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hi...my name is anna. i like this guy who is a year older than me. hes really sweet, quiet, hillarious........and to my knoweledge hasnt have any-very many g/fs. everytime i see him i cant speak or anything. i saw him the other day and i ran. how stupid am i. I RAN!!! i couldve done anythingelse but no....i ran. i was wondering...like what do i do? i met some girls who sit with him at lunch. they know him so well. and i dont. im sooo jealous. i cant stand the madness of having a b/f but i think hes rite for me and im so clueless. thank you soooooooooooo much!

Hey Anna! Okey, I think I can solve your problem cause I had the same thing happen to me last year and possibly this year...yeah. anyway, if you know one of his friends, just go up to one of his friends and go, "Hey can you tell him that I wanna talk to him?" and if you're temted to run away while they ask him then have one of your friends hold you back. then just go up to him, say hi, and after that it'll be all over, and trust me, you'll feel way less nervous. I had to do that and now I'm still talking to my crush! Anyway, I hope I helped, and try to tell me how it turned out. if you need anything else, I'm here.

xOo Nikki xO

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When a guy puts his arm around a girls waist do u think the girl should put her arm around his waist or like his shoulders??

his waist. it would be weird to put her arm around the shoulder, expecially if hes taller than her ;] Hope I helped.

xOo Nikki xO

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I wasn't sure what to put this under.. My bestest guy friend told me the other day that he liked me since the day he saw me... I don't know if I could see him that way cuz he is like my best friend and i dont want to hurt our friendship.. All I see him as is a friend... but I dont want to hurt his feelings or make him mad... could someone give me some advice on what i should do?? Thanks in advance!

Ok, if hes THAT good enough to be a best friend, then he'll understand and not be whacked about it. I mean, this is just one of those tests that God throws at you to see if you would know what to do. So, I'd do this. Just go up to him and tell him "hey, I know you like me, but I just see you as a best friend. I mean, I dont wanna hurt our relationship and even if we didnt go out, I dont feel the same way. I'm sorry." and maybe he'll understand. If he does understand, then he's a really awesome best friend. If not, then I'm not really sure what to say. And if you dont feel comfortable telling him face-to-face, then tell him on the phone, email, or IM. I hope I helped.

xOo Nikki xO

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my best guy friend and i tried to start a bf and gf relationship but we feel uncomfortable being that. we just wanna be really close friends. i was wondering should i ask him to the prom and just say we can go as friends?! and when should i ask him?!

Yeah, you guys can go as friends. That wouldnt be a problem at all! You should ask him asap (a.s.a.p lol) and just tell him that you two are juss going as best buds. I mean, if you guys dont feel comfortable being bf/gf, then dont be. I hope I helped.

xOo Nikki xO

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I know this guy since we were 7 years old. I think he is gay. He always talks about gay people. He always points out who is gay. He has no male friends of his own and he goes to gay clubs and claims he is just watching to see who lives a secretly gay life. He also has a lot of woman friends and gossips very much.
He dates women have no flaws. Very pretty women that look like models.He is very picky. He calls every body ugly. when i date a guy he tells me he's not that cute. I've seen cuter. Is it just me or is that something a girl would say? What do you think about this situation.?

Its something a girl would say, Lol. Anyway, I think your friend here might be Bisexual because he does fine with girls, yet he sounds like he likes boys. I think you should take this up with your friend and honestly ask him privately. Hopefully you wont, like, freak out. But I for one think that gay friends that are guys are pretty cool because its a guy you can actually talk to, you know? Tell me how it turns out, and I hope I helped.

xOo Nikki xO

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Ok this is a serious question and please don't delete it! Ok I've been bestfriends with my bestfriend Katie for over 6 or 7 years or something like that. Ok well the problem is recently like around newyears she got back together with her X boyfriend who used to hit me and say bad things to me and stuff. I really did think everything changed. UNtil the other day it got real serious and we got into an actual fist fight! and I know this isn't right. I just don't know what to do. The other day I started crien and walked away. I don't know what I should do. I don't want to loose my bestfreind because we already had a seperation because of this. This is getting really serious and Im afraid if I don't do something about this I will get hurt not only physically..emotionally to..

