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Hey my names Kait and I'm 15. Music is my life i can't live without it! I am always giving advice to friends and such! Also I relate to situation very easily and love helping people. I decided to start one of these and I hope that I can help you in the best way possible. Thanx♥
advice is what we ask for when we
know the answer but we wish we didn't.
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Alright, I have this friend Jeff, and he's like one of my bestest friend but he's just always so sad. And for like, usually no reason. I'll just be talking to him, and he'll just be like "mhm" "k" "yeah". And then if I don't talk for like, a second he's like "you're not very talkative" so I start talking again, and he does the same thing. And tonight, me and my friend Alyssa and him all went into a chat cause we all talk to eachother, and he doesn't say anything the whole time and I'm like "you can talk, you know." and he's like "you guys are ignoring me." and im like,"you said like, one thing and that was no." I don't know, it's just like he thinks he's boring to talk to and we're ignoring him and everything. And I always tell him to talk about something, and he's like "I don't wanna talk, I don't wanna type." It's like everyone else always have to come up with conversation, not him and I'm running out of ideas. And tonight he's like,"Me and her [me] never talk about anything, but we have stuff in common." and im just thinking,"WTF I TALK TO YOU EVERY SINGLE DAY AND I BABBLE ABOUT WHAT IM DOING OR WHATEVER COMES UP OFF THE TOP OF MY HEAD." And I'm just getting aggrivated, what should I do? His depression is making me depressed.. and ticked off. HELP?!
Have you tried talking about the things you know interest him? that might work a little.
also you could try calling him if he says he doesnt wat to type so then he wouldnt have to.
have you considered asking him whats on his mind? maybe something is really bothering him and he needs someine to talk to about it.
let him know that in order for the two of you to have a conversation he has to talk too not just you!
Kait♥
My friend is mad at me. We are both thirteen. And we are both girls. She has been calling me names. I keep telling her that she's acting like a five-year-old. And every time I email her she keeps saying I'm acting dumb and weird... and up until now she's stopped talking to me. What should I do?
It is possible that you have done something to anger ot upset your friend. also the fact that you told her she's acting like a five year old probably did not help the situation much. Talking to her on the phone or in person may help the situation better. explain to her why you feel the way you do and let her explain her feelings to you. the two of you may need some time apart from eachother.
Kait♥
well... i was really close to this girl, we were good friends and then like one day we was planning to do stuff like goo to the movies that day then she rang back later and said she couldn\'t do anything the next day so im like oh ok.. and then i was on msn and herd from my boyfriend and his cousin that she had invited them over to her house the next day.. i was stunned coz she lied 2 me and said she couldn't do anything and that she didnt even invite me or her own boyfriend to her house instead she invited my boyfriend and his cousin... her little sister and her were only going to be home the next day and her mum doesn't let her have boys over when she isnt home...my boyfriend was at his house with his cousin and they were saying to her on msn like would you have sex with me tomorow(the cousin said that) and she was like no becoz i have a boyfriend and i wouldnt wanna cheat coz i love him and all... i was pissed off at her for inviting them over already.. anyywayz it came the next day and i was like mehh stuff it im gona go out so me and my sister went shopping.. then when we got home at like 4 my boyfriend called me and him and his cousin were going on like guess what i had sex with your friend annd all i was like wtf coz shes 13 and my boyfriends cousin is 17 annd she has never had sex before (she told me she wouldnt until she was ready and had atleast been going out with the guy for more then 4months or something) anyway i was soo shockked i was like omg wtf.. annd then there like nahh were only joking and im like ok annd didnt really believe them anymore.. annd then later on msn they go to me were sorry yeahh my cousin really did have sex with my friend and i was like noo you told me before they didnt.. and there like well it did happen.. then i decided to message my friend and ask her.. so i did, and she replieed and said no it didnt really happen i only hookedup with him as a dare and i was like wat you cheated on your boyfriend coz you hookedup with another guy (this was the first time she had met my boyfriends cousin) and she was like it wasnt cheatin it was a dare.. then i messaged and asked was that all and shes like yess i wouldnt do anything else... then at that moment my boyfriend and