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ok to start out with i never had alot of freinds. but now i have like 2. all of my old freinds never hang out with me and they always say stuff about me thats not ture. first they say that they will always be my freind and the next they say that they hateme. i've tried to talk to them but them wont say anything and when they do say something its usely somehting hurtful like your to fat or to ugly. now none of that is ture but htey wont stop and all i want to do is see why they hate me so bad so that i might try to fix that in the weeks to come. i even tryed to leave them alone but then they get even madder and say even worse stuff about me. now i dont want to lose the freinds i already have by changing but if i dont then i get hurt. so what do i do?
-->mandy (link)
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People are always changing, and your friends might have changed as well. Sometimes it's for the better, and sometimes, it's for the worse. Try to ask them what happened between your friendships and why they are trying to hurt you. Don't sound desperate because you have to be strong. Stick with the friends that truly care about you and you won't have to worry about these problems. You sound like a very fun person, and not wanting to be your friend is their loss, so don't blame their unfriendliness on them. I hope that things work out for you!
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Right, my best friend is usually really nice, but recently she keeps putting me down, mostly about things that arent even true. She keeps pointing out people and saying they're taller than me and teasing me about my 'frizzy' hair. Shes even started being mean about the things i like. Like my big eyes she says are weird and the other day she said "I like my tummy better than yours" and i really like my toned tummy. Even though most of it isnt true, its really getting me down. What should i do? Please do not tell me to talk to her about it because she would just tell me i'm being stressy. (link)
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ok, whenever she tells you something that isn't too nice, tell her that it hurt you and if she tellsl you that you're being stressy than tell her that if she was really your fiend that she'd understand whyou you're mad. if she keeps treating you like this, even after telling her how you feel, then you should probobly not be friends with her. a real friend looks at all of the good things about you and should not be comparing herself to you.i hope everything works out!
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OK i was really mad at my friend krista because she did unspeakably mean things to me. because of it, she was asking em why i was mad, so on myspace i posted a blog about it. now my best friend marissa who is good friends with krista is getting mad at me for writing all those things about krista and telling her why she was mad. One of the things krista did was tell marissa the mother of all secrets, that my other friend, luke, thats like a brother to me was gay. marissa liked luke, and as a result got mad at me for not telling her. but i couldent tell her because i couldent have it on my concience that i made someone feel that badly, and i didnt want to break the news to her. when i found out that he was gay, i got really depressed and had to tell somebody, and i told leah, my other best friend who would never tell a soul any secret. when marissa found out tho, leah told her that she knew and that i told her, and marissa got really mad at me because i told leah and not her. marissa has been my best friend since 5th grade and i really dont want to lose her. and im afraid i am, because she sent me 2 hate letters and dissed me so badly on aim, and marissa is the nicest person in the world and would never do anything like that so i was shocked when she did. i really want marissa back as a friend, and dont say talk to her, becuase when i tried that she cussed me out and i was basiclly grovelling 4 forgiveness, so that wont work. i really need advice, please help me.
catherine (link)
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It seems like you had a problem with one friend and everyone else decided to join in and make the problem even bigger. The only thing that I can say to you is that if you tell her that she means a lot to you as a friend and that would never try to hurt her this bad, and she doesn't accept your forgiveness, then you have to accept that she my not every forgive you. YOu can't make someone like you and grieving won't work. Just tell yourself that you well say what your heart feels, go up to her somewhere that you two will be alone (bathroom) and tell her that you feel like you are losing a part of you, your best friend, and tell her that if she doesn't forgive you, you will understand and move on. Don't make the mess bigger by starting a fight or crying. Just try your hardest to accept what has happened. I'm sorry that i don't have those secret words to get your friend back, but you can at least try. (also, try talking to your other friends about what's going on. Maybe they can tell you how your friend is feeling) good luck!
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i have this friend and she is kind of an ass. i mean we get into fights and all but we get over them and forgive each other. but there are so many other people that she has hurt in the past. for example, one of my really good friends used to be extremely close with her. like they were inseprable. and then they got in HUGE fight (name calling, bad language, etc.) and they have never talked since. alot of people talk to me behind her back about how much they despise her and yet in front of her they act like her friend. There has only been a few instances where me and her have been mad at each other. i know she has talked behind my back before.. but i mean we're teenagers... i've talked behind her back too. it happens. just i'm not sure if i should still stay friends with her. when we're together i enjoy her company very much. just i know what she is capable of and i dont want to get hurt. what should i do? (link)
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In high school, there is always going to be someone that talks behind everyones backs, but you should try not to. If you really want to be friends with her, then try to respect her when she's not around. Just because you're a teenager doesn't mean you have to talk behind people's back's. you'll feel a lot better if you don't. If you're not sure about being friends with her, then try to sit down and think if she's a true friend to you or not. I have had to do that lots times, and I've had to leave a few friends because I didn't feel that I was very happy with how they treated me and i how i felt around them. I hope I helped and I hope you work out your situation.
