So, me and my mates go out alot,usually chat up a few guys, get a few numbers and sometimes a new boyf. Its all good, but usually when we're at whatever place we're in, the guys we chat up are usually hanging out with their girl mates as well. The girls chat to us, ask us if we fancy any of their mates, and 'would we like on of the guys numbers?' and so on, and usually the girls are really nice. Me and my mates thought it would be cool to stay in touch with them and hang out sometimes, but we never do. The thing is, to stay in touch with any of the girls we meet you have to get their numbers. And we cant exactly say "Hey, can I have your number?" to them ecause it will sound like we're lesbians or something. Is there a way of getting the girls numbers so we could make more friends and hang out with them that wont sound like we're chatting them up? Cos we wouldnt chat them up, we're girls that are into guys, and would just like some more cool girl mates. Any ideas?
I understand what you mean, I don't think they'll take it that way though, but you can always try to bring it up in the conversation somehow, like say" you know we should all go to th movies" or something like that, or say you want to plan a day together, and then just say that you'll call them when ever your plans are free and then they will have a reason to give you their numbers, as long as they don't think your asking them on a date or anything like that you should have good luck, ^_^ hope his helps
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I'm giving this kid on SN named Zharry123 he goes to my school i know lots about him i'm freaking him out. how should i convince him he's a 42year old prison convict and i'm him? Or how can i find out where he lives? Or how can i use poetry and books to give clues who i am? Thanks.
well each time you talk to him leave a little hint hinting towards who you are, like a letter in your name then once he has all the letters in your name give him a challenge and tell him to unscramble the letters to make your name, and to find out where he lives you can either look in a phonebook or just tap into it lightly when you talk to him and slowly figure that out too, like in the converation, ask him what town or something or play a guessing game with his house number, hope i could help,!
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okay so I'm 13/f name JJ my friends and I used to be so very close, now ever since they tried out for cheerleading and I didn't(I'm more of a tomboy) they leave me out, it's always come on KK* let's cheer, come here KK* I want to tell you something that I dont want JJ to hear. And KK* always tries to includ me but CC* never tries to, KK* knows how it feels but CC* always whines because the boys are calling her gay and stuff, she talks to me like I care about her more than anything in the world then gets mad at me that I am more popular.... Do you think CC* and KK* are good friends or should I stick with my guy friends and other friends?
I would try to alk to your friends about the situation first, they may just be leaving you out because they know you don't like cheerleading, but yea i would try to talk to them about it first and if things don't work out i would go back with your other friends, hope everything works out with you and good luck!
Jasmine
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I really really like one of my best friends ex's. If he asks me out idk what to say! Cause I love my best friend but I really like him too!
And if this helps, my best friend decided to like the same guy I used liked right after I told her I liked him. ( I like her EX now ) And I was really hurt cause she started flirting with him constantly and won him over and now they're going out so she took a guy away from me, would it be wrong to go out with her old ex?!
Good question,if this guy asks you out,you have every right to say yes,is she does get mad at you,which it most certianly should'nt,that would make her a hypocrite,there's no way she could hold it against you if she did the same thing to you,hope this helps,
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I have a friend who is a very nice person. I almost feel bad for writing this, but it's been an ongoing issue.
The problem is that she calls me WAY too much. She phones me on average about 6 or 7 times a day. She also is one of those people that phones and wants to talk for an hour even though she has absolutely nothing to talk about. If I wasnt the one to always end the conversation she would probably talk all day. I do have other friends and interests and I really feel she is monopolizing my time.
She doesnt have a job or go to school and I know is always bored. But I DO have a job. Other times I'll be expecting an important call, and she will phone me twice within the hour. A lot of times I'll tell her that I'll phone her later because my favorite soap is on, and she will phone me 20 minutes later even though she knows the show is still on. She phones me early in the morning, and late at night. She'll phone as late as 11 pm. Sometimes I don't answer the phone at all. Then when I finally answer it she says she had been trying me all day.
How can I tell her nicely that she needs to stop phoning me so ofter without hurting her feelings? I would prefer if she just called my once a day.
