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I Have this friend she is 14 like me. we hang out alot but she lies sooo much. its not little lies either there is many many things she's done. she lies to everyone.she tell my secrets to everyone and tells everyones to me. most arnt my secrets she lies and tells them i have done something that i have not. she's is bi. but she tells everyone she is not. i have no problem with bi people i am not bi myself. she has tryed kissing me and she's tryed humping my leg.i said no. i told my friends about this..they dont belive me she did some things with one of my other friends (like made her do it) and then got mad at her for it. she lies and lies and she tells me to my face that she will lie if she wants to get out of something. so you get that she lies a lot right? well thats not my main problem i dont want to be her friend anymore but i can stop hanging out with her. if i do then my friends will ask why im being mean to her and why i wont be her friend. they will get mad at me for "being mean" but i am not. i've tryed to explain to them what she does but she is so good of a lier that they believe her not me. so i will have no friends..if i stop hanging out with her. they are good friends really good friends nice and everything. its just they believe her over me. going with out friends is hard...i'll have no one to talk to..and i'll be very alone. i have no idea what to do.. should i stop being friends with her and lose all my friends...or should i keep being friends with her and let her walk all over me with her lies...HELP! plzzzz!!!!!!! (link)
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ok..well i think that it isn't the best thing that you stay friends with her. but instead of hanging out with her a lot start making it less and less untill u don't hang out at all. Just if he asks if you want to hangout, make up an excuse so you cn;t hang out with her like i have a big test to study for or i have an appointment. just try and make you and ehr less and less of friends without saying it to her face. as for your other friends, if they were really your friends then they wouldn't yell at you for doing somthing that is comfortable to you. just do what makes you happy and your freinds, if htey really are your freinds they will stick with you through it all!
Good luck
~Sealgirl~
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I have this friend, let's call her L and I met L just this year, [I am 15/f freshman in high school] and she comes from a different school, is really nice but driving me up an insanely high wall. In the beginning of our friendship, she was shy and I did most of the talking because I hate awkward silences and then she started talking more and we had only known eachother for a couple of days and became oddly very trusting with me, expecting the same from me, but I've been burned and backstabbed badly in past friendships and I'm not as trusting as her. But this was sooo wierd, she like just told me all of her secrets and life story in like 3 days of knowing one another. And now like, 5 months later she is driving me insane. I will be on AIM and L will IM me, but I'm not there and she will get mad at me like..."are you mad at me??" constantly IMing me and I can't take it. THEN in school she will be like, "Are you mad at me? What did I do?" and it pisses me off soo badly. And then she will text me, and if I don't text her back she thinks that I'm macd at her!! So then I just get fed up with her immaturity and the complaining about how her best friends are like avoiding her now and I CAN RELATE BECAUSE I WANT TO IGNORE HER. Like in the hallway, I pretend I dn't see her ebcause I just need SPACE.
I'm sory this is sooo long, but I don't know what to do. How do I deal with someone like this? We are in 2 of the smae classes and she like clings to me for dear life because she doesnt think she has any friends, but I do and I want to branch out with other people. She annoys me, and I want to be friends with her, but then again I don't.
So, what should I do? What would you guys do? And thanks in advance to whoever was willing to read all of that, because it really means alot to me that you did. (link)
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well i think that you should just talk to her about it. i mean, that is what i would do. i would just tell her that i am not always online when you talk or able to get to my phone or able to say hi when you say hi. i Have other friends that i need to hang with not just you. i don't ever get mad at you so don't think i do. I'm sry if this sounds mean. but you got to do waht you got to do. Just try and be nice her your friend but get to the point to. My best advice for this is to just talk it out..and tell her the truth, i mean..friends should be understanding with whatever you say and if they are not, then you don't need them as a friend. Good luck and i hope everything goes well between you guys and hopefully you stay friends!!
~sealgirl~
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I just realized something. I have a really crappy social life. I dont have any close friends, and Im not even talking about best friends. I used to have a best friend but she changed a lot so we dont talk as much anymore.
I have friends, dont get me wrong, but theyre just friends, and we never hang out outside of ___. We dont talk on the phone, just talk and stuff at ___.
Ive been really lonely lately, and Ive been going through some tough times and I really need someone I can talk to, and someone who will listen to me and CARE. I need someone I can depend on, but I just dont know who. I dont see any of my friends becoming a best friend, and believe me I tried to get closer to some of them, but it didnt work, I guess they have enough close friends and dont need me.
How can I find a best friend? I am already really busy, and I do a sport, and I take classes at this charter school (but most of the kids are really wierd). I dont have time to join more clubs and stuff, so please dont say that. Im homeschooled, Ill be graduating this year and it would be really nice to have a best friend that will be there for me all through college.
