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Hello. I was just at my friends yesterday and from about 6 to 10 she was on the computer talking to her "internet boy friend" so i hung out with her sister. Then this morning same thing over again. Her dad even told her that it was rude and she didnt care and she knew i was upset. Shes the one that invited me so it makes very little sense too me. Shes my best friend and i dont want to stop being her friend or going to her house but shes a little to attached to her computer. What should i do?

It's understandable that you would feel bad. Just simply tell her that when you two hang out at her house it would be cool if she could stay off the internet, otherwise what's the point of you coming over to "hang out" with her?
She'll understand, after all she wouldn't appreciate it if you did that to her over at your house, right?
As to her computer usage when you're not around, or the fact that she uses it too much...leave that up to her parents. She might take it as a little too bossy on your part. Soon enough you'll probably hear about how ticked off she is that her parents have limited her computer use.

I like this guy but the thing is, he doesn't like me. and whenever he gets jealous he likes me. and when i dropped this guy that he was jeaslous of he didn't like me anymore. so...the same situation is with this guy that likes me. should i go out with the guy who likes me to get him jealous??

thanks in advance!!!

Sounds like a lot of drama and game playing.
You probably like this guy, deep down because he is playing hard to get. Even if it's the real deal...making him jealous hasn't worked in the past, so it won't work in the future.
Try and move on to someone who genuinely LIKES you for you, not because he can't have you.

Ok I still have feelings for my Ex Boyfriend but I dont know if this means he likes me:

1. He comes and stands beside/or around me when we have a break at school
2.He Takes Up For Me
3.He play fights with me
4.He Walks Me to my bus EVERYDAY
5.When I come in late he always seems happy to see me!
So....umnmm what?

Hi there,
Well, from your list of positive's I would say it's very likely that he still likes you. He flirts with you, takes the time to walk you to the bus and it sounds like he likes to be around you.
You could ask him if he still likes you, because you still like him, and the worse thing that could happen is that he just wants to be friends.
BUT...to answer your question, it sure sounds like he is still interested!

hello,iam 23 years old female ,my name is amanda
i met a 3o year old man online, and he lives in another country.i havent seen him before but we talked on the phone. from the way he chats and talks with me he seems to be so honest.and iam saying so honest means u can never have any doubt that he could be a liar.
this relation has been on for4 monthes now but i started to lose confidence in him.
2 monthes ago he said is going to travel to canada for his urgent eye operation but after 25 days when he came back and talked on the phone i asked him how did ur operation go?he answered i didnt do it, i was in(our origin country)cus his uncle died and his mother entered to the hospital.i was shocked that if he were in (our origin country)why didnt he call me?
next after one month he said he is comming to (our country)and he will see me but when he came he called as a wrong number just to hear my voice(i guess), and no respond till now, he keeps his mobile off. although iam sure he is still here and didnt travel yet.
what makes him far away from me although he said he is in love with me?
If he is having fun,what he expects to get from me though idont talk love with him and i dont even say that i love him.
how could i know that he really wants me?is he honest.plz i need your advice

To answer your question straight up...No, he is not honest.
If you even have doubts about his honesty, which after what you've explained, you should have doubts, move on.
He sounds a little creepy, calling you just to hear your voice, not turning his phone on so you can get in touch with him...etc.
In this day and age you can meet so many people online, some are really serious about meeting someone, others are just serious about playing games.
Easier said than done, but try not to give him one more thought. And if he contacts you again, don't respond. Don't ask him why this and why that. He'll just give you more confusing answers...and you'll be stuck wondering what he's up to, again. You don't need that.
Move on, let that one go his own way. You can do much better than that!

i just came back from arizona and im really dry... like dry white stuff on me... i use alo and skin softener... it works a little bit... how can i cure this?

I had extremely dry skin on my arms and legs. I tried every kind of good smelling, fancy dry skin lotion. I went to the dermatologist for a different reason, but while there I asked what I could do about my dry skin.
He said, hands down, the best lotion I could use is Cetaphil. It's at any drug store like Walgreens or Target and since I've used it I've really seen a difference.
showers can really dry out your skin too so if you buy this lotion put it on right after the shower.
It's good stuff, hope you try it!

my friends boyfriend recently got stabbed by his ex-girlfriend. my friend thinks it is all her fault because he got stabbed because of something she told him to tell his ex. and then his ex went locco on him. does is sound like her fault?

will rate...
smartass answers not welcome

PS-wat can i do to comfort her?

First of all, people are responsible for their own actions. It's not your friends fault it's the person that chose to take such drastic action and stab someone.

