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i'm Ange, a 19 year old female aussie and i love helping people! I am willing to help with almost any issues you may have... so feel free to ask me. i wont judge you on what you ask so dont feel embarrased. :) but beware! if you ask a stupid question with a logical answer, i will be very blunt... and remember...
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There's this girl that I have known since I was in third grade, Brittany. well, I THOUGHT i knew her. She has invited people over right in front of me and one of my best friend's faces without inviting us. She talks about every single one of the people who she calls her friend and even people she doesn't know. The other night, she called and by the time I had found my phone, she hung up. Not even a minute later, another girl who was at her house, Sarah, called me and I answered. After getting off the phone with me, Brittany told Sarah and all the other girls there that I was a bitch, I was obsessed with Sarah, and a lot of other things. Apparently, she calls me and everyone else who she calls her "best friend" a bitch to anyone to will listen. But when she said it in front of my friends, they stood up for me, and then she got mad at them. Today I was talking to all of my best friends, who are Brittany's too, and they said that she is always talking about me, amanda, nicole, and a lot of other people. Basically, we're all sick of it. I just learned this today, but she DRINKS! The night that they spent the night at her house, she tried to pressure them into drinking vodka, but they said no finally. She never says sorry for anything and always turns it around and blames you, always leaves people out, always talks about people behind their backs, always makes fun of people in front of their face, always pressures people into doing things, always lies, and she NEVER can talk to you about something...she always gets this girl, Amanda who has no idea how much she talks about her, to yell at the person for her and turn everyone against them. We don't know what to do right now because we don't want everyone turning against us, but we don't really want to be friends with her anymore. What should we do?

Obviously she's a bitch. you need to cut ties with her as that's the only way she will lear that what she does is wrong. as long as you stay her friend she will think it's okay. who cares if some people turn against you. you've got your best friends there for you all the way and thats all that matters. good luck mate.

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hello sir/mam i needed some advice regarding a friend ...this person a girl in the library looked at me for 15 -20 days in the library where i studied i could make out that she will come and talk and she came asked my name and i started wishing her than i had some family problem in the meantime i could see that she was moving out with a guy one of her batchmates so even though i wanted to talk i stayed away as i did not want to interfere..than one day she came and sat just in front of me looking at me that day i put a letter on her car saying that it will be nice to know you and i gave my tel no.. and i heard her telling her friends about this than i sent her 4 e-mails and wished her best of luck fot her exam by sending an sms and told her that i was the one who sent her an sms and she thanked me for wishing her than i called her and asked her on how did the exam go she talked nicely but told me that she was slightly busy i apologized and thought that she will call me up whenever she is free she did not call but after 2days she came to the library all decked up looking nice and looked at me as if to talk and i thought that she would talk as this the first time i sent e-mails to someone like this and i was hesitant and confused whether she wants that i talk to her now and one of her batchmates told me that she had a boyfriend for last 5months a third person i was confused that why than should she look at me and why than did she come and talk ...after that i asked her one of her batchmates she told me that yes she has a boyfriend and she was also went around with another guy in between and she did tell her that i sent her e-mails after that i avoid her but just the other day we have a small cafe and i was standing there she came closee to me in the cafe but did not wish me neither did i and in one of the e-mails i sent her i wrote to her that she looks nice in suits and a white one and she came that day close to me wearing that dress but did not wish me neither did i so iam very confused whether she wants that i talk or not it would be very kind if you could advice whether this person is interested or not or is she someone who just wants to try at each and every one ,we all get many chances like this but we know how to behave how mouch distance to keep and i am a slightly simple guy who values his culture so feeling a bit akward in all this ...thank you she would follow in her acr get up to come to cafe when get up it has been 6 months now in the meantime on a festive occassion i wished her she wished me back now i came back after 4 months and wished on her birthday but did not get any reply now should oi forget or proceed how please advice she never e mailed me because she i think was stuck up with a boy but would do these indirect things but wont show interst like i send her mails now even i have not sent her since last 8 months

sounds complicated. but my advice is to leave it alone. you have shown your interest and if she is still not keen then she obviously doesn't like you. if she wanted you she would have told you by now. plus she does have a boyfriend so it's best not to mess that up.

