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hard situations
ok so one of my best friends that ive known for like 3 years, yeah his grandmother has cancer. and shes basically dying :/
he visits her in the hospital and he did today actually and he said she was really "weak" and he was really quiet and didnt really talk much. hes like that a lot lately and im pretty sure its because of his grandmother.
he lost his grandfather like 2 years ago and that pretty much devastated him, he just slept around all day for weeks and i know that thats what he'll do if his grandmother (who hes extremely close to) dies.
now, hes a guy so of course he never ever talks about his feelings.
so..what am i supposed to say? i want to get his mind off of it but its like impossible. and i want to be there for him but if he never tells me his feelings i really cant do anything for him.
so, i need some tips on what i can say or do for him.
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Tell him that it's okay if he doesn't want to talk about it, but let him know that you're always there for him when he wants to talk.
And give 'im hugs if he needs them!
Best of luck.
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SHOW HIM YOU CARE :)
thats probably what he needs most right now especially when he's in that kind of situation, he needs to know that someone also cares about what he's going through. hope i helped :)
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Well, you won't get his mind off of it. You can try, but that is going to be in the front of his mind right now. There are things you CAN do for him.
You can do is let him know that you are a shoulder to lean on whenever he needs one.
Show you care- ask if you can come along to visit his grandma with him. Ask him how she is doing, how he is doing, how his family is doing. Ask him if there is ANYTHING you can do to help him and his family during this rough time.
He doesn't have to tell you his feelings for you to try to understand how he is feeling. He is hurt, sad, and possibly angry. Think how you would feel to watch a loved one suffer, if you don't already know what that is like.
It hurts to watch her be in pain. It's sad that she is going to die, an honestly, miserable death. It makes you angry that someone you love even has to go through this. And you have to watch this process, knowing there is NOTHING you can do but be there for them.
At least that is how it felt for me. I'm sure his feelings aren't far off. So now you have an idea.
If he doesn't want to discuss his feelings, don't pressure him about it. He may not want to talk about it on top of constantly thinking about it. If he wants to talk about it with you, he will.
ygs-29/f
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The only good thing you can actually do for him is to jsut be there when he needs a friend. I mean there isn't really anything you can do other then to comfort him because you can't help the fact that his grandmother is dieing. I mean you can try and talk to him about fun exciting things that go on in his life like jsut take him mind off the subject by talking bout sports or extra activites that he does or something that won't bring his mind back to his grandmother. Just be thre for him and do stuff to make him feel special. Good luck and i hope your friend turns out ok.
~sealgirl~
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