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annoying friend
I have a friend who is a very nice person. I almost feel bad for writing this, but it's been an ongoing issue.
The problem is that she calls me WAY too much. She phones me on average about 6 or 7 times a day. She also is one of those people that phones and wants to talk for an hour even though she has absolutely nothing to talk about. If I wasnt the one to always end the conversation she would probably talk all day. I do have other friends and interests and I really feel she is monopolizing my time.
She doesnt have a job or go to school and I know is always bored. But I DO have a job. Other times I'll be expecting an important call, and she will phone me twice within the hour. A lot of times I'll tell her that I'll phone her later because my favorite soap is on, and she will phone me 20 minutes later even though she knows the show is still on. She phones me early in the morning, and late at night. She'll phone as late as 11 pm. Sometimes I don't answer the phone at all. Then when I finally answer it she says she had been trying me all day.
How can I tell her nicely that she needs to stop phoning me so ofter without hurting her feelings? I would prefer if she just called my once a day.
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Well,this may sound stupid but it sounds like she really looks up to you,there's no other wya to get around it but you just have to camly explain to her that she should only call once a day,don't tell her that she gets on your nerves or anything but just tell her thatyou have alot of things to do and when you come home you just want to realx after working and stuff,and that you don't exactly feel like talking,I hope I could help
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I think the only way you can really get the point across is by sitting her down, and tell her that you have a job and other friends, and that she can't call you all of the time, because you have a life. Tell her that you want to be friends and you are not saying this to be mean, but you just can't talk on the phone all of the time. And if she gets really sad or anything, don't give in and say never mind, you have to be serious about it and not give in or this will never go away.
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If you continue answering the phone and not saying anything to her about how often she calls, she'll assume that you enjoy all of her calls and have absolutely no problem with the amount of calls you receive. You need to tell her, in person (maybe over coffee or something) that you have a very strenuous schedule and you just can't handle the volume of phone calls she sends your way. Or, you can be very blunt, and say "STOP CALLING ME SO GODDAMNED OFTEN", which is what I would do, which is why I have very few friends. But I would suggest against that.
Perhaps you can introduce her to the concept of text messaging. Faster, easier, and also easier to ignore.
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I know exactly what you mean when you say this I have a friend exactly like that. The only thing I can really tell you to do is to in the nicest way possible tell her you have other things you need to be doing and if that doesn't work then the best thing to do is to sit her down and tell her the truth I mean if she really is your good friend she needs to know the truth and she won't get mad at you but she deserves to know the truth if anything so just get what you want to say to her together and just sit her down and tell her
Hope it helps,
goodluck
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