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Computer Addicted
Hello. I was just at my friends yesterday and from about 6 to 10 she was on the computer talking to her "internet boy friend" so i hung out with her sister. Then this morning same thing over again. Her dad even told her that it was rude and she didnt care and she knew i was upset. Shes the one that invited me so it makes very little sense too me. Shes my best friend and i dont want to stop being her friend or going to her house but shes a little to attached to her computer. What should i do?
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well, if she calls you to hangout, just say well i didnt want to spend our time on the computer today, i was kinda hoping that we could go on a bike ride or go to the mall. would that be ok with you? and stuff like that...
hope i helped!
-helping buddy
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If it bothers you that much (I know it would bother me) I would confront her, telling her how rude it is to invite me to her house and spends her time on the computer. And if she still doesn't understand, I would make her choose:
THE COMPUTER OR HER BEST FRIEND
Tell her that you don't like it when shes on the computer, she can get off of the computer when you are there and go back on when you leave! REALLY EASY!
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Dear Computer Addicted,
wait in tell she comes to you or call you, i waould still play with her sis but just wait tell she takes to you again. And she will come back eventually!!!!
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Hey hun,
That's mean as hell that your friend did that to you. She shouldn't just invite you over and stay on the internet while your there. She should be hanging out with you while your over, and staying off the internet. I'm sorry to hear that. You need to tell her that it makes you upset that she sits on the internet when your over her house. If she's a real friend, she'll start hanging out with you and not sitting on the internet while your over. Try going over her house again and see if she stays on the internet talking to people after you just talked to her about not doing that. If she does the same thing, then I think you need to tell her your not going to go to her house again until she stops going on the internet while your over. I hope I helped you out hun! If not, I'm sorry. Luv ya! Let me know how everything goes. Leave one in my inbox if you have anymore questions. <3 KiMmy
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the one thing that can make a difference would be talking to her. don't yell at her or blame her for not paying attention to her. Nicely ask why she was on the computer the whole time because if you cannot tell your friend how you are feeling, then you may not be such good friends. if you still can't work up the courage to do that, try doing other activities that are not near a computer. some people become somewhat "obsessive" with messengers and certian websites. good luck!
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probably the best thing you can do is to let her know how you feel.
tell her that you think she's sort of getting addicted to the computer, and that you're really worried about her, because you two are bff, and when you were at her house, it was like she didn't even care about you.
but make sure you tell her in a really nice way, so that she doesn't get mad, and so that she's knows that you're telling her as a friend, and because you care about her so much.
and even if she does get mad, at least you told her, and she'll later realize that you were right.
just don't be afraid to talk to her about this kind of stuff, because you're doing it because you care about her.
and remember, if you two are really good friends, then even if you two get into a fight, you'll forgive each other.
~hope i helped~
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You need to talk to her and inform her that there are many other things she can do, like hanging out with you, and not being on the computer. Let her know how you feel and that you want to do something else, rather than watching her talking to her "internet boyfriend". When she calls to invite you over, simply make plans with her and hang out somewhere else. She'll eventually figure out there's more to life than being addicted to the computer.
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That's happened to me before. If you still want to be her best friend, why not try to invite her somewhere like the movies or something where there's not a computer? She'll talk to you, not her "boyfriend".
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perhaps she's just going through a phase. perhaps not, but if she invites you to her house again, maybe you should say something like, "well i don't know if i should come. are you just going to be on your computer for hours again?" that oughta act as a slap-in-the-face as to how you feel. oh, and please rate me!!!!
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you could try going out insted of staying in ...or go to your house ...but i think you should talk to her about it and tell her how you feel ..she should stop or at least not go on as much
hope that helped a lil
-v
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I used to be that girl. Just tell her that if she does that next time you're leaving, and she'll eventually realize that that's not the way to keep friends. Asking her nicely to get off the computer is a respectful way to go about it, but it probably won't get her off the computer.
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You should the next time she asks you to come over tell her your not b/c she is always on the computer,and see what she says. Let her know it bothers you and see if she can wait until you leave to go on.
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It's understandable that you would feel bad. Just simply tell her that when you two hang out at her house it would be cool if she could stay off the internet, otherwise what's the point of you coming over to "hang out" with her?
She'll understand, after all she wouldn't appreciate it if you did that to her over at your house, right?
As to her computer usage when you're not around, or the fact that she uses it too much...leave that up to her parents. She might take it as a little too bossy on your part. Soon enough you'll probably hear about how ticked off she is that her parents have limited her computer use.
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tell her friend that you are really upset w. what she did when you go to her house ... how she is always on the computer and leaves you .. tell her you want to hang w. her not really he sister!! make sureh you explain to her you quys are best friendssss and dont want tha to change!!! let her kno how you feel and if you want have her go to your house more often!! good luck !
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Well next time you go to her house bring a bored game and she might play with you i meen im attached to the computer to but when my friends come over i get off. So tell her les go play that game or whatever.. got what im saying? ♥! GRACieE!@
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If I were you I would be blunt and straight up to the point. Ask her why did you invite me if all you wanted to do was spend time online? Tell her you felt she wasted your time in asking you when she did not spend any time with you.
If this annoys her so be it but at least she knows it is rude and guests will take offense. As far as the Internet boyfriend goes the person may or may not be who they say they are.
You ought to point that out to her and that her never getting off the computer to go outside or do things with her friends or guests means there is a problem. Hopefully, her parents will see that also. In the meantime hang out with other people and do not bother with her until she realizes what she is doing.
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Hey!
It sounds like to me she is rubbing it in your face that she has a internet boyfriend and the only reason she is inviting you up is to make you jelous. You should have a serious talk with her!
Green Day
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i did the same thing to my friend lol. im still her best friend. i just got sick of the computer and i decided to hang out with her. just tell her to hang out with her or you will leave. i hope this helps.
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