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im 20/f and i've never been on a date, not even one. however there's this friend who i would like to go on a date with. we're not that close but he's really friendly when we see each other. I don't wanna go on a date because i like him. i just wanna go on a real date for once. is it okay for a girl to ask for a date, or should i just be implying it? and how should i do that? im also reaaaaaaallly reaaaaaaally bad at flirting! plz help! (link)
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By the way you stated it, im not sure if you like him as more than friends or not. I will still give you advice on how to go about this, but I would think that if it was a guy you truly had feelings for it would make your first date so much more special, so maybe you should wait.
I say the first way you should go about is, next time yall chill, to say something like 'aw, ive neverrrr been on a date before'. But try to work it into a conversation, or if yall see a couple walk by. That way he may get the hint & ask you himself.
If this doesnt work, THEN ask him yourself. Ask him if he wants to catch a movie sometime then get some icecream or something after. Offer to go dutch, which means splitting the cost (but hopefully he'll man up & pay for you).
I hope I helped, my inbox is open!
x sweeethoney
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I'm a junior in college and freshman year I met this kid Mike. We talked/saw each other out at parties every once & a while first semester. Then one day over the summer after freshman year I was at the beach and he came over to say hi and we talked a bit more. Sophomore year we talked when we saw each other, but I never saw him out. Now it's junior year and we've pretty much lost all connection. Whenever I see him neither of us say hello or anything, but we always make eye contact. Would it be weird to say hey this coming semester when I see him? I know we haven't spoke in awhile, but I think it's kinda impossible for him to competely forget who I am. I'm just nervous that is the case haha. Any advice would help, thanks! (link)
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I dont think its weird at all. yall talked in the past! just say 'hey long time no talk, howve you been?!' simple as that! im sure hed be thrilled.
message me if you havr any more questions!
x sweeethoney
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I didnt know them well personally.. but occasionally I'd check their facebooks when i was bored.. like Im sure most people do on facebook anyways. and there were some pictures of them like drinking alcohol and stuff.. also with some other people and other people smoking and stuff.. everyone underage. i told the entire guidance department using a fake email.. and im not sure whether to feel like i did a bad or good thing? cause in 1 way its like i prevented them from really ruining themselves like some teens who never had someone intervene, even their parents. but on the other hand it was snooping.. stalkerish to do.. and now they have to go through stress with the administration now about it. they are all really popular kids at my school. but at the same time its not like i reported them to police.. i definitely wouldn't do that.. i think the school would handle that sort of thing better. i am also worried on being found out. i know if they find out im fcked for life socially. and i'd lose a lot of respect and people's confidence maybe. or they'll just think im a creepy stalker. but people have albums on facebook for people to see them so its not really an invasion of privacy i think. i just do not know what to think. i just feel pretty guilty right now.. ughh whas this a mistake or the right thing to do? (link)
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honestly, i think that it was none of your business. what you did isnt goin to stop them from what they do, its just gonna make them rebel more. trust me, i know from experience. you need to worry about yourself; unless these kids are personally hurtin you then leave it be.
the school will get the school police involved, checkin lockers and their pockets and such.
sorry, but thats how i feel.
x sweeethoney
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well 15/f and sorry if long . but me and my bestfriends we all chill and hang inside and outside of school well when they all got mad at me for breaking up with my boyfriend and they told me that i was stupid for it and the fact that i did it i told them to leave me alone and then they finally became my friend they said that they wont get mad well someone said that i said something about them and now that i said that they were a slut they said they dont want to talk to me and that they hate me should i confront them about some of the stuff i heard that came from there mouth about me or should i just leave me alone. (link)
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1. its really stupid for them to get mad at you for breakin up with your boyfriend. its your choice, obviously... thats just stupid.
2. if theyre your true 'best'friends then they would believe you over what other people say.
i think that you should just leave it alone and make new friends. you dont need people causin drama in your life. if they bring it up to you then tell them that if they were real friends they wouldnt say that they hated you and stuff. i know its hard but itll make your life alot easier.
(also try to use punctuation more, its hard to read when its all one sentence)
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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there is this guy in my class and he looks exaclty like my cousin but the only problem is that i really like like him and he only talks to me because he always wants to borrow a oen from me what will i do ????? (link)
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it doesnt matter that he looks like your cousin lol. its just a coincidence, its not like you have romantic feelins towards your brother.
be a little playful with him next time he asks for a pen. just be like 'whats in it for me ?' or '5 bucks !'. you know ?
if nothin takes off from there i say you move on.
