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Image and video hosting by TinyPic" align=left hspace=10> hey my name is karen and i live in miami florida... im 17 and go to miami killian senior high.. anything you need help with ask me!! im great at answering questions about friends, cleaning, and relationships.

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these two friends of mine, who both used to be much closer to me than to eachother got really close this summer while i was gone. now when we hang out, its them 2...and then me on the outside. everyone has noticed it because they are both now soo very into each other and dont talk to anyone else. ive kind of given up on jen, because i expected this from her in the first place. shes always put me aside, becoming great friends with someone new, then tossing them aside for someone else, etc. she always needs attention and is always flirting with guys, even if she knows her friends like him or if hes taken. kelsey on the other hand, has always been so kind and funny. weve had great times but for months now we dont hanbg out outside of school. this week however, weve begun to be like old times. maybes its because ive stoped caring about what jen does, or maybe shes come to her senses that jen is not a good friend. whatever it is, we planned for a night this weekend where wed go to the football game then shed come over. her parents are a little strict about her going out lots because shes ALWAYS at jens. i was so excited for this weekend cuz it would be like old times again..when she decided togo the jens on friday night. i thought, maybe her parents will let her come anways. but then i also tho, shell probably invite jen to come too..and then it wont be much fun cuz they wont talk to me. so today when i talked to her she said "heres the plan, we could go to the football game,or to the hockey game with jen and her sister" i told he ri couldnt go to the hockey game and told her sinmce the boy she likes is playing, she should go with jen without me. wont let you go to the ffootball game. after aboit an hour of figuring things out, things werent working. we decided that it wasnt gonna work so i told her to go to the stupid hockey game. I'm so disapointed in her because i feel like once again, she has chosen jen over me. i am 15 yr old girl from canada and speak french and english..this has happend to me so many times with these girls i dont know what to do.

all i can tell you is i think this is part of things that happen with friends. i have a circle of best friends and the same thing pretty much happened to us. i think you should just think about it and do what you think is right whether its forgeting about your friends and making new ones or something else. its one of those things in life that cant really change and just have to deal with. you cant change the way someone else is. they are who they are. hope i helped.

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hi, well school has just ended for me. and now its been summer for almost a week. i havent seen or hungout with any of my friends. i havent even talked to them really. im getting the vibe that they dont want to hangout with me.

im kind of in a 'threesome' with my bestfriends. and of course, im the one thats left out. i just want .. new friends. but i want to keep these friends too. i dont really know what to do. can anyone help me? thanks

itll seem like itll take forever but eventually you and your threesome of friends will end up all becoming really close. if not you can never say you never tried to become good friends with them. in the mean time you can make new friends too.. you might have to wait till school starts again for that or maybe go to your churches youth group. kind of dig your way in there.. make sure they both know they can trust you. help both of them out in a time of need.. i dont know your two other friends so i wouldnt be able to say much but i hope i helped with what i told you. if you need anything else just ask.. i can relate to this!

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Ok, so I've liked this girl for a long time, and during the beggining of the school year she also liked me (I didn't know it back then). Now, she's going out with one of my friends, but we still talk a lot. She also keeps on asking me who I like (A lot!) Every time she says that though, I just ward it off by saying something else. So my question is...should I tell her that I like her, or keep that secret safe with me?

wooooooooooooooooooooooooooo first off never keep that a secret! if you like someone make sure you tell them! especially if your a guy! there are so many girls out there that wish they knew if certain people liked them or not. to me it seems like this girl definatly wants to know.

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Okay I got this friend and she's a girl, and she so calls me her bestfriend but I don't too much see the benefits of the friendship. The only thing I know is that she says she loves me(I dont know it she means it) and she jealous of me when around other girls. The other night she says we don't have a normal friendship but a complicated one. And if it can't be a normal friendship then what is a complicated one? I don't even think she cares about me when I'm not around! So should I leave her alone, pay her less attention, or work on the relationship?

i think you should work on the relationship. its never a good thing to just give up people. to me it sounds like your friend likes you or thinks you like her and the reason its "complicated" is because of that.