Any advice? Please dont say "youll find a best friend in college" because I want one now. (link)
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well you just have to be more friendly around people. I mean, in sports try and talk to knew people on your team or try and find someone in your neighborhood. Or maybe go out one time and just talk to people and get to know them and just make new friends. I know it is hard because you somtimes are shy adn odn't like to talk to people but this is a challenge. Everyone faces challeneges in life andthis is just one of them for you. So just try and be more outgoing and everything will hopefully work out. Good luck
~sealgirl~
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ok so one of my best friends that ive known for like 3 years, yeah his grandmother has cancer. and shes basically dying :/
he visits her in the hospital and he did today actually and he said she was really "weak" and he was really quiet and didnt really talk much. hes like that a lot lately and im pretty sure its because of his grandmother.
he lost his grandfather like 2 years ago and that pretty much devastated him, he just slept around all day for weeks and i know that thats what he'll do if his grandmother (who hes extremely close to) dies.
now, hes a guy so of course he never ever talks about his feelings.
so..what am i supposed to say? i want to get his mind off of it but its like impossible. and i want to be there for him but if he never tells me his feelings i really cant do anything for him.
so, i need some tips on what i can say or do for him. (link)
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The only good thing you can actually do for him is to jsut be there when he needs a friend. I mean there isn't really anything you can do other then to comfort him because you can't help the fact that his grandmother is dieing. I mean you can try and talk to him about fun exciting things that go on in his life like jsut take him mind off the subject by talking bout sports or extra activites that he does or something that won't bring his mind back to his grandmother. Just be thre for him and do stuff to make him feel special. Good luck and i hope your friend turns out ok.
~sealgirl~
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I have some kind of "friendship" with an old friend. We have always been so alike back in junior high that people thought we were sisters/twins. So we went to different high schools and things changed. But somehow she ends up doing something that I do. I'm quite tired of it. We always had the same ideas. Usually I presented it first or that's what people said. I know we have similar ideas so I can't say that she's always stealing my ideas. I just want to look different from her. She's annoying me now. I have had my nose pierced for half a year and i finally found a ring to wear. She got upset because she didn't want people to like mine better/first since she just got her stud in today. It's just.. rawr! I want her to stop. Is it even possible to bring up or is it just completely wrong to try? Would it be wrong of me to try to change my look? I don't like to be compared to her. This is a bit strange.. and I know it's jealously too. We have always had this secret competition between us. A few years of it.. and I'm sick of it. I just want to be my own person. (link)
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Why don't you jsut tell her that you want to be your own person, that even tho you are simular, that we need to have differences too. Or if you aren't comfortable just talking to he tehn maybe you should change your look. But not to much. You don't want to make a big deal of it. and if you change your look, she might end up doing the same thing so becareful what you. I don't think it would be wrong, i think it actually is a good idea as long as it doesn't change you. So don't change it to much just enough to be different from her and as long as you don't change for her, change for yourself or it won't be worth it and you might get mad at what you did. Good luck
~Sealgirl~
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My birthday is coming up soon, i am turning 13 adn am having 30 some girls sleep over at the local sports complex..it should be a balst but there is this one friend who is nice but she ditched me and my other firneds for more popular ones we had this huge fight for 2 years now were finally made up but then last night we kinda you know butted heades again but now were cool.....do you think i should invite her to my birthday party? shes really controlling but is SO nice, but sometimes we just dont get along and its definitly not like old timeswe dont sit with eachother at lunch or anything. should i invite her? (link)
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i say if you have been friends with her so long you should. jsut think about this, if you don't invite her, would you feel bad that she isn't there or would you feel lonely without her. Just think of how u would feel. You might as well jsut invite her and it is her decion weather or not she comes. i mean, if she doesn't that means taht she really doens't want to be with you, most likely, and if she shows up..then you know she is still your friend and wants to be with you. Good luck.
~sealgirl~
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There's this guy in my class and we were really good freidns which surprised me because i'm really anti-social and didn't think that i would make a lot of friends when I go to highschool, but i did.
And I always give him guna nd he's so nice but I ran out of money for two weeks and couldn't get gum anymore.
Then he's like "You're not my friend anymore" which REALLY hurt me!
Then I bougth him chocolate and he's like i love you again friend =]
Is it worth it? I don't know, i just don't liek it when someone doesnt' like me because i get hurt easily but he's so nice and everything. Is he a friend? or not? (link)
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I say he isn't your friend..You don't be friends with someone who is just in it for the reward. He just wants to be friends with you because you give him stuff which isn't really nice. He just like teh fact that you give him stuff. Once you stoped giving him gum..he didn;t like you anymore..and that is his true feelings. He only likes you for what u give him. So no he isn't your friend. iF i were you, i would dump him before he takes anythign else.
