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Friendship && Boyfriend HELP!
Let's just say "Sally" and "Bob"..
Well Sally has a boyfriend and her boyfriend don't like me.. Well over the days.. he told Sally that i texted him saying "im bored" and "Your hot"!
and Sally just texted me out of no where "I FREAKING HATE YOU!!!!" and that i need to leave her and her boyfriend alone! and i dont even know what i did untell a little birdy told me today that he told her that i texted him that stuff! so now she is mad at me and the little birdy asked her if she was mad at me because i didnt do it and she said "yeah because Bob would never lie to me and make me sad" and blah blah blah! so i dont know anymore!
It's like...
Just because you (Bob) don't like me,, that doesnt mean that me and Sally can not be friends.. so he just wants us to fight and not to be friends i guess.. because Supposebly i like him! HAHAHA NOOOTTTT!!! and i tried to tell her that i never texted him and that i don't like him but she believes her boyfriend! so whatever.. she thought that he wouldn't lie to her.. well he just did! and if i did text him then he would know my number (BUT HE DON'T) haha!
And i would NEVER hurt her because she "was" my friend and i don't even like her boyfriend and i never will.. but i guess she don't believe me..
so now she is saying that i'm not a true friend and that she should of known before that i was not a true friend and blah blah blah!
And Sally was one of my best friends but i dont know what to do because i've tried to tell her that i didnt do it!
what do i do??
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i think that everyone has been in a situation like this where a friend picks another friend, or in this case a boyfriend over you. basically, you need to tell her that if she does or ever did consider you a friend, she needs to let you sit down with her and talk to her. tell her that you considered her one of your best friends and you would never ever ever try to break her and her boyfriend apart. all you can do is hope she understands, and if she doesnt you dont need a friend like her anyways. hope everything works out in your favor:)
x sweeethoney
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Aw,
well it seems to me that she really doesn't know what a true friend is.
Is this her first boyfriend? Because if it is, she may have just got caught up in having a boyfriend.
The honest truth is.. chances are they're not going to be together forever. And she'll realize what she's lost. Her best friend.
Maybe you should try calling Sally and telling her that you hate fighting with her and ask her to please listen to what you have to say. Explain to her that you never texted Bob and that you would never do that to your bestfriend and if she was ever your bestfriend, she will believe YOU. Not some boy.
I really hope everything works out okay. I'm sorry that your friend doesn't know what she's missed. She will soon , hopefully :D
Feel free to ask any further questions or update me on how it goes.
Good luck.
-Kayla
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Well sweet heart, you have a right to be upset, someone lied on you and turned your friend against you. But this might be more serious that "Bob" just lying on you. When a guy tries to isolate a female from her friends and family that is the first sign of him controlling her.
Normally, the female will put her mans word over those of her closest friends and make up excuses for his poor behavior. This might be more serious than you think. Don't take him not liking you personal and don't take her actions personal. If someone else were her best friend he would treat them the same way. It is just a matter of making her trust him and only him.
If she starts to have low self esteem and starts to seem a bit withdrawn then that is definitely a matter of concern. If you get too worried or suspect that he is ill treating her, then you should ask a mutual friend that you trust to keep an eye on her. If things get out of hand and he is actually abusing her (abuse can be verbal, as well as physical) then notify her parents.
I know that this is a lot but this sounds like the early signs of a abusive relationship. Good luck sweetheart, I hope that your friend come to her senses before it is to late!!! GOD Bless!!!
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You've told her the truth, now just leave it be.
A guy who make up something like that, wont stop there. He'll keep lying and sceming and evetually, she'll get hurt really, really badly.
She might be mature and sensible enough at that point to realize that you did nothing wrong. That you were actually a true friend who she lost because of her loyalty to a scum bag... or she might never.
Either way, it's time for you to let this go.
If it comes up agian, don't get angry or drawn into a discussion, just keep saying "No. It didn't happen." Don't talk about him, and don't let them change the subject. Don't get angry or upset. Just tell the truth and walk away.
Either she will realize her mistake, or she wont. The best thing you can do now and stay out of any fights, so when she does realize her mistake, you still have a chance at friendship.
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