Hey:) I'm Julie. I'm a fun girl and I like to live life to the fullest. I have a lot of friends and I guarantee I have either been in your situation or know someone who has. My friends always turn to me for advice and I would like for you to feel that you can too. Anyone who approaches me on this site I will react to as though you are my friend. Your problem is my problem and I will help you with finding a solution. I have dealt with everything from drug addicts, to people with depression, to men saying every line in the book. I've been to all time lows as well as situations so weird and funny that you don't even know what to do. I have asked the questions that seem too awkward to ask face to face so do not fear asking me anonymously. I love awkward, embrace weird and live to help. Ask me anything and I will help you to the very best of my ability. Thanks for reading.
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i like this guy, and my friend found out that i like someone, but she doesn't know who, but she wont stop asking me, i usually tell her everything, but for some reason i don't want to tell her this, but now she knows that there is someone, will she be offended? and should i tell her? (link)
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if shes a good friend and you trust her i dont see any reason why you shouldnt tell her. she might feel hurt if you dont, it may make her think you dont trust her. if you really feel strongly about not telling her you could say someone else or just be honest and say that you really dont want to share it. explain the fact that you do tell her almost everything but this is one thing you just really would like to keep to yourself
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Okay so my friend talked me into going to 4-h camp over christmas break. I was really excited cause we would get to spend some time together. We turned in our applications together so we would get the same classes. But the thing is over this past weekend I've kinda relized I really DIDN'T wanna go to 4-h camp. I mean I just wanted to in the first place to make my bff happy.
So my mom was happy to call and have them take me out of it (aka 4-h camp).
~The real problem i have here is how my BFF acted:
I told her on msn messanger yesterday here's how it went she is KT: I'm MG:
MG: Hey kt, wats up.. :)
KT: nothing much I"m bored, hey what baithing suit are you packing for camp? I'm thinking two peice or one... what do u say?
MG: KT, I've got some bad news...
KT: :( what.?
MG: I'm not going to camp. I'm sorry but I relized that I really don't want to go. I so so so sorry, but I just can't!
KT: WHAT WHY?????????????????????????????
MG: Well.... I'm not used to being away for a week, and I really don't want to go. All in all I just don't think I would have fun. BUT maybey next year! SORRY.
KT: Sorry?? SORRY??? I thought you were my friend? It's not to late you can still go! I'll be there. I'll be lonley without you.
MG: I'm sorry my mom already called and got me outa it
KT: SOME FRIEND> THANKS aLOT!:(((((((((
and that was it what do I do I don't wanna go but i don't want her mad at me!! (link)
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honestly at the moment your friend was overreacting. she was upset because she was looking forward to you comming. i dont know how your friend is. i had a friend who hated me for a long time because my mom pulled me out of a vacation with her. the best thing you can do is give the situation a little time. hopefully she will get over it and if she doesnt you should sit her down and have a talk about it. and if you talk to her about it again dont say you didnt think it would be fun. thats offensive. hope i halped!
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So my next door neighbors moved in less than a year ago, and its been hell. They're forever in my house, and they take things only to not return them or give them back in poor conditions. Its not only clothes, but shoes, chairs, butter, spices, irons, etc. They're perfect freeloaders. I was FED UP, so this morning I argued with the mom (they're 3 girls) and completely cursed her and her 18 year old out. I did apologize over the phone, but when the lady told me to do it in person, I cursed her out some more and clicked on her. I certainly don't regret it, but I feel bad for my mom. We're the completely opposites, she's the soft, loving type who feels bad about hurting people's feelings. I know it sounds pretty mean, but does anyone have any techniques to get stuff off your mind? Also its gonna be awkward seeing my neighbors, and I hate feeling like I have enemies, but I will fight her if she even looks at me wrong. Can anyone give their opinions? What would you have done? (link)
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you went a little overboard there. you had every right to be pissed and completely get where you're comming from. i dont think i would have been able to restrain myself in that situation either. maybe it would be a good idea if you attempt an apology again but this time with your mom with you. that will probably keep you from bitching them out again and your peaceful mom can clear the air. thats what moms are for, cleaning up our messess:). and if that doesnt end up working... avoid, avoid AVOID! hope i helped.
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This is long by the way, but I really need help.
Okay, I honestly needed to come here, I'm just so confused and apathetic towards everything.
