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yeah so only seventeen, but ive got a pretty good idea about giving decent advice. anything from serious relationships, not-so-serious relationships, friends, family problems, what looks good & what doesnt, and how NOT to be a bitch! i love to have fun, but im not an idiot! im just your typical clowner and i pretty much know it all - well, kinda : D ask anything!!

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15/f. I've been talking to a guy online for the past 2 months. He's 18. I knew him in real life, but he moved to another state. Well, first..when we started talking, he made it clear to me that he wasn't even supposed to flirt online with me because he could "get in trouble with the law, they'll land my ass in jail." (he's in the army, and thinks he's being watched) well, sometimes, he would make sexual remarks towards me...something along the lines of "i want to get you laid." and he'll start to panic after saying that...like "Omg...forget I said that, they're gonna kill me...ahhh I harassed a minor."
However, at other times...he just straight out flirts like it's no big deal. Usually, he just compliments me and tells me cute things. It kind of disturbs me..
Um...what's his problem? Is this legal?

umm no i dont think its illegal. if he had sex with you, then it is illegal because you arent at the age of consent (16) but seriously hes in another state, and just talking to you - if youre really worried, just dont talk to him.

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There's a guy at my college whom I know and like really well. We have a lot in common (read the same kind of books, etc) and can have long conversations. Problem, though: he deals in chemicals of the illicit kind. And not just on the side -- he does it for a living. I don't have any moral problems with drugs, though I don't use them myself and none of my friends do -- not even the drug dealer, he just sells them. It's just that I'm afraid I will have a taint by association problem. In fact, I sort of already have -- the campus housing people searched my room for drugs once, simply because he had been in it. (They found nothing of course, since I use nothing. He thought it was very amusing, but I was annoyed.) Is it worth it to stay friends with the dude, since I like him so much, or should I cool off?

if hes a great guy, but is involved with drugs, that doesnt make him a bad person. as long as you can figure out a way to not let it influence you and look past his faults, its possible to still be friends ;)

*a*m*y*

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ok.. so my best friend and i were in this chat with our other friend. and the other friend and my best friend have like a really funny joke together.. inside joke. so they were talkin about their joke and i just left cuz i didnt wanna be in the middle of it. then they started bein real mean to me, so i ignored them and blocked them. since then, my best friend wont forgive me when she should be the one sayin sorry. what should i do?

im guessing they probably thought you were mad at them first so they just.. ATTACKED..lol just talk to them and ask them why they were so mad. They probably were only being mean because they thought you didnt want to talk to them or something. Hope it helps ♥ amI ♥

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ok my friend is like really selfish. and she is REALLY clingy. when she gives an example about something like a good singer she uses herself, and when i say like "or me" she says "o my god! just becaus i said im a good singer doesnt mean you have to turn it around on yourself!" i know im a way better singer than her. and she ALWAYS calls me a fat ass. she also always brags about how skinny she is by saying "o my god look how fat i am in my gym suit!" and i give her a really mean look and tell her to shut her mouth and stop bragging and she always laughs like im kidding and i tell her im not and she says "o my god! just because i think im fat doesnt mean you have to say im bragging!" she exercises soooooooo much!please help i dont wanna kill our frendship

your friends a bitch BIG TIME - im sure you can find better friends than that

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i exercise a lot. i do at least 250 sit ups a day and i pogo-stick i also run. i eat like a granola bar 4 breakfast, a turkey sandwich for lunch with baked lays (1.5 grams of fat), and only like 10 grams of fat 4 dinner. im really fat, i weigh 128 lbs and im 13, 5ft 1 in, i have been since i was 12! i dont know why im so fat around my abs, above my hips, thighs, and stomach. please help, im desperste 4 weight loss!

okay.. well everyone thinks theres something wrong with them - whether its weight, hair, or just the way you think you look - EVERYONE is self-conscious about something. ok now anyway, if your 5'1 128lbs and 13, your not really as fat as you probably think you are. If you exercise, and watch wat you eat, and have energy and feel like your pretty healthy, then dont worry about it. Now if you still think u have a problem, then counting your calorie intake can help you get where you want to be. Crunches, running, jump-rope, push-ups, and streching can help. Remember, everyone is different and you should like your body shape, but if u need anything else AIM me at h1p213l7 xo,
aMi

