hand, then chances are that it will go back to the way it was. Birth Control Pills regulate your period for you. The hormones in them prevent ovulation. No ovulation no pregnancy. Once you stop the hormone flow into your body it will revert to the way it was before.
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Say a girl and a guy that are dating have sex alot. If one night the girl didn't want to but the guy forced her to, is that still rape? Becuase she's had sex with him before, she just didn't feel like it right then.
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. No means no, no matter what.
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If you aren't experianced I don't know if you want to read this.
My bf and I have been together for 1 year and 6 months and have been sexual active together for about 4 months.
Well he came over last night and we were fooling around and started having sex. Everything was going fine but then he started getting rough. It was getting to be wayyy too much for me so I told him to not be so hard. He didn't listen and just kept at it.
It got bad enough for me to where I broke out in tears and he still didn't slow down.
When he was about to finish off he took it out and cummed all over me adn my sheets. I usually don't have a problem with that but when we were done (or when he was done anyways) he wouldn't let me clean up. I wanted to take a shower so bad but he wouldn't let me. We just layed there and slept which was very uncomfortable for me because it was gross and sticky.
Now I don't know if I can be comfortable around him. He's never done anythign like this before. he always used to listen while we were in bed adn never went too fast or hard. I don't know what got over him. What should I do? 18/f
Sometimes people hide their sexual preferrences until they are comfortable with the person they are active with. He may have always preferred sex a little on the rough side, but waited until now to show so. What he did was wrong. When you did not like something and asked him to stop, he should have stopped period. You are in YOUR own house, he CANNOT tell you what you can and cannot do. If he is not going to respect you and stop when he is scaring you or you stop enjoying sex, then you need to get the hell away from him as fast as you can. I do not believe in using sex as a weapon, but cut him off. Tell him that if he ever does that to you again, he will NEVER have sex with you again. It is NOT about just him, though some guys don't always realize this.
Talk to him and ask him what happened. Tell him that you did not like it and don't want it to happen like that again (as long as rough sex is okay for you at all)
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The guy I'm seeing now does not use his tongue when kissing or... anything else for that matter. Ever! He finds it disgusting! His mouth is always sealed. I on the other hand, love french kisses! I didn't even know there were people out there like him. Is this normal? It's sort of hard to get passionate with someone like this, lol.
He just needs to get over the wierdness...try licking his face. You are not actually sticking your tounge in his mouth and he can keep his mouth shut....
Or you could work him up to it slowly. If he still refuses then dump him. If he won't french kiss he won't do other....stuff...and that (in bad English...) Juss ain't coo.
Unless you really like him and are willing to deal with it. In that case, tame your tounge.
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