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I realy realy need some help. My friend has been cutting herself, and i don't know what to do to help stop her. She did stop, when she was dating this guy, she said "he made me feel beautful". I realy realy want to help her, but i don't kno how. I tried to get stop, but she won't listen to me. Also she's not afriad of cutting herself, because one of her friends, friend died from cutting herself, and my friend kno's this. I realy realy want to help her stop. But i don't kno how. I also think that her mom is to blame, because her mom calls her ugly and fat. But my friend isn't, shes really pretty, and weights only 102, and her weight is dropping. So i can't tell her mom, because her mom won't help....and her parents are divorced, so her dad isn't there to help.... (link)
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I think you should try talking to a school counselor, and talk to your family about it. Hopefully they'll know what to do, and at least they'll know about this and how it is affecting you. She's going to need a life change. Don't rest until you have tried all the help there is from school and family. I suggest that you should post this question not just to me because I haven't had much experience with what exactly to do in this situation. I hope everything works out.
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ok im 17 female....I have a really good friend Bianca and we met through this guy Rey who played us at the same time...anyways i broke up with him and she stayed with him...the thing is me and him have been doing things behind her back because he is really in love with me and i amm still sooo very in love with him...He told me he would brake up with her just to be with me...Question WHAT THE HELL DO I DO?? I mean she loves him soo much and she would never talk to me again if i went out with him and he broke up with her for me...But i dont know who to pick over who he makes me so happy and he is like the love of my life.. What do i doo??She asks me every day if i have talked to him and i have to lie t her every day soo i dont know NEED ADVICE thnx i will rate high is answers are decent and i will give u my feedback wel thanx whoever wants to help please be atleast 15 or older thnx buh bye
Dominican Grl~ (link)
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You and your friend should not be involved with him. How can you love him when he is cheating all the time? Think about it, he keeps switching between you 2. I don't want to explain it any further because it's complicated. You should be able to know how much trust in involved in love. You aren't a bad friend, he's a bad boyfriend.
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ok to start out with i never had alot of freinds. but now i have like 2. all of my old freinds never hang out with me and they always say stuff about me thats not ture. first they say that they will always be my freind and the next they say that they hateme. i've tried to talk to them but them wont say anything and when they do say something its usely somehting hurtful like your to fat or to ugly. now none of that is ture but htey wont stop and all i want to do is see why they hate me so bad so that i might try to fix that in the weeks to come. i even tryed to leave them alone but then they get even madder and say even worse stuff about me. now i dont want to lose the freinds i already have by changing but if i dont then i get hurt. so what do i do?
-->mandy (link)
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Those aren't friends, those are bullies. Get away from them, even if they talk bad about you afterwards. Would you rather stay with a group of bullies that put you down all the time, or find a different group of friends? You might have a small amount of friends for a while, but that's fine. And even if your old friends talk bad about you, only bad people will believe them anyway, people who you won't want to hang out with. (Most likely, once other people see that you aren't friends with that group of people, they'll think of you better and want to be your friend.)
Show the old friends that you are not affected by their insults, and they'll most likely stop all the bullying. Otherwise, if they bother you too much, let your parents or a school counselor know.
You said that you don't want to loose friends.. but they aren't friends, at least not very good friends. Ask yourself, can these people really be trusted? Do they care about you as a friend? Not really. It's time for some change!
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well you see..its my springbreak right now! yupyup. and my friend that i havent talked to in about a half of year alla sudden called me and was like ohh we really need to hangout this week! and so i was like okay how bout tuesday or whatever..so she said she would call me when she is done with her fastpitch. the only problem is im scared its gonna be awkward since i havent talked to her in forever..and we just all of a sudden stopped talking. i really dont know what to do? im scared she is going to want to come over to my house and there is absolutely nothing to do! i dont want to watch movies..thats boring but we dont have a ride anywhere so we cant go to like the movies or mall or anything and i am not going to take some city bus. i just dont know what to do! she gets kinda bored easily and so i just dont want her to come over and us just sittin here bein like so what do you want to do? i dont know its up to you. like that kinda stuff..any suggestions? since neither of us can drive and both our parents are at work. blahh.. thanks guys! i will rate high! :] (link)
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Sounds like she invited herself! Haha.
Well, you probably will have more to talk about than usual because you have not talked for so long. And maybe if she gets that easily bored, you shoulda warned her about the boredom factor over the phone. Haha!