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My parents disapprove of a lot of my friends. One of them.. ok.. shes a slut.. and they know that.. and they think im gunna be like her (i sorta am.. but not NEARLY as bad.. shes been with like 15 guys.. me only 2) and another friend has been pregnant before (shes 16) and another friend Steals and gets high alot... (they only know about the stealing)
My parents dont know i've had sex.. and they dont know i've been high (AND THEY AINT GUNNA!)
Since I hang out with these people (nicest people i know).. they dont trust me to even be around them at skool.. how can i get my parents to trust me more? I havent done anything to lose their trust (that they know of)
Theyso wont let me stay the night with anyone.. even the people they trust.. how can i change this

DONT TELL ME QUIT DOIN THE STUFF I DO!! I DONT DO IT NOW! AND DONT TELL ME THAT THEY DO HAVE A REASON NOT TO TRUST ME CUZ I ALREADY KNOW THAT.. BUT THEY DONT KNOW MY LIFE.. SO THEY ACTUALLY DONT..

Okay- well lets pretend that you are your parents... now can you blame them for not trusting you. your pretty lucky you havent gotten caught for any of this shit already, but you will probably get into trouble some day. the only thing that you can do is learn to deal with it, and you can keep your grades up, spend some time at your house with them (yeah i know that sucks) but like just get into a sport or just anything to keep your parents trust and let them think that you are not a trouble maker

*hOpE ThIs HeLpS*
~ami~

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Well this girl who I'm good friends with has invited me to watch some DVDs have have pizza at her house tomorrow night. There will be some other people there who I know but I don't have much in common with them and we aren't great friends. I want to go but I don't want to be left out of the conversation. What should I do?

hey just be yourself! and be nice and talk to the people and they will proababbly like you if you hang out with them, make jokes, and dont act shy. hope it goes well!
a*m*I

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(*Names changed to protect the innocent)
My Boyfriend *Mickie is the so sweet and nice to me! I really like him...he is also very cute. He treats me like a princess. Well before Mickie asked me out i had a big crush on *Ronnie but Mickie asked me out and i forgot about it for awhile. Lately I find myself flirting with Ronnie, and i like it. I am really drawn to him. But i dont want to break up with mickie...he is so nice.

yeah thats a tough one. well just because mickie is so nice to you, that doesnt mean you have feelings for him. if you really like ronnie, dont just flirt with him while your still going out with mickie. decide who you like more, and who you could picture yourself with. and hey, if you cant make a decision, be SINGLE and you can flirt with all the guys you want!
hOpE iT hELpS!
ami*

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a lot of my friends are acting differently towards me, and theyre starting not really talking to me....its kinda weird because in 8th grade, one of my friends, lets just call him Bob. bob and i used to be really good friends, and now this year, in 9th, he's acting differently towards me and he used to IM me a lot, and now he doesnt and he doesnt say hi in the hallways anymore!
also, my other friends are just acting different..i dont know how to explain that..but they are, and i dont know what to say or do! i dont want to be rude and be like ew ur not talking to me why not?? and stuff like that..so.....please help? thanks so much!

your in highschool now, and people are going to change. just talk to your friends and if they dont talk to you back just be like "hey why arent you talking to me?" you can say it like your joking around if you dont think you can say it seriously without them hurting your feelings. maybe there is a reason, or maybe they just didnt even notice they were ignoring you.

hope this helps,
ami*

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how do u get ur page with a whole bun ch of lkike dolls nd stuff??
dont delete this please!!

go to www.minklerealm.com or www.dolliecrave.com and look for the dolls with codes and copy n paste the codes onto your profile info on the column. n e more questions, drop one in my inbox k
ami*

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i tried out for dance team with my relle good friend and i found out i made it but she didnt i was relle upset and liek couldnt relle be happy formyself the next period she was mad at me becuase i made the team and she didnt nd i tried to talk to her about it but we got over it but still she also liek hits me liek shes joking but she relle hurts me so i hit her backl nd she gets all pissed but i dont let people jsut hit me without me doing anything how should i deal with her??

yeah omg shes being immature. she shouldnt hit you and theres nothing wrong with beign happy for yourslef that u made the team. i mean dont rub it in her face but it isnt your fault she didnt make it. tell her that next time she hits or whatever, dont take any shyt..

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is it realli wrong to date your best friends ex boyfriend? cause this kid likes me..and i realli like him..but i have a feeling my best friend will get mad if i go out with him. cause she gets jealous even if i chill with him! please help soon cause i'm gonna chill with him tonite! i rate high!

its not wrong unless your bff still likes him. ask her if she still has feelings for him. if not then ask her if she would mind if you two hooked up. the only thing u can do is talk to her about it. most likely she'll understand.

