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Hi, I'm Kristin..

I'm sixteen
I love to read the directions on everything.. Shampoo, cake, you name it..
I'm a pretty laid back person, in general.
I don't like annoying people, or things, but then again-- who does?
It really bothers me when people walk slow.
I'm really into photography and my camera is my pride and joy.
It's about the only thing I'm known to take care of in my life.
I'm on drumline.
Austin and Tarra are my Best friends
I'm in band, which goes along with the drumline.
i love just standing in the rain.
I'm easy to get to know.
Easy to lose my trust
Hard to get it back.
Obbessive people really aggrivate me

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Okay, so I'm 18/f and I've been friends with this woman on the internet for five years, since I was 13. She's 38, and we're both actresses. I met her in a theatre chatboard and we've become quite close over the last 5 years. Granted, I've never talked to her in person; I've seen photos and Youtube videos of her performances.

Recently, she proposed that we finally meet up in real life sometime. She said that I could come and hang out at her home and we could roast oysters. She told me to give her a phone call whenever I'm ready.

Now, I'm very wary of Internet security. I like this person a lot but I know that there are loads of predators out there on the Internet. Granted, she's never done anything even remotely suspicious or asked for my personal information. In fact, when I was younger she told me that I shouldn't tell anyone about my personal info and gave me tips on Internet security.

However, she very well might be just who she says she is, and I could possibly make a friend in her. If I give her a call, and it is actually her speaking on the phone, am I safe? Are there female predators out there? Is it possible that she could hand me over to a rapist or something?

Well, definitely there are female predators out there, but this doesn't sound completely suspicious. Just think of it this way- If she was truly someone who wanted to harm you when you met her, she would have moved in a lot quicker. Not five years- predators can get 50 girls in five years, so there's no need to waste that much time on one girl, who isn't really willing to give out any of her personal information.

I truly see- meeting people in real life is a completely different connection, and maybe she sees that too. That you two have been friends for quite some time, but never met? That can be quite trailing.

So, I'm just thinking she's just taking a step forward in the relationship and just wants to meet and hang out.

-tekcoreht

My bestfriend and her boyfriend have been together for about 4 months now. Problem is: he says he likes me! And I'm kind of into him too! I don't know what to do, thats like my bestfriend. I sure don't want to ruin our friendship but oh my goodness I am really into this boy!

It's an unwritten rule: Bestfriend's boyfriend is off limits.
It shouldn't matter how much you're 'into' him it's your best friend's dude, let her have him. You might want to let her know that he said he liked you, I wouldn't want to date someone who said they liked someone else. It's very selfish if you take this boy away from your best friend, and chances are if you do she wont be much of a best friend anymore.

Conclusion:
If you really want a boy who goes off and likes other girls then this guy is the guy for you.

-tekcoreht
Sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear.

Kristin, you look adorable in your picture! (:
♥ Mackenzie ♥

Why thank you Mackenzie! As do you! :D

-tekcoreht

I am a shy, dark {negative} person and I was wondering if you might know how to change that.
--Caden--

Well, just think of it this way- why always feel so pessemistic when you could finally see the good in life. There's ALWAYS something good to see. I mean, in my personal opinion being sad all the time wouldn't benefit me or anyone around me.

Just try and be more optimistic and see the good in life.

-tekcoreht

OK...

My friend has been seeing her boyfriend for just over a month now. For two weeks they didn't even hold hands, they were so shy, but all of a sudden they kissed in the cinema and suddenly they are 'so in love' and on the same day as they kissed, they went to third base.

Last week, they had sex (in the WOODS!) and my friend is pretty sure she is pregnant. However, she is sayign she is 'bored' of her boyfriend and wants to 'move on'. I'm sorry but this is so stupid!! You don't sleep with someone you're 'bored' of and never really liked in the first place!!

She also wants an abortion.

First of all, I am angry at her for the whole 'oh I'm bored with you let's shag!' thing. I am also REALLY angry with her about the abortion because I am really against abortion in about 90% of cases, this one included. She wants to kill her own baby because she thinks she'll get 'bored' with it too, and because she made a mistake. She is 'making up' for that mistake with murder.

Now, I'm her friend and I am SUPPOSED to stand by her whatever, but this puts me in a HUGE dilemma because I do not agree with what she's done and what she is planning to do (split up with her boyfriend, have an abortion, not ever tell him she got pregnant). I'm really really angry at her right now and I can't talk to her, but I know she really needs my support at a time like this. How can I push my anger aside, how can I ignore my own stance on abortion and help her?

