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Feeling left out.
Well, whenever me and my two best friends hang out it's all good and we're all happy and talkative with eachother. But lately, this one girl has started to come in and talk to us and whenever she does, I tend to get the left-out feeling. I'll talk but my two other friends'll be like,"Wait, what did you say?" and they sort of pay more attention to her and walk with her more. So basically, I get the boot. But like I said, whenever she's NOT there we're all completely fine and everything.
I just don't know how to handle her whenever she's there.
It's getting to the point that whenever they want her to hang out with all of us I have to make up a lie of some sort so she wouldn't be able to come along.
Help?
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One thing you gan do it to put how you feel to your friends calmly and collectively. Don't yell. Also, it sounds like you are a little bit afraid of change. That's okay, but you need to accept it. Any chance you could try to get to know her too? I have met some good people this way. Hope I helped
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Have you talked to your other friends about her? Just talk to them and they will most likely listen!
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That is so weird. Ive had this problem about 6485 times and I thought I was the only one who felt this way. Chances are, the only reason why this girl is getting more attention from your friends is because shes new. And new is interesting. But soon, its going to wear off and your friends might get bored with her or start giving her less attention. It doesnt have anything to do with her being better than you. Also, I suggest getting to know this girl. If your friends like her, she must be nice. So, invite JUST her over your house one day to get to know her. If nothing happens, then you need to talk to your friends about how you feel. But, I advise you to wait it out before you do so. If you talk to them too quickly, you might come off as jealous or attention craving. If none of these work, then just invite your friends to hang out - without the other girl.
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You should try hanging out with the new girl to your group just one on one. She probably doesn't know you as well as she knows your two friends. She probably feels like she's left out at some times too because you three have been friends for awhile already.
If that's not an option, talking to your friends is always one. They'll probably understand where you're coming from because everyone knows how it feels to get left out. Maybe they'd be willing to hang out with you sometimes and with her other times. I suggest getting to know the girl a little better, though.
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mikela thinks.
well. there are two ways to aproch this.
1. you can tell your friends maybe its just me but i feel kinda left out when that girls around.. i mean if theyre really your friends they will understand, i mean mind would.
2. when she come you can try being cool with her. like try talkign to her. try to like get more into the convo with her. does this make since. like if shes says, isnt that the cutest cat. be like omg it is i have a cat like that..da da da da da continue on. if you cant beat it..join it.
that or you can just not hang with your friends when theyre with that person. but that will kinda cut you out on alot of gatherings. the best thing todo is tell your friends how you feel,
ana think:
well.next time your hangin out with just you and your two friends let them know that its bugging you and you feel like they are totally leaving you out. let them know you arent trying to breakup there friendship with this other girl, but it really makes you feel bad when yall all 4 hangout because you feel so left out of everything. dont be whiney about it. just be mature about how you bring it up and how you tell them. they seem like really great friends and im sure they will understand
good luck=] IM me if you need anything else.
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Ah. Thats a hard one. if i was you i think i would just really try to include yourself more. or like sort of invite another person that your good friends w/ to come along when you guys all hang out, that way if you do start feeling left out you'll have your other friend to sort of lean on and talk to. And i dont know. Maybe if you start bringing up old memories w/ those two friends of yours, they'll start having alot to talk to you about. And sort of remember the old times that you guys have had & then you guys can talk about that. I'm not saying to leave the other girl out, but that way your somewhat included more. I'm sorry if that doesnt help alot. Good Luck tho :]
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