Firstly, before I begin I'm suffering from depression. Not a small playground type depression, depression as in I'm seeing a counsellor. So what I'm about to tell you is no good to add onto that.
I've lost the little friends I had left tonight. I'm not going to rant on about who's fault it is. I don't even know. I don't know if I'm in the right or wrong, all I know is I don't have friends left.
What happened was we've been on last legs for a while. They've been disagreeing with something I believe in strongly, and although I tried to clear that out of the way of the friendship, they just couldn't let it go. I'm not saying this is bad or blaming them for anything.
Well, yesterday we had a sort of argument. I tried to tell them my point of view but they wouldn't really listen. Then they would ignore me. So needing to rant, I confined to some internet friends.
Today, I found out they read my rants to my internet friends. I'm not sure how, I know my internet friends didn't tell them. I didn't even drop names, and they don't know they exist.
So we're not friends anymore. They feel as if I betrayed them, and I lied to make them look bad. When the thing is, I couldn't tell them because they wouldn't listen and ignored me. And I suppose it was a TINY bit exaggerated, you know in that way you fight with your parents then recount it to your friends? Honestly reading back now though, everything I said was truthful.
Anyway, it's pretty rough. How do I learn to move on? It's only really sunk in now I'll be spending every day, every weekend in my house doing nothing, and I won't see the city for a long time.
Also, there's this internet forum we all go on. Should I continue posting on that or leave it? Out of all of us, I have the highest post count and I spent the most time on it, and the people there know me better, but since this is screwing up my head so much I just don't know what to do =S (link)
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this is the decision you have to make... do you want to gain these friends back or do you want to move on? in order to gain these friends back it may take alot of work. considering they read that site maybe you could type some form of an appology to them or something. that may help, and continue to show you care and you truly want to be friends again. if you wish to move on then you will have to be open to putting yourself out there. its not easy to make good friends but not impossible. considering all that youre going through already i think you should remind your old friends of that. if they continue to behave this way though i think its best to just move on. hope i helped!
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16/f. This girl, she's 17. She's more mature and experienced I guess. She does drugs and pretty sure she had sex. I can't really bring myself to hang out with people like that, yet she's still one of my best friends. She intimidates me. I can't talk to her without looking down at the ground and whenever I do start talking to her, I don't make eye contact and I really want to end the conversation. I can't talk to her online either...I get really agitated and nervous. I have no idea why. I can talk to my OTHER friends..just not her. Why is this? I mean, I like her...yet I can't talk or relate with her... (link)
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its perfectly normal to be intimidated by someone with more life experience. you are afraid to sound childish and immature. the best thing to do is work on talking to her more. break the ice and see if you have any ability to relate to her, if not maybe youre best off as acquaintances.
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Would you consider a guy your friend if after kissing you he just stops talking to you like before
and he just randomly txt messages you only when he needs help or needs something! I wouldnt this happened to me right and Im so mad at this guy and I just wanna like not see him anymore. But this guy is friends with my bro as well and they still talk. ugghh i hate it but i cant do anything or can I??
i dont know what to do I dont wanna be rude and i dont wanna let my bro know we kissed, but i definitely wanna stay away from him as much as possible
any suggestions?? (link)
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I know exactly where you are comming from. Just because he is your brothers friend doesn't mean you have to stick around the house when he comes over though. I think its best you just avoid him. Don't reply to his texts. Also being mean to him might make things awkward if he comes to see your brother. Don't speak to him one way or the other and don't let him kiss you again because it's obvious the guy is scum. lol. Hope I helped.
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i flippin hate my best friend (we are both 15)
but we've been friends forever pretty much--- our friendship pretty much consists of us subtly puttin each other down in like jokes and shit, but I only do it when she starts doing it, so like you no it only continues the vicious cycle haha
no but seriously i cant freaking just not be friends with her
cause like im pretty shy until you get to know me---and no1 really sticks around that long cause they just get bored with me.
and she's got a really "strong" personality, if you know what i mean, and she makes friends really easily cause she's funny( her funiness pretty much comes from insults)
so i have no idea how i should act accordingly
any suggestions?? (link)
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Even if you aren't the loudest or don't have the strongest personality you can always switch friends. It's not an easy process but honestly is it worth being around someone who makes you feel like shit all the time? Either let her know that she takes things too far sometimes or work on branching out a little. Life is to short to stay in your little comfort zone all the time, sometimes you have to force yourself to do things that feel a little silly. So basically you can either keep things how they are and let her or whoever else offend you all the time, stand up for yourself or make some new friends. It's all up to you! You have options! Once you make a choice I'm always here to help you with your next step. Hope I helped!