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My friend Melissa is having a HUGE party at her house tonight..
but she didn't invite me.
We're friends..but not BEST friends..like on a scale of friendship..(10 as BFFs)..We're like a 5-6...you know?
Do you think I should ask her why she didn't invite me?
*One time, I confronted her about another party that she had..and she denied she ever had one.
I've never been over her house; vice versa..
Her parents like me though..I think..Why wouldn't she invite me? I thought we were friends :(...It's a HUGEEEE party..I'm sad. (link)
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Just go up to her and ask her if she's having a party. Then, if she says no and you find out that there is one, go there and tell her that you're not happy with your friendship and your hurt. good luck!
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a lot of my friends have drifted away. what are some activities/ things i can do to get them back and let them know i still care? (link)
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as people grow up, they usually change and will make new friends and loose old ones. but that still doesn't mean you shouldn't see if they want to hang out still. ask if they want to come to a movie night at your house, go out for pizza, or go to the lake and swim or something. if you don't feel that you are having fun w/them anymore than you know you have drifted too far apart and their are plenty of people out there that would probobly want to be your friend! good luck!
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Hello. I was just at my friends yesterday and from about 6 to 10 she was on the computer talking to her "internet boy friend" so i hung out with her sister. Then this morning same thing over again. Her dad even told her that it was rude and she didnt care and she knew i was upset. Shes the one that invited me so it makes very little sense too me. Shes my best friend and i dont want to stop being her friend or going to her house but shes a little to attached to her computer. What should i do? (link)
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the one thing that can make a difference would be talking to her. don't yell at her or blame her for not paying attention to her. Nicely ask why she was on the computer the whole time because if you cannot tell your friend how you are feeling, then you may not be such good friends. if you still can't work up the courage to do that, try doing other activities that are not near a computer. some people become somewhat "obsessive" with messengers and certian websites. good luck!
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ok so heres the thing i just started dating this guy but he has done some bad things like he shopelifted once and he cheated on one of his old girl friends i really like him but i dont no y all my friends told me i shouldnt like him but my mom told me to do what i think is right but i really really like him and i dont think i should and it is just so confussing but he promised me he would never do that stuff agian i just dont no what i should do plz help
♥~*marykate*~♥ (link)
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don't let your friends tell you what to do. think over what you want. if he keeps his promise than i hope that you have a good relationship. tell your friends that he has changed. good luck!
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Hey, I'm a 14 year old male. I have never had a girlfriend and I'm ok with that and I don't intend on getting one anytime soon, but what my question is, how do I become a girl's best friend. As I said, I'm not looking for a girlfriend at the moment. I want to be close friends with girls and I want them to be able to be open with me. I usually just sit with my group of friends which I'm pretty much the "leader" of and observe the girls from far away. I want to be able to talk to girls and feel open with them and them with me. How do I do this? Thanks a bunch. (link)
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ok, you cannot make a girl be your' best friend, but try talking more to the girls you are already friends with. girls are closer to the guys that will talk and just be themselves are them. don't try to force anything...just have fun!!!
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ok so knowi found out that the 3 of my bf talk smack about me and call me names behing my bak. and i cant stand them because i tell 1 of my bf a secret and she tells the other one then the other one tell the other one a and everything starts going off wrong. now all of us hate each other except lets just say x and z but i dont know wut to do cuz they r my bf but like they r always talking a bunch of stuff bout me so shouldi be their frinds or just try to hang around with new ppl.? (link)
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it hurts a lot when friends disrespect you, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't do anything abiout it. try telling them that you feel distanced from them and then ask if it's true (you heard from someone) that they said something. don't be mad when talking to them. just be calm. if they say that they are not feeling close to you anymore than try being friends with others will will respect you more. good luck~
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16/m I started Junior year a few weeks ago, and I realised that I was not having as much fun as in Sophmore year... I couldn't figure it out at first, but I realised eventually that I was not talking to my friends as much, and had sunken back behind the plane of quietness once again. I worked hard to get through it Sophmore year, and I probably still would be in it if my scenario hadn't increased.
