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What to do with a guy friend gone wrong.
My best guy friend has sort of stopped talking to me directly and only like saying "hi". Some times he doesn't even say "hi" for days/weeks on end. I don't know what to do. He won't answer me. and tries to avoid me. I wonder if it was because i started to hang out with another guy that i really like and kinda flirt w/ this other guy alot. Could that be why? Can you help me w/ how to get him to speak to me agian????BEFORE SCHOOL STARTS(aug 21st)
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While i know not who you are, or even comprehend the situation fully. here is a suggestion to which i hope will most likely help you.
Asking him would be a simply solution, however. he is a guy. well, im a guy, so obviously i can tell you things about us. lists have always made more sense to me then anything else, so here is my attempt.
1) he meaning your best friend, is in fact a guy. We as "Men" want to be tough therefore it is difficult for us to show our true emotions to the view of other people. This is true of all guys. Nothing in the world could ever change this.
2) He purposely tries to avoid you? lets think about this. He started acting this way about the time you started flirting with the other guy and your best friend found out about this? It makes sense for him to act this way. you may not see it, but there is some deductive logic to it. (i'll explain soon)
3) This guy that you flirt with, Have you asked your best friend's approval of the person before you started flirting?
4) The Explanation.
there are one of two possibilities if both of them combined. the first one i suggest, is that there is no problem with you, it is him. you obviously flirt with this guy in your friend's presence, otherwise he would not be so affected by it. This suggests Jealousy. There is nothing you can do about this for it will always exist inside of him because guys tend to bottle up emotions until the bottle breaks and we snap. the suggestion i have, which is also the more probable; is that it was brought upon by you. You never sought your friend's approval of the guy, and your friend could have very well had a crush on you. (again, guys don't show emotions)but that is a different story. You could have told your friend of your intentions with the guy. this would have made the transition of people, for both of you, easier, but because you didn't there is a sense of resentment that you friend could very well feel like he wasn't good enough for you to ask, therefore could very well be blowing off steam by avoiding you.
as to what you should do, that is up to you. you don't need people to tell you this. all you need is guidance, that doesn't come from other people. it comes from your heart. what you need to know is all in there, you just need to search for it.
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You could just call him and ask what is going on..or e-mail or something and say tha you are sorry for what ever you did even though you dont' know what and tha you want to know what has been goign on..
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