You need to tell your friend that she is NOT at fault and even if what she said to the ex set her off and fueled this stabbing,it still doesn't make it her fault.

I'm sure she feels horrible and hopefully has learned to steer clear of ex's, but again I hope she can realize that she didn't stab him, someone who is obviously nutty did.

I sing in church and at school and I have been working at the Haunted Graveyard, for thoes of you who dont know what that is, its like a haunted house where you scare people, anyways, It has made my throat sore and unable to sing, or get my voice back to how it normally is. Does anybody know how I could heal this and get it back to normal? last year it took almost a full year to get my voice back to normal. But if you people know anything I could use or do to get my voice back where i can sing and talk like i normally do It would be greatly appreciated! And i have already tried coughdrops, so anything else, unless you know of a cough drop that really works, but please tell me what brands and types of stuff you are talking about..THANKS!!!

Hi there,
I am a singer also and have this dilemma quite often.

I would suggest keeping a bottle of luke warm water with you while you're working at the haunted graveyard. It will keep your throat lubricated while you're working. Just put it where you can grab it easily. The same goes for at school and at church.

I know you've done the cough drop thing but it really is a good preventative measure and a soothing reliever. I use Halls Mentho-Lyptus Honey-Lemon brand. Also before singing try a teaspoon or two of honey. Any kind as long as it's pure honey. Mel-O Pure Honey is what I have in my cabinet. Drink tea...lots of tea. Take a break from soda and try Tazo Calm Herbal Infusion. It has Chamomile and other yummy stuff in it and it is caffeine free so you can drink as much of it as you need and not feel wired or be able to get rest.
But the most important thing you can do is to talk as little as possible to let your vocal chords heal. All of this other stuff will help with the sore throats and the swelling of your vocal chords but taking a break from talking will speed the process up. Still sing if you must but after you're done at the Haunted Graveyard ask your choir teacher if you can take a singing break for a few days to let yourself heal. He/she should understand. Just try and take good care of yourself. If all else fails and you're still having major problems go see an Ear, Nose and Throat doctor. Your primary care doctor can refer you to someone.
Good luck and take care!

Hey, I'm going for my first job interview October 15 for KB Toys. I know for a fact that I'm gonna get the job, because my brother used to work there, and he told me that they would hire me. (they also know me, I helped out on Black Friday last year) My question is, what kind of questions will they ask me and what should I wear? I don't want to look too casual. Thanks.

Probable questions they will ask are:

Why do you want to work for KB Toys?
What can you offer our store?
What are some of your strengths and weaknesses?
What are your long term goals?
What do you like to do in your spare time?

I would suggest wearing some nice pants or even a nice pair of dark jeans and a dress shirt with a tie. Not too casual and not too dressy.

Make sure you remind them that you helped out on Black Friday and maybe that you enjoyed it. Always sound positive and make sure to have good eye contact. It'll be no sweat!

I hate my friend!he has been annoying me so much lately and not just me but every one else!today he was messing around and was trying to trip me up but i just didn't take any notice and didn't look at him but then he kicked me really hard and i hit my leg off the corner of the table!and instead of appologising he just laughed in my face!so i just turned around to him and said "you fucking prick!" i thought he was getting the idea that i didn't like him any more but now he's annoying me even more!!what should i do???

It sounds to me like this guy gets his kicks from making other people miserable. You yelled at him and now you say he's annoying you even more.
I would suggest treating him as though he doesn't exsist in your world. Ignore him completely. Telling him he is bothering you, annoying you or that you can't stand him will just egg him on. Ignoring him, as in zero eye contact, no comments or even acknowledging that he is in your presence will shock him and he may try hard to get your attention for a bit but if you can keep up your end of it, he'll tire of trying to get on your nerves and move on.

my friend really likes this guy and never shuts up talking bout him. for three nights in a row he was in my dreams but heres the wierd thing....i dont like him at all not even as a friend! wat do you think dis means?xoxo

I think there is a very simple explanation. When something is on your mind or is, in your case, the topic of conversation a lot it tends to carry over into your dreams. You're NOT being disloyal to your friend just because he's in your dreams. It is just information overload. He's on your mind because your friend continuously talks about him to you.
Try not to feel guilty or weirded out by it. As long as you're not developing feelings for him outside of your sleep time, as you said you're not, I'm sure he'll disappear from your dreams soon enough!

Why is my hair falling out?

Growing up I always had very thick and abundant hair. But now it's starting to fall out- and I'm only 14...

I dyed it about 3 months ago and it is just beginning to fall out.

Help... I love my hair!