I have friends. Last year, myself and these friends were closely bonded. Well, 1 of them became drum major. As a result, he became involved with the duties, and with the other drum major. He's gone now, and we rarely talk to him. 2 of them had formed a band with 2 outsiders last spring. They are now just so involved, that all they do is talk about the band and hang out with each other. Another 2 got girlfriends, and no longer really speak to anyone but them. A sixth and a seventh are girl magnets, and never have really been with us. 1 is the opposite pole of a girl magnet, but tries to physically be attracted. AKA, he touches them and doesn't leave them alone.
That leaves 3 of us left. 1 of them is just, different, and never has had a true relationship with us. He's all of a person who makes a hundred jokes, yet has no substance for a friendsip... Then the last two are myself and one other guy, and we get along fine and have a close relationship (Friends.)
So, what do I do? (link)
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being quiet was something i had trouble with for a while as well. the first thing you need to do is ask yourself why you don't speak up, because when you have something to say, then say it! sometimes you need to accept that your a more tranquil person than others. next, call up your friends and ask them if they want to hang out, maybe mentioning that 'you havn't done anything in a while' and then see what thier reaction is. sometimes people change so maybe a good change would be to find more friends. just remember one thing..be yourself!
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Me and my friend Alex I thought were pretty good friends. Her and I borrowed some clothes from eacho other. And last week I called her to ask her if I could come and pick up some clothes and my mom was yelling really loud in the back ground and Alex said my mom hates her. I went to her house to pick up my clothes and she really didnt say much. It was homecoming week last week and AL and I did tug of war at our pep rally and she didnt even say anything to me really. I saw her at our homecoming on saturday and all she said to me was hi..I heard from this girl Rae that I know that Alex told her about my mom. And Al doesnt like drama. I dont know if her and I are friends any more. Its not my fault that my mom was yelling. I told Al that I was sorry about it..Al and I used to hang out alot and I love the gurl to death bc she was one of my best friends..Idk if I should just ignore the problem or talk to her about it..i am usually good with situations like this but this time idk what to do..I just want all this fixed..what should I do. (link)
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ok, it's not your fault in ANY way so all you have to do is tell her in someway, (note, phone, e-mail, talking) that your mother likes her and that if she is a "real" friend she would not get mad at me for somthing that isn't true. if she choosed not to forgive you,then you need tot try to accept that she might not be mature enough for you. say that you are sorry that she feels that way about your mother, but tell her that she is a really great friend, so why should your mother have anything against her? good luck~
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Hey, me and my friend are a lil over weight, but i dont think she notices it as well as i do!
Im gonna stop drinking soda and some other junk food, but she thinks its crazy for me to go on a "diet" but its crazy the way she drinks like 2 or 3 sodas a day!
i like to skateboard and supposedly she likes to rollerblade but its REALLY hard to get her out there.
Her daily thing is like go to school go home eat watch tv go on the comptuer and play video games.
weekednds its wake up, comptuer, tv and video games.
PLEAZE HELP IM SO SICK OF BEING INSIDE SPECIALLY SINCE SHES ONE OF MY ONLY FRIENDS NOW!!!
will rate (link)
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well it's great that you are on the right track to a healthier life. the one thing that you can do is find somethign that you enjoy doing (such as skateboarding)and maybe try to make a friend at a rink or something...ask you friend if she'll go on walks with you so you both can talk or hang out...talking ot her is the only way to get her to realize that a healthier life is a happier life! hope i helped!
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okay. well i have been best friends with the same three people for 4 years now and we do everything together and i love them to death but now they have new friends and they will talk about plans right in my face and not invite me and so i do other things with my other friends but i cant help but get jelous. its like sometimes i dont want them to be happy unless there with me. I hate feeling this way. I hate being jelous, but i cant help it. Things have changed and i cant take it. I try to take my mind off it and do other things but none of my other friends are as close as they are. i cant just give up on out friendship. How do i stop the jelousy? and Should i tell them how i feel? cause they would probbaly laugh and get mad at me...
sincerely,
Sojelous (link)
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i had this same problem and i had so much to tell them so i wrote how i felt down in a note and gave it to them...after that they treated my differently for a while, and then they went back to the old way. i delt with it by trying to make plans with them myself and if they are doing something, ask if you can join them. if u just sit there and think of how jelous you are, then of course they won't know....try to be happy around them, and if they ingore you a lot after that , then tellthem how you feel and if they laugh then they are not very good friends...good luck!
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