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For my basketball team, we;re making the seniors signs, for senior night. And for football season, they made signs that had rhyming things for their names. Ex. "we have beatty, he weighs 280"
things like that but for girls.
Ashley, Courtney, and Cierra or C.
Courtney makes a lot of threes
"C" is REALLY tall, like 6'4
and Ashley has really good defense.
Any help?
I need the signs done for monday, thanks!!! (link)
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C is 6'4, wont fit under most doors.
Courtney gets us in the lead, shooting all those threes.
Ashley's defense is so fly, it makes the other team cry.
Lol, they are corny and I don't know if they are useful but I thought it was worth a shot. hope i helped!
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ok so my guy friends thought they would be funny and threaten to fight my guy friend from another school. it just started off as funny but then one of my friends lets call him A was making fun of him for all this stuff i told him about me and the other guy hooking up. and A like told the guy to apologize for trying to go farther than what i wanted to. apparently he said other stuff too but neither of them will tell me what it was. well anyways, my friend from another school wont talk to me now but he wont tell me why. and im really confused. i dont know what to do?! (link)
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It sounds like A must have teased the boy from the other school too hard. He probably stretched the truth about things you had told him when teasing A, thinking nothing of it. That ended up making A mad, considering he already had been slightly rejected then heard this. The best thing to do for right now is give A a little space and time then see if he will actually talk to you when he has cooled down a bit. Clear things up with him when he is ready.
Hope I helped!
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Ok so my so my three good friends got into a HUGE fight and now they hate eachother and always ask me about the other. The fight is two against one but the one person is really to blame for the situation. But the one girl turned a lot of people against the two so now people hate them. But the fact is the one girl is a complete liar sometimes and she manipulated people to make it seem like she was right. Right now i am playin both sides of the field. I know that soon i will have to choose. It may seem like an easy choice but if remain friends with the two i am afraid that people will hate me too even though i didnt do anything. If that happens it will be us three against my high school. On the otherhand if i am friends with the liar i could be friends with her friends and not be hated. I need advice quick! (link)
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Honestly, you shouldn't be forced to pick who you're going to stay friends with. Friends will fight all your life and choosing sides just makes things worse because when friends finally make up they wont forget about you choosing the other friend over them. If you are forced to choose though I think it is better to stick with the good girls. It's better to stick with true friends and take shit from people you don't really care about then it is to be with someone fake that will just keep causing problems in your life. Plus how do you know she wont turn against you? Also I doubt your whole school would hate you just because of 2 people you are friends with. I know it's a tricky situation and I want things turn out alrightt. Hope I helped.
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I have trouble talking to one of my best friends. I am f/15 and my friend is m/17. We do talk a lot and we get into deep conversations, but it's hard for me to talk to him. Like, when he tells me how he's sad or hurt I don't know what to say back to him. I also have trouble with just regular conversations. I don't know what to say to him. I feel like he already knows everything. He makes me nervous. I like him as more then a friend and he has a girlfriend(who is a b****). She treats him and me like crap and he just can't see it because he thinks he loves her. :( But anyway, he says I need to be more laid back and just talk to him and have fun, but it's just hard for me. Give me any advice you can. Thanks :) (link)
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Some boys just no matter what will always have your heart and for some reason everytime you're near them you just don't know what to do. You want them to see you as more then the friend as you're sitting back and listening to their problems. For right now you're stuck watching him be with this girl but this isn't going to last forever. Eventually, if she is as bad as you say he will realise that and see that the right girl was the one by his side through everything, just stick around and continue to help him when he's in need. Hope I helped!
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The people that know me think that I'm a nice person, but people who don't, think that I'm stuck up and a goody-goody. It's as if getting good grades is a crime! They assume that I can't have a good time, which is really not true. People won't really come up and speak to me (especially boys) because of this. The problem is, that none of my friends can tell me what it is that makes me appear stuck up at a first glance. How can I appear to be a more friendly and approachable person?
The more answers, the better!
(oh, I'm not really worried about the boys. I have a boyfriend. it's just a detail.) (link)
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honestly, if people arent approaching you, you should approach them. standing around and waiting for people isn't going to do you ANY good. go up to people and be friendly start up a conversation and joke around a bit. before you know it your rep will die down and you'll have a ton of new friends. also make sure your not making mean faces or crossing your arms or anything (you might be doing this with out knowing it) and make sure to smile as much as possible, your alot more approchable if your smiling. well i hope i helped [[=.
