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I was at a restaurant having a couple of drinks with some friends of mine. Two of them were single, and the other were a married couple. I am also single. Well my one single friend asked me to talk about my uncle and his crazy wife for some entertainment. None of them know my uncle and wife, or have ever met them. They live in another state so I didnt feel bad making a joke about them. They ARE crazy (in my opinion). I wanted to make them laugh so I told them how last Xmas my uncle said infront of the whole family that if you saw his wife naked you would need therapy. Everyone laughed. Then I said in front of the group" well uncle jim if you hate your wife so much, why don't you divorce her"? His response was that he "couldnt afford it". Everyone at the table roared, everyone, that is except the husband of the married couple at the table. I think I'm the only one who noticed this, but his face actually went white and he looked like a deer had got caught in the headlights when I made the comment about asking my uncle why he wouldnt divorce his wife if he hated her so much. So my question is, was his reaction a sign that his marriage may be on the rocks? I've heard from my other friends that they have been fighting a lot.
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yes, most probably their relationship isnt going very well. only people who are guilty or thinks exactly the same share a common reaction. :)and if you are thinking that maybe it was your fault that made him look terrible or sumthing, theres nothing to worry about because its not your fault. it was just a coincidence. :D

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My best friend is a guy and i even dated him for almost 8 months but we broke and everything changed. He kinda went into this depression and started smoking and smoking weed. His mom recently died on Halloween, and it hurt him so bad. He usually goes to school high and im so worried he'll get caught and i'll never see him again. I've tried to talk to him about how its not ok and there are other ways of coping but all he says is that he loves mary jane... what do i do?!

Mary jane?..is she the new girl?.. anyway, since the both of you broke up, it means there arent or there still maybe some feelling between you. but what makes sense is that he is still your best friend. a best friends gott do what a bestfrend's gotta do! stay beside him no matter what happens. by doing this, he will sooner or later realize that you only want whats best for him. for some reason he'll know that without you telling him. stay close to him so that you could watch him. it is better seeing wrong things he do under your nose than not seeing it at all. ifever you are blaming yourself for what happened, dont. because you are doing your best to keep him in shape again.

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ok i have this friend and him and i dated for a long time and well u see he had to brake up with me because his PO said so. ok so here is the thing i still want to be friends with him and i know he still likes me andi still like him but i know we could never be toghter again but when ever i talk to him my heart sinks like to the floor. what should i do

it is natural to still feel the love inside you. but the thing is, if he still likes you, he should make a move. it is only but a natural thing for a guy to do something about the situation. id he stays rigid and doesnt make a move, then probably he doesnt feel the same way you do anymore. its ok to cry if thats what you feel. but sooner or later, your feelings will diminish also.

you know you deserve a guy who wouldnt break up with you just because somebody said so.
p.s.: dont show him that ur crying over him, keep it discreet. stay strong. have fun with your friends, who afterall have always been there for you. that way, you wont think on and on about him because you are having fun yourself.

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