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i have a boyfriend, lets call him [ X ] and my bestfriend is telling me she really likes this other guy, lets call him [ A ]. but everytime i'm hanging out with my bf X and my bestfriend, she's always flirting with him. and i think she might like him, but i dunno how to tell her to just stop w/o hurting her feelings.

anyone have any advice for a nice way to say "stop flirting with my bf!"

please and thank you.

maybe tell her you have to talk to her about her and your bf.. then when it comes time to say it tell her how if you say it it might come out wrong and you dont want her getting mad. then blurt it whatever which way it comes out of your head and if she happens to get mad or offended by it.. you at least tried. :/ hope i helped.

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Well, I have this friend. He's not super close, but he is a good friend of mine. We have had a lot of talks about smoking pot when several of my friends started and I said "no one thinks it's a big deal anymore and I don't get it." He said "I still think it's a big deal and I think it's pointless and would never try because I would be too scared." Then, he showed up to my friend's party high and I don't get it. I thought he meant that and I haven't had the chance to talk to him yet. I'm really upset about it, and I don't know what to say to him. Does anyone have any idea how to deal with something like this? Like what to say to him?

[keep in mind we're only in 8th grade]
thanks soo much for any help I get !

ive always said i would never smoke anything and this past year being a freshman in high school ive been wanting to try weed and stuff like that. the reason your friend might of gotten high that day is because of stress. its really hard to deal with stress on your own sometimes. maybe talk to him about anything going wrong in his life and ask him if you can help.

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Me and my firend have been best firend sence 2nd grade (now were in highschool).We had a little fight(blown out of proportion)our first fight! and we have been firends for like 8 years. Anyway that was months ago it only lasted about two days.I have noticed that our firendship seems to be fading. One of my other firend amy has been hanging with my bestfirend alot, basically everyday. She barly hangs out with me let alone anyone else now adays because she is always with amy. I feel bad and don't want to say anything because amy died died last summer and she really needs someone to support her. My other firends also commented on her always with amy and she got really mad.What should I do? Just stand back and watch our firendship fade?

stuff like that happens with a lot of best friends.. a lot of them get over it though. they get over it because their good enough best friends... but even sometimes they dont even with the best of best friends. your friendship might fade away now but one day shell realize that it faded away and talk to you about it. just make sure theres no reason for her to say its your fault. also.. always be there if she needs you. no matter how good of a friend she is with amy.. kind of let her know youll always be there if she needs you no matter what. when best friends say best friends for ever its always good to mean it.

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ok so my friend sabrina is coming to sleepover either 2morrow or the next day. (she lives a few towns away from me) when she comes over sometimes i cant think of anything to do. we're both preteens so i need some ideas of what to do! please can u guys tell some fun games, or what should we talk about? keep in mind we cant go driving all over the state to do stuff, but we might be going to the mall, and pool, but mostly staying home. also keep in mind we arent babies so dont say like hide n seek or truth or dare. thanks and i rate high for any helpful answer!

you could take pictures, watch a movie, play on the computer, talk to people on the computer, talk on the phone with another one of your friends.

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Ok..alot of the time when I call my friend she is "busy". It seems like she only hangs out with me when she wants to..What is her deal? And recently she got mad at me for the stupidest thing ever!! What is going on??
Thanks..

i dont think you wanna hear this but i think you should tell her how you feel. i always think thats thee best thing to do when your in an arguement with one of your friends.

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I am throwing my best friend a surprise party. She's a girl, 16. I already sent out the invitatations to all of her girlfriends, but I can't decide if I should invite boys or not. She is not friends with very many guys, and the 3 or 4 she is friends with may not even all be friends with each other (I don't really know all of them well). I don't know if I should invite them or not, because they aren't even people she hangs out with outside of school, and I don't know if it would be awkward for them to be there. However, I think that the party should have boys, I mean we are 16 years old. What should I do?

i think that you should invite guys. if anything your friend having the birthday party might get to know one or one of them might get to know her. something good could happen that day. also its the thought that counts.

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okm my best friend is mad at me because im goin out wth this guy that i really like alot and she thinks im making a big mistake.
should i break up with him or will she gradually begin to stand by with me and my decision

i think that best friends know best and even if you think their wrong their almost always right.

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Okay...I'm 18, and I have these two certain good friends that I've been friends with for a couple of years. I've been feeling left out lately, because they're going to the same college, and I'm not, and they always talk about it in front of me. We also have this thing where we wait for each other after soccer practice, and lately they've just left without me, talking and laughing all the way. I take this as a sign that they just forget me, and it makes me mad. One of the girls I was good friends with until the other one came along, and now they're best friends. And I'm left out. I keep giving them HUGE hints that they're leaving me out, but they're either too clueless to know, or just don't care. What should I say to them/do??

i think you should tell them and if nothing changes then i wouldnt know where to go from there because im having the same problem too, but i really hope my opinion helps you out.