Signed
Scared 15-f

Alright this is serious so listen to me. If Katie really is your BEST FRIEND, then she will break up with this guy for you. I mean, you got into a fist fight with him and your SCARED of him. If shes a real friend she will put you before that guy and break up with him so you can be safe. Thats what I would do. I mean, every girl has to put her friends before her man. If she cant learn to accept that then she isnt a real friend. Its just wrong for a person to pick her BF over her bestest buddie. Trust me on this one. Tell me how it turns out and I hope I helped.

xOo Nikki xO

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* 14 SINGLE Female *
- Everytime I talk to one of my friends boyfriends, they always talk about how much they love my friends. I'm single, and I always get pissed when they talk about them. Do you think it's just because I'm jealous?

I doubt it. I mean, if you hear the same thing over and over again dont you think that you'd get a bit annoyed? I mean, no one likes to hear the same things every single freakin day. So, the next time your friend's boyfriend starts talking about your friend, just tell him off. Just go, "Can we get on another subject?! I mean, you talk about her all the time and it pisses me off!! I know you love her, but gimme a break!" Or something to that effect. I know that I would get annoyed, too..I hope I helped some. If you need anything, feel free to ask me. And tell me how it works out.

xOo Nikki xO

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Ok, this summer my best friend and I had a fight and it ended out friendship. (it was a bitter ending, we havent spoken to eachother since) Anyways, everyday at school, she doesnt talk to me and her friend told me that she hated me. The thing is, I dont hate her back, and I wish she wouldnt hate me. I want her to know that I still care about her even though we aren't friends, and I want to see how she is doing. So I found her livejournal link and do you think i should leave a comment? What should I say?

Ok, if you really wanna tell her this, then this is what you write:

Hey this is ((put your name here)). I just wanted to say that I'm sorry about the fight over the summer. I know that your probably dont want to talk to me, but I feel really bad. Weve been best friends forever and it just ended. Im not asking that we be best friends again. All I want is for you and I to be cool with eachother and...you know...be able to say "hi" to eachother every once in a while. I hope that you read this and I hope that you can forgive me.

Ok, so you dont have to put those EXACT words but just make it for that effect. I hope I helped.

xOo Nikki xO

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ok here is the thing i met this guy from my BFF...i backed off bc i knew she liked him and i didnt want to let her know i liked him...yet he is 2 months older yet a grade younger so he isnt in the high school with me yet..

im tryin to think of a way to let them both know that i like him with out obvious signals

he seems to flirt or whatever with me...like he will sometimes hug me or hell run from me n make me catch him..idk

i will most likely see him 2morro @ the mall again but im not sure...any ideas on how i can pull this off?

(should i keep my love to myself or no? lol)

1- should i tell her
2- how should i give signals without making it obvious
3- how do i tell them both without actually saying it in words...
4- how should i flirt with him..i mean this is gonna b the 3rd time seeing him and all...what should i do..we hug every so often...heh

This is a tough one, but I think I can answer your question. First of all, I dont think that you should keep it to yourself because it would be uber hard, am I right? Course I am (lol, juss messin wif yuh). Anyway, I think you should just tell them honestly. I mean, if she really IS your BFF, then she'll understand and accept that. I mean, you cant control it if you like someone, right? Its just one of those "true friends" test that fate gives you. Just tell him and maybe he likes you too ;] I hope I helped. If you need anything, just ask.

xOo Nikki xO

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You see my best friend has this boy bofreind right. And to me she is spending way more time with him then me. Thats the only person she talks about to. I have been her best friend since the 4th grade he just been her bf for a couple of months. What should I do?

Its tough when friendships grow apart because of a relationship, isnt it? anyway, I think I can help you. Just go up to your friend when shes alone or on the phone or internet, and just tell her, "Hey why are you spending time with him more than me???" I mean, for MY rules, my gurlies always come before muh man. Your friend shouldnt be ignoring you. Anyway, I hope I helped some. If you need anymore advice, feel free to ask me.

xOo Nikki xO

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What should I get my friend (13/f) for her b-day?