~sealgirl~
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Me and my best friend of 4 years recently stopped talking because things got awkward between us when we started accusing each other of lying (which we both did). We havn't talked for 6 months to be exact - and here's the weird thing - i havn't missed her! I thought my life would end without this girl.. but it didn't? Was there something wrong with our friendship (I dont think so because we even got the best-friend award at our school cause we're always together, and have supported eachother through funerals, earthquakes, broken hearts and soo much more!)? Well she contacted me 4 days ago through text message asking me why we randomly stopped talking and if I want to be her friend anymore, and I dont know what to answer. Do I? I dont miss her very much? But I dont know if Ive just been denying it to save myself from saddness? Actually, I dont know anything at all here.. what do you think is going on? (link)
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I think that you are just not needing to have her as your friend. I mean..if you don't miss ehr then you don't need her that much. But htis same thing happened to me before..and i didn't really feel like i missed her but she misssed me a lot. so maybe she just needs you to survive and not the other way around. So i say taht you should still be her friend but you odn't have to be as good of friends because of everything that has happened between you. Good luck with you friend.
~sealgirl~
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I have a friend, and she has been my best friend for seven years. Recently, we got in a huge fight, and we weren't talking for three weeks. So i thought we were done being friends. I took her completely off of my top friends on myspace, and she called me crying when she found out. So i put her back on. But while i wasn't talking to her, i started a really good friend ship with another girl, and we became better friends then me and the other girl ever were. Now that me and my original bff are okay again, she thinks were bff's again, when really the other girl is the better friend. But the two don't get along, and expect me to be their best friend. Im so confused. (link)
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Everyone can have more then one best friend. It is a good thing to have more then one even if they don'[t like eachother. It is ok..as long as you don't put them together or get them into fights. If you like them both then keep it the way it is even tho they are compleatly different. You can still be friends with both..it doesn't matter what the others do to eachother, as longas you are happy with what is going on. You can try to make them become friends but don't force it. If they don't wnat to be friends with eachother then just keep them seperate but close to you. It will all work out in the end. Good luck
~sealgirl~
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one of my "Best" friends,lucy, just got a bf like a week ago or something. two of our other mutual "best" friends - alexa and lisa - talk to him sometimes but rn't really friends with him; i am the same. well his cousin had like a party a cuple weeks ago. supposedly he was like to lucy "yea u and alexa and lisa can come" or something so they all kinda lied to me about it so "my feelings wouldnt get hurt." i confronted them ab it, and i thot it was a one time thing. then tonight he was like to her "yeahh maybe u and alexa and lisa can come over my house." i think he just says there names because they went to the other party, and they are just 2 of her friends that he thinks of off the top of his head. so lucy aclled me and like told me that. and ugh
it sucks tho, because now im sitting here alone on a sat night. all of my other friends have plans.
i don't get it, why can't she just be like to him " can ___ (my name) come too?"
it really makes me upset.. i would do it for her, and its not that big of a deal to just ask if one other person can go. any best friend would do it for their friend. im sure he wouldnt mind. unless she has like another reason for not wanting me to go, but i cant think of one. what do i do? (link)
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Why dont' you jsut be upfront to her and talk to her about it. Just tell her the truth and say that i dont' think taht you are being very truthful and stuff because it really hurts your feelings. I bet she would understand and if she doesn't then he jsut isn't what you need anyway. If she is now trying to just leave you alone then you dont' need her, she is jsut being a mand friend. But ithink tha tshe is just caught up in the whole thing and that she needs to get pulled out. She doesn't relize that she is hurting ur feelings so jsut talk to her and tell her how you feel and what is going on...good Luck
~sealgirl~
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Here is my problem ok well I really liked this one guy lets call him M in middle school and high school he never really talked to me but he knew that I liked him. I think he was one of those boys that wouldn't go out with someone unless his friends approved or the girls he would go out with was always jocks or blondes. But the thing is it has been a few years since we had any contact with each other you see I would write to him notes and letters but he never responded. He was told that I liked him and once I had one of my cousins call him and ask if he liked me back and he said "yeah I think she's pretty". Now years later I found him on MySpace and he accepted me as a friend and we have been getting along but he doesn't reall contact me I gave him my cell and he doesn't call. Meanwhile there is this other guy L that use to be his friend and we found out that we have alot in common and we are getting along as friends. I don't know if I should concentrate on the other guy instead of M because L and I like each other too. What Should I Do? (link)
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You should go with L because u have already given M a chance. Nothin has happened in the years that you have known him. Just give L a chance and if you don't like it then it was nothing to lose, but you might find out hat L is athe perfect guy for you and you have found a wonderful person. If you judt ignore L then you might be missing a great opertunity for yourself. Good luck.