I need to stand by her...she needs all the love and support she can get, even though she doesn't deserve it. I was very tempted to slap her and run off when I found out but I realised that it's not my place to forgive or condone or accept or hate what she is doing, just to be there for her.

Please help...how can I get over my anger and resentment at what she is doing and be there for her? And don't just say 'talk to her' - if you have to, help me out on what to say!

Thanks for any help and sorry for the length.

Try and not think about yourself in this situation. Think about what she is going through and how hard it might be for her too. I still think maybe you should tell her your opinion too, because as a friend she should listen. If you're willing to push all your thoughts and needs aside for her the least she could do is listen? What's the harm in telling her you don't agree with the abortion. Maybe suggest adoption, I still don't agree with adoption, but atleast the baby would find a loving and caring home. You said it isn't your place to accept or forgive what she is doing, but it is your place as a friend to suggest.

As for talking to her about this. Like you said, just be there for her. Ask her how she's doing periodically. Ask if there's anything you can do. There's not much YOU can do right about now because it looks like she's confident in her decision, has made her mind up and is happy with it. All you can do as a friend is support her with everything she does. Sometimes it might go against your morals, but if suggesting didn't work then there's not much you can do but support.

Good luck and you seem like such an amazing friend by trying to push all your needs aside just for your friend.

What do you think of if you're realy sad b/c you miss all your old friends?

rephrase that please?

its not really the problem of them wanting to change plans.. but i know that if im with all of them they're going to want to do couple-y things. because alot of times the guys come over when the 3 of us are hanging out.. what do i do when im stuck alone at the movies or whatever?

This hasn't happened to me before, but I know how you feel. Yeah, they are going to want to do couplish things, because, well, they're a couple. Don't let this bring you down though because if you want alone time, tell her so. Maybe tell her you want alone time with her, just you and her. You still need to tell her how you feel because it will knock her to her senses so she'll know how you feel.

-therocket♥

one of my best friends has been with her boyfriend for a while.. and now today our other best friend started going out with this other guy, whos friends with my other friends boyfriend. im afraid that i will get left out of tons of stuff now.. and that they will blow me off to hang out with their boyfriends together, like its easier or something.. what do i do??

Make sure you don't get left out. Make your plans earlier in the week so that if they blow you off, you can tell them you had plans before her boyfriend. If they start to ditch you tell him. Don't sugar coat anything. Tell them flat out that yoy feel extremely left out and want to be included again.

-therockets♥

ok, so there is this one girl at my school. she talks soooooooo bad about everyone else and she does not even relize what a bitch she is.she always says on her xanga that everything that comes out of the persons she mad at mouth is lies, when that is really her. she talks bad about these girls and is suddenly friends with them? she is not a nice person and needs to get a life that does not involve gossping! she also talks about how other peoples looks are like they are super fat or something, and trust me lets just say she is not exactly miss perfect anyway. Everyone says the one thing they do not like about her is her gossiping ang lieing.sometimes i just wish she would move and get out of everyones life. i know i should not be thinking this, but i do. am i wrong to be thinking this way?

Err.. I hope this isn't me.. Well, no I guess you're not wrong to think that way because after all... she's mean? I'm really hessitent about writing this for the fear of it being me.. Am I really like that?

hey its me again.. remember with all the tami and carter and christina stuff? well today was really bad. everything has been back to normal for a really long time, until kinda now. i do this weird thing where i talk in my sleep, and supposedly one night a while back (according to tami) i rolled over mumbled and was like "carter do" which you would think itsnt a big deal but today she decides to tell a bunch of people about it at lunch and then a handful of people knew. now supposedly she told a big group of people about it and now its become that i really like him and dreampt that me and him got married and was saying carter i do. im really pissed off and i cant talk to her about it until 6:30 when she gets out of drill team stuff. idk what to do, how do i stop this stupid rumor? (which by the way carter heard and is probably freaked out by because i havent gotten to talk to him yet) what should i say to him about it? and what should i say to tami? i dont want to get in a fight but this is really stupid and it makes me SO mad. why cant people just accept that we're FRiENDS and thats all.