Maybe you could invite another friend.. Or even call her and ask her what she wants to do so ahead of time so you can get ideas. It will be awkward the first few minutes, but just relax and make good conversation. If you are in a bad state of boredom, just put on a funny movie (laughing and commenting is at least doing something, right?). Not the best thing to do, but it's the emergency plan. Haha!
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okay so i just started a new highschool this year as a freshman, but nobody else knew eachother yet either so we all had to make friends. at the beginning of the year everybody was just friends with everyone but now kids are so cliquey. and the kids i hung out with at the beginning of the year are kinda split up into diffferent groups now.
okay, so the people i was friends with are really clingy and are started to get extremely annoying and thats my pet peeve. and now i have other friends too that i really like, infact i like them a lot better. how do i hang out with them more and and hang out less with my old friends without hurting their feelings? i mean they are nice people but they follow me everywhere and are really annoying and nobody likes them. and i dont want to sound like a bitch or anything because im not its just that they follow me everywhere.
sorry its so long, but thanks for help! (link)
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This has happened to me too. It's just normal for people to split up because in high school every person becomes so different and it's harder to make friends (it's not just a matter of asking eachother your favorite colors anymore-haha).
Anyways, try drifting off very slowly from your old group of friends. Maybe you could introduce your new friends and your old friends together and see how that turns out. If you want to totally stop hanging out with them, you can, but be slow and nice about it. Don't make them feel like you've totally ditched them at first.. Just slowly wean them off.
Over time, You'll drift enough so that you can hang out with other people and they won't care as much. They should give you some space to do whatever you want- and they might start making their own friends too.
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I want to tell my friend something..It's a problem I've been having and it's kind of serious. I've never told this friend anything this serious before though. How do I know if she'll accept me and keep it a secret? (link)
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One way to predict is to evaluate the way she responds to certain situations. Try to figure out how she would react to your serious news- put yourself in her shoes. To find out roughly how accepting and trustworthy she'll be, you have to ask yourself..
Are you good friends? And if you haven't been friends for very long, she may not be so trustworthy.
Does she gossip a lot? Does she treat other friends/people well? Could you see her doing something really mean?
Would she seem like a supportive friend, thick and thin type of thing? Does she seem mature enough?
Use your judgement. It may change your friendship in some ways, either bad or good ways, so think of the outcome.
So to tell her, say something like "I feel that I need to tell someone about something about me that is serious..I want to tell you and I need your support, could I talk to you in person?"
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All my friends are on the competition dance team at my dance studio. I'm always nervous to try out for things so I never do. Last year I finally worked the courage up to try our for soccer, and well it ended and tears and a lost friendship. Dance tryouts are march 18 and all my friends are expection me to be great because they are good friends and want to support me. I have been dancing for 5 years and I guess im okay...just not under pressure and expecially not in front of all the good people! I just need some confidence any tips? I know my friends don't want to hurt me. They keep telling me as loNg as I smile and act peppy ill be fine. AAAAh!! (link)
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Go ahead and try out. Why not? I doubt anything bad will happen. If this is what you want to do, try out, and if you don't make it keep trying. Your friends will give you the support you need, so don't be afraid.
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This may be long so...prepare yourself.
I have a best friend and a 2nd best friend. Unfortunately, they hate each other. Last year my best friend and I made fun of my 2nd best friend endlessly. Then she found out...it was a long and terrible time where I realized how rude I had been. Finally she forgave me. But she never forgave my best friend.
My best friend got a boyfriend in September. I realized this meant I wouldnt be spending as much time with her as he went to a different school district so they hung out on the weekends. I only became super upset twice 1) on my 16th birthday weekend she chose to hang out with her boyfriend rather than me (and we did have plans...sadly they also included her boyfriend and his family) 2) she invited me over but spent 5 hours on the phone with her boyfriend with me just sitting in her bed watching tv. I think we only hung out once or twice other than that. The thing is, I hung out with my 2nd best friend during those four/five months they dated. She was there for me on my birthday weekend when I was a crying mess because my best friend didnt want to be there for me. We hung out and got closer. Then my best friend and her boyfriend broke up. Since then is when the trouble started...
