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Making new friends
-I have 3 really good friends, but ever since this school year started, they all have changed in ways that I really don't like. So honstly I don't want to be friends with any of them anymore but it's hard to just stop being their friend and then look for new friends. I have some friends in school that I talk to every day, but not very many. I don't hang out with them because our plans never follow through.
-So my question is what should I do about the friends I don't like? I have told my parents about how I don't like the friends I have and they said to make new friends. But going 2 years with a certain group of friends, and then going around to people like "want to be my friend?" is weird because just to all of the sudden become their friend after never really talking to them. It's basically just hard to make new friends after 2 years in middle school together.
-I'm starting high school soon and when that comes I am going to try to make lots of friends at the beginnning of the year so I can stop being great friends with the other 3 friends that I have known since elementary school. But until then, which is awhile away, what should I do? Please help. I promise to rate you if you will give decent advice. thanks.
ps. Please don't say to talk to my friends about them changing, because I have tried that in a nice way, and it doesn't really change anything. Also, I was friends with a bunch of girls last year that are now popluar this year, and if I would have stayed their friend, I would be popular this year too, which makes me totally regret how I didn't really make an effort to hang out with the girls that are now popluar. I don't know why I added that about last year and all that but I thought maybe it would be helpful lol. thanks.
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i had this same problem oming into middle skool last yr. see, i transfered to hoboken elem. skool inm the third grade, and then i didn't have any friends. well i became friends with the popular girls, but then for some reason i became frriends with this other girl who was not popular. last year though, in 6 grade, i started cheering. And my other friend had started being really mean to me and always tried to put me down. i got really aggravated with her, andsince i was cheering woth the populsr girls, i just sort of drifted into the group. so my advice is to join some sort of group. what are some sports or clubs you would lke to be in? after you figure that out, i would join up and just be really friendly to everybody, and soon you should have alot of friends. after you have done that, you just sort of start hanging out with them a little bit more, then more, until u hjvae a whole new group friends! thats what i would did, and now i have alot of friends, some are popular, and some are not! its rwally awesome!
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Heres the thing, Im not into reading all that.
But heres a little help.You dont just be like "oh wow im your friend now" to somebody you have to meet them, get know and trust them. You dont just go up to them. I'd say join a group or something.. Talk with more people in the hallway. Or you could try to talk with the people who your more on the edge of.. Friends with, but hardly know.. And you know you guys dont hate eachother, so.. Get out there.
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Well, it may seem hard to try and make new friends but it's not really. Last year I was in a class with no one I knew, and I thought it would be way too hard to make new ones, but by the end of the year, I had a bunch of new friends who if I hadn't taken the chance to talk to, I never would've met and we've become so close. So, my advice is to just start up a conversation with someone in your classes, you may become good friends, and then you can hang out with their friends too. But until then, even if you don't necessarily like your friends, still talk to them... at least then you'll have someone to talk to until you make new friends.
Hope it helps, and hope you make some new friends!
----->Maureen
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There is nothing really that you can do. I would suggest to hang around your old friends a little less and just get involved in talking to different people. If that seems too hard (because usually everyone have their "groups" and may not care about making new friends) then just hang in there. Be yourself, act friendly, maybe you'll gather a few friends before the summer but once you get to high school it will be better. Everyone seems out of their comfort zones as freshmans and they may even see less and less of their old friends.. So it'll most likely be much easier to make more.
It's actually very common at your age for your friends to change and split (I know, I remember, it's only been like a year)...
So don't worry, sometimes you have good friends and sometimes you don't. It was probably good that you didn't stay with the popular girls- they may not have been your type of friends. Whatever you do, don't change yourself and you'll find that you'll be most comfortable that way. Yay!
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