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this is a little long but i hope someone will answer ok today in science i was writing a note back and froth with a girl then she said i was dared to ask you out and i said yeah sure why not now i dont know what to do becasue like this is the first time ive been asked out does everything like pan out or i just dont know how to deal with this situation. ITs confusing me so help it would be great

act as if you asked her out.. hold her hand like as if you asked her out.. everything pans out for guys if you go out with a certain type of girl it depends what kind you said yes to going out with. x3 xogiggles37xo.

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my bestfriend always calls me fat and everyone else tells me im not she is just jelouse what can i do to make her quite callen me fat it really bothers me?

shaiina

maybe your friends are just nice.. maybe ur best friend is trying to tell you the truth so you can fix it. remember that thats what best friends are for to help you with things like that things you need to change.. maybe she is just jealous.. but tell her it bothers you that ur calling her fat.. she might get mad at you for saying that but at least she stops.

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I'm 13 and I need some help with my friend "Kelly"* I've been best friends with her since 5th grade and now we're in middle school. She has always been a very competitive person but lately she has been plain nasty. She insults us and makes comments that really hurt. She has even said something insulting about my mother. She always likes to win and makes sure she is right in everything. She is pretty self-centered and thinks highly of herself. I've been her friend too long to totally drop her but both of my other best friends agree she has been acting really horribly lately. What should I do?
*Changed name for privacy.

i think that you should drop her. she has no right to be a bitch.. especially someone she's "friends with" tell her how she's acting and just let it all out to her in person because some people like to write notes and thats gay.. there will be a possibility that you might want to be her friend again.. think about it before you do it. think about if you think that in the future you might deside to want to be her friend again. x3 xogiggles37xo.

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dear advicenators i have a friend who cuts herself i havent known her for a long time bcz i just moved here but she does it and she cant stop !!! i would like some advice on how to help her stop ...

thanx

people cut becuz of stress and they dont have any other way to handle it... give her a rubberband to put around her wrist... both if you have to. well tell her everytime she thinks of cutting to pull on it and let go... instead of cutting. x3 xogiggles37xo.

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okay.. my two bestfriends do not like eachother and i dont know why but they cannot be around eachother. When I hang out with one of them the other one gets mad cuz she says I always ditch her. And if I go places with them together the one person will start talking about the other person and the other person will get upset. I've tried talking to them both but they won't be friends!!!! Its starting to really bother me! sry if this is confusing lol..someone help!!!

i think you should hang out with some other friends... let them sort out their problems without you in the middle.

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My friend has this bad problem with flirting with people and not even realizing that she's flirting with them. For example, she told my boyfriend that she thought he was cute, started giggling, and blushed. My boyfriend was rather...irritated...by this, as he can not stand my friend. Whenever I confront her about it, she swears to God she hasn't flirted. How can I get her to see that she really has a problem with this? It just irritates me to see her flirting with my boyfriend. x_x Please help?

telling her while she's doing it right there when it happens might help every time you see her flirting. and maybe tell your boyfriend to talk to her and say something.

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my friend whose a girl and 14 told me a few days ago that she cutts. i was devistated wen i heard this. i asked her wat in the world wud make u so miserable as 2 kill urself? and she sed that her family was messed up and that shes ben feeling really depressed. i told her 2 think bout wat life will bring her in the future. youll have kids a husband a job and a happy life. i dont think it convinced her. wat should i do?

some ppl use rubberbands... on their rist instead of cutting... well when they feel they need to cut they pull on the rubberband. im almost positive its alot better then cutting. x3 xogiggles37xo.

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ok my bff just stop bein friends with her old bff her old bff hates me she always puts me dowm and makes me wanna stab her she also calls my cell and says "ur ugly im pretty u need to die gay loser biotch" wat should i do??? i really need help or it will go on forever!!!!!!!!!!! plzz help.....thanx!!

omgosh... *sigh* these days ppl are like that... your best friend or not... omg... um... what i did was talked to my best friend and we had this big fight but it got resolved. i think you need to talk to her... if you need anything else email me or ask me another question. sorry i dont want to say anything else... because im scared it might be bad advice... but i hope all this helps. good luck and i hope it works out.

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