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Q: that i used to like like serioulsy 2 years ago, and i am 16 now. and i just cant seem to let go of those feelings....can you please tell me how i should let go? because i tried everything i could think of.
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i think you just simply anwsered your own question my friend :D its simply that you arnt ready to get over him, and thast perfectly fine:D you cant control who you like, let alone stop it i mean when the time comes you will get over him and it will be as easy as that as for now just play it cool and let what ever happens, well, happen you'll be fine
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Q: I was good friends with these girls freshman year, they kinda put me in the middle of a fight making me have to choose between their group and the other 2 girls in the group..i unfortunately chose the other 2 girls cause we were in a youth group together so i thought we'd get close. We stopped hanging out last year, and the original other girls started getting closer and closer. Now I have 3 classes with 2 of the girls and it's like akward like we talk and stuff but im not friends with them and I really really want to be. I keep asking them to hang out but they always say no and i mean we have such a past together!! ahh help me!
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the best thing you have to do is make them understand taht everybody makes mistakes and unfortuanlly by picking the two other girls you made one, things between these girls are neevr gonna be the same but thier is no point an acting immature on thier part and saying no to hanging out. just dnt seem to needy and when it happens it happenes and you will be fine :D
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Q: so i have this friend that i used to be really close too. but niw it seema that we are drifting apart. is there anything i can do about that? i dont want to lose her. she means the world to me. . . . .and ideas will help. thanks
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i know what you mean. and things like this are always hard to deal with but you just have to remember how much they mean to you, try talking to her and really letting her know how you feel, even if you feel embarassed or like you dont want to be the one to say it first let her know you dont want to lose her, i promis it helps and you end up feeling alot better. just try more things to hang out, diffrent things and you be the one to plan it and see what she thinks. hope i helped
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Q: me and my friend double date with these two guys. we have gone once but it was really hard to do. her mom doesnt like me so she couldnt tell her she was going with me. and she also couldnt tell her she was going with guys cause shes wouldnt let her. so i told her to come over and then we'd go without telling her, but recently her mom said she couldnt come over to my house anymore because we went and hung out with this guy whos 16 (were 14) but we didnt do anything with him. her mom is blaming it all on me and she isnt sticking up for me and im kinda of mad about it cause were best friends. anyways, we ended up having to go with her mom but see different movies and met the guys in there theatre. then had to go back out without them. it was stupid and not fun at all. well we want to all get together again, but go eat and do other things.
so i need help with two things.
what can i do about her mom hating me for no reasonable reason (truthfully, im a good kid, and i dont do bad things and most moms know that) and how can we get together with those guys again!
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haha well my mom hates my best friend and she is a good kid to lol so their isnt really anything you can do about it. but about the hole boy thing just talk to your mom about it and then have her talk to your friends mom. if its really taht nig of a deal just dont lie about it because if they find out its a lie things get worse so yeah. hope i helped
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Q: ok so im going to be a junior so i have two more years of highschool and my group of friends at my school i am beginning to hate more and more. i was really close with some of them like we were a group of five and claimed to be 'best friends' but its all bullshit. anyways its still summer and i met these girls from another school and completely clicked. i became best friends with one of them in a matter of weeks and we all started hanging out all the time. they are so real and so much more fun and i just fit better with them. anyways, when school starts im not going to see them as much and we'll probably drift. my old friends are kind of mad that i got a whole new group of friends so im kind of just in a depressing situation right now. so my question is have any of you ever like had a time in your life when you dont have many friends/are confused. or any ways of making new friends because youre old friends are even really friends. just anything thanks
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ok well the best thinig to do is to just talk to your friends nobody ever said you coldnt have more then one friend thats what life is all about meeting people. just let your friends no your still thier friend it just seems easyer to beable to let loose and be free of more then one group :) hope i helped
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Q: You know how people say "if you want to know who your real friends are, when something bad happens, see who's there to comfort you"? Well I kind of want to see who my real friends are. The thing is, nothing really bad ever happens to me. Haha, I'm lucky. But what should I do? I kinda want something bad to happen to me, just something that makes me a little upset, just to see who will be there for me. Any suggestions or advice would be great. Thanks.
