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I want to tell my friend something..It's a problem I've been having and it's kind of serious. I've never told this friend anything this serious before though. How do I know if she'll accept me and keep it a secret?
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if she is a good friend, she will understand & accept you for who you are. before you talk to her, say i am trusting you to keep this a secret, it is important to me and our friendship that you don't tell anyone. if she is a good friend she will try & help you get through your problem and she'll care about you, so she will accept you & not tell anyone. call her on the phone and say, hey JANE (whatever her name is), i gotta tell you something maybe we can hang out tm? or something if she says why can't you tell me now, say i rather tell you in person<3 hope i helped
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You have to be very careful telling someone a secret as serious as you say it is. Just don't judge the person right away that she could be trusted. If she likes gossip and all that other stuff, it's a good idea not to tell her. But if you trust her, you can try giving her a test by telling her a small secret and see what happens.
Good luck!
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You at least know a few things about this friend, so think about what you know. Have they:
-told somebody else's secret before?
-are you comfortable talking to them?
-has this person ever turned against you?
If you said yes to any of these, it might not be a good idea to tell her. But you, as always, should follow your heart. You know this girl best, and if you feel uncomfortable telling her this, maybe it's best to keep it to yourself!
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One way to predict is to evaluate the way she responds to certain situations. Try to figure out how she would react to your serious news- put yourself in her shoes. To find out roughly how accepting and trustworthy she'll be, you have to ask yourself..
Are you good friends? And if you haven't been friends for very long, she may not be so trustworthy.
Does she gossip a lot? Does she treat other friends/people well? Could you see her doing something really mean?
Would she seem like a supportive friend, thick and thin type of thing? Does she seem mature enough?
Use your judgement. It may change your friendship in some ways, either bad or good ways, so think of the outcome.
So to tell her, say something like "I feel that I need to tell someone about something about me that is serious..I want to tell you and I need your support, could I talk to you in person?"
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Wl the way you are talking this is very serious i think you should tell her a very less serious secret first to build up her trust and see what she does... thats the only true way to find out
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Well, you dont really know if she'll accept you or not. If you trust her and is sure that she is one of you FRIENDS than go for it and tell her. If she doesn't except you or keeps it a secret then she's not a true friend. But if you're having doubts maybe you shouldn't tell especially if it's something that will affect your friendship with her. Also doubt should be your bestfriend when you feel something is wrong. my advice is to go and tell her becuase then you wouldnt be a good friend by keeping a secret away from her.
*and just call her and tell i need to ask you something but its personal and i would feel more comfortable telling you to your face..
hope i helped..u welcome
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ansley says - well first of all you have to ask yourself if you think she could keep the secret. has she kept your secrets before? if she is a true friend she will accept anything about you and keep it a secret. you could try telling her somoething a little serious, but not TOO serious and see if she blabs. hope that helped!!
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Well ask yourself this, do you trust her enough to tell her your secret? Is she a true friend to you? When/if you did tell her personal stuff, did she keep that a secret? If she is a real friend, she won't tell any one your secret and she will accept you for who you are. Just follow your instincts on this one.
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