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Internet security
Okay, so I'm 18/f and I've been friends with this woman on the internet for five years, since I was 13. She's 38, and we're both actresses. I met her in a theatre chatboard and we've become quite close over the last 5 years. Granted, I've never talked to her in person; I've seen photos and Youtube videos of her performances.
Recently, she proposed that we finally meet up in real life sometime. She said that I could come and hang out at her home and we could roast oysters. She told me to give her a phone call whenever I'm ready.
Now, I'm very wary of Internet security. I like this person a lot but I know that there are loads of predators out there on the Internet. Granted, she's never done anything even remotely suspicious or asked for my personal information. In fact, when I was younger she told me that I shouldn't tell anyone about my personal info and gave me tips on Internet security.
However, she very well might be just who she says she is, and I could possibly make a friend in her. If I give her a call, and it is actually her speaking on the phone, am I safe? Are there female predators out there? Is it possible that she could hand me over to a rapist or something?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Realistically speaking, no one is going to spend 5 years talking to someone with the constant intention of raping them or something like that.
If you're worried, meet in public with a friend.
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Well, definitely there are female predators out there, but this doesn't sound completely suspicious. Just think of it this way- If she was truly someone who wanted to harm you when you met her, she would have moved in a lot quicker. Not five years- predators can get 50 girls in five years, so there's no need to waste that much time on one girl, who isn't really willing to give out any of her personal information.
I truly see- meeting people in real life is a completely different connection, and maybe she sees that too. That you two have been friends for quite some time, but never met? That can be quite trailing.
So, I'm just thinking she's just taking a step forward in the relationship and just wants to meet and hang out.
-tekcoreht
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well your right You never really know if people are who they are online
so i agree with tHe person below me
Invite her out to dinner or tell her to hang out with you at a mall or something but DO NOT go to her house it isnt safe you know?
Hope i helped.
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I don't think there is any reason not adhere to internet safety here.
It's very simple really. All you need to do is invite her OUT for dinner, rather then going to her own private residence. You can even invite her to your parent’s home for a meal.
You SHOULDN'T go into the private home of someone you don't know. That isn't sensible. It isn’t sensible to do that with someone you’ve met at a bar anymore then it is online. That never will be sensible, no matter how long you've been chatting online.
So, find some other activity. You can be quite straight up with her I’m sure and say “I’d love to the roast later, but I think for our first meeting it’s just a good general rule to do it in public right?” And then invite her to someplace nice.
Why wouldn’t you do it that way? Sure, the risk is very small as it is, but inviting her to a place outside her home (a performance perhaps!) once or twice reduces the risk to pretty much zero. When it’s that simple, why on earth wouldn't you do it that way?
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