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Why don't I miss her?
Me and my best friend of 4 years recently stopped talking because things got awkward between us when we started accusing each other of lying (which we both did). We havn't talked for 6 months to be exact - and here's the weird thing - i havn't missed her! I thought my life would end without this girl.. but it didn't? Was there something wrong with our friendship (I dont think so because we even got the best-friend award at our school cause we're always together, and have supported eachother through funerals, earthquakes, broken hearts and soo much more!)? Well she contacted me 4 days ago through text message asking me why we randomly stopped talking and if I want to be her friend anymore, and I dont know what to answer. Do I? I dont miss her very much? But I dont know if Ive just been denying it to save myself from saddness? Actually, I dont know anything at all here.. what do you think is going on?
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Okay - Me & my bestfriend fought for like 2 months on & off. Finally it just got so horrible, that we had to take a break from each other. Culs we were literally always with each other. So we stopped talking for I'd say, about 4 months. I didn't miss her AT ALL! I didn't think about her any, or anything. But then one day we became friends again, I don't even remember how. But once we became friends again, I realized how much i did really miss her! I jus didn't ever think about it.. She's my other half, I honestly don't kno what I'd do without her; Even if she does get on my nerves 50% of the time. But we are just honest with each other; & when we fight now, we get over it in 3 minutes. So maybe you should try talking to her! :)
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Okay.
saaame thing here.
i'm going to answer from experience.
alright so me and my best friend, carley, have been best friends since 3rd grade [7 years]. like seriously B E S T F R I E N D S. we talk everyday for at least 3 hours. she calls me when she gets home from school, tells me everything, we are together during lunch, we even talk before school, we hang out every weekend, almost every weekday. it's wow. but okay anway. but like in october we started fighting. because i had changed and she had changed also i guess. it was kinda weird. and she was telling me to be more religious. but yeah so we just stopped talking. [in fact, i was at her house, then i called my mom to come get me at like 5 AM and left] normally after fights, we'll call each other like normal and pretend like it never happened. this time, we just stopped. she told one of her friends, who told me, that if i didn't change my ways & we just never became friends again..that it would be meant to be. so i just stopped talking to her. i was like whatever i don't need her. then i went on with my life. i didn't exactly miss her. i mean i kinda was sad about throwing away 7 years, but i thought i was kind of better off without her. then i came home..checked my email..(about 8 days later).. and she sent me this long this. i forgave her & also apologized. then she read it and called me and we both started crying. omg i love her. ahhahaha. don't throw this away. i think you're just in denial. i was mad..but deep down i felt lonely & like a part of me was missing. she misses you, why just ignore her? please go back :]
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She is obviously missing you. Friends have tiffs all the time, although they don't stop being friends because of it.
4 years is alot to throw away. You have a past with each other.
I think it's normal not to miss her if you haven't really seen her since.
If you start talking and seeing each other again, you might realize you actually do miss her.
It's worth a try.
As I always say - you can never have too many friends.
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I think that you are just not needing to have her as your friend. I mean..if you don't miss ehr then you don't need her that much. But htis same thing happened to me before..and i didn't really feel like i missed her but she misssed me a lot. so maybe she just needs you to survive and not the other way around. So i say taht you should still be her friend but you odn't have to be as good of friends because of everything that has happened between you. Good luck with you friend.
~sealgirl~
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