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i have a best friend and she has a boyfriend and they are in love. but one thing about them going out is i dont like her boyfriend and me and my best friend have been friends since 4th grade and her boyfriend is coming between us. and me and my friend are usually at each others house and haveing late night calls and we dont do that anymore! and we are gettin in fights more often because of him! i dont no what to do! im afraid to tell her the truth cause she will deny it! and we will get in a big fight! so what should i do about it?

you have 2 options. You can either tell her what you told us or keep quiet and let it ruin your friendship. I recommend you tell her and if she is a good friend then she should put her priorities straight. Guys may come and go but best friends will always be there. she needs to understand that. good luck :)

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I am a little anti-social and that is because I am used to getting left out and feeling not accepted. so I was talking to two of the few people i do feel somewhat close to a male and a female that i joke with and talk to often. And, they begin to discuss something that happened in one of the dorms and They said that someone was in lets say the dorm cyrna and i said who was in cyrna and the male said nobody. like I wasn't accpeted and trusted enough to know what they were talking about. Do i take things too personally are what? Because it made me feel like we weren't close at all.

maybe they had been talking for a while and didn't want to have to repeat it all. it's probably not personal. chill out a bit and let it slide. if it happens more often then it is personal. sorry i cant be more helpful

angie

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there's this guy patrick and me and him got really close over winter break... too close, we even made out... so then i told him that i didn't like him "like that", he acted really cool about it but then the next time i saw him he called me a fatass a bunch of times, said that he hated me, and threw my cell phone in the snow.

the next day he texted me on my cell and said hey whats up, so how're you, exc.

then after him doing this for about a month he told my friend that he hated me and i was a stuck up b****, and i f*** with people until i get what i want.

but, he still texts me and says that i'm beautiful and stuff... what should i say to him?

Well for starters, i wont say your horrible for kissing him. these things happen, wether you liked him that way or not. sometimes you just get caught up in the moment and dont think. about the texts. he is obviously taking it badly. if i was in your position i would just say that i couldn't be friends with him anymore. it looks like the only thing you could do to make him be nice is date him and you said you didn't like him that way. unfortunately you cant be friends with a guy that likes you. i've tried many times and it doesn't work. even if he's nice about it you have to watch what you say! just tell him to leave you alone.

hope i helped!

angie

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i sooo wish i lived in australia! you lucky duck! i live in California im 13 and its almost 1:30 at night here how about for you? America gets a little boring id love to live outside the states! do you use words like "mates" and stuff like that?

Yeah i love australia! i live in Cairns which is a gorgeous place! we have the great barrier reef to one side and the rainforest to the other. it's great. and i do say mate, quite often! i dont say d'day much but my dad never stops! it's 7.40pm here. still early. i used to wish i lived in america cause you guys dont have to wear school uniforms! i hated them! if you are ever planning a holiday i would definately recomend australia! anything else you'd like to know?

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he keeps staring at me! like in homeroom sometimes he'll be like "durene", or I just notice that someone is staring at me, and then I look and see him. He does it on purpose, and its kinda freaky because I dont even know how to respond! Im like.. "okay.. why do you keep doing that?" and then before I'd laugh or something but he'd still do it which is awkward. maybe hes making fun of me? or trying to be my friend? i dont like him like romantically, but maybe he things I might... but I dont really think he likes like that since hes more popular than I am. It doesnt seem like he's really like being mean to me because he's not like that to most people. but what do I do? and I've asked people, and they dont know why he does it too. I saw him do it to some other girl, too. what a weird guy, lol.

Try staring back at him. that way he might be the one feeling uncomfortable.

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i am a freshman in highschool and so is my best friend , there is this guy that is a junior that i have known for a while named chad and i intoduced chad and cat and i started to like chad then i was asked out by another guy i named sam so i went out with sam. then chad and cat went out and i still liked chad but i never said anything about it, now me and sam are broke up and cat and chad are broke up and i like chad but i know cat would be really mad if i went out with chad because sghe said she would be cause i asked but now he aske dme out what do u think should do?

~blundered blonde~

DONT GO OUT WITH HIM!!! best friends will last forever but you and your man wont always be together.

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okay. my bestest friend EVER is having a birthday soon. i want to write a poem and have it framed. the poem has to say how good a friend she is. can anyone help me out??? PLEASE!!!

hey hun. heres one i wrote myself.



THE GREATEST FRIEND

You are the greatest friend I could need

Without you around I'd be lost indeed

Thanks for the chats on those warm summer nights

And thanks for never starting massive fights

You've been there for me when I'm happy or sad

You keep persisting to make sure I'm fine-even when I get mad

When I need advice your there for me

And I never want to lose you, you see

Your a wonderful friend and in my mind

I know that I never will find

A friend as good as you are

And I know you are never too far

All those inside jokes keep us together

I know we can handle any kind of weather

You are my best friend and this is true

I want you to know that I love you!

