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When you aren't accepted
I am a little anti-social and that is because I am used to getting left out and feeling not accepted. so I was talking to two of the few people i do feel somewhat close to a male and a female that i joke with and talk to often. And, they begin to discuss something that happened in one of the dorms and They said that someone was in lets say the dorm cyrna and i said who was in cyrna and the male said nobody. like I wasn't accpeted and trusted enough to know what they were talking about. Do i take things too personally are what? Because it made me feel like we weren't close at all.
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I know how you feel. I've had it happen before. I understand maybe you have a little of what I have - social anxiety. And so that doesn't mean you have it, it's just a guess. Anyways, maybe try to get them to talk to you more, and maybe earn a little of their trust and respect. If they don't seem to want to accept you, then it's their loss. Move on to different people, because not eveyone's made up of cliques. Open up to other people, no matter how hard it is. Because the more you get used to it, it'll become more natural for you.
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maybe they had been talking for a while and didn't want to have to repeat it all. it's probably not personal. chill out a bit and let it slide. if it happens more often then it is personal. sorry i cant be more helpful
angie
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It might not be that your not accepted it just might be that its someone they know or be tween them and someone else and they dont think that the person its about or whoever told them would appreciate it if they told you or someone else,nothing really personal.You shouldnt worry about it unless this happens alot with numerous and various topics then you could ask them why they dont want to tell you but if its only happened a couple time then dont worry about it..if they had something personally against you they wouldnt talk or joke around with you.If you dont know eachother that well then you just need to know them better and hang out more for a stronger bond to occur.So dont take it hard its no big deal.
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Maybe you took it a little too personal, but that's normal for you since you are a little anti-social. Maybe he only said nothing because it's meant to be kept private?
Try talking to him about it and see how close you two are. or try finding a different group to join to meet and interact with new people.
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Correct. You take things too personally.
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