15/f by the way.
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trust me, by experience dont wish something to happen to you. if you and your friends are good then keep it that way. you definetly dont want to screw your self over by making something up. be glad your friends our your friends and dont blow your self over. time will come and you will see who your true friends over but in the mean time, just have fun wit hthem and relax
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Q: basically i suck at holding a conversation. whenever i talk to someone, i come up short for things to talk about. and when i do talk, its usually about something boring lol. so what im asking is for advice on how to create conversation and keep it going so im not boring. thank you!
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well generall ywhen this happens to me depending on who you are atlkin gto, just say "so tell me somethin gabout yourself i would neevr guess?" and that usally breaks ou tthings to talk about :) i hope i helped
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Q: I met this girl awhile ago. She is my sister's neighbor and I was atrracted to her. She said she just wanna be firends but something can happen. So the friendship is going great, we hang out, talk all night on the phone just as friends then last week she said she wanted space but she was laughing when she said. While she said that, she said she wanna do something we me that she could not say over the phone, what was that about? I been giving her space, but how much space should I give? Should I call and say hi or just wait??? This started about 6 days ago and when talked once on the phone for 5 mintues?? Is this a game? Does she like me?? We do stuff friedns wouldn't do and she calls me all these nicknames that usually isn't her???
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well it definetly seems like a flirty kind of thing im not gonna lie and i mean if you really want to know if she likes you just ask her! she dosnt have a reason nto be dis honest so go for it ! and about the whole she needs her space thing im sure if she was laughing it was joke i mean just remember sometimes ppl do need thier space
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Q: okay so i've liked this guy for a really long time and we've been friends... friends with benifits... we tried to start a relationship... and that's where the confusion started in. so he was really into me.. but he was really moody... and i'm not sure why but he stood me up... so i've been mad at him for like a week and i haven't said a word to him... but today i just... went up to him and hugged him... but it wasn't a pelvic hug like usual... it was a hug... and just that. i'm still kinda mad that he stood me up with no explanaintion and no call... but i want to be around him sooo bad *sigh* so i'm not sure what to do cuz our relationship was the best when we were "just friends" but i really want more then that... what should i do? please help! o 16/f and he's 17/m by the way. and thankyou in advance!
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well the best thing to do would be perhaps talk to him and see what he wants to. i mean it would probably work out better if both of you new what eachother wanted. because if you want him but he dosnt want you it wont make you happy at all i promis. and wait it out i mean if you guys both want the same thing tahst great just make sure you want it at the same time dont push it, if it were ment to happen it would :)
tell me how it goes
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Q: 14/f
So i know this story may sound selfish but i cant help it! My bestfriend( known her since 2nd grade got closer in high school) is bestfriends with this other girl(name=chy) she meant like ONE MONTH ago and i dont mind that but everytime i make plans with my bestfriend shes like ohh sorry im hanging out with chy. im like ok .. then like in school ill ask her to hangout when shes free and she will say CAN CHY COME ill be like umm i cant go and like i make it obvious i dont like chy because chy never liked me( and ive told my bestfriend this but shes like oh) ughh.! and my bestfriends computer is broken so she tells me to go check it for her and i do and i realized that her top is :: HER COUSIN, CHY, HER SISTER,ME
i didnt tell her this cause i think its stupid.
and i just cant stop but be jealous of their friendship. How do i get over this?
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so i know how you feel the best thing to do is try something that helps you calm down like a stress free thing. take time to think about everything and it will help. make sure even if it's something stupid you tell your friend whats wrong because if you dont it will just keep bothering you, and trust me when you tell her it changes alot and you will feel alot better.
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Q: i want more guy friends. like, it's not even about getting or a boyfriend or flirting or anything. i'm just SOOO tired of all the stupid, immature, catty drama that comes along with girl friends. i have a couple guy friends, but not alot - only one really good one. how do i make more? i really want more really good guy friends. any advice? thanks so much!