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Me and my best friend have been friends since 4th grade, and we're 19 now. I don't agree with a lot of the things she does, but I've always been there for her regardless. Lately, though, I'm at my wits end.
She has two kids already by two different guys. She just had her second child maybe two weeks ago with her current boyfriend, and he treats her terribly. He used to be like a brother to me, but after a bunch of drama, we really don't like each other. First, it was little things he did that made me worry. He'd tell her what she could and couldn't wear, he didn't like her talking to guys, stuff like that. But last night everything changed. She called me hysterical. He had hit her three times in the face and held her down when she tried to grab her phone. He finally left, and she called her sister, who called the police. I went to her apartment and he was in the back of the cop car. I went with her to the court house to get an EPO and everything, then stayed with her from 3 am to 10 am. At 10, I was exhausted and had to go home to take care of my dogs. I asked her if she would be okay, and she said "I guess". I didn't want to leave, but I just had to sleep. She texted me after I left and asked if I thought he missed his daughter or regretted doing it.
I called her when I woke up, like I told her I would, but she wouldn't answer. I texted her and she wouldn't answer that, either. I even I.M.'d her, and still nothing, but she talked to my sister on I.M. a few minutes earlier and said she missed him.
I don't know what to do, and I'm getting really frustrated. She asks me for advice, and I tell her what the best thing to do is, but she never listens. Then, I'm always there for her, but now she's ignoring me. It's like she's mad because I had to leave. I don't want to be rude and say "what's your problem?", but I don't know what to do. Any advice? (link)
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i understand that shes goin through a difficult time right now, but shes not bein greatful at all for what you have done for her. some friends wouldnt even stay that long with their friends. you went with her to the court house then stayed with her for 7 hours... shes being immature and a drama queen for ignorin you. plus, youve been friends with her for 10 years even though you dont like some things she does !
dont take it personally, youve obviously shown that youre a good friend and shes just not makin an effort to thank you.
shell come around and call you, but until then just forget about it. you dont need to apologize to her, but if youre still up to help her just ask her if she needs you.
good luck !
x sweeethoney
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Well as you read i have a problem with my friends. My friends dont like aeropostale and i well pretty much luv it. My friend John says hollister all the way. Shawndeep says ew aeropostale. On the first day of school i wanna wear an aeropostale shirt but am afraid. I dont wanna be like a follower but if i wear it i dont want to not be stylish if they don't like it. I wouldnt want to change my friends and jerpodize my friendships rite now. So should i wear my shirt or just put on a shirt with no aeropostale on it? Oh and p.s. my bff Karina likes aeropostale and i am a 13/f (link)
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i agree with what the first answer says. if you base what you wear off of everyone else's opinion, then how are YOU gonna be happy ? wear, loook, and do what and how you like it. live to impress yourself and not anyone else.
x sweeethoney
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My friend is taking lots of drugs.
I asked her what she's taken and she listed a lot of things including Crack and LSD...
Shrooms, E, pot... Much, much more.
)': It hurts me a lot to know this...
What can I do?
I want to help her...
But when she's not on drugs, she gets really depressed. and Cuts her self...
She use to cut herself, then got on drugs... now doesn't cut herself...
What can I do or say? (link)
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when you trip a lot, like on shrooms or acid, then youll eventually lose yourself and itll stick with you. my boyfriend used to do a lot of lsd and now he gets flash backs from it and his mind isnt the same.
weed is the least of your worries. but when shes doin CRACK (which is highly highly physically and mentally addicting) and ECSTACY (which ends up makin you veryy stupid) thats what you need to be worried about.
find out the root of her problems. was she abused ? does she have many friends besides you ? do her parents neglect her ?
my best friend started doin a lot of drugs when someone died in front of her. she started with coke, moved on to crack, doin roxies and other pills, and ended up in rehab.
shes usin drugs as an escape, but an escape from what ? thats what you need to find out from her. encourage her to seek help from parents or a therapist. this could end really badly for her if you dont help her realize how life is a lot more beautiful without drugs.
good luck ! if you need more help with this, then please please contact me.