Hi there,
It's possible that you may have an iron deficiency. I myself had been losing my hair. Although I'm in my twenties, it was still abnormal to have so much hair coming out when I showered or brushed it.
I went to the dermatologist by the suggestion of my primary care doctor and they took a small sample of blood to rule out anything serious and found that my iron levels were low. That could be due to heavy periods or not enough iron in my diet. You can buy iron at any drug store BUT, you must go to the doctor first to make sure you are iron deficient because getting too much iron can actually make you very ill. But as I said, if you do find that you need it, it's very possible that you will stop losing hair. I am now growing new hair again. Of course stress is another possiblity in which case you should still see your doctor. Try not to get too worried about this, there is an answer, you just need to make an appointment and go see someone. Good luck and hang in there!

alright well im having surgery on monday of next week (the 11th)and i was supposed to get my period last thursday. but i havent yet. and its a surgery where ill be in the hospital for 2 weeks and stuff and i dont want to be on my period during the surgery cuz its like a 7 hour surgery and stuff so what should i do? thanks

I just want you to know that I had a 6 hour back surgery last year, during the beginning of a heavy period. I told the nurse and she gave me some mesh undies to wear and gave me a large pad to put on right before surgery. I was incredibly worried about the catheter being tugged on by the pad and worried about the bleeding etc. First of all, when I woke from surgery the last thing on my mind was my period. The nurses took great care of me. They changed my pads and cleaned me up and although it may sound embarrassing, it's their job and they do it all of the time! You'll be fine. Good luck with your surgery!

Is wearing a skirt while you have a period okay? Also, do I necessarily have to wear a tampon or could I wear a pad (bc I hate tampons). Its a white skirt. Or should I just wait till my periods gone ( 4 more days probably ) Thanks for advice!

It is absolutely ok as long as you are aware of when you need to change your pad. Since you prefer not to use tampons try using a thin maxi that absorbs heavy flow and make sure it has wings to wrap around your underpants so you don't leak on the sides. Just make sure you have supplies and change your pad often.

You all probably deal with the same thing I am about to say. But here is the thing my mom and I get along but most of the time we are arguing about stupid things like chores I do around the house and stuff like that she doesn't like how I do so she complains constatly no matte what I do it's never enough for her. My dad and I sometimes get into arguements to because whenever I am arguing with my mom he always plans it on me even if I didn't start it. Most of the time we don't get along either. They also get into arguements too and try to get us involve if we don't they get mad but if you do they always want us to pick sides and that's why we don't want to get involved. Do you have any advice.

Hey there,
Sorry to hear you're going through a tough time with your family. Most of it is normal stuff but as the other responders said, it is not okay for either parent to put a child in the middle of there dispute. A parents job is to protect and nurture their children and if they aren't giving you what you need, as apparently they are not, I suggest sitting down and writing a letter to each parent. Tell them how you're feeling, and what you need from them to help you be a happier kid.
Sometimes it's easier to write down how you are feeling. It's less intimidating and you can really concentrate on what you want to say and proof read to make sure you got it all in there. Sometimes it's easier for a parent to really hear their child if they can sit down and read how you are feeling and really process it.
Then I think you should talk to them about the letters alone and then hopefully you can sit down and have a little family meeting and discuss it all together.
It's ok for you to say that you've had enough...They need to know and they also need to hear from that you are going to try harder also. You can do it!
Good luck!

I haven't been myself lately. And I don't know why. Ugh, I just feel like.. I'm not here, or something.. you know? My friends have noticed, my family... even this lady I take karate with asked me today if I was okay. I can't figure this out. Could I be depressed? I mean, I'm happy about a lot of things. But my life just seems so empty. Like it's missing something.. I donno. Maybe I'm just always tired. I DO need more sleep. And more exercise. Maybe that's why I haven't been myself... I donno.. What do u all think?? Help!!

Hey there,
I'm just going to post some symptoms of depression and you can see how they relate to your daily life. It's typical for everyone to feel a little "off" at times. But, seriously, if it's becoming a problem, a distraction in your life, others are worried about you etc. Maybe it's worth looking deeper into.
Here are some symptoms:

Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" mood
Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities that were once enjoyed, including sex
Decreased energy, fatigue, being "slowed down"
Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
Insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
Appetite and/or weight loss or overeating and weight gain
Thoughts of death or suicide; suicide attempts
Restlessness, irritability
Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment, such as headaches, digestive disorders, and chronic pain

I would recomend looking at this website too.
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/healthinformation/depressionmenu.cfm

I hope I've helped a bit.
Take care and feel free to ask any more questions that you might have.

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