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Emily prefers to be called/a.k.a em,emz,lili,mimi,lee or emi
13 from England living in Spain - loves; giving advice, making friends, music, photography, the color pink&more ..
hates; racism, terrorism, poverty , animal testing, cockroaches, darkness, sluttyness, being tired


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advice

okay well my so called best friend has been ignoring me and talking a bunch of shit and calling me a bitch and everything like that and she's been doing this for like 2 weeks now. and i asked her why she called me a bitch and she started spazzing out about how me and my other friend ditch her all the time but i couldn't have been ditching her because she won't give me the time of day to do that she does this to me every year she can hang out with whoever she wants but when i start to hang out with someone else she gets all pissy about it..i don't know what to do anymore? i rate good/

She sounds like she's being really two-faced you should ditch her. Just stop going around with her, I know it's hard to just ditch your bestfriend but if she's being two faced she obviously doesn't consider you much of a bestfriend.
Best'a luck =]
♥Em

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i've been seeing my girlfriend for 2 years now and we've always been open about everything but lately she's been acting differently i'll reach out to touch her and she'll jump like she thinks i'm going to hit her and the other night i noticed that she had bruises on her stomach and i hugged her and she acted like i hurt her i think that someone has hitting her and she's afraid to tell me i just don't understand it because she has always told me everything how do i find out if she is being hit and how do i help her if she is being abused?

Sit her down and talk to her about it.
You can't force her to tell her so you have to sit down with her and let her know that she can trust you and that you really want to try and help her.
If something is going on at home like she's being abused at home or something you should tell someone about it. She could get hurt badly. She probably has been hit by someone because after being hit you're normally jumpy and scared someone is going to hurt you.
Like I said all you can do is sit her down and let her know that you're there for her and that she can trust you and that you really want to help her.
Good Luck
♥Em

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ok my friend is in the hospital and she's on life supports because she was beat no one will do anything to help her they don't believe her because she's invovled with drugs and those kind of things but she needs help she can't go back to her house if she gets out of the hospital or she'll just end up back in there how do i get her help?

Was she beat by a member of her family?
If she was, you have to tell someone to help her. There's nothing you can do but tell someone. Let her know that you're there for and give her all the support you can no matter what the rumours are.
You also have to help her get out of drugs when she comes out of the hospital because if she keeps doing drugs things will get worse for her.
See if she's got family living near or anywhere she can stay and if not see if your parents will let her live with you's for a while?
If they say no don't complain - act mature about it and explain to them what's happend and that you're worried she's going to get beat again.
Like I said if it is a member of her family that beat her you HAVE to tell someone. If it was someone else you should try and tell someone about it too but more so if it's a member of her family.
If she does end up living with you you have to tell her that you're doing this for her because you love her and that if she's going to live with you she CAN'T do drugs but even if she isn't going to live with you you've still got to try and get her off drugs.
Good luck to the both of you's =]
♥Em

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I have this friend and lately her parents divorced. At first she wouldn't tell me but then she did and she started crying. I feel really bad for her, how can i make her feel better? She keeps on saying that people will think that she is a divorced child.. But she really isn't. Shes so nice.

You need to be there for her in every way you can support her in every way you can and whenever she feels the need to cry or talk about it tell her you'll be there for her.
Let her know that she won't change and people won't look at her diferently just because her parents are divorced. There are lots of people who have parents that are divorced.
♥Em

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Hey, i'm a 15 year old black girl and at my high school if your a certain color, you are expected to like certain things and listen to a certain type of music.Well i'm not like that i listen to "other" music.And when i say other music i mean stuff liken green day and maroon5 and stuff like that.Also some of the stuff that my caucasion friends talk about i can identify with and some of the more preppy clothes they wear i like.i'm afraid to tell my friends this because i am afriad of their reactions.what should i do?