My 2nd best friend got in a fight with another friend about my other friend writing Yellowcard lyrics and saying they were hers. Which led to my best friend telling my 2nd best friend to leave my other friend alone. Which led to basically a fight. I told all of my friends "I do not want to be involved in this fight." I was in an awkward position and had no idea what to do other than do nothing and let them all work out there problems. Well, my 2nd best friend insulted my best friend nad my best friend argued with her and such on so forth.
I had made plans with 2nd best friend to see FD3. Then my best friend invited me and I also told her yes. When I realized what I had done I had no idea what to do. I decided to go with 2nd best friend because 1) I told her yes first 2) she could get my little sister in also & my little sister really wanted to see it more than me. I think that made my best friend jealous even though we made plans to go see Date Movie that same weekend (later cancelled bc she went to Florida the same day as plans).
On Fri. morning I had to talk to a teacher and I was walking with my 2nd best friend when my best friend came up with my yellowcard friend. They say meet them in the caf after I talk to the teacher and I say 'ok' but the teacher wasnt in her room she was in the main lobby so I had to go to the main lobby. This causes problems because I saw my best friend/yellowcard friend in the hall and they thought I had just ditched them. I could tell my friend was mad because I said hi to her then and she waved but made a "whatever" face. Then I had another friend (not yellowcard friend) tell me later "this situation with your 2nd best friend and best friend is trouble. your best friend is going to do something soon." Then I get on the bus and my sister tells me that my best friend was talking about the situation to the lunch table. She said that she was upset mad something was wrong with her. I cant remember even what was wrong with her. Basically it all sums up to she felt I was spending to much time with my 2nd best friend instead of her. She thought I was making fun of her like we did to my 2nd best friend last year or something. I dont even know what she was thinking. I was so mad. I mean...shes telling everyone she has a problem with me but ME. And my other friend (not the yellowcard friend) is telling my best friend not to talk to me and I'll see what I'm missing.
Basically I call my best friend up and say "whats going on, I'd really like to know why you are upset with me" and I say "the teacher was in the lobby, not in her room. I could tell you were mad because I saw you make a face." she says "no I wasnt mad about that that was yellowcard friend". I said "well, what is this about" and she said "other friend (not yellowcard friend) thinks that since we are best friends you should have no problem telling 2nd best friend that you want to hang out with me" and I'm like "well, if this is about FD3 then I told her yes first. And also, when you were dating your boyfriend she was there for me a lot. I dont want to just stop hanging out with her because now you are available to hang out. I dont think that would be right." and she said "no I'm not mad about that weekend." I have no idea what other days she was talking about because my 2nd best friend and I havent really hung out maybe once or twice outside of school the past 2 months. She said that in the mornings she wishes I would walk with her some (which makes no sense because I try to split my time evenly but I dont know what to do when they both come to me and want to walk with me. I dont want to make the other one mad by telling them I'm walking with so and so because I know that they would both be upset I chose the other. I know thats the way those two are). She said "well I was talking to my mom and we both think its weird how when 2nd best friend says that you are her best friend that you dont say 'no best friend is my best friend' and I said "2nd best friend and I have an understanding about this, we've discussed this before. when she says I'm her best friend she means she thinks I'M HER best friend. She knows best friend is my best friend." Then she said "and it hurts that you didnt defend me when 2nd best friend talked about me. if someone was talking about you I know I would say something." and I understand where she is coming from, but I had repeatedly told both of them I didnt want anything to do with there fight because they had put me in a situation. I figured it was their fight and if they wanted to fight it they could go ahead but I didnt support either side. Then she went to work. While we were having this phone conversation another girl who sits at my best friends lunch table but is friends with my 2nd best friend told my 2nd best friend what my best friend had said about us at lunch. That made my 2nd best friend mad and she wrote this big long thing about it on xanga. My best friend texted me later and said "why did you tell 2nd best friend what we talked about" and I said "I didnt. That was "girl". Why do you have such a problem trusting me." Then we called and talked more. And I told her how 2nd best friend was there when she had basically ignored me while she was with her boyfriend (I cited bother incidents) I also said then we hung out once but the whole time we sat in fishbone while you flirted with the worker (twice this happened actually).
Apparently, to her, we resolved it. But I am still upset. I feel I did nothing wrong but have another friend. And my best friend felt threatened by our friendship and insecure by her. She assumed I was doing stuff I wasnt and it hurts that she didnt trust me. And that fact that she was mad at me when she did worse and turned my one friend against me really hurts. I dont know...she even made a myspace post about how she wants to leave this town and she cant talk to me and about basically how I have been a shitty best friend.
