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I'm a girl, freshman in highschool- my group of friends at school do all sorts of things almost every weekend- and I've never been invited once. I'm tired of wondering every Friday if thier making plans, and hoping I get invited. I'm sick of everytime it's one of their birthdays having to sneak around to find out wether or not their having a party, because I KNOW I'm not going to get invited.

Here's the thing, though- I go to a very small school, less than 50 students in my intire grade and so it's not like I can just ditch them and find new friends.

What can I do?

be the one to suggest an idea of something fun to do or make your own plans with other people - they might become jealous and want to be included...or they may not even be leaving u out on purpose -- ask them about it upfront (and i doubt they'll say no to ur face even if it was intentional) good luck!

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Okay, this might sound stupid but here it goes: My friend is obsessed with the fact that I have a lot in common with her boyfriend. Whenever she brings up the subject, she'll call him and ask both of us what things we like, and if we say the same thing she'll scream and say that we're going to fall "madly in love." I've told her hundreds of times that he's going out with HER, and he obviously LIKES her! I've spoken to her b/f once, and I don't like him that way, but she's obsessing that he's going to break up with her for me.. whom he's never even met. She's mad that she has NOTHING in common with this guy, and that I do, and I don't want to lose her as a friend.. and she won't listen to anything I say!

Sorry for the long post, but any ideas on what I should do?

tell her opposites attract and this way they have more to learn about each other...two ppl with a whole lot in common are normally just good friends

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does anyone know any good "best friend" songs or like friend songs.. something along the lines of that.. if you do can you give me the singer and title of the song.. thanks

-Stand by me (ben king)
-Lean on me
-That's what friends are for
-With a little help from my friends
-Growing pains theme song: As long as we got each other
-You've got a friend in me
...sorry i don't kno who sings them all

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Alright well first of all.. I'm 16/female.. if you needed that info to help me out or whatever

Well.. last night I was over at my friend caitlin's house and we got bored so we walked around the corner and met up with some friends(rachel,chrus,anthony,katie) and we were hangin out talkin and what not.. and then we decided to walk back to rachels house.. so we're walkin and talkin and I'm a smart ass.. and someone said somethin stupid so i made a remark about it.. ya know? but chris stares at me and laughs.. like nto staring bad way.. just staring.. but yeah.. then we're back at rachels and chris wanted to swim so he strips down to his boxers and jumps in.. hah it was cute.. but anywhos.. the whole time when we're all sittin out there talkin I would look over and catch chris lookin at me.. I mean it feels like there's somethin there.. but I don't know.. I mean.. he's an awesome kid.. I'd like for there to be somethin there but I don't know.. I mean he's a grade younger than me.. but he's not immature and sldflk I don't know.. I wanna get to know him better to see if there is something there and everything.. but he's not one of the people that I hang out with all the time.. so what do i do?

Thanks a bunch

find out his sn and talk to him online

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This may not be the right category, but I couldnt find a better place. I just found out today that one of my friends from school, that I graduated with passed away yesterday. His friends were going through his cell phone, found my number and called me. I had one class with the person, we always flirted with each other and talked about hooking up. I never called him after we graduated because I thought, yeah hes to good for me. Well, he still had my number in his phone and I feel bad for never calling him. I want to go to the viewing to see him one last time and to pay my respects to him. He was a great guy. But, then again, I dont want to go because I want to remember him from how he was before. I dont think I could handle seeing him in a casket. I dont know what to do. Should I go to the viewing or not? The viewing is Friday..so I need answers soon. Thanks!!

i think you should go because you don't even have to look if you don't want to, but at least you'll be there and a part of it

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I live in a TINY town. 4 all you other people who do too, what are some fun things to do without driving to the big city?

i live in a small town 2 and ppl hang out at dunkin donuts haha go 2 the movies/bowling/iceskating/rollerblading/comedy club/billiards.......just hang out! go swimming

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i have a really close relationship with my friend mike he's not a boyfriend or anything and i dont see him that way at all, but he's like an older brother to me and ever since we became friends he has been. well, i USED to dress punk, and he does now too...and well im prep now but he hasnt seen me...im afraid that hes not gunna wanna be my friend anymore since im dressing prep, i mean maybe he still will but maybe he wont...i just have worries, what do i do?