Tell them about it, if they don't understand and make fun of you then they obviously aren't worth your friendship.
You seem like a great person, if they can't face the fact you don't have the same tastes as them it's their loss not yours :)
♥Em

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Do I have the right to be offended..this girl considers me her BEST FRIEND [we are good friends but not BEST BEST friends]. When we leave a class, she never waits for me, unless her little other friend is absent. When that girl isn't around, she waits for me and she talks to me. I mean, I have other friends I walk with, I just find this, weird.. and awkward you know. And at lunch, whatever I say, it's usually the opposite. I don't really care, but am I wrong to be a bit.. you know.. offended?

It sounds like she's using you, you can either stick with her and let her keep using you or go on a hunt for someone else that's at least less fake than her. There's got to be SOMEONE sane in your school :P
♥Em

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I wanted to tell you thank you for the help with my other question and I also wanted to ask you personally another.
My so-called best friend and I have been "best freinds" for about two years. We've laughed, cried, prayed together. We were insepertable. Well over the summer I moved again and it was really tough on our friendship, but we did keep it together. Well yesterday I called her to talk to her because I hadn't in almost 2 weeks and she told me that her mom didnt like me. I was a bit confused because her mom had always said that she was very please that Claire had a friend like me. So I am very confused. THen later in the conversation she told me that when we first met she thought of me as "a person she would never associate hereself with" because I'm really loud and outgoing and she is really quiet and shy. But in the it seemed like she had pretended to be my friend all that time. And it really hurt. So my question is do you think I should be upset at her or was it just a misconception?

I don't think you should take it personally, she probably just thought you weren't the kind of girl she could see herself being friends with or something. So I wouldn't worry about it :)
but if you're that worried about it you could ask her about it. Just ask her what she meant by saying that and seeing as you guys were bestfriends for about two years I don't think anyone could pretend to be someone's friend for 2 years nevermind BESTfriend and if someone has the guts to do that they have some serious issues of their own.
If you ever wanna talk my screen names are on my column =)
♥Em

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i have a friend that ive been friends with about 4 years and we did everything together. well, i moved about 6 months ago and ever since, we havent really talked...mostly because of me. it just hurt too much to call her knowing i cant see her or anything. i know that sounds crazy but i realize it was wrong now. anyways, she found a new best friend that i dont even know that lives in the same exact apartment complex i USED to live in. my friend is so different now and shes changed SOO much ...she says that since i lost contact with her, she had no choice but to change and meet other people. but, im so depressed about this. can someone please give me advice on what to do? im just so upset. thanks

Like you said you're both so different now. If you were with her in person again you probably might not like the new her. You probably have loads of friends but when you start realising who your true friends are is when it starts to hurt.
You and her obviously aren't as close anymore and obviously aren't as alike now so I think you should just move on I know it sounds harsh but it's all you can do if she's changed so much,
♥Em

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my friend wants to come over, but doesn't have a ride. She keeps telling me to ask my parents, but I'm not going to because it's her parent's responsibility to give her a ride not mine. I kept telling her no and she is buggin me!!ugh! please help!

Tell her that you don't think it's fair on your parents or that your parents are a bit busy.
♥Em

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Do you really live in Spain? I saw your advice column when I was looking at some questions and answers. I've been to Europe(Italy,France,Austria,Germany,Switzerland), but never England or Spain.

Yup =) I'm originaly from England but I moved to Spain when I was 5.

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i can talk to guys fine in person i just sound so stupid on the phone i need some pointers on how to like start in depht conversations oh im 13 female

Just don't worry about it and don't be stressing over it or anything just talk about basics like how his day was or something.
Whatever comes in to your mind whether it's cracking jokes or asking questions.
Good luck
♥Em

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K so I have a friend that is here(where i live) on weekends and I also have another friend that is here 24-7 and of coure there is me! So my friend that lives here all the time is really mean to my other friend! None of us go to the same school so it's also really hard to have a talk with all of us together. We fight A LOT and talk behind eachothers backs! It's HORRIBLE!!! I think befoe we know it none of us will be friends at all! What am I supposed to do to make this friendship work?