Who knows, you have have been saying multiple things such as. Carter, do you like so and so? It's your dreams, you cannot control them. I have dreams all the time of other boys besides my boyfriend. Not like love dreams, but just like they're in my dreams. And I bet you anything Tami has had dreams of guys too, who hasn't? This rumor? You can't do anything about it but let it pass. If you hear someone whispering about you, you might go up to them and tell them it's unpolite to talk about people behind their backs.

Tami- she's your friend she she started the rumor? That's not very friend-worthy I say. I understand how you don't want to get in a fight, so I might as well scratch off some of my ideas. You might pull her aside and tell her what I said in my first paragraph about how people cannot control their dreams. Tell her, her of all people should know yall are just buds and nothing more. She doesn't seem like she's working hard to keep you as a friend after all she's put you through.

Carter- He doesn't know this isn't true yet? If so, oh my tell him. Tell him Tami twisted your words around and just tell him what you actually said. If you happen to remember your dream from that night, tell him what you actually dreampt. Tell him you still feel the same about him, nothing more and that the whole thing was a mix up and not to worry because you've got it under control :). ♥

do you think fighting and being mean solves a problem? me and my friend have been fighting a lot latley what other ways can we deal with the problems?

Nikki
I can't deal with a problem with you any other way because you give me no other choice. You push my buttons and make me so upset I have nothing else to say, but yell! I'm mad and I'm going to stay until I decide not to be mad!

first of all i wanted to work things out with you. i hear all these rumors about how you say that i am not good enough for that team. how do you know. your not a coach. and by the way me and charlotte run the same time. so instead of just attaking me for my spot why dont you attack someone else. all i wrote in my xanga was that i do deserve the spot. because i do. some coaches told me they herd you talking about me. and i dont think coaches lie. so dont act like you didint start all this stuff. if you wanted the spot so bad then you should have come to practice like EVERYONE ELSE. i am not fighting about this and i am not holding grudges this is a little middle school track team. and over all track sucked anyways i hope we can be friends and look past all this. i am over it. but are you?

First of all I didn't say you didn't deserve the spot because OBVIOUSLY YOU DO. Good job. No not ONLY did you write you deserved the spot, but it's YOUR relay team. Nikki don't even pawn this off on me. Why didn't I come to practice? I had band. I was UNABLE to come to practice. I was sick, couldn't come. I'm sorry that I'm NOT everybody else!!! Over it? There was nothing to be over, I was mad. That's all. Once I wished you good luck I was over it. I'm not going to attack charlotte because she doesn't deserve the attacking.

Me and my boyfriend loved eachother so much! Well.. Just to piss off my best friend he always said "I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU!" to her! i started to get a little mad! Besides my best friend has a boyfriend! When i slept over my best friends house.. she said "if your bf wud stop throwing things at me at lunch..i'd actually love him!" Well My boyfriend and me were talking on-line and he said "HAHA! Elise (my best friend) finally said she loves me too!" I was soo pissed off! Then he said "It would be soo cool to have 2 girlfriends!" "what wud you do if something like that happened?" I had enough! so i dumped him yesterday! should i be mad at my best friend or should i not be? I havnt talked to her yet and she still doesnt know i even dumped him! wud do i do?

Well your boyfriend might of been joking about that, I doubt he acutally liked the thought of having two girlfriends, but you never know. As for your friend, she has no right to say I love you to your boyfriend. That's wrong, but did she mean it? If she didn't mean it, and your boyfriend didn't mean what he said either, you jumped to conclusions too fast. Make sure that neither of them were kidding because then you'd have no right to be upset with either of them. Talk with your friend to get all the details worked out and if she did mean I love you then yes, you should be a little upset.

well latley things have been good until just recently. this year i decided to try out for the track team and i thought i was a pretty good runner and it would be fun to be in. i didint know that it would be so dramatic. you see there is this one girl and i took her spot on the relay team. i didint take it because i am faster but because the coaches just put me there. i am pretty sure that the girl that wanted the spot is faster then two of the runners on the team. i feel a lot of tention between me and this girl. i dont want things to be this way because i think she is very fun and sweet. and i want her to know that she is an awesome runner and i never ment to hurt her feelings. so what should i do ? should i confront her or just let things go?

