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Trouble with getting guy friends
I'm 16 years old & I totally suck at befriending guys. All my friends are girls & i dont have one guy friend at all, its that bad. I go to a all-girls school but i do outside school things like church & going out with my girlfriends (sometimes my girlfriends bring guy friends along, but i never end up talking/being friends with the guys). Firstly, I'm too shy to strike up a conversation and secondly I'm quite an awkward person at times so I wouldn't know what to say if we did have a conversation. Also, is there anything else that's preventing me from befriending guys? Thankyou!
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I had that problem before except I don't go to an all girl school. That shouldn't stop you from talking to guys though. Lets see, when your friends bring along guys try talking to them or even ask your friend to introduce you to some guys that she knows. I'm shy too but trust me don't be afraid. You aren't shy with your friends right? Act as if you knew them forever. It works for me and now I have lots of guy friends. Some of them were from my friends talking to these other guys that they knew and I ended up talking to them and became friends. Even one came to be a boyfriend because of that. Just be like, "hey I'm _____" Then just talk like you would with your friends. Maybe not mentioning guys and stuff like that but you know, a normal conversation with anybody. You'll be fine when you talk to them so don't stress out or think too much about it when you are talking to them. Good luck!
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When your friends invite guys places just say hi, whats up. Before you know it you could be having a whole conversation with them.
i hope i helped.
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well, I see I'm not the only one having trouble <I have a few guy friends now. You you do things outside school, just start with “Hi.” simple thing like your friends guy friends start with something like: “hi”,“hi, im ____<possible 'whats your name” or even just wave...that's what I, but I also started with the secound choice. Good Luck! -lily
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the person who answered below me is right, you just need to treat guys like a human bein just like you treat your friends. i know since youre always around girls that might be a hard thing to do, but once you break out of your shell it will be a lot easier. bein down to earth, showin interest in what they say, and just showin confidence (even when you dont have any) make it a lot easier. itd be one thing if you were tryin to date them, but if your tryin to befriend them than it shouldnt be too hard if you just take the first step.
so when your girlfriends bring a guyfriend around and they introduce them, after a little conversation just be like 'oh whats your name again? oh what school do you go to?' just small talk. and if thats a little bit much for your first stuff just be active in the group conversation. if you make your presence known he'll probably want to talk to you.
bein yourself is key!
any other questions feel free to ask :)
x sweeethoney
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I used to have the same problem! It's easier than you think to come out of your shy shell. All you need to do is talk to guys as you would talk to your girl friends. Have a friend come with you and talk to a guy, it'll make it easier for you to talk to them. And since there is both you and another girl there things won't get awkward and if you don't know what to talk about just bring up the first thing on your mind. He will also talk too, so thing shouldn't get awkward.
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