i think he may joke lovingly about it, but as long as your personality is the same, then you guys should be fine

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Well you see I really honestly don't care for her as a friend anymore. As, I said in the previous question, we are no longer friends, and we will never be again, because i know she will never change. Her parents know and have put her into rehabs. She just comes home and does the same shit, and lies and covers it up. I know my sister is not dumb and wont do that shit, and I'm glad of that. I think she is a bitch. She gets on my damn nerves now. I used to feel sorry for her and want to help her, but you cant help someone who doesnt want to be helped. she would tell me she wanted to stop and then like minutes go get high. I know that she really doesnt want to stop. I think its a shame that something is thought was just "all in fun" is now taking over her life. But, i can no,longer feel any sorrow for her, I think she is just stupid. I don't wanna be her friend. And despite the things she did, and the fact that I no longer like her, I had no problem with my sister hanging with her. I am not the jealous type. But, I just never thought that she would basically encourage my sister to do drugs when she knows that its wrong. I'm just glad that my sister is smart enough to say no. I wanna call her up and tell her " You fuckin little junky, If I ever find out that you are doing drugs around my sister or offering her drugs ever again, so help me god you won't have to worry about the drugs killing you"... thats just how mad I am. Now that you know more about how I feel, what do you think I should say?

i dunno if calling her up and telling her off is the best idea - from what you've told me, i don't think it's going to do any good or get any reaction from the girl, i mean it's totally acceptable that you're majorly pissed, but i don't think that telling the girl off will give you the satisfaction that you want it to...however, if you ever meet the girl in person and she rubs you the wrong way, then i think that would be the ideal time to blow up on her!

one more thing, what does your sister see in this girl to want to hang out with her?

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I am 17/f. I had this childhood friend of like 8-9 years. We were best friends, but then we hit a ofrk in the orad and she turned to drugs about a year and a half ago. When I fisrt found out that she did it, I was pissed and told her that she was dumb and shouldnt do it again. She told me she wouldn't, that she was just tryingit so I gave her the benifit of the doubt. Her and I stopped being friends about 6 months ago. She started becoming really selfish,and just always pissing me off. She was telling me she was clean but I know her too well and could tell by how she wasacting that she was lying to me. Now she hangs around with my younger sister who is 16. I just found out the other day, that just as I thought, she is still using. My sister told me she snorts heroin in front of her all the time and that she is getting really bad. She also told me that she offered her soem to try but my she told her no. The fact that she had the nerve to offer my sister drugs really pisses me off. I feel like calling her up and telling her off. I have been debating on doing this for like the past 3 days. I cant seem to stop thinking about it. I understand that she is ruining her life but why would she encourage someone else to do the same? I wanna call her or so bad! I am so mad! I don't know what to do.

i think you need to first talk to your sister and find out why she's hanging out with this girl...i'd get your sister's permission or at least tell your sister if you plan on confronting this girl - but i definitely think you shouldn't just let it happen...what kind of family is this girl raised in?? i kno it's a hard choice, but you might want to look into finding some help for her if you think she has a problem (and it sounds like she does)

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well i have some of my friends going to my advice column and asking questions, which is pretty cool, BUT.. some of the questions are involving me and idk how to answer them! help! idk what to do?!

if you still want to answer them, then reread the question pretending it isn't about you - then you'll be able to give advice from a different perspective ~ answer the way you would answer the question if someone you didn't kno had asked it!

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My friend just told me today.. that she ALWAYS throws up after she eats. As much as I'd love to help her, I just dunno what to say. Cuz she might get mad. I don't want anything bad to happen to her. The past couple days shes been telling me that shes been haveing bad stomach pains and she feels sick ALL THE TIME. I wanna help her, I don't wanna make her mad and say the wrong thing though. Should I just forget about it, and let her live her life the way she wants it? What would you do? Please I need help.. =(

*amYy.. my AIM sn is NaInErZzZ

you have to do something, even if it's to just tell her parents - warn her that the acid in throwing up can ruin your teeth and your esophagus and you don't get nutrients that your body needs!! i had a friend who had an eating disorder and i didn't kno what to do so i didn't do nething cuz i didn't feel it was my place to do nething and after she got help she told me she wished i would've said something and i always wonder what would've happened if i did........