I think you all should get together and tell each other what you don't like about the other person and have the other person work on it.
I used to do that with my friends and unless we did it like all the time like every week it would work out fine.
For example me and you are friends and we sit down and do this thing and I tell you I don't like the way you always think you're right (it's an example lmao) so then you have to work on realizing that you're not the only person that's right all the time and vice versa.
Hope I helped =]
♥Em

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My 'friend' is ruining my life!!!!!!! She talks crap on me and ALL of my other good friends all the time! She spreads rumors that arent true! She is a SLUT and she is pround of it! You just can't stop her she is like this bug you just can't kill and I don't know what to do! What can I do to make her stop doing this?!?! She has new friends now, and I know she is going to ruin their lives as well. I dont want them going through the pain I went through because of her. THey say they don't like her at all, but they still are nice to her and hang around her. I know if they keep making her think that they are freinds that she will go around and screw them over jsut like she did to me and my other good friend. What can I say/do to make it stop before it happens? Thanks! I RATE HIGH! :)

Okay first you need to stay away from this girl. She sounds like a right bitch and you definatly don't need her around you.
Next you could tell the other people that are starting to hang around with her that she'll start screwing them over anytime soon and that she'll start bullshitting about them. If they refuse to belive you just let them get on with it and tell them not to say you didnt warn them when it all starts going wrong.
Good luck
♥Em

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First of all, me and this guy have been best friends for 4 years and have hooked up once. When I first met him, he had a g/f but that only lasted a month, and now he is back with her and they have been together for 4 months. Then me and him are together, we get along so good and I really like him. I think he feels the same way about me too because of how he looks at me at times and how when he talks to me and gentely rest his hand on my when he talks. Its burning me up inside because of how I feel about him and he has a g/f. I wanted your advice whether I should tell him how I feel. But I'm affraid that it might ruin our friendship if I do and he will feel akwared about being around me after. What should I do, just wait and see how things go with them or tell him how I feel and may lose his friendship because of it? I dunno what I should do. I think his relationship now is going pretty good and getting serious.

You should wait a week or two before talking to him about it see how things go because you could be mixing up the signs. I used to think a guy was for me when he used to rest is hand on mine and look at me right in the eyes really deeply and stuff and turns out I was very wrong.
After waiting for a bit tell him how you feel but letting him know that if he doesn't feel anything for you you still want to be friends and you don't want him to feel weird around you and let him know (even if it's not true) that you don't want to ruin his relationship with the other girl but you had to get it out of your system because it was bugging you and you had to let him know.
Best'a luck, hun.
♥Em

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my xboyfriends brother just died today, and i i'm not dealing with it very well. i just dont know what to do, it feels like no matter who i talk to i cant lift up my spirits. my boyfriend right now has been doing everything he can to help me, but its not working. even people who arent my friends are helping me, im just not making any progress. what should i do??

I'm so sorry to hear that.
You could try doing something to take your mind off it for a bit, I know it's easyer said than done but getting over someones death is a hard and sometimes very slow process.
Eventually you will get over it just think, your ex boyfriends brother wouldn't want you to be sad, would he?
Just think positive thoughts and stuff.
Good luck, sweetie.
♥Em

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one group of my friends drink a lot and i dont really care that much about it. im not against it or anything. my only concern is that i know sometime i will be involved in a situation where i will be asked if i want a drink... the thing is, i have never drank before, i don't want to say no, but i don't want to get the reputation that i always do that stuff. whats your advice?

oooOOhhH PeeER PreSSuuure... lol

Don't get pulled in to peer pressure crap.
If you don't want to drink then don't. Just say no. If they make fun of you for not wanting to drink then they can't be true friends can they?
Just try not to get pulled in to all the peer pressure stuff because if the next thing they're trying is drugs and you decide to just 'try' that too and get addicted or whatever other shit then you're fucked.
♥Em

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my friend is going out with a guy. she is like my BEST FRIEND EVER, and this guy is 16 and shes 12. im worried because we both know this is an illegal relationship. what should i do?