She likes happy bunny
She likes boyz
She likes fun stuff for her room

A Gift certificate to the mall and a stuffed animal! Duh, that's what EVERY girl wants for her Birthday ;]

xoxo Nikki Anne xoxo

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What are some good party ideas for a girl who is turning 14 this summer, has friends that'd she like to invite aging from 12-16, and will have guys and gals at her party? I want to throw a really cool party for her, but I'm not sure where to begin. A Suprise Party is not an option, and we don't have a pool. I'd like something fun, original, and not boring. THanks for your ideas!

Ok, get a basement or something, or hold it somewhere big. All you need is snacks, a kareoke machine, barbeque, stuff like that. Juss make it simple and cool. Maybe some strobe lights here and there, and some streamers! Have some silly string and hire a band, DJ, or get a dunk tank!! I hope I helped and I hope you have fun at your party!!

xoxo Nikki Anne xoxo

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my two friends that i love have been together for 6 months feb. would have been 7. anyway he just asked her for a break they both still love each other and all but i was wondering what break really meant. Like will they be able to see other people or what are the terms to a break?

A Break means that they stop "being together" for a while. You know, like they stop acting lovey dovey and all that stuff. Sometimes a guy just needs him freedom for a while, you know? Just to feel the air...anyway, I hope I helped.

xoxo Nikki Anne xoxo

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one of my bestfriends just called me to tell me that like one of my bestesteset friends house is on fire..she knew this because her dad is a firefighter..no one knows where my friend is and im startin to freak out..we're doing the paper together and im hoping shes ok.would it be nosey to drive over there?

Signed,

Freaked out Friend

NO WAY! Hun, if you really care about your friend then you'd drive over there to see if he/she's okey! My friend did that for me when something happened to my G-pa when I was in the Philippines. I was so glad she came because that showed how much of a friend she is to me. I hope I helped, and I hope your friend is okey, too.

xoxo Nikki Anne xoxo

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ok i have a bunch of friends that are just friends but i love them to death and i would do ne thing for them b/c they are my friends. some of them are girls and i wanted to get them sumthin so they would know i care for them. what should i get for a girl that i like a lot as a friend? like what do girls like to get from their guy friends?

From a guy, and girl likes almost ANYTHING. Give her a rose, a dozen roses, chocolate, or a teddy bear. Girls Lo0o0o0ove stuffed animals ;] Also, earrings are nice. I mean, jewelry doesnt have to be expensive. Or maybe you can get her a charm bracelet or just a charm if she already has one. Take this advice from a girl who likes getting gifts ;)

xoxo Nikki Anne xoxo

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Hey, I'm 13/f and I think that my best friend might be gay. I mean, she's rather stalker-like, won't stop givin me stupid out-of-the-blue hugs, and keeps telling me online that she loves me. It's making me feel really uncomfortable and I have NO clue what to do.

I rate 5's for everyone..

Well, I mean, my friends do that to me, too. I mean, like, lul = luv ya lots. Anyway, about the hugs and stuff, I think thats normal, too. I might be wrong on this one, I gotta admit, but where I come from, it's TOTALLY normal. To girls, that is. Take this advice from a STRAIT girl. Otherwise, just ask the girl. I hope I helped ;]

xoxo Nikki Anne xoxo

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My friend, Angel, never liked my boyfriend, Wyatt. Wyatt is my best friend, even now that we broke up. Now Angel won't let me have anything to do with Wyatt because we aren't going out. Angel tells Wyatt to get lost because i don't like him, which isn't true. They're both good friends. What should I do?

Ok, I think I can answer your problem, since I've been through this problem with my friends Sammie and Colton. Anyway, tell Angel that even though you two broke up, you and Wyatt are still really good friends and just because you two are ex bf and ex gf doesnt mean that you have to stay away from him and have nothing to do with him. You have a choice to either pick your friends or have Angel pick them out for you. Trust me, it worked for me. Hopefully Angel will understand ;]

xoxo Nikki Anne xoxo

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