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ok well i have this one friend well she's more like my best friend but anyways there was some bad shit going on in my family and i didn't know how to handle it and well so i cut. and i meen now she's soooo mad at me for doing that when i told her i would neevr do it again like 50 times. but it just helps you feel better! what should i do i really don't want to loose my friend anymore then i alreayd have!

she's probably mad because she doesn't understand how you could do that to yourself - so explain it to her! let her know that you've realized why it's a really bad thing to start tho...also, she may be mad because you resorted to cutting yourself instead of talking to her - so show her that you want her help by talking to her about cutting!

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um i have a question . . . I like this guy but hes kinda of what you would call a "nerd" and if i ever went out with him people would laugh at me.Should i go out with him or find someone else?

give it a try - maybe he's only a nerd cuz nobody else gave him a chance! you can always break it off

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Hey. I'm friend with a lot of guys in skool. they hate ehrn im not around. all they do is talk to me and stuff. i dont like any of them but, im a girl. should i hang out wit otha girl or stay friends wit the boyz?

why not do both?? if you find girls you get along with, hang out with them too! it's totally okay to have more than one group of friends

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okay so i met this guy when i went to mexico and he was really nice and we talked alot and made out once... but n e ways i haven't talked to him in a year! and i got his sn from my cuzin so finnally he came online and i sent him and i.m saying..."hey sexy wuts up? do you knoe who this is?" and he hasn't answered for over like 10 minutes! y wont he talk to me!! should i tell him who i am? or just wait for him to send me sumthing back cuz i don't wanna be all like hello? hello? hello? hello? cuz then ill sound dessperate and annoying! so help me asap before he signs off!

if he doesn't kno who you are then he may assume you are some random person on the net so definitely tell him...it's also a possibility that he's away from the computer or something like that

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Ok..i started middle school and we break up in differant comuntities and we stay there for the whole three years! Anyway, there are four communties and say you got on one community (lets call it cy for short) you would NEVER see your friends in other cy's, ever!
Anyway, to sum it all up, my best bud iz on another cy and so i was going to change but;A.All my teachers like and are saying"Pleaze stay on Surfside(my cy)" and B. She doesn't seem to care that we are killing or friendship. So i waz just going to stay in my cy for the three years but now i'm having a really hard time making new friends. What should i do?P.S-Ask for explanation if you get confused

i would say that if it's easy to switch, and you really don't think you'll like your cy, then switch but i wouldn't do it for just that one friend, only if you had other friends in that same cy cuz if you and your friend end up not staying friends, then you'll want to have other friends there for you

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My birthday is coming up in november and i really want to have a party..does anyone have any ideas of what kinds of parties i could have? I would want a lot of my friends to be able to come!

how old are you?? guys and girls at the party??? give me details then i'll try to help

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Ok...so i'm really popular and everyone thinks i'm hott and i really want a boyfriend...but none of the guys give me the time of day...WHAT AM I DOING WRONG! PLZ HELP!

show interest in them so they think they actually have a chance, pick one guy and go for it

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I do gymnastics and there is this really mean and stupid girl there,I hate her.My friends at gymnastics always hang out with her, but what they dont know is that this girl always talks about them really bad behind there backs. I try to tell them but they just say I am being a *icth and that I just want them to hang out with me and with no one else.This girl is starting to get on my nerves and ruin a great friendship. Sombody pppllleeeaaaaasssseeee help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

xXask_me_anythingXx

i think after hanging around this girl for a while, your friends will see the kind of person she really is - so hang in there! i kno what you mean tho, i did gymnastics for manyyyyy years and a lot of your teammates become your best friends, especially since you're around them so much and need their support...just prove to them that you're a good person instead of trying to prove that this other girl is bad!

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Hi I'm Brittany! I go out with a boy named Michael and we have an awkward long-distance relationship. My best friend is in love with a boy who is friendly,cute,and popular. Lately she has been telling me that he likes me. I like him. But I could never go out with him because she really likes him. What should I do?

your question was already posted and has 11 answers!!! go look at it

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