Well,this may sound stupid but it sounds like she really looks up to you,there's no other wya to get around it but you just have to camly explain to her that she should only call once a day,don't tell her that she gets on your nerves or anything but just tell her thatyou have alot of things to do and when you come home you just want to realx after working and stuff,and that you don't exactly feel like talking,I hope I could help
Jasmine,
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I dont know wahts wrong with me. I have been getting very depressed latley. Like it just bounces around, one second im happy then further through the school say i get really really depressed. After school I just come home and go right to sleep. I feel like people just dont care about me and I dont wanna wake up. I really get depressed during school when I think how I have hardly any guy friends and like mostly girl friends. It pisses me off and I dont know why.I pretty much do more things with girls than boys and it makes me depresseed. I want guy friends but the guys in my school are ass holes most of the time. But I dont know, i just get so depressed taht i wanna sleep and never wake up. I start to feel like no one in the world really understands how I for nor do they care.
What should i do??
P.S. by the way im a boy
Thanks
ok,this kinda sounds like deprsssion,it's called manic depression and it can be treated by a doctor,I would consider consulting a doctor and make sure that's what it is,and even though you feel like no one cares,plenty of people do,you may even have friends that care but you just don't know it,and your parents care and so does God,I hope everything works out for you,
Jasmine,
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Hey guys. I'm 15 years old (female) and I'm going to my first party where there's alcohol tonight. I've never done it before, but I've made sure I know exactly how to get home, every other drink is gonna be a glass of water and so on, I've tried to make sure I'm as safe as possible tonight. My question is, what do you wear? From your experiences, what should I NOT wear, and why? Any good tips or advice?
Thank you if you answer this with honest advice and try not to preach.
Ok,here's the thing,to be on the safe side,don't go to the party dressed up like lil miss suductive girl,something bad usually happens if you dress like that purposly around guys at partys cuz chances are most of them will b drunk,honestly if I did'nt care I would'nt be saying this,but it would be so much safer if you had no alcohol at all,it is addictive and if you have 1 you'll just want more until your drunk and there's nothing worse than a drunk girl at a party with guys there,please consider what I said,
Jasmine,
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HI im 12 years old and one of my best friends cuts herself ive been told to tell the guidence councler and stuff but either im nervous or she thinks shell get in trouble do u have any advise of what I can do to help her? thanks
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dazed & confused
My friend did the same thing before,I ened up throwing away all of the sharp objects she used,but if you really want to help yourfriend,get both you and her to talk to your guidence counsler,ask her why she decides to do this and tell your counsler about it,she (counsler) is not allowed to say anything to other people about what she is told, so she can't tell anyone,just take her aside talk to her about it then both of you go to the counsler, it's the only way,:/ hope I could help, if you want e mail me and let me know how things go,
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Okay, so I've been talking to this guy for awhile. Lemme point out the majority of my friends are guys. I just like them better - they're easier to get along with.
So this guy is kind of a jerk, but he's not really mean. He just like, teases and makes fun of me a lot. I was talking to him the other night, and I said something about talking to much and joked about him "probably want[ing] to duct tape my mouth and hands" (we were talking on line) and he said "you know, I might just have to take you up on that," and we went into a whole conversation about like, tying me up and he made it like, really sexual.
Then last night I was talking to him and I asked him what he wanted (I meant out of life) but he turned it into a discussion about what we wanted in relationships, and then he asked why I was so curious/interested, and I answered honestly first, saying it was "just something to talk about, and gets me into your head a little." and then said (obviously sarcastic) no, it's because I want you. And he thinks I seriously like him! I can't convince him otherwise, and I totally don't. I mean, I like him as a friend, but that's honestly it.
I don't want him to go around thinking I like him when I don't. So how do I fix this situation? I've tried talking to him about it and calmly explaining that I really, honestly don't like him like that and that I was totally kidding, and he said something like "You can lie to me but you can't lie to yourself."
Yeah, he's kinda arrogant. But like...what would you do?
It almost sounds to me like he likes me, but he specifically said he didn't.
So I ask you, what the heck?
