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ok my BEST guy friend might like me. i'm not sure if he does because his close friend-who is also my close friend-says that he probably does like me.
the reason i don't think he does or that i'm like, pessimistic about it is because we are like, so close as friends that i don't think that we would be anything different.
but the reason why i think he might is because: 1) his/my friend thinks so 2) he called me randomly just to talk (and he usually doesn't do that) 3) he said (while on the phone) 'oh i see ------- (his friend) he's gonna ask me who i'm on the phone with and i'm gonna say a hot girl...cuz its true.' 4) after he said this (and he said it like--seriously) i was like oh i'm sure (me=no self esteem...so i DON'T take compliments well) and he was like 'i love you' and i didn't hear him so i was like what? and he was like 'i love you!'
can you tell me what he might be thinking or feeling...thanx in advance
p.s. sorry for the length

He is definitly into you. From one pessimist to another, there is no real evidence that he doesn't. Just cuz you guys r rly tight doesn't mean he doesnt like you as a gf, in fact, you being his best friend thats a girl probably made him like you. In fact, my best friend just started going out with her best guy friend who she's known forever, but she didn't think he liked her like that, but he did. And he said he loved you, and didnt sound like he was joking. And he thinks your hot, which means he likes you.

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Ok so I have a good amount of friends and everything... but I am a bit shy. I just know I'd have WAY more friends if I was more outgoing. It's just really hard for me. Can I have advice on how to become more outgoing... and what I should do? Thanks.

-Hopeful

You have to be able to say what you are thinking, without hurting anyine's feelings. Be able to joke about anything too. If someone is talking, listen to them, but when they're done, jump in and start talking yourself. People who sit back and just listen aren't usually outgoing. Smile and talk alot, but still be yourself. Like, if you dont have something to say, you dont always have to say something. You just need to be able to joke around with people, and get along with everyone, not just your friends. It may take some work, its not as easy as it seems. Hope it works out!

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My friend Alexa and I wer'e haveing a fight over two Actors on TV and we shared our opinions. but Alexa took mine too seriously and now she won't talk to me. So i said our friendship's over, and she won't WONT reply to me!!!!!!!!!!!! What should I do?

You said she took yours too seriously, but you took her reaction a little too seriously too if you broke your friendship over two actors. Send her a card saying I'm sorry, we shouldn't be fighting over something so silly, etc... She'll probably think it's really sweet to send her a card, even if u see her everyday. If that doesn't work, talk to her through mutal friends. I fight with my friends all the time. If she is really your friend, she shouldn't care about some silly aruement over two actors on TV. Hope I helped.

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my friend is depressed. she always tells me her problems and itold her to get therapy bcuz it helps and ive been through it. but after i tell her this she always says "see thats why i cant count on you. you never help me with my problems" she always makes me feel so guilty. How can i help her?

It depends on what kind of problems she's going through. If it's problems at home, i dont know if there's really anything you can do for her. If it's problems with like a bf or just friends, you can talk to them for her or something like that. But you can't solve everything for her, and she's not being a good friend if she's depending on you to solve all her problems for her (i don't know if that is what she's doing or not though). She probably just needs somebody to talk to.

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Ok, I have this one friend, lets call her A. Last year she was best friends with B, who is now one of my best friends. I don't know what happened, but they stopped being friends this year. I think it's because A started hanging out with another girl that nobody really likes, C. But then B would hang out with C (sorry if this is confusing), and it got me really confused, because B called A a beach(you know what i mean), and that got me mad, because A is REALLY nice. And now I'm caught inbetween them (A and B) because they're really mad at each other. I tried to get them back together, but they're REALLY angry. What can I do? Sry it's sooo long!

Whoa. Something seems to be up w/ friend C. I dont know them, but you do, and u would know if that's normal for her to say something like that. If it isn't, talk to her about it. Ask her whats up, try talking to both of them. Maybe something happened to them that you don't know about. If they wont listen to you, then don't put so much pressure on yourself to try and fix their problems. Write back if you need anything else!

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Okay, two of my best friendsare really good friends between themselves too, but they fight ALOT!! i try to just sit them down and talk to them, and sometimes i'm the go-between, but right now im caught in the middle. Like, at lunch today, they were in the middle of a fight, and not even sitting at the same table, and both wanted me to sit with them, but i didn't wanna choose a side, so i sat with some of my other friends, and they both got mad at me for that!! What can i do? they wont even listen to me!!