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I asked my friend Erica to hold my camera the other day, cause I didn't have a purse. She claims she gave it back to me, but I don't remember her doing so. Now its lost, I've searched all the places we went that day twice, and my house several times. My other friend who was with us, [ Erica stayed at her house for the week cause she was visiting us from another state] has said that she hasn't seen the camera at all, and that she thinks Erica took it because she always complained about her crappy camera. I'm starting to believe she did take it, because Erica is known for lying, and had my camera last. I've tried confronting her about it, but she just keeps denying it. Idk what to do, I'm in huge trouble if I don't find it by the end of summer. (link)
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it really seems like she stole it... since shes being so difficult. how about you have someone else talk to her... have one of your friends talk about how your getting on their nerves or something and then she'd probably spill... then your friend could come back and tell you everything.... and if that doesnt work tell ur parents a dumb racoon stole it.
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ok so im with my friend *Laura like atleast 6 days outta the week sometimes 7, and we're mostly at her house..and im always sleeping over at her house. cuz we always go to late movies then i just sleep at her house. do you think im over at her house way too much or im with her wayy to much? thanks
*name has been changed
thanks again (link)
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itz fine to spend alot of time with friends... but mabey you should hang out with more then one person.. you dont want it to happen where you and *laura get in a fight then your bored with nothing to do until you make up. you have to have other ppl your tight with as well.. but itz really good to have such a tight friend you can spend so much time with.. just expand your horizons
well i hope this helps
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So theres this guy...and we r like best friends...and ppl think we like each other (and we do...i think...we flirt constantly) anyways, i have a feeling he is gonna ask me out, but my mom wont let me date (im 14/female) because she thinks i would go to far...which i wouldnt
anyways, so i have a feeling this guys gonna ask me out (and ive been told he is...) and hes older then me and i dont wanna look like a kid (if i say no...and also...he knos i like him...)
WHAT DO I DO??????? HELP! Thanks! (link)
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try and talk to your mom and do little things to show your responsible and that she should trust you. (like doing extra work around the house). or if that doesnt work, you said your like best friends with this guy... if you tell him whatz up.. ( how your mom wont let you date) if hes such a good friend he'd probably understand. and if he really doesnt understand then theres other fish in the sea.
well i hope this helps
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I'm 17/f and I've known my best friend, Ryan (well, ex best friend) literally my whole life. Our dad's were best friends in high school and they live next door.
Well, Ryan and I used to be really close. We hung out all the time and were really good friends. We hung out with the same group of people and I thought I knew everything about him. About 2 years ago, I was in his room waiting for him to get out of the shower and I was just looking around when I found LSD tabs and pills that I couldn't identify.
I waited for him to get out and I asked him about it. Turns out that he had some friends that I didn't know about and he had been into drugs and such for a few months. I couldn't believe what he was saying and even more so, I couldn't believe that I didn't suspect anything.
He told me not to say anything to anyone but I refused and said that I at least was going to tell his older brother and see what he thought about it. We argued about it for a while and he told me that he did not do it that much, it wasn't a big deal and that he would stop. So I trusted him and didn't say anything.
Long story short, I shouldn't have trusted him. His parents put him in Rehab a while after and he's supposed to be clean now.
Well, we haven't been talking as much lately and I don't really see him at the usual parties and friends' houses and things but I just thought he didn't want to see me because we had gotten into a big fight a few months ago (reason to why we weren't talking).
I was at the mall yesterday and I saw him there with a guy named Zach. This guy was the one that had gotten him into drugs. Seriously, he's the biggest druggie anyone knows.
Know I don't know what to do because I'm not certain he's doing drugs again for sure. But, I don't want to keep it from his parents again because I don't want it to end up like it did 2 years ago. And, I'm not sure how he'll take me asking him about it considering we don't really talk anymore.
What should I do?
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ANYTHING involving the use of drugs is always really tricky and theres alot of choices that you have to make about what you want to do about it. this boy seems to have an addiction and i really dont think confronting him would help. honestly i think itz best to confront his parents and let them know whats going on so history doesnt repeat itself. plus once you tell them a giant weight will be lifted off your shoulders.
well i hope this helps
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