x sweeethoney
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13/m
is there a kind of a set of stages type thing of what a girl will do when their angry at you because i was going out with this girl for about a week but then she got angry and dumped me because she said i was ignoring her and not paying enough attention and not making her feel special like i should and that is somewhat true but i was always afraid if she would get too creeped out by me telling her that she was beautiful and stuff like that so i hardly ever did now its been about a week and shes still angry at me
but for the first few days she was angry and telling me what i should of done to/for her that would make her feel special and stuff now shes starting to ignore me because i saw her at the movies as i was walking past it to go into the shops and i waved at her and her friend who was with her who is my friend also and she turned around and saw me then just looked away and that completely ruined my day so is there like stuff that she will keep doing for a certain amount of time until she forgives me and ive told her im sorry but she told her friend to tell me that she said im a dick head so im like getting unhappy cause she means alot but i cant keep going on with her being like this
sorry its so long
thanks (link)
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shes just high-maintenance, FOR NO REASON.
- you guys are young
- you dated a week
- its highly unlikely she doesnt know what she wants in a 'relationship'
- she sounds like a bitch
please move on from her. shes not worth your time if she cant accept an apology and you guys cant compromise on going out. FORGET HER, youll find a better girl. you seem like you care a lot and youre loyal so find a girl whos the same way !
you have a lot of time to find a girl thats good for you too, dont rush it now !
x sweeethoney
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hmm..
i don't really know how to start this but i'll try. I met this kid online and he seems really cool and nice. he's one grade older then me but i don't care. i try to talk to him on aim a lot but he doesn't really anser me. i don't know if it's cuse he doesn't like me or just cuse he's busy. when i comment him on myspace he ansers... but i don't know. i wanna be good friends with him but i'm not sure how he feels... what should i do??? (link)
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i used to have friends that i met online. honestly, just dont give out personal information, like what school you go to, what road you live on, parents names, that kind of stuff. please just be smart about it.
sorry if im bein to blunt, but he might get annoyed that you always try to talk to him on aim. hes a grade older and he might not think youre at his maturity level. OR he is just busy. dont IM him until he does first.
take it slow, dont tackle him with comments and IMs because that can make people very annoyed very easily.
good luck and be safe
x sweeethoney
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I don't know whether or not my friend really cares about me. My friend complains about me to others and she is selfish and mean and she tells people my secrets. She is funny, smart, and fun to be with. She calls me a horrible friend. She tells me to tell her if she does anything wrong so I did. Then she went to my friend and complained about me. I don't know if I should keep her. She calls me a freak and says to me I like it when people call me that. I don't. She tells people I'm not a real vegetarian, and I look like a boy when my hair is back. She Can be great. When she comes over she plays with my cats more than me.
So what should I do? (link)
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this is completely unacceptable for someone who you call your 'friend'. you deserve way better, especially since you seem loyal for stickin to someone like that.
ditch her, shes not worth your time because people like that only end up hurtin you in the end. i know its hard, but its for your own good.
you can be nice about it too. just say 'hey, i dont like the way you treat me and how you talk about me to other people. i dont deserve it so id like to take a break from you.'
put it in your own words and make it comfortable for yourself to say it.
good luck, sorry :(
x sweeethoney
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I got into my first relationship, and it's over now, but my friends are all upset and everything because they felt that we were all into each other instead of being with our friends, is this normal? How do I fix the tension with my friends?
Thanks in advance! (link)
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oh my god, i know how you feel. ive been with my boyfriend for over 3 months and my other friends are always like 'sellout' and shit when i go to hang out with him.
you have to tell them that they cant get mad when there is a new person in your life, and that if they are your true friends that theyll respect the time you wanna hang out with the significant other. make sure you hang out with your friends too though !
x sweeethoney
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I just found out, that my BESTFRIEND is bi.
I mean, i thought she was for the longest time, and i did ask her, but she got super mad at me and said no. But, she told this girl she was hot/cute and she was embarrassed because she told her. And then she asked her if she would kiss her. But i dont know. I mean, i kinda want to forget about it. But when i see her, it reminds me again. I dont want to ask her, again though. But then i do. I mean, what should i say to her? (link)
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well if your BEST FRIEND is bi, shes still your best friend. girls arent like guys, they dont get horny by seein naked or in a bathin suit or anythin.
im bisexual myself, and i had a really hard time tellin my best friends over other people and it really hurt because i thought they wouldnt accept me. be a good friend and tell her you accept her no matter what because thats what she really needs.