What should I do about this? I really want to say something about how I feel like I did nothing wrong but I'm not sure. Did I do something wrong? Any help with this problem would be MUCH thankful.
AND THANKS FOR READING THIS. (link)
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Hey, I'm a good person so I'm going to actually give you advice. Haha
it sounds like your friends are way too emotional/sensitive if they are not forgiving you fully, etc... Do they truly care about you? It just sounds like all the things they have been arguing about are pretty immature and they are not willing to change.
What I would do is to try and talk to them again. Express your feelings and all that, even if they are unreasonable or they don't listen. Then I would stop hanging out with them so much- give everyone a break (so they can think about what they did to you and the other friends). Try making new friends.
Just aviod this complicated web of hurt your friends created, at least for a while. Things will change, don't worry. Later on you can be good friends again when they realize what they did and are more mature when it comes to arguments. :)
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I have this friend, known her forever. Shes turning out to be really mean, and its gettin me down.
This summer, we spent EVERY DAY together. Never ever missed a day. When we got back to school, she paid no attention to me. I talk to her on the computer these days and she tells me im fat, ugly, slutty, fat,fat,fat,fat,fat!!
And it gets me down, because im not fat. she gets others to hate me
But then.. Im so nice I go back to forgiving her!!
I cant stop myself!! What do I do!?!!? (link)
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She's insecure about herself (probably thinks that she is fat, ugly, etc). She doesn't care about you, so don't be her friend anymore. She needs to know that you won't tolerate what she's doing. Block her sn, delete it off the list. Don't get involved. Maybe someday in the future she'll realize what she has done..Then maybe you could be good friends again.
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Well, my mom said that I could have a sleepover this weekend starting Friday. There will be about 5 or 6 girls all about 13. What are some fun things we can do? I have Charter television, a trampoline, a nice neighborhood, and a big backyard. My house is fairly small so I'm not sure what we can really do inside. And, what are some things to talk about? We are all really close friends.
Thank you in advance! (link)
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You could ask some of your friends what they would want/like to do, that makes it easier!
What I do- I don't set any specific plan up (that would be weird lol). My friends and I just wander around and do whatever. Sometimes we even go in the kitchen and cook something random (and get sugar high lol).
Usually, if you are close friends, the time flies no matter what you are doing (especially if there is more of you).
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Ok, I'm a 13/f who LOVES helping out the community. I do community work all of the time and I mean I make brownies and other deserts for the hospitals and nursing homes, I do all of my chores and get good grades. BUT I'm not a dork or anything. I mean I go out with my friends on weekends that I'm not helping out with a commuity service project or something. And I have a million friends. And I mean I'm never really happy. But is being too happy, and too helpful a turn off for guys? Because I'm not ugly (I'm a model I can't be ugly) but I still have only had 2 boyfriends in my life. When like EVERYBODY else who I'm friends with has had like at least 10. I rate 5 to any answer. thanks, Samm (link)
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Wow, 10 boyfriends at the age of 13?
Don't worry, I'm 14 and I have never had a boyfriend.
This is great, the way you are serving your community and getting good grades. You are going to be very sucessful in future years (ha I sound like a fortune cookie!). But really, I don't think that guys won't like you just because you do all this and are happy with your life! Come on, guys mature slower than girls so don't worry about it. If they don't like/respect your ideals, then they are not for you.
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ok so well like one of my best friends and i got in like a big fight a couple weeks ago .. im really sorry for what i did and i would never do anything intentionally to hurt her, or tell her secrets. i try never to talk ab her behind her back too .. but how do i know if she has forgiven me? how do i know if things are back to normal or what? idk if shes talking ab me behind my back or not or what im confused as to whats going on it seems like were normal but i dont know and i'd like osme reassuranceee. thanks & ill rate fives (link)
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This has happened to me a few times (lol).
I suggest that you should try to talk to her. Just communicate your problem with her at whatever time you feel best to talk. It may be hard to talk to eachother in the fight aftermath but it's better than not talking at all.