his cousin were like to me nahh it didnt really happen and my friend just messaged me and said sorry i take it all back it really did happen.. i had sex with him and i was soo shockked i couldnt not believe it.. and my boyfriend and his cousin still denided it and said it didnt happen.. (his cousin has a fioncee) annyways and i rang my friend and she was like crying on the fone and i go who else knows and she said my mum and im like well tell me everything that happend.. (this was her story) \"we went into the bedroom and your boyfriend (my boyfriend) and my little sister were out in the lounge watching movies and while we were in the bedroom he asked if i wanted a hug coz he said i looked cold so i said ok and then he started hooking up with me (making out) and then he asked if i wanted to hop into the bed soo it was warmer so im like ok and then we hopped in and he started un-dressing me..then he asked if i wanted to have sex and i said yes and then we had sex and after 5mins i said stop becoz it was wrong and it hurt so much\"... i was soo shocked i was like i gtg annd hunng up!! then the next day came and i woke up to a fone call from my friends mum.... she said to me that it really did happen and that she had taken my friend to the docotors and all and i was like im soo shocked i cant believe she even did that becoz its her first time and she goes and does it with a 17 yearold and there not even going out!! and it was the first time she had met him.. and her mum told me to be supportive and like stick by my friend and all and give her sympathy coz she isnt in a very good state at the moment.. i was like ok.. then yesterday i was talking to my boyfriend and he was telling me the truth that really happend.. and i found out that my friend had also given his cousin head and he licked her out!! i was shocked even more soo as she had not even done this with her boyfriend yet.. i was also told that his cousin and her had also had a conversation over the fone the day after it had happend saying that she would doo it again!! i was like STUNNED.. becoz as if she is proud of what she did.. she lied 2 lots of people eg.me she cheated on her boyfriend and she broke her mums trust... i dont think i can be friends with her after she is trying to get sympathy from people but then telling other people in a way thats like she is proud of wat she did!! i dont think i can be friends with a person like that.. she lied to me and it really hurt me and i was already angry at her for even inviting them over and telling me she couldn't do anything.. she also told my other friend yesterday that she got raped!! and that is no where near true!! she agrreed 2 have sex with him and she was happy with it becoz they were going for over 30mins (which is what my boyfriend said) annd she also did other stuff which means she didnt plann on stopping.. she also agreed to doo it again!! her and her boyfriend have broken up now and im glad becoz she does not deserve him at all!! she should be ashammed of what she did and its nothing to be proud of!! i dont no how i can not judge her even thoo she is ment 2 be my friend.. but i dont no anymore becoz i still cant get over what she did!! this is gona stick with her for the rest of her life and your virginity is not something you can just throww around you want your first time to be special not with someone that you had only met for like 30mins and that you dont even no annd your not even dating.. can you please help me and give me some advice im sorry this is so long i just wanted to give you the whole story.. please helpp i need some advice... should i still be her friend ?? or should i tell her how i really feel?? what do i doo??
Maybe your friend lied to you about this beacuse she was embarrassed about the fact that she did have sex with him. Its possible that she thought if she told you the truth you would think different of her. It is up to you to stay friends with her or not. If i were you i would let her know exactlly how you feel. Explain to her that you dont agree with the things she has done. Pretty much tell her everytihng that you said above. If you continue to be friends with her just remember that she has lied to you. Its not bad if you forgive her but dont forget what has happened,("forgive. but don't forget")Remember that people make mistakes, hers was jsut alot bigger than others. I hope this helped you. if you need any further questions or anything feel free to leave me a message.
Kait♥
Hi,
My best friends moved away last year and when they came to visit for the first time ever I kinda cried whenever they had to leave! I miss them so much! What should I do to get them to come over more and to stop missing them so much?? Thanks!
You could i-m back and forth to stay connected better. Try setting up a time that the two fo you will be online everyday or a certian time when you guys talk on the phone with eachother.
Also depending on how far away they live may affect how often you see them. naybe you could get together once a month or every other month for a weekend!