Apperently this guy is seriously thick headed,what I would do is just keep telling him over and over and maybe even get some of your friends to tell him you don't like him,if he does not take a hint,he'll end up asking you out,or he could just be joking around with the whole thing from the way it sounds,hope everything works out ok
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theres this kid in my school and he's really a bad boy. he's turning 17 and is still a freshman, he smokes and drinks on top of other things. he doesnt do well in school. i think he's kind of a player but idk, maybe he just has a lot of friends. i know he's one i shouldnt like but he is kind of hoTt and really sweet and i wouldnt mind just being friends with him.
he liked me and i would talk to him all the time but i felt kind of uncomfortable with him at one point so i backed off and when he realized it he backed off too. now i dont see him as much anymore and he only walks me to class when he gets the chance.
how can i tell if he still likes me?
should i continue any kind of relationship with him? and if so, how should i go about it this time?
if i were you, unless he changed i would not continue a realationship with him, bad boys only lead to worse things,he'll only end up hurting you (emotionallly) i know from experience and it does'nt get better then how it is now, sorry to say,
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I have this friend. And we spent the whole summer together being best friends. We are both really nice and fun when we are not mean to each other. Sometimes we get in these huge fights but the next day she wants to be my friend! What do i do?!
Ill rate 5's for good answers!
wow, the only thing i can say, and i have been through this too actually, is that sometimes it only gets worse, the fighting just keeps getting deeper and harder to get out of, it hurts both of you to have a love/hate realationship, because when you are fighting, you know she is not there for you at the time, i would say try to meet some new people, but don't kiss up to this girl just to try to keep her happy and not mad at you, being 2nd is no fun, Feel free to e mail me with more about this if you would like, i would like to look in to this further to help you out more,
Jasmine,
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Well I have 2 best friends and we all use to goto middle school together until we got to high school cause all 3 of us goto different high schools. Well they made these plans leaving me out and I barly see them am I in the wrong to be mad cause I don't see them and on top of that they leave me out.should i be mad or am i wrong? I think one of them is mad because I told her that her ex and I have been talking alot lately and i think I like him. But i would never let a boy in between my frienships so am i wrong to be mad.
thanks for anyone who answers!
wow, i can see how this would turn out, only go out with this guy if you think that you truly love him and that he is the one, but yes you are part right, don't let a boy get in between you and your friends, but i don't think your friends should be leaving you out like this, you should tlk to them about it, maybe they could just be mad at you, who knows, i would like to help you further with this, you should go to my coulumn and e mail me, i would like to hear how everything turns out,
Jasmine,
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Well i apologize first hand if this is kinda long but ineed help! 13/f ok so i have this guy friend(13)hes practiacally one of my best friends, like we tell each other everything. So i was talking to him and he says that he likes someone new and hwen i asked he described me and i was just like oh the thing i dont really see us as being more than friends liek were s close i dont want anything to change it we talked last night again so its notlike were not talking anymore and im just really afraid that when we go back to school tomorow itsgonna be awkward. I dont want it to be
different but the hard part was that hes like one of the sweetest guys ever (to me especially)and i feltsoo bad, and i aslo think hes mad a lot b/c before he told me he liked me he asked if i liked someone and i said yes,and wht can i expect tomorow and how can i prevent it?
That was definitly a hint that he likes you, if you guys are such good friends, you might be an even better couple!, if and when he asks you out, i would say yes!!, it could make for a new experience for the both of you, and if things don't work out you guys could always break up, i would think outside the box, you two can be more then friends, and about tomorrow, yea it's gonna be awakward, but i would tell him that you like him too, if you do of course, or tell him who you really like, things will go naturally,it's unfortently not a thing that is easy to avoid, if you do try that, he'll think u might be ignoring him and he'll notice, so i would ask him who he likes and make sure it is you, just listen to what your heart tells you before you talk to him, you would not want to miss a great oppurtunity! hope i could help !!
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Hey.
I'm 15/f. I just moved states & I miss my friends a lot! The problem is, I feel really left out. I talk to my one of my best friends two times a week. The problem is, she'll never tell me her secrets. We were like the "quad" I had 3 best friends, and we'd tell each other everything. Now it's just them three. I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any advice? They never tell me anything.
well, i don't know if i can so much help you it's just that the reson she won't tell her secrets is maybe because she does not know you well enough for her to know you can be trusted, its hard sometimes for people to open up , she might have been through alot and just keeps everything bottled up, but try to find a way for her to tell you these things, it hurts sometimes not being able to tlk to any 1 about things
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