Sometimes it's best to let some time pass before saying that you're sorry, especially if your friend is not talking to you or not accepting your apologies. But don't totally ignore the friend because they may think that you aren't sorry, etc etc. Plus, a little time will let you and your friend think about things and it allows you to think of the best apology and realize what you did wrong. If your friend still hasn't forgiven you (after many conversations), then let things be. A friend who is not willing to forgive wouldn't be a true best friend-even after a huge fight.
I doubt that your fight was too serious, so don't be worried and always be ready to listen and keep an open mind when talking about a problem with a friend.
Hope everything works out (sorry for writing too much)!
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-I have 3 really good friends, but ever since this school year started, they all have changed in ways that I really don't like. So honstly I don't want to be friends with any of them anymore but it's hard to just stop being their friend and then look for new friends. I have some friends in school that I talk to every day, but not very many. I don't hang out with them because our plans never follow through.
-So my question is what should I do about the friends I don't like? I have told my parents about how I don't like the friends I have and they said to make new friends. But going 2 years with a certain group of friends, and then going around to people like "want to be my friend?" is weird because just to all of the sudden become their friend after never really talking to them. It's basically just hard to make new friends after 2 years in middle school together.
-I'm starting high school soon and when that comes I am going to try to make lots of friends at the beginnning of the year so I can stop being great friends with the other 3 friends that I have known since elementary school. But until then, which is awhile away, what should I do? Please help. I promise to rate you if you will give decent advice. thanks.
ps. Please don't say to talk to my friends about them changing, because I have tried that in a nice way, and it doesn't really change anything. Also, I was friends with a bunch of girls last year that are now popluar this year, and if I would have stayed their friend, I would be popular this year too, which makes me totally regret how I didn't really make an effort to hang out with the girls that are now popluar. I don't know why I added that about last year and all that but I thought maybe it would be helpful lol. thanks. (link)
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There is nothing really that you can do. I would suggest to hang around your old friends a little less and just get involved in talking to different people. If that seems too hard (because usually everyone have their "groups" and may not care about making new friends) then just hang in there. Be yourself, act friendly, maybe you'll gather a few friends before the summer but once you get to high school it will be better. Everyone seems out of their comfort zones as freshmans and they may even see less and less of their old friends.. So it'll most likely be much easier to make more.
It's actually very common at your age for your friends to change and split (I know, I remember, it's only been like a year)...
So don't worry, sometimes you have good friends and sometimes you don't. It was probably good that you didn't stay with the popular girls- they may not have been your type of friends. Whatever you do, don't change yourself and you'll find that you'll be most comfortable that way. Yay!
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This is long...sorry...but if you read this and answer I promise to rate you a 5 and I will be so greatful! thanks in advance for reading this. I have this friend named nicole (fake name) and she has been my best friend for about 2 years. She gets really annoying and is pretty stupid, and my family doesn't like her very much. She doesn't have a lot of money and her parents are completely uninvolved in her life. My parents do everything for her and we get nothing in return. She never really does anything to show she appreciates it and I really don't like that and neither does my family. So recently she's been pretty rude to me. She ditched me twice. At lunch I sit with nicole and kelly (fake also) and 3 other girls who im kinda barely friends with but mostly I only talk to nicole and kelly. well kelly is "popular" all of a sudden to nicole but no one really likes her...and no one really likes nicole because she's so annoying. I know nicole doesn't care about popularity because if she did she wouldn't be so weird and act so nerdy. We're not popular but we're not geeks, I guess we are known as just normal group, except to the geeks we are known as popluar, so i've heard. Well nicole has just been obsessed with kelly and she blows me off or is too busy to hang out with me but not kelly. I have many friends in school, like a ton, but I usually only hang out with friends once every week or maybe even less then that. I only really hang out with nicole. But shes always so busy and always grounded so I kind of have no friends outside of school. I make an effort to hang out with other girls I know at my school but it never really works out, not that they don't like me just our plans don't really follow through. Sorry I'm writing a lot but I wanted you all to understand the background of my question. So here it is...Today nicole got mad at me and I had no idea why and so her and kelly totally ditched me at lunch and sat with someone else and I asked kelly is she mad at me she said no there was no room at the table...when there were plenty. I am so mad at nicole I seriously was about to punch her because suspension was worth punching her. She totally takes advantage of me and I keep going back to be her friend. My parents and bother think I should stop being her friend and there a feeling in me that I want to but then there's also a feeling