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People think I'm a stuck-up Goody 2 shoes
The people that know me think that I'm a nice person, but people who don't, think that I'm stuck up and a goody-goody. It's as if getting good grades is a crime! They assume that I can't have a good time, which is really not true. People won't really come up and speak to me (especially boys) because of this. The problem is, that none of my friends can tell me what it is that makes me appear stuck up at a first glance. How can I appear to be a more friendly and approachable person?
The more answers, the better!
(oh, I'm not really worried about the boys. I have a boyfriend. it's just a detail.)
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dont act so good, talk 2 people a little more, make them know you're smart AND fun!
HOPE I HELPED!
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well first off i wouldnt worry about what other people think. but if it bothers you that much then try to get peoples attention. try out for student council or somethign that requires you talking to people and showing them who you really are.
i have a problem similar to yours. when people look at me they think im some stuck up bitch. and im really the nicest person ever. but i learned to just laugh about it, im not changing for anyone. so my advice to you is to relax! dont worry that much about what their saying.
i hope things get better for you
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Don't worry about the people who judge you. If they were people that really were worth being friends with, they wouldn't judge you before getting to know you. Also, don't act "stupid" or try getting lower grades because of what these people say. They really are just jealous that you get good grades and that theirs aren't as good. Your education is the one thing that no one can take away from you. It's important now, and it will be even more important in the future.
There really is no secret to being more friendly and approachable. Just smile and be happy. Be positive, not negative. I remember a few years ago, I was a very negative person. Now, I'm more of an optimist, and I'm a lot happier and have made a lot more friends. The saying "Attitude is everything" is very true.
Body language is everything. It communicates how you feel a lot more than what you say, or even your tone of voice. Don't stand with your arms crossed. That makes you look "closed off" to people. Like I said before, smile. It really does make a difference.
Be open. Introduce yourself to others. Ask them questions, such as, "How are you?" It really shows people that you're interested in getting to know them better.
Also, be considerate of others. Think about this: Imagine someone you know falls down and hurts themself. Do you laugh, or do you go up to them, help them up, and ask if they're okay? If you laugh, you look like you don't care about that person. Be caring, and help others.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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Well first off it is good to get good grades. Also don't change for them. As for looking more approachable, look them in the eyes, and smile. If that doesn't work then just go up to them and start a convesation. Hope for the best!
~*Brianna*~
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honestly, if people arent approaching you, you should approach them. standing around and waiting for people isn't going to do you ANY good. go up to people and be friendly start up a conversation and joke around a bit. before you know it your rep will die down and you'll have a ton of new friends. also make sure your not making mean faces or crossing your arms or anything (you might be doing this with out knowing it) and make sure to smile as much as possible, your alot more approchable if your smiling. well i hope i helped [[=.
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Not Stuck-up,
Well look at this situation as an opportunity to look within and really figure out if you are truly representing your self correctly to others. Sometimes, we may appear to be cold or stand-offish because we don't fully engage with other people. Are you allowing yourself to be open with people you don't know that well? Smiling at others is a great way to let others know you are carefree and fun to be with. But most importantly, you need to be who "YOU" truly are. Not everyone is going to like you...if they did...that would be an issue. Maybe make a list of qualities you like about yourself...not including looks and items...more like personality traits, then go through each thing you listed and ask yourself...do I honestly portray that to strangers? If no...then become more mindful with how you are with others.
After the research you do on yourself...if you truly feel you are 100% portraying your "true" self, then be happy with that discovery too. There isn't anything wrong with being who YOU are. Be authentic, don’t make yourself into what others want you to be. If they have a problem with it, then that is an opportunity for them to discover the truth about themselves.
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Talk to your friends and see if they have any boy's email addresses/phone numbers. Just go up to people and ask them questions like: so, what have you been doing all summer? and things like that to get a conversation going. Find something that you both like and talk about it. Get advice from some friends about things about boys that you want to get to know.
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umm wear sluttier clothes... like show LOTS of cleavage... this makes people think about sex and that makes people think your open-minded wich makes you seam more aproachable and friendly... trust me its a proven study ... the U of M studied this and those were the results... hope i helped babe...good luck
p.s. if its being a goody-goody your woried about you can go to a bunch of partys where you know lots of people from schoool will be and just get completly SHIT FACED!!! then everyone will talk about how wild and crazy you are and no one will ever call you a goody goody again they will all ask to party with you and stuff especially if they here you fucked a few guys or stripped or somthing (i dont know if thats for you... but thats how i lost my rep as a goody goody) GOOD LUCK!!!
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Smile. Smile. Smile.
Say "Hey" to people when you walk past them.
Laugh at jokes that you really dont think are THAT funny.
Tell someone you like their shirt.
Show people that you notice them, and you dont look down on them. Thats usually the reason people think others are stuck-up, because they only say nice things to the people that know them. Be more open with others, and maybe they will see how sweet you really can be.
Hope that helps.
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