Hi Nikki.
Well obviously you've confronted me about it. Yeah, there's tention because I'm mad that you took my spot. Who wouldn't be, but obviously you deserved it more than I did so good job. It's over track is over and the last meet that I was ever going to run on a relay team in my life is now over. Moving on

there is this girl at my school. She has hurt my friends, ME, annd when she does not get her way she goes crying to her mom and tell her lies that are not true, then her mom calls us up and says we have been saying crap about her. I also heard that she bribed a boy to ask out this girl just to be her friend!!! She also says i hate my mom she is soo retarded. She talks about everyone behind their backs, and her friends do not like her. she also talked about how stupid and stuck up these two popular girls at east were and they are now her "BFF". I am not trying to get revenge, but do you know a way i could kinda get her back when she says a roud remark to me?? also what do you think about her. I think i should just forgive her, but it is sill not going to change anything.

I have had a friend like this in the past and they are hard to deal with. I think that this girl is insercure and has to run to her mom with all of her problems because of the fear of not being able to handle them on her own. I don't know what you should say whenever she insults you, but maybe you should walk away with no comeback because the bigger person always knows when to walk away and leave the situation where it is. Also, it makes the person you are walking away from angry because they aren't done bickering yet. I don't know if you should forgive her, even though the bible says you should forgive 777 multiplied by 777, sheesh, that's a lot of forgiving , but that shows the love that he has for us and we should try and spread that love as disciples of God. Just remember this: Be the bigger person because God looks highly upon that person because what he is doing is Godly. Good luck with this girl ♥

ok, well, this so called "friend-of-mine" is being rly well not herslef lately and we use to be bffaeae's until i realized that i dont need a friend like her and she was talking about me behind my back with another bff of mine but it looks like my so called friend doesnt wanna lose our friendship but i dont think i need her as a friend if shes gunna do that what should i do??!! PLEASE HELP

Do you really want to lose your BFFEAEAEAE over her just talking behind your back. I bet you've talked behind your friend's back before, and they've forgeven you. It says in the bible to forgive always. John 1:12
Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God. That means he gave you the right to live, to breathe to be a person. He didn't have to forgive you of all your sins, yet he did. Idk if your a Christain or not, but as you can tell I am. Forgiveness is the way of life.

im really worried about my best friend she sleeps with anyone and anything that moves last week she slept with 5 different guys than last night at a party she slept with 3 guys gave head to 1 and let that guys brother go down on her and hooked up with my close mate now she saying she wont hang around me unless i change im out of ideas of things to do.

How does she want you to change? Does she want you to be like her? Well, if you have to change to be her friend, why would you want a friend like that. You've got to hang out with the right people, and find good friends that you know will never want to change you for any reason. Because they like you, for you.

hey its me who told you about my problems with tami, christina, and carter. things with christina and tami are okay now, im friends with christina now, and me and tami are back to being BEST friends. as for carter: i hung out with him on thursday night when he got back from san antonio, and he said he like yelled at christina on the phone when she said she told tami not to hang out with me, he said he like flipped out and really protected me, which i was grateful for. the next morning he broke up with her and then the next day he told me that he never liked her and only went out with her for me, to try and make us be friends again and that he didnt tell me because he knew i wouldnt let him. wow omgosh i was soo shocked =o. and after talking to him he realised he shouldnt have done it- but he says his intentions were good and he didnt know what else to do. and im the only one who knows about it- so we dont have to worry about anyone finding out. and things are good now, were closer than ever. thanks for your help during the bad time.

!! I'm glad everything is better and you and him are good once again. I'm glad Christina and Tami and good also. Have a good day!!

&heats; Kristin

people always copy me. and i might sound conceided but it is really annoying. for example i like to do things that noone else does so i started saying "thats so rad" instead of cool. and then everyone else did it. and i started wearing these beads. and like my whole grade did it. it is so annoying and everytime i find something i like, someone goes and takes it. what can i do?

Well, I'd feel flattered, but also annoyed. Bands, clothing, ways of talking, they are always going to get stolen and then the fad will die. There's nothing you can really do because that's the way people are, it's their nature to be "in style" and to keep it that way until the fad is worn out. Sorry to say but there really isn't anything you can do to prevent this, just feel flattered that people think what you're doing is "cool"

One of my best friend's brother died in a car crash because of street racing. Tomorrow I am going to his funeral with our friends and to be there for my friend. I really dont know what to wear and what I'm supposed to do there. Do I bring a gift. I feel really bad. He was onlt 17 years old. Please help.

Well, you'd probably want to wear black, it's a moruning, respectful color. You'd probably wouldn't want to bring a present because it might offend the other people in the family. Because ususally you bring a present to partys, they might think you are celebrating or something like that. Just bring flowers, roses probably.. I'm sorry to hear about your friend's death.

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