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lost friendship
i have a friend that ive been friends with about 4 years and we did everything together. well, i moved about 6 months ago and ever since, we havent really talked...mostly because of me. it just hurt too much to call her knowing i cant see her or anything. i know that sounds crazy but i realize it was wrong now. anyways, she found a new best friend that i dont even know that lives in the same exact apartment complex i USED to live in. my friend is so different now and shes changed SOO much ...she says that since i lost contact with her, she had no choice but to change and meet other people. but, im so depressed about this. can someone please give me advice on what to do? im just so upset. thanks
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Let her go. She's obviously moved on and isn't being much of a friend. You need to find some new friends. Join an art class or something.
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You probably miss your friend and it hurts to think about her, but you should try to remember the fun times you had together without dwelling on them. Friends are wonderful people to have in your life, especially when you have a lot in common and hang out all the time, but you have to spend time alone as well. Though your friend may have had a huge influence in shaping who you are now, you must take that experience and continue to move forward on your own. You have to learn not to depend on others for your self-worth. Once you are confident in who you are and truly like yourself (i.e. become your own best friend), you will attract other like-minded individuals. Everyone grows and changes throughout their entire lives, no one ever stays the same, and real friends understand and allow each other to do so without making them feel guilty, even if it means going in a new direction and leaving friends you care about. You'll meet hundreds of people throughout your life who will have some kind of impact on you, so it's almost impossible to keep in touch with them all. The only person you'll always have is yourself. Some people find this philosophy depressing or cynical, but I find it liberating.
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Like you said you're both so different now. If you were with her in person again you probably might not like the new her. You probably have loads of friends but when you start realising who your true friends are is when it starts to hurt.
You and her obviously aren't as close anymore and obviously aren't as alike now so I think you should just move on I know it sounds harsh but it's all you can do if she's changed so much,
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I am not too sure how old you are , however I am 23 years old and have only a few close friends now, when I was younger I had so many but soon learn it's only the true friends that will stick around in years to come. With life being the way it is things change and people change , it is only with this change who you really see who the good and true friends are, from your friends actions only you can see.
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