shes probably just experimentin, but if she starts to go farther and actually LIKING girls for personality and dating, then shes most definitely bi. but dont worry about it.
when you ask her just be like 'look, you can tell me whatever you need to. im here for you no matter what sexuality you are but id like to know, because youre my bestfriend and were supposed to tell each other these things. so, are you bi?'
message me if you need anymore help
x sweeethoney
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I'm 16 years old & I totally suck at befriending guys. All my friends are girls & i dont have one guy friend at all, its that bad. I go to a all-girls school but i do outside school things like church & going out with my girlfriends (sometimes my girlfriends bring guy friends along, but i never end up talking/being friends with the guys). Firstly, I'm too shy to strike up a conversation and secondly I'm quite an awkward person at times so I wouldn't know what to say if we did have a conversation. Also, is there anything else that's preventing me from befriending guys? Thankyou! (link)
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the person who answered below me is right, you just need to treat guys like a human bein just like you treat your friends. i know since youre always around girls that might be a hard thing to do, but once you break out of your shell it will be a lot easier. bein down to earth, showin interest in what they say, and just showin confidence (even when you dont have any) make it a lot easier. itd be one thing if you were tryin to date them, but if your tryin to befriend them than it shouldnt be too hard if you just take the first step.
so when your girlfriends bring a guyfriend around and they introduce them, after a little conversation just be like 'oh whats your name again? oh what school do you go to?' just small talk. and if thats a little bit much for your first stuff just be active in the group conversation. if you make your presence known he'll probably want to talk to you.
bein yourself is key!
any other questions feel free to ask :)
x sweeethoney
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(16/f)
Hey everyone.
Basically, i have feelings for my best guy friend. We've met in September and have been so close ever since. He likes this other girl, also my good friend, and is always constantly talking about her to me, asking me for advice on what to do and everything. No one knows how i feel inside and i don't know what to do. We have such a wonderful friendship and i would love to keep it like this. He's such a great guy, and i don't want my feelings to ruin anything. I really do want to have JUST that friendship bond with him, but i can't control my feelings. I'm trying to stop my feelings but right now, it's so hard. I'm really trying to be that best friend in his life, and i just want him and I to be happy. I really don't deserve to feel this way. What should I do?
Thank you.
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hmm tough situation, theres nothin much you can do especially when your friend is involved. if you dont want to ruin your friendship i suggest you dont tell him just yet. if your friends not interested in him, you should tell her to tell him to back off. with her out of the way itd be a lot easier to get across how you feel. good luck, i feel for ya girl :(
x sweeethoney
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Let's just say "Sally" and "Bob"..
Well Sally has a boyfriend and her boyfriend don't like me.. Well over the days.. he told Sally that i texted him saying "im bored" and "Your hot"!
and Sally just texted me out of no where "I FREAKING HATE YOU!!!!" and that i need to leave her and her boyfriend alone! and i dont even know what i did untell a little birdy told me today that he told her that i texted him that stuff! so now she is mad at me and the little birdy asked her if she was mad at me because i didnt do it and she said "yeah because Bob would never lie to me and make me sad" and blah blah blah! so i dont know anymore!
It's like...
Just because you (Bob) don't like me,, that doesnt mean that me and Sally can not be friends.. so he just wants us to fight and not to be friends i guess.. because Supposebly i like him! HAHAHA NOOOTTTT!!! and i tried to tell her that i never texted him and that i don't like him but she believes her boyfriend! so whatever.. she thought that he wouldn't lie to her.. well he just did! and if i did text him then he would know my number (BUT HE DON'T) haha!
And i would NEVER hurt her because she "was" my friend and i don't even like her boyfriend and i never will.. but i guess she don't believe me..
so now she is saying that i'm not a true friend and that she should of known before that i was not a true friend and blah blah blah!
And Sally was one of my best friends but i dont know what to do because i've tried to tell her that i didnt do it!
what do i do?? (link)
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i think that everyone has been in a situation like this where a friend picks another friend, or in this case a boyfriend over you. basically, you need to tell her that if she does or ever did consider you a friend, she needs to let you sit down with her and talk to her. tell her that you considered her one of your best friends and you would never ever ever try to break her and her boyfriend apart. all you can do is hope she understands, and if she doesnt you dont need a friend like her anyways. hope everything works out in your favor:)
x sweeethoney
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