It's not actually illegal but it's not good either.
Talk to her and see if she can see some sense. What is this guy doing with a 12 year old? I mean, he must be a bit desperate or he's after something because there's plenty of girls his age he could date.
Just sit her down talk to her and tell her that you're worried about her.
♥Em

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Okay so my best friend is all of a sudden being a total jerk to me. She's saying I'm stupid when I'm an A- average student and she's a C average student. She's saying just because it took me a longer time to move up a level in gymnastics means I'm not as good as her when I'm the one who got her into it and she's only moving up a level because she wants to be better than me. I work my butt off to get the scores to move up but she gets a score 4 points lower than mine and she can move up. I have other friends but I spend more time with her. What should I do?

I think she's very jealous of you.
You could try talking to her telling her to quit calling you stupid and that if she really was your bestfriend she wouldn't call you shit or be as nasty and competetive as she is.
If you don't want to talk to her about it just ignore her and get on with it but don't bother trying to be better than her. She's the jealous one, you're already better than her.
If you were a shitty student that's failed most subjects and she was an A+ student but she was jealous of you you'd already be less-stupid than her for not being jealous of anyone :)
Hope I helped
♥Em

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ok i had this 1 friend... but we got in this big fight over a guy and now we arent friends anymore... but she got all these people to hate me even some of my other friends... one of them even brought a knife to school and thretened to kill me... every1 is calling me a slut because i gave her ex head... i didnt even want to he made me do it... and she calls me a slut and the very next day she goes and has sex with her ex... every1 is spreading rumors about me that i have aids and that i give out blowjob... i have been getting nausty phone calls and text messages and i want them to stop... how do i get the rumors to stop? and how do i get some of my friends back?

Okay first tell a parent/teacher/guardian about the knife because if the knife gets bought to school again and things get out of hand someone get hurt or even worse killed (which sounds very dramatic but it has happend - started out as a school fight between girls and finished in someone getting killed)
Next, if this guy really MADE you give him head then you should definatly report him. Don't be scared that he's going to hurt you if he finds out or anything but definatly report him. Only report him if he really did make you if you were willing then don't.
As for the girl, stay away from her. You don't need people like that making up shit about you. Go join some after school activitys like a sport or anything like that and see if you can make some new friends or if you don't want to join anything like that just see if there's anyone around your area willing to get to know you.
Next, the phone calls and texts. Change your number, I know it's a hasle but if you want them to stop you have to change your number at least untill the rumours stop and people see some fucking sense that this girl is bullshitting about you.
and next, the rumours. Ignore them, I know it's what everyone says but there's no use going round trying to change peoples minds, let them get along with it and show them that it really doesn't bother you. Make sure you don't walk round with your head down or don't try to avoid walking past someone who belived the rumours by taking the longer route or anything. Just show them that it really doesn't bother you since you know the shits not true!

eh, that was long but I really hope I helped
and good luck. If you ever wanna talk you can IM me on siimply x emily
♥Em

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Me and my friends, (L), (S), and (E) are planning to perform in a lipsync. The song (S) picked out is highly innapropriate!! We all agree except her. We still haven't told her. We don't want to hurt her so what do we do?? I rate high!!!

Pick a different song that you ALL agree on. It's not fair for three people to pick one song and the other not want to do it, it's really annoying and kinda hurts and makes you feel left out since it's happend to me many'a times. Imagine they did that to you and you didn't like the song.
You should definatly think of one all together.
At least everyone is going to be happy then and about telling her that you's don't like the song she picked tell her nicely and tell her it's nothing personal but you think you should all agree on one song together.
♥Em

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