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My name's Kendal and i'm 17. I've been through quite alot of stuff, from heart breaks, to messed up parents with drug addictions & not being together, to fights with just about anyone about anything. I'm the youngest of 7 children, 4 brothers & now two sisters. In school I use to be the kind of girl who thought they were better then everyone else, and was the popular bitch who played varsity basketball & softball as a freshman. Alot has changed. After my older sister died things sort of started coming into perspective. And i just wanna help ppl out now. If you need anything about anything. I'm here to talk, help, listen, whatever. I dont judge, and i usually can understand where the ppl are coming from. My lifes had alot of ups and downs and i really just wanna help out. I wish i would of known about this site a few years ago! Currently i have a boyfriend, Chad. And i usually hang out w/ him and my friends after school and on the weekends. I'm super social, and i think easy to talk to. So ask me anything! Btw the user name's from the song, from the tv show; 8th and ocean. If anyone was wondering. ha. MUCH LOVE!
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hey everyone... well i need help... well my mom doesn't trust me at all anymore!!! its because i lie to her alot!!! i've tried to stop!!! but its rea;;y hard... && i do things behind her back like talk to guys... and she doesn't want me doing that either!!! so how should i get her trust back?
If you wanna get her trust back, i would start w/ showing her that you can be responsible & doing what you say you will do. Start helping out around the house more & do everything you say you're going to do. You have to commit to not lying anymore either, you cant continue to lie to her if you want her to trust her. Just think about everything before you say it, make sure you're going to do what you said.. nothing more or less then what you said & all that stuff. After a while of showing her that you are trustworthy & responsible, i think she'll trust you more :] Hopefully that helps.
Well, whenever me and my two best friends hang out it's all good and we're all happy and talkative with eachother. But lately, this one girl has started to come in and talk to us and whenever she does, I tend to get the left-out feeling. I'll talk but my two other friends'll be like,"Wait, what did you say?" and they sort of pay more attention to her and walk with her more. So basically, I get the boot. But like I said, whenever she's NOT there we're all completely fine and everything.
I just don't know how to handle her whenever she's there.
It's getting to the point that whenever they want her to hang out with all of us I have to make up a lie of some sort so she wouldn't be able to come along.
Help?
Ah. Thats a hard one. if i was you i think i would just really try to include yourself more. or like sort of invite another person that your good friends w/ to come along when you guys all hang out, that way if you do start feeling left out you'll have your other friend to sort of lean on and talk to. And i dont know. Maybe if you start bringing up old memories w/ those two friends of yours, they'll start having alot to talk to you about. And sort of remember the old times that you guys have had & then you guys can talk about that. I'm not saying to leave the other girl out, but that way your somewhat included more. I'm sorry if that doesnt help alot. Good Luck tho :]
My 2 best friends [who arent even that good of friends with each other] went out last night with a few guys and this girl who are considered cool. My friend invited me to go, but I didnt want to because i wasnt exactly invited by the others. So my best friend went and asked my other friend, and they went and had a BLAST. they then had a sleepover afterwards and couldnt stop repeating how FUN it was. It got me pretty pissed, and they left a message on my fone saying that they didnt think we could be friends anymore because we get in to many fights? Im not sure if they were kidding but I dont know what to do. My friend is really not that social, but over AIM last nite she basically told me that she was sooo cool becuase she is friends with them and im not. what do i do. i need advice.
They seem REALLY mean first off. And if I was you I would quickly make new friends. And kind of ignore those two. I def. wouldnt start fighting w/ them and i wouldnt make it seem like you didnt want to me friends w/ them anymore, because by the way they seem they'd prob just make a huge deal out of nothing & turn it in to some un-needed drama. But make new friends. I dont know what grade your in, but coolness doesnt last very long in school for the most part. Dont let them know that they got to you tho, thats what they wanted when they left that mean message on your phone. But yeah your in a hard situation, you obviously dont wanna start anything but you dont wanna just take it. BUT WHATEVER YOU DO, once you get other friends.. and when they wanna be friends w/ you again, dont go back. Their not worth it, and they dont seem like the kind of friends that would stay by your side and be there for you. Well good luck :]
I feel like lately i've lost a lot of friends for the main point that I don't really care for the things they do... I've always felt older than I actualy am and I can't really get along with most people my age... But I have trouble making friends with older people because they don't take me seriously or give me a chance because I look like i'm a 15 year old "hooligan" i suppose ((i'm 18))... Actualy, I have trouble making friends in general. Anyway, It seems like most of my "friends" have abandoned me and that has kinda made me feel a bit down lately, but the few times i've hung out with them, I just don't feel like I belong anymore. I feel left out. Everytime I feel like I actualy belong somewhere or I feel like I fit in with a group of people, it always turns out that I don't... And it's not like I start a fight or anything of that sort... I just never feel like I belong.
Personaly, and not to sound cockey, but I like my personality and the way I am and i'm not the type to change just so I can fit in with a bunch of kids... But a part of my personality is that I like people and I just get down easily when I'm alone.
There's no direct question, Just want some opinions on any of this or advice.
Thanks.
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Alright. My brother use to tell me a similar thing about his friends, he always felt like the dad in the group because everyone else was immature. And he use to try and do the things they would do w/ them, but it was never fun for him, because his personality was totally different. But anyways, heres what he did. He started hanging out w/ people on his sports teams, not i dont know if you play sports but they have so many different ages and groups that if you like something similar a frienship can began there. But also your 18, which makes it hard to just pick something up, or anything like that. Plus if your a senior in highschool you might be the most mature one there. I would just try and find ppl a year older then you, and if they dont take you serious, move on to a different group of ppl older then you, someone eventually will. Two of my best friends are in the grade above me and i think it makes it almost a stronger relationship, you dont see them as much, but when you do boy do you got alot to talk about.
*thats just my opinion* to really try and make friends w/ the peopel older then you. And if that doesnt work think about just spending some time alone, sometimes just spending a weekend by yourself can be fun. Possibly find guys to hang out with, yeah they can be even more immature but you'll expect it and you wont be doing the same things that you do w/ the girls. Lastly, look for some family. If you have any cousins close in your age that live close i think they are always fun to hang out w/, they basically like you because they've known you for so long, and they might be feeling the same way.. if its in your blood. ha sorry if that wasnt to helpful. I tryed. MUCHO GRANDE LOVE.