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They take me for granted...
It seems that I am somewhat different. By this I mean that I am quite mature for my age, and am very outgoing spontaneous person. I am somehow taken granted for by the people around me who I give advice to and listen to their problems. Who am I to turn to when my whole life is falling apart? Basically, what I am trying to say is; How come no one notices I am dying on the inside? Also, why do people blow me off when I am trying to help? Just please come up with something to somehow help...
(I am 14 and Female)
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You don't sound mature for your age, you sound conceited. "How come no one notices I am dying on the inside?" everyone our age feels that way. This isn't an isolated situation. You probably think it's cool to be a loner, and that because of it you're somehow deeper than your peers. Depression isn't a good thing. Stop focusing on yourself, and look at the vast world around you. Get outside of your little environment.
-Farren
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Wow. that was deep. All I can say is... DON'T COMMIT SUICIDE. Trust me, my friend tried to and I was so scared. But about the whole no one notices you. Are you like, really, really nice? If you are, then people are going to think that you are problem free. Try to get them to realize that your happy outer shell is not what it seems
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you have to let trustworthy people know about your problems instead of waiting for help.
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Ive Been There Before So Trust Me On This One.just Talk To Your Friends About Theyll Come Around Hope I Helped -brittany-
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People will never know you're sad unless you tell them.
Look at your situation - people come to you for help, you advise them, etc. They obviously think you've got a clear head, and if they've gotten used to you being the one who sorts everyone else out, they might forget that YOU sometimes need sorting out.
Find a friend or two you trust and tell them how you feel. It takes a strong person to open up and be vulnerable, and it feels incredible once you start getting support. Telling people how you feel will help you get help.
And as for people blowing you off when you try to help? I would say that you probably shouldn't offer advice unless they ask for it. People who aren't ready to hear other people's opinions will usually ignore the advice giver.
So basically? Build up some two-way relationships with people, full of give and take...honest, genuine, and open.
Best of luck.
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People are unlikely to realize that the advice giver needs advice. You probably haven't realized that alot of the ppl w/ advice columns have actually asked questions too. And sometimes, people wont want help, they just need to talk and someone to listen to. if u need 2 talk, im here 4 u!
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Don't let them take advantage of you. Don't be bitter. Don't be sarcastic. Everyone is concerned about what they want. Speak up for yourself. People, friends in general, usually won't listen to a friends advice because they are too close to you. Thats why they blow it off.
~Nokomis~
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