Kait♥
My BFFL and I have been BFFL for almost 2years now. We NEVER fight which is great, so there hasn't been any problems w/ fighting but Now there is. She has another BFFL.First, we hated each other then we liked each other and now he has a g/f that he LOVES & she loves him and now we extrememly dislike each other, again. I'm at my dad's now for two weeks and I try to talk to her but shes always "busy" or with him, so she says she can't call & he's even before me on her myspace! I'm losing her! =[ HELP
its normal for all friendships to have problems. Let your friend know how you feel and that it bothers you. This guy obviously means alot to her and she obviously wants to spend time with him. Yes he may be her boyfriend but you will always be her bestfriend. Maybe call and talk to her when you know she wont be busy. for example before she goes to bed or early in the morning. plan days that you and her just hang out all day without her boyfriend.
Kait♥
sorry if this is long.. but pleasee read.. thanks soo much in advance..
well i have or had.. a really good friend... lets call him jack.. and me and jack have known each other since 2nd grade.. and well.. me and jack get into alot.. and i mean ALOT of fights.... and well i think that we arent friends anymore.. cause i said (which i should not have said) i understand if you dont want to be friends anymore... and then.. he just didnt say anything.. so i guess that means we arent friends..(right?) and i've just known him for soo long.. i dont want to lose him as a friend... but should i just give up on trying to make our friendship work? or should i try something to be friends with him.. and if so.. what should i say or do?? THANKSS ALOTT FOR ANSWERINGGG...
It seems like you and "jack" have been through alot together. It sounds like you two are still friends but have hit a bump in the road. Explain to jack that you didnt mean it when you said thet the two of you shoudln't be friends. Your friendship means alot to him snd more than liely he was hurt by this. Let jack know that you still want to be friends, that you really value his friendship, and that you're sorry for what you said! I'm sure he will understand and the two of you will be friends agian in no time!
Kait♥
my friend invited me to go to this lake w/ her and her friends next weekend and i thought it was okay at first, but then she started telling me more about it. she said that the lake is her friends grandparents and hes the one who wants everyone to go. hes 19 tho and im 15 and i just think its sorta weird u kno? my friend is 15 too but if we both go there will be 6 people there 3 girls and 3 guys. the rooms are seperate so it shouldnt be too awkward bu i have a bad feeling about it. last night my friend invited me to the movies to go w/ him and her and i said no she was like " he'll meet your parents if you want him to he said hed give you a ride" but im here thinking why does he want to meet my parents, he hasnt even met me! then i was on the phone with my friend last night and i was telling her about it and she was like dude!!! he likes you! b/c 2 of our friends told her he did and he had one of them as his number 1 on myspace i asked my friend why and she said its b/c he liked our other friend and he did the same thing to her and apparently he dates alot of young girls. i just think its really freaky, what do i do? should i go next weekend or not, and why does this dude like me, i dont think its just like a lie because i was talking to the girl who initially ivited me online and she was like ya he said hed pick you up i think he likes you and later was when my friend said he did. i dunno am i over reacting??? please help!!!!! (sorry this is sooooo long!)
No you're not over reacting! And i have to say that is kinda wierd and all. About you going to the lake... The decision is yours to make obviously. But if I were you I wouldn't go. You have doubts about the whole situation and you need to trust your gut. It sounds as if you were to go there would be 3 couples and that doesnt sound like soemthing you are interested in. Also you've never met this guy and don't seem to know much about him. Explain to your friend that you're not comfertable going. Yes he may be her friend but you don't know him, let her know that the whole situation bothers you. If she is your friend I'm sure she will understand!
Kait♥
okay see i have these amazing best friends...and we've been through everything toghether...but there is this guy who i like so much....and i can't stop thinking abnout him...and my best friends think all i talk/care about is him..but i don't i love my best friends...i guess you can say i have a huge crush on this guy. but its like my friends hate me now and they don't want to even like talk to me they don't even care anymore.this has been going on since the middle of the school year ..and now its summer..
i need help
Explain to your friends that they do mean alot to you! If they are your best friends as you say they are they will understand. After a while people get tired of hearing about the same things over and over agian. For example you wouldn't want to listen to your friend tell you about her bunny twenty four seven. I asume thats the way your friends feel when you talk about the boy you like. Just talk it over with them!
Good luck!