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Depressed, depressed, depressed.
Alright, I have this friend Jeff, and he's like one of my bestest friend but he's just always so sad. And for like, usually no reason. I'll just be talking to him, and he'll just be like "mhm" "k" "yeah". And then if I don't talk for like, a second he's like "you're not very talkative" so I start talking again, and he does the same thing. And tonight, me and my friend Alyssa and him all went into a chat cause we all talk to eachother, and he doesn't say anything the whole time and I'm like "you can talk, you know." and he's like "you guys are ignoring me." and im like,"you said like, one thing and that was no." I don't know, it's just like he thinks he's boring to talk to and we're ignoring him and everything. And I always tell him to talk about something, and he's like "I don't wanna talk, I don't wanna type." It's like everyone else always have to come up with conversation, not him and I'm running out of ideas. And tonight he's like,"Me and her [me] never talk about anything, but we have stuff in common." and im just thinking,"WTF I TALK TO YOU EVERY SINGLE DAY AND I BABBLE ABOUT WHAT IM DOING OR WHATEVER COMES UP OFF THE TOP OF MY HEAD." And I'm just getting aggrivated, what should I do? His depression is making me depressed.. and ticked off. HELP?!
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talk to him, maybe he just needs to talk 2 someone. also, have some fun, dont just hang out and talk on msn and that, invite him and some other friends over for a water fight (on a hot day) or something like that.
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is this a recent development or has he always been like that. either way you need to confront him politely to resolve this issue. just explain your vibes from him and ask if theres something.
if your polite youll just sound concerned and not rude. so he shouldnt be offended especially if your friends.
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Have you tried talking about the things you know interest him? that might work a little.
also you could try calling him if he says he doesnt wat to type so then he wouldnt have to.
have you considered asking him whats on his mind? maybe something is really bothering him and he needs someine to talk to about it.
let him know that in order for the two of you to have a conversation he has to talk too not just you!
Kait♥
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I think Jeff has problems with himself. He's turning the situations into something negative directed towards him. I know from experience that he is doing this because he is scared that he will get hurt. He makes himself look bad so that no one else has the chance to. I would suggest that you sit down with him and ask him about this. Don't be offensive or intrusive in your questioning. If he doesn't want to talk, you can't make him. But your best bet is to try to get him to open up to you. Encourage him to get counseling, or help him get comfortable in social environments. But don't put the responsiblity on yourself. Only he can change his life for the better.
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