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I have a friend. I met her in September and she was really nice for about a month and then she started hitting me for no apparent reason. Supposedly her dad "abuses her" but no physically, and whenever she hits me she blames it on that and her insomnia. Her insomnia is cured, and if she's smart enough to blame her problems on her dad, I think she's smart enough not to do it. So it's been months now, and she's bruised me a lot, in the face once. She threatens people and blames it on me when I get beaten and whenever I get a bruise she says "It prolly just something stupid you did to yourself to blame on me." So she started talking about killing people, one of them happens to be my major crush who I would do anything for, but I can't tell her or she'll kill me. (different problem) So I went to my principal because she'll end up killing someone, and we got into a fight. The principal said she's not worth it and to stop talking to her. She said she's sorry but I don't believe it, but I'm scared she's going the beat me if I tell her. I can't ignore her forever. What should I do?

you gotta stop being her friend. if she beats you for not being her friend how does that differ from when she beats you FOR being her friend? and warn your crush. she may be female but a bad temper can make you alot stronger than a guy. so he needs to know. good luck!

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Alright, I'm letting you all know right now this is going to be lengthy. Over a year ago, I was dating this guy and we broke up after 4 months of dating because of problems and whatnot. I found out after we broke up that he was doing so many things behind my back like smoking pot (I'm disgusted by that) having sex with other girls, touching other girls at school, etc. We broke up, I moved on then came summer and then my first year of highschool. A long lost friend I guess you could say, met up with me and told me she met this GREAT guy and told me his name. I told her that he was an asshole he treats girls like crap don't date him he'll break your heart, yadda yadda yadda. They dated for about 2 months and broke up because shockingly enough, he was cheating on her. She came to me apologized for being a bitch and not listening to me and I forgave her. Now, about a week after they broke up I found out that he was trying to hook up with some girl. She's an innocent girl and a complete sweetheart that should not be dating a guy like him. I told her how he was and she didn't believe me. I have been trying to prove for the longest time to her (they're still dating, it's been 5 months) that he's a lying, cheating, bastard. So I got one of my friends to act as if she had a crush on him and talk to him online and see what his reaction would be. Sure enough, he accepted the offer of getting head from her, making out with her, and even getting sex from her. We saved the conversation and printed it out and showed it to her the next day. She didn't believe a word of it, so she showed it to him and his excuse was that his friend was over and they were just joking around. My friend pulled out her cellphone and read off a number and said "Is this you're boyfriend's cell phone number?" and sure enough, it was. After that day, he IMed her and said this "Baby, why'd you have to start shit today, I didn't want her knowing about that!" Which proves my point that he's a lying, cheating, bastard. I'm fed up with trying to deal with her not believing me. But it bothers me so bad that he's doing all this to her! She hates my guts because she claims I'm trying to break them up and me and a good friend of hers almost got into a fight (fists, hair pulling, slapping.. typical girl fight). I decided not to even bother anymore, but I feel so horrible just sitting here, seeing what he's doing to her and not being able to do ANYTHING about it because she won't belive me! I think that now she's begining to see what he's doing to her but I really don't want to forgive her for what she put me through. Should I keep trying to point out the blaitenly obvious? Or should I let her figure it out on her own? IF she ever figures it out and they break up and she comes crying to me, what should I do? I don't want to forgive her! Please help, this is so confusing for me. Sorry it was so long.

let her figure it out. you tried to help but she didn't listen. she needs to make her own mistakes and learn from them.

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My boyfriend treats me more like a friend. He says he loves me but he won't hold hands with me or kiss me or touch me at all. I know not everyone likes that stuff, but I just feel like I'm doing something wrong. I'm embarassed to talk about it. What should I say? Do you think I might offend him?

you have to talk to him. ask him whats wrong and figure it out.

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my friends stepdad molested her last night and i dont no what to do. i no i NEED to be there for her. and her mom said that if they cant find another house to buy they are moving over an hour away. which means i will probably never see her again. she is like my best friend. someone please help me. it has just hit me that i might not ever talk to her again. someone please help. i have been crying a lot...

she has to talk to her mum. her mum should do whats best for her. if her mum is a selfish bitch that doesn't care, ask you parents if she can move in with you. molestation is wrong and u need to take as many steps as necessary to prevent it from happening again.