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ok so you say you have a couple of good guy friends so for mean time hang with them. after a while ask them if they want to go to the movies and bring some of thier friends.tell them the more the marrier lol it worked for me now i have tons of friends that are guys.
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Q: SORRY ITS SO LONG BUT I REALLLLLYYY NEED HELP!!!
okay i have no clue what to do anymore so yeahh...
theres this girl and lets just call her "betty"
okay so betty and i have been best friends since we were reallllyyy little we were more like sisters and suddenly things have changed well im a year older than her so i knew it would be hard to stay friends when i went to highschool and she was still in eigth grade but i made time to hang out with her EVERY weekend and was so happy when she finally grad. i couldnt wait for her to come to high school
when she first got to high school she was acting weird and i told her she wasnt acting like herself and she fixed it then everything was fine until about 2 or 3 months ago when she decided to do cheerleading...
she met lots of guys while doing cheerleading and met other guys through the basketball ones but she had a boyfriend (who i HATED -- he treated her like dirt but she said she really liked him so i dealt) ANYWAYS...
we got into a fight because she was never around and was acting different AGAIN. during the fight she called me and said you know what if you dont think i care then your crazy to prove it ill tell you something only "mary"(her other close friend who always tryed to take my place in "betty"s life) knows so she told me that she had broken up wwith her bf. because she had UNPROTECTED sex with another guy and she felt bad about cheating and couldnt tell him.
i was SHOCKED because i havent even had sex and shes a year younger... so anyway i got worried that she was pregnant but it turned out she wasnt and the guy she had sex with was a JERK so then she kinda blew me off more and more for "mary" and then i found out she was getting drunk and stumbling around town like that on the weekends and later found out she was smoking weed.
between all this madness we had many fights and i told her she was ruining her entire life but deep down i knew she was doing all this for attention since her sister was perfect and her parents favored her sister soooo much more and go out all the time and ignore her ... but we had gotten over all the fights and everything...
so then she went away weekend before break with "mary" they came back and she was talking to me on aim and i told her i was at her really long time ago EXs house that day and he had a pic of her on his bulletin board and she was like well you took it down right and i was like no its his room i cant just take things down ya know and she like well im mad at you now and im like are you kidding i didnt do it because honestly "betty" he really loved you and he even told me that he really did love you and you know he treated you like a princess and like no other guy has or probably will treat you
and she was like no i dont think he did i dont know and at this point i had to go eat dinner so i was like alright well ill bbs maybe when i come back youll reliaze how much he really loved you and how well he treated you and shes like why are you trying to run my life? and i was like are you kidding im just trying to help
and from there the conversation got really bad and full of insults and curses
and now we are no longer friends at all and we basically hate eachother but its just crazy to see her change so much and i really love this girl shes a sister to me and she had EVERYTHING good going for her shes soooo pretty and graduated as validvictorian of her eigth grade...
and i just hate that shes not herself anymore i miss the girl she used to be my best friend
thank you so much for even taking the time to read this...
i really hope someone can help me help her
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i know what your going throug halot of ppl probably do, and its no fu n iknow, alot of people change in highschool some good and others bad. this girl how ever close you guys were, well it seems like you were pretty close you know her better then anyone and even if it seems like she hates you deep dwon she stll does care for you trust me i know its happened to me before just try and talk to her let her know even if you do this in a letter tell her your sorry for wha tahppened if she trys and acts like she dosn tcare just say "you know im not sorry for what happened im just sorry for the way it happened tell her your still here for her and you miss her and maybe you guys can go out to lunch sometime and talk" im sure she would like taht
hope i helped let me know how it works out.
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Q: OK, onne of my closest bffl's is getting on my last nerves. She's always saying that she is getting more guys than me. GRRRRR, its driving me nuts. Just because she has a bigger chest than I do and atracts older guys, doesnt mean she gets more guys than i do, right? I dont know, all i know is that im tired of her always bragging. If she wants to act like a slut and bitch , fine. But what should I do about the problem. I DONT KNOW IF I CAN TAKE ANYMORE. Can someone PLEASE help me?!?!?!?!?!
