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Popularity
Just for the info, I'm the shyest girl in the grade. Okay well I'm friends with this girl and she has a tendency to brag...a LOT. Okay, she is not very popular but she is the only one I can hang out with because I can't get to the next "group" in popularity levels. Then I made friends with this popular girl but I don't know how to approach her and talk to her at school, they all seem in one tight group. So basically I need to make new friends, but I'm supershy and I have a big fear of being rejected.
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heyy ..ok well one think u should not do is try to seem too desperate...u can give a few compliments to the popular girl but dont start treating her lyk she is the queen of the world or something..it is definitly not cool to be a suck up so you can try starting conversations about something u kno you both enjoy.. if you have to start acting like someone you are definitly not then just forget about it.. it is better to be yourself then to be someone your not.
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hi...it sounds a lot like one of mii younger friends...i was always in the "popular" group in school and there was always juss this one girl who wanted to be with us so0 badd...one of mii friends made fun of her but that was jus because she was a little annoying...but she tried and thats exactly what you have to do.jus one day go up to her and ay hi and w.e and get into the conversation!
but also remember your old friends because you will always be one fo them 2!!!
dont be scared of getting rejected! yu have to take chances in this lifetime!
hope everything works out!
Always `> MarLo
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first off, the only person that can reject you is you. I'm guessing your in middle school. could be wrong. u have to realize that the "popular" girls are no different than you other than the fact they they have more self confidance. U have to realize there is nothing wrong with being shy, but if it is really bothering you, then here's what u do. take the friends u have and.... hang out with them. the key to making friends is not to try to make them like you. true friends like you for who u are. if u are having trouble approaching people, then dont approach, just talk. nothing fancy. talk about anything (school, GUYS, what u do after school. just be yourself and dont try too hard. people like confidance, and the best way to gain it is to be comfortable with who u are and not tryy to be somthing ur not. if you are trying to get popular, then u are making friends for the wrong reason. popularity gets you nowhere...
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well all i have to say is that not every one can be popular and that i know you want to but maybe you just cant i mean im sure alot of people want to be popular but dont try to be popular if your meant to be popular the popularity will come to you so stop trying and be more outgiong its time to crack out of the shy shell!!
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michelle
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ok. using people to get popular isnt the way to get popular....alright did u get that?? be yourself! AND DONT BE SHY!!! im guessing none of the popular girls at your school are quiet. im not saying change your whole personality to be liked, but speak up!! when you talk to the girl, dont act as if shes any better then you, but dont act as if you are better either. they are humans too!!lol talk about whatever comes to mind. BE YOURSELF!
hope i helped! let me kno if you need anything else!!!
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Being popular means nothing, i mean you dont want rumors to be spreading around about you, do you? lol just open up to people with the same interests as you. And start conversations by asking some questions or complimenting people. Everyone has a fear of rejection, but if they dont like you...then their obviously not even worht ur time. <333.
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u should listen to one of their conversations and see what they like to do and what they like to talk about. then ask one of them somthing about what they said the other day . maybe they will take u in
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aw l0l if you guys are friends, maybe you should just talk to her a little at a time and get more comfortable. compliment her on her clothes or hair, or maybe just bring up something you guys did together. just small talk until you get a lil more comfortable. hope that helps! <333
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