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this may sound very goody goody but.. i am so sick of everyone doing drugs and drinking.. not that im completely innocent i mean ive done it before but it seems like right now every single person is into that and half of them are doing it to forget about problems.. now i did learn about drugs and i did learn that weed can actually make depression worse and i also know that after youve done weed for a while your wanting to try a new drug so what do i do.. i hate it that my friends do drugs and drink and dont tell me to forget about them and get new friends because i love my friends.. and also.. everyone in my school does it.. whether you want to believe that or not is up to you.. but really.. the ones that dont are like .. messiahs or something.. please help
*stonecoldmystery*

I know how you feel. i hate drugs and i dont understand why people do them. you have to voice your concerns to your friends. tell them that you love them and dont want them getting hurt.

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Ok, so last week i was in 3rd hour and my closet friend said to me Pass me a note and i will give it to the boy u like! (he sits right next to him) So i said i will give it to u after class. He said No give it now! So i gave it to him. He ran to the teacher with the note and said SHE PASSED A NOTE TO ME! Holy Sh*t! I was humilated! My closet friend did that! Now he is all like hye whats up? What should i do!

tell him how much he upset you. he prolly thought it was funny.... males. and do you mean closet friend as in gay but hasnt come out yet or did u do a typo and it's meant to be closest. if he's your closest friend he should listen to you and apologize.

~ANGE

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I know this guy since we were 7 years old. I think he is gay. He always talks about gay people. He always points out who is gay. He has no male friends of his own and he goes to gay clubs and claims he is just watching to see who lives a secretly gay life. He also has a lot of woman friends and gossips very much.
He dates women have no flaws. Very pretty women that look like models.He is very picky. He calls every body ugly. when i date a guy he tells me he's not that cute. I've seen cuter. Is it just me or is that something a girl would say? What do you think about this situation.?

i think that he's confused. you need to talk to him. let him know he can confide in you. and if he admits to being gay, dont make a big deal out of it. just be casual and say you dont care.

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I have been having a hard time lately and I feel a bit depressed. I have a person that I admire and we are real close friends but I just am not sure whether or not to talk to her. She is the same age as my mother (54) and has a son that is my age also,(14) I just feel silly going to her and talking. But really, is it silly? She is the only person I trust with my feelings and the things I am having problems with, Advicenators could not help with.
She has told me I can call anytime I have problems but I guess I don't want her son to know that I call his mother. (He use to be my crush....Long time ago....idiot now.) I also feel that she has enough things on her mind, such as, her work (she and her husband own a whole bunch of gas stations in and around WA state. Her 4 other sons also are in the buisiness.) and her family.

Should I just call her and talk? would I be a annoyance?

she'll probably be happy to help out. she offered her help and she'll want you to talk to her if you need to. she might actually need the distraction. so call her, she's got no daughters so she will prolly be happy to help out a young girl like yourself. :)

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I am having a sleepover next weekend and i was going to invite one of my best friends but she has been really mean to me.She has been telling me to shut up and to leave her alone.Should i invite her to my party or not be friends with her?

dont invite her. but tell her why. say that she told you to leave her alone and to shut up so you didnn't want her there. shen she sees it's her fault then she will either say sorry and make up or she'll never talk to you again. at least you'll know where you stand!

~ANGE

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my best friend keri was a goody good person and this year this kid started to like her and hes the only one who ever gave her attention so she wont let go of him and he made her do really bad in school and now she has to go to a private highscool and her moms mad mean to her and shes been grounded and so now she dont even care and is bad all the time and her mom told me and our other bestfirned she dont want her hanging out with us only goody goddy people and keri dont even care anymore because her mom never keeps her word so if she keeps doing bad like she is her mom really wont let her hang out with us and i dont know what to do i want her to be good with out makin it seem like im lecturin her

just tell her straight up how you feel. if she brushes you off then at least you know that she isn't the friend she used to be. get a new friend.

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My best guy friend him and I have gone out before and we eventualy broke up but we still had feelings for each other but instead we stayed CLOSE friends he knows everything about me.Well I recently found out he has a gf which i never thought would happen so quick and when i found out i was crushed i began crying i felt terrible.I don't know what to do I'm thinking bout stop talking to him it might help but im not sure pleae help me! thank you either way for just reading.

its called jealosy honey. get a man and flaunt it in front of him. pay backs a bitch.

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