You did the right thing by not sitting with either of them. Talk to them, and if that doesn't work, just tell them you're sick of them fighting, and wont talk to either of them untill they make up, and just hang w/ your other friends untill they do. If that doesn't work, write a note to each of them pretending to be the other person, and "apologize" lol, that might be a little harsh, especially if they find out, but then you can explain it to them. hope i could help!

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ok me and my friend ways flirt he hugs me and i hug him . i really like him and all there is somedays where i get annoiyed by him then today after luch i was leaning agaisnt the table and he was right on me facing my butt do u think that in the future maybe we will be together

he might not be flirting, and may just like u as a friend, but it could have potential.

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It seems that I am somewhat different. By this I mean that I am quite mature for my age, and am very outgoing spontaneous person. I am somehow taken granted for by the people around me who I give advice to and listen to their problems. Who am I to turn to when my whole life is falling apart? Basically, what I am trying to say is; How come no one notices I am dying on the inside? Also, why do people blow me off when I am trying to help? Just please come up with something to somehow help...

(I am 14 and Female)

People are unlikely to realize that the advice giver needs advice. You probably haven't realized that alot of the ppl w/ advice columns have actually asked questions too. And sometimes, people wont want help, they just need to talk and someone to listen to. if u need 2 talk, im here 4 u!

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Ok weell my Friend Jazzy has all of sudden become weight concious. Whenever me and my friends would go to the pool she would always complain about how fat she was and everything. I mean i no its normal to do this but once the school year has started she has still never stopped. Whenever i was wearing a mini skirt she would always complain on how her legs are too fat. I feel really bad though because she isnt fat and im scared that she will want to be around us again, because thats the impression were getting! plez help!!

She's a teen. when u r a teenager, ur brain is at the most emotional point of your life. (school, dont ask). All you can do if she's not listening to you is wait for her to shut up and stop complaining. (and i mean that in the nicest way, its just that, if she were actually fat, it would be one thing, but she's not, so...)

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Okay, i have this annoying friend who's always pestering me, but even when somebody tells her she's a pest, she just thinks they're joking. what can i do with out being upfront with her?

Just kinda ignore her, and hang out with other friends. Eventually, she should get the hint and go away.

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Well, i used to think i was popular, not really populer, like the snobby kind, but i had a lot of friends. Now, i feel like i have very few, and most of them get on my nerves alot and they get annoying really fast, and bug me ALOT, and i get mad at them alot too. When i make new friends, i start to like them better, cuz they dont seem as annoying, you know? Even my good friends make me want to scream at them because they seem so stupid, or just dont get it. wat should i do?

You need to calm down, and maybe you just need a break from your friends, some you time. its ok to make new friends too. Maybe you shouldn't be popular if you cant stand the people hanging around you. you and your friends were just drifting apart. it happens.

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I have this one friend, but she gets really annoying sometimes. She'll talk on and on, and i never get a chance to say anything, and im not the quiet type. She always dominates the conversation, and is always being bossy. Most of my friends think she's annoying too, but i dont want her to have no friends, but also dont want to be her friend out of pitty. what can i do?

When she's done talking, just be like, oh, hey, i wanted to say somethin, or be like, shhhh, im trying to do sumthin..., or if u dont wanna hurt anyone's feelings, tune her out and just nod alot. if none of that works, just tell her she talk too much, but say it nicely. Hope it works out!

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My friend and i are both in theater arts, and she got the role i wanted, and i tried not to be jealous of her, but i am. i know she's really good, and deserves the part, but i get mad at her whenever she brings it up, because shes almost bragging. I just really wanted the part, and now she thinks im mad at her, and i guess i kinda am. wat can i do?

All you can try to do is get over it. sry if it sounds harsh, but tough cookies!LOL. Just talk to her about it. There will be other roles, and other plays. Ask her not to bring it up because it makes you feel bad, and if shes really ur friend, she probably wont. And its not her fault for getting the part. just work harder next time. it might not even be you. it could just be that she had the right "look". Hope i helped!