~sealgirl~
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Ok im 15/m and i have a bestfreind whos 15/f, well i am a very quiet guy and calm but she is the complete opposite and shes always dressing sluty, i dont like her.
Although sometimes she cool most of the times i hate her.
I only see her as a regular freind not as anything else, I dont know what to do,
weve been freinds for 3 years and ive not liked her for 2 years
anyone have any ideas on what to do, and dont tell bull**** like give her a chance cause i cant be freinds with someone i dont like (link)
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Why don't you just talk to her. You can just tell her that you don't like the way that she acts some of the times. You jsut need to talk to her and tell her the truth. You can tell her waht is bugging you, or you can just start to be distant with her. Which might give her the hint that something is wrong and that you need your space. Or you could tell erh that you don't like the change that she is now from what she was before. The only thing you dont' wnat to do is to totally ignore her because that would be mean. unless if you do that then she wouldn't like you anymore and that would be and eaiser way to just not be her friend is to not talk to her. It isn't the nicest way to do it but you can do it. Just try and tell her the truth and good luck. hopefully everything goes right.
~sealgirl~
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My best guy friend has sort of stopped talking to me directly and only like saying "hi". Some times he doesn't even say "hi" for days/weeks on end. I don't know what to do. He won't answer me. and tries to avoid me. I wonder if it was because i started to hang out with another guy that i really like and kinda flirt w/ this other guy alot. Could that be why? Can you help me w/ how to get him to speak to me agian????BEFORE SCHOOL STARTS(aug 21st) (link)
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You could just call him and ask what is going on..or e-mail or something and say tha you are sorry for what ever you did even though you dont' know what and tha you want to know what has been goign on..
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I know this sounds corny and pathetic.
I'm 16/F. I've known this guy since 7th grade, I'm going into 11th this year. We've always had this vibe between us, he would constantly flirt tease me, and he just gives me the signs that he likes me. But he never asked me out, I'm starting a job soon and he works there too, and I'm hoping, how do I show him I still like him, or that I like him, because I can be cold sometimes, because i'm weird liek that. What specific things really show a guy you care & like them?
The really corny part is, he makes me so nervous, and I dont get nervous around guys, he makes me stomache all blahfladjfd, and he is the only guy I've liked, and the reason I've liked him so long, is because he's showing me hope that something could happen. If I was positive nothing would happen, then I would stop liking him.
And also, last year we had like no classes together, but we sat by each other in seminar, and thats when we kinda talked, and flirted.
I dont know, I sound so pathetic. But I need advice.. (link)
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something that wuld show a guy that you like them is to just be there for them when they need someone to talk to or be around. what you could do is tell him how you really feel or tell him that he is sending you signs that you don't understand. Really all you have to do is follow what your heart is telling you to do..tell him or not, ask him or let it be...u decide.
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what does hugs means to you when you hugging your friends?
and whats the diffrence and meaning between friends giving you regular hug and friends giving you tight hug and they lift you up?
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hugs are very special to me and i think they are a sign of frendship. but when friends give you a tight hug...it means to me...that they like you more then a friend. that moment is kind of weird but don't push them away..just act as normal as posible. if they lkike you it is no big deal just try to ignore it and if you like them back then give them a chance. hopefully i was helpful??
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Long story short: One of my friends from grade school live with me and I really hate it. I had no choice in letting her move in, this was all done by my mother and sister. And don't get me wrong, I understand the fact that she doesn't exactly have the best home life, but she takes advantage of our family, our money, everything. Her name is Katie.
I have this best friend Samantha who knows that Katie is doing this to our family. Samantha was there for me a lot, I could cry it out and tell her how much Katie annoyed me and she understood.
But now it's different. Katie and Samantha have been hanging out and now Samantha feels bad for her . So now when I need to talk, I can't because the last time I did she was mad at told everyone that I'm mean to Katie!
So last night Samantha was talking bad on Katie and I was surprised. But I didn't say anything except nod my head and was totally confused.
then today she called my phone, asked for Katie, and invited HER to hang out. I'm really upset because she was just saying horrible things about her last night and now she wants to act like her friend?
So my question is:
1. Is Samantha a true friend? (be honest please)
2. Am I overreacting? (link)
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i would say that she isn't being a true friend. i would say a true freind is someone you can count on and someone that always tells the truth. i would feel so hurt if my friend turned there back on me and that is not what friends do..hopefully this helps and good luck to you on which ever side you chose.
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