that's not willing to give her up. The main reason I don't stop being her friend is if I do then kelly wont be my friend and I'll have no one to sit with at lunch and no one to talk to during class because most people in all my classes are popular or totally nerdy and all that stuff. But today seemed like the last straw and I don't want to be her friend but I'm afraid of what will happen. I'm hoping once I start high school I'll make new friends and totally ditch her for good, but thats about 6 months away and I don't want to go with nobody to hang out with during summer if I stop being her friend. I really love her and shes so funny and fun to be around. If I didn't love her, I would hate her and think she is the stupidest person ever, and I would never consider being her friend, if you know what I mean. I love that she doesn't care what others think, but sometimes I hate it because she is truly embarassng and since not a lot of people like her, I think that's why nobody ever calls me to hang out because they probably think I'm just like her. Basically I want to know all of your opinions about what I should do. Stay her friend, ditch her, wait a little longer, etc? Please help I have no idea what to do!!! I will rate you 5 if you answer no matter if I like your answer or not, just because you read all this. By the way, im 14 female. thanks so much! (link)
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I think you should talk to her. If nothing works out then it's ok. Chances are you'll make more friends sooner than you think. It just comes down to what kinds of people you want to be surrounded by and that's just a choice everyone makes. If your friends right now aren't completely comfortable to be around, you should just hang out with them less and search for your niche even if it may take a long time. High school will be much better so just hang in there and focus on school. :)
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There is a girl I've known for a good long while, and recently I made the effort to get back in touch with her and be friends again. I assumed it was going pretty well, we talk online and go out shopping and stuff sometimes. I do like her, but recently I've got the feeling she is just using me to take her places (into town, to see bands) b/c she's not allowed on her own. If I suggest just hanging out or something, she'll always just brush away the suggestion. If we do see each other we get on well though. I'm pretty much her only friend as well, and it sounds really mean, but I thought she'd be kind of pleased to have some friends.
So what should I do? (link)
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Maybe she's using you, maybe she's not. Pretty unclear, but I think it's not too serious. You probably won't be best friends but she seems like a good friend as of now. Don't be afarid to talk to her about this too. Communication is the key.
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Okay, so a week ago my English teacher gave our class a big project to work on (that was due today). It consisted of writing a song, making a movie, and writing a paper. Well, last Wednesday I was absent, so my 2 friends ended up making the song. We tried to get together over the weekend, but I couldn't get a ride so the other two just got together and worked on the script. They gave the rest to me and I finished it. The only day we could work together was yesterday, the day before the project was due...so we made our movie and they gave it to me to edit. I ended up getting sick and missing the class it was due in! My teacher is kinda strict on grading, she might say, "You guys should have been ready...sorry." I just really feel bad that I wasn't there today, and one of the girl's moms has already called me irresponsible which makes me feel even worse. I don't know what to do; I believe they're mad at me because they're not picking up my calls or anything.
AHH.
What do you think I should do? I'm going to try to talk to my teacher today about it, but I'm really worried about what I might get. (link)
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Man, that stinks. I think it's the stupidest thing in the world when a teacher gives you something you have to work on outside of class (because it's very hard to set up dates and times with the group).
But you have a right for make up time when you are sick. Talk with your teacher and see what will be happening. It's not your fault so don't feel bad. :)
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hey, i'm 14/f and i have a bffe, just like any other girl. But the problem with my best friend is everything i do, she must follow along. Its as if she doesn't have her own life to take after.She basically copys everything i do and if i come up with a new saying she starts saying it like 1 day latter ALL the time. And i even said a few things the other day just to see if she did it, and she did! i said i hate chocolate candys lately, so she took hers and threw them out! i couldn't believe how right i was that she copys but then again i can't help then feel bad. I mean, how do i get her to stop copying me, or even better how in the world do i tell her that she's doing it without making her upset? i told her once in 7th grade, and she didnt talk to anyone for weeks, but she has continued sense then though. its not like it helped. i thought about copying her to show her that she copys me 24/7 but would that really help? Reply pleaseeee i need to know :) (link)
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Ya, this is good and bad I guess. Good- she idolizes you, but bad- she may have such low self-esteem that she can't even define herself and be independent, ya know? Well the only thing you can do is communicate with her even more about this problem. Telling her once isn't enough if she is still doing this. There is a risk of loosing her friendship (it depends on how she percieves all this), so you can tell her or just keep living with it.
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