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hi, im 13 and me and my best friend just had a fight,
i've known her 11 years, she was my first friend when
i moved here, and we've been really good friends since
then and more recently best friends, lets just call
this friend Christina malone. We just had a big fight.
and i mean this truthfuly we never fight. it all
started when christina Elissa and my other friend
jennipher were hanging out. jennipher told me she thot
elissa was being a bitch, but in reality she was
covering up for elissa and christina, and before when
jennipher said that i had been mad at elissa and
christina. cuz they were just ignoring me and blowing
me off and it annoyed me so much and i finally felt
like someone understood what i meant. so i confided in
to telling jennipher. later the next day tho i found
out she had been covering up for them. and i just
broke down. Elissa Christina and Jennipher are all my
bestfriends. I felt so betrayed, and hurt. And they
were amdd at me. And Elissa and Christina had a right
too, but they didnt understand how hurt i was before
because i felt they were ignoring me. i felt ditched.
When Jenn said that i didnt mean to say all of those
things like that. But i couldnt take it, bcuz it was
the first time i told somebody. But later on that day
me lyss and jen made peace again. But the one person
who i knew the longest, the one i was very close with,
who was like the other half of me, didnt even hear me
out. And she was madd. But what i told jennipher was
that Christina had changed, change is good, but
christina had changed. Towards me. Before all of us
bestfriends and undivided, but now its just
differernt, i Didnt know who Christina was any more, i
only knew teena. I miss Christina. I feel empty. Like
i dont know what to do. this may be an exaderation but
i feel so lost with out her. In homebase today she
wouldnt even talk to me, i tried to help her by
telling some1 might try to harm her but she ignored
me. she would even look at me. i was madd too, but
mostly hurt.
please help and send me back advice!

Love,
Nicole

I know how you feel. When i thought i was losing my best friend, i was down in the dumps for awhile. But then i talked to her, and we worked it out. It had been just a big misunderstanding. Maybe it's the same in your case. You need to talk to her. Maybe just spend some quality time 2gether, just the 2 of you. She might feel that you've changed, or sumthin like that. Hope you work it out, tell me what happens btween u guys. Er..girls :)

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OKay my 2 friends and i are in a fight because it all began when they started taking drugs, smoking, and drinking! i felt uncomfortable so i left them alone and i kind of ignore them too! so anyway today my other friend tells me to come sit at the same table as them i did! well they didn't give me the time of day! last i heard one of them is smoking weed afterschool and it all started with these girls they have been hanging out with! What should i do? My other friend is determined to get us to be friends again! I 've already tried talking to the 2 of them but they won't listen! What should I do? I rate!!

They need help. You may think it's nothing right now, but we are talking life and death. Seriously. Maybe you should talk to a counselor or sumthin, because really bad things could happen, and you could have to deal with the guilt. Sorry if this makes you feel bad, but i gotta tell you the truth. Drinking is one of the worst things you mentioned. I dont know if you guys are old enough to drive, but if one of your so-called friends got in a car and was drunk, she could get herself and innocent bystanders killed. Smoking is really dangerous for your body, sorry if i sound like a teacher or sumthin, but you need to know, and people can get sick from secondhand smoke. Drugs are just as bad, and your friend could get arrested! If you dont think you can talk to somebody who could get them to stop, you need to just make other friends, because those people can only bring you down in life. I hope i helped!

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sometimes i don't think people know the real me..especially not my friends. they almost seem like they know nothing about me. i don't even trust them. please help...

People only know what you can tell them. You need to talk about yourself more. I'm guessing your the shy type, right? Be more out going, and try to find someone that can relate to you, and become good friends with them. It's always easier with a best bud.

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hey! well me and this girl have been friends since i could remember! im a girl too and i am 13. it use to be that i could talk to her about ANYTHING! but lately i have found that i cant talk to her the same way. now whenever i have some secret to tell her i feel embaressed and usually i just dont tell her at all! she has no idea about how i feel with anything thats going on in my life right now. and i feel like i need to talk to someone....but not her! i start crying a lot lately because of all the stuff thats going on in my life and i feel that if i could talk to someone i would feel muchhhh better. but i cant talk to her. what should i do? its just not the same as before! thanks

Do you have another good friend you could talk to? It sounds like you and her are growing apart. Mayb eyou just need to talk to someone else, even if its just like a sister (if you have one). If you don't talk to someone, and keep it pent up inside, it will build up, and get worse. You can always talk to me, or prob. anyone else here. That's what we're here for.

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