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hey**i have a friend that can sometimes or used to talk behind my back and none of my best friends like her. at times she can be a really goodfriend and at other times she can be mean and like my enemy.her parents are really nice to me and seem to like me and they take us alot of places. i can easly hate my friend when i dont tak to her but when i talk to her is like everythings okay you know?. when she does talk behind my back its rumors and every secret she can think of to tell her about me. she makes fun of my looks and if my head hurts or im sick she says stop looking in the mirror, which iknow is a joke but i asked her ot to but then she says shes serious. i dont want to be friends with her but i think if i break up our friendship ill regret it in the long run. what do you think, should i break up our friend ship and is she a real friend?

i had a sitution like this one. well theres always that person that talks behind your back and everyone gets mad at them. i think you should still be nice to her becuase if you start talking bad about her and get everyone to gang up on her, then what your doing is no better then what shes been doing. when she talks behind your back you probably get really mad right? but when your hangin out your like "well i mean shes cool now sooo" correct?? yeah if you really think you should end it then tell her how you hate it when she tlaks behind your back and the things she says to you. but if i were you i wouldnt make it a big deal - just tell her to stop sometimes ya know. but ot answer your question...shes not a real friend. but its ok until she rubs off on you.

hope it helps!
ami*

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Ok- I usually am the one giving out advice... but I am stumped on my own problem. Well here is what happened:

I used to have a best friend named Justine. We hit it off great from the start. After the first month we'd known eachother, we spent the night at each other's houses almost every weekend. We had only known eachother for a year when the inevitable happened- but we'd shared so much together. I had told her all of my deep dark secrets, and she had told me some of her own.
Well- this summer, I had been at my cousin Ashley's house- and we had been chatting with boys on AIM. I told Justine about it when I saw her- and for some reason, she FLIPPED. She wouldn't talk to me, and she ignored all my e-mails to her.
This year, I went back to middle school, and Justine had changed completely over the summer. She had all these cheerleader friends, and she was acting like she was better than everyone else. She even sits in front of me in my English class.
This is where the problem comes in. I don't want to be Justine's friend anymore- she is such a brat- but I do want her to act civil towards me (in English she is always sighing, like she hated being around me- and she tells people, when I can hear- that she hates me). What can I do to make her stop acting so immature???

ok yes thats true, she is being immature. you dont deserve to have freinds that act that way. and the whole thign about u hangin out with ur cousin-ok that was stupid. why would she get mad because you have a life outside of your world with her?? i think you should forget about her (sorry if it sounds harsh) but its true! i dont know what her deal is but its not worth trying to figure that out.

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ok well these girls i dont no keep instant messangeing me sayin that im fat and ugly because they saw a picture of me on my profile and they say all these mean things to me and im not the kind of girl who can take stuff like that and everyone tells me oh dont worry about them ur pretty and all that but i cant just ignore them they go to my school now too

someone please help me figure out something to do

hey these chicks dont have anything better todo than talk about youa dn make fun of you?? what losers! well you can block them and now that they go to your school ignore them, making fun of them back wont do anything. your friends will be right by you and it doesnt matter what these freaks have to say.

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ok my best friends boyfriend was supposed to call her today and they were supposed to hang out nd' he hasnt even call yet nd' shes like all crushed n crying n everything...i cant stand seeing her like this...what can i say to her to help her feel better(theyve been together over a year)help me quik!! plz if ne1 can

ill even rate you 5'z

hEy*
ok your friend is kind of makin a big deal out of this.. but if shes really upset then dont tell her that!! lol like well theres probably a reason why he didnt call her or maybe hes just bein stupid and forgot. believe me, its no big deal if he didnt call her back. make sure to let her know that.

hope i helped!

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Just for the info, I'm the shyest girl in the grade. Okay well I'm friends with this girl and she has a tendency to brag...a LOT. Okay, she is not very popular but she is the only one I can hang out with because I can't get to the next "group" in popularity levels. Then I made friends with this popular girl but I don't know how to approach her and talk to her at school, they all seem in one tight group. So basically I need to make new friends, but I'm supershy and I have a big fear of being rejected.

ok. using people to get popular isnt the way to get popular....alright did u get that?? be yourself! AND DONT BE SHY!!! im guessing none of the popular girls at your school are quiet. im not saying change your whole personality to be liked, but speak up!! when you talk to the girl, dont act as if shes any better then you, but dont act as if you are better either. they are humans too!!lol talk about whatever comes to mind. BE YOURSELF!

hope i helped! let me kno if you need anything else!!!


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