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well,i think you just need to tell your friend in a nice way to get over herselfand just let her know its not a contest. if she is one of your bestfriends you dont want to lose her as a friend so let her know its bothering you
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Q: Its Britttany you dodo!!
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lol well i figured but when you send me an inbox question your name )lovestruck823)or whatever wasnt shown. and yes it is wierd your talking to me on an advice colum thats what are student email is for :) i love you too
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Q: Okay so I finally foound you! Hello!!!!!!!!!!! How are you? I probably shouldnt be talking to you like this on an advice column but whatever!Love You!
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Q: well, its like this i have been best friends with my friend all my life.im going out with my boyfriend now and she doesnt like him.she wont tell me why she doesnt like him either.she made me choose between them and i picked her because your best friend will always be there and your boyfriend might not.anyways,i broke up with my boyfriend and he was defastated and then i started crying because i couldnt believe i was actually breaking his heart.i told my best friend i picked her and the only thing she said to me was good.i kept bumping into him and i knew staight away he was still hurting inside.but about two weeks later i saw him in the shop and i went over to him to ask him was he ok he couldnt even look at me.i said to him that i made a big mistake and i was really sorry.that night he rang me asking me did i want to get back together so we did.
i told my best friend when i went back to school and she got really bitchy with me and said whatever go ruin your life.i left it and just started talking about something else.now if i even mention his name she starts shouting at me saying he is such a freak why on earth would i go out with him.he isnt a freak god no.
ok my question is long but what should i do my best friend is being really mean to my boyfriend and i.if you have any advice for me please give it.13/f
xxaoifexxx
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so maybe your friend knows something about him thats you dont, maybe try asking her about it you may find something shocking out!
and i as for your bf what does he think of her?rememeber what you said your friends are alwasy there for you boys come and go and at your age i wouldnt worry to much about it ,youll be fine :)
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Q: Ok, Well About 2 Months Ago I Started Cutting Myself(Dont Wory I Stoped 4 Good) And I Told My Friend, And Then The Next Day She Comes To School And Shes All Like Look I Cut Myself Too. We All Know Shes Doing It 4 Attention But We Cant Get Her To Stop, And She Dose It Non Stop And Rillie Badly,She Always Tells Us Shes Gonna Stop But She Never Dose And She Keeps On Doing It, And Its All Up Her Arms. And To Top This Of She Has And Eating Disorder, I Dont Know What To Do. She Went To The Docter About The Eating Disorder , But She Wont Tell her Dad. I Dont Know What To Do Cuz Its Getting Rillie Bad =[
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ok well ive been through this situation before and from both sides its not good. and let me tell you from her side, she thinks its stoping her problems but what you need to tell her is its bringing more, you need to find why exactly shes doing this? and from your side what eevr you do dont yell at her to stop or anything dont telll her, its stupid, she knows it is, and the best thing you need to let her know is you are laways there for her no matter what, tell her you dont like nor agree wit hwhat shes doing but your not just gonna drop her. and if gets worse talk to her parenst you may lose her friendship but your saving he life.
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ok lets see well my name is
Shenaye and im 16 years old.my life is'nt perfect but then again not alot of peoples are.i guess you can say i care about things way to much but i just like to say im sensitive. I'm very emotionally attached to people but I rather love then never know the feeling. I love giving people advice, I learn to listen to people's problem's more and more each day, My friends say I'm really good at it. It may not always be right but at least its something to fall back on if nothing else works right? anyways I've been through alot more in my life then alot of people can say they have: family,love,friends,abuse,drugs,suicicde attempts. and many more I dont like to really talk about it but I know its made me a way stronger person then I once was.
My friends are my life you mess with them i'llpull an operation beatdown on you
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Website: E-mail: Gender: Female Location: eight.one.eight. Occupation: student<3 Age: 16 Member Since: March 30, 2007 Answers: 102 Last Update: January 21, 2008 Visitors: 6921
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