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ok so my dad hacked my Fb account & saw a message of me asking a boy for some weed. but i don't use it i was just asking for another friend.
but he doesnt believe me & i dont really care but i regret asking that boy for it cause i wasnt gonna buy some i was just curious & my friend also wanted me to found out if he still sells it.
but IM CLEAN. so monday im supposely getting a urine test thingy. idk. so what should i do to convince my dad i wasnt gonna do it, or buy it. i was just curious.
P.S he doesnt believe me cause i get in trouble A LOT at school (not paying attention, yelling at my teacher, cutting myself.) & he doesnt believe me but i stopped. & i never took the weed or anything. Ughh. ohh well what are the consquences for this?

Well let's face it - it wasn't the smartest move asking for weed. and whether you were going to smoke it or not, the fact you were even TALKING about it at 13 years old is enough to automatically lose trust for you.
Just take the urine test and prove you aren't on drugs.
It's not gonna make him trust you again straight away, but it sure as hell will help!
Take the test, prove him wrong and start putting more effort into excelling in school, not causing trouble.
He's just doing what any dad would do. You'll understand this more and more as you get older.
Let me know how it all goes - good luck!

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ALL ANSWERS AND ADVICE WILL HELP SO PLEASEEEEE COMMENT!!! ;);)

Saturday I am having a big party for St. Patricks Day where there will be alcohol. Obviously. However, I have a bacterial infection down there... (NOT an STD) and today I was given Metronidazol (250mg) to take 3 times a day for a week to get rid of it.

But apparently you CAN NOT take it with alcohol. I guess it can make you very sick. So... should I wait until after Saturday to take it or should I start taking it now and then maybe stop Friday, Saturday and Sunday and then continue? I'm not gonna ask my doctor cuz she is near impossible to get a hold of and my dad works at the pharmacy I go to and he doesn't know I drink...

I Need Answers ASAP so I know if I should take it tonight or not!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!

You are right. Consuming alcohol with that particular medicine will make you extremely sick - it's what they give to alcoholics so they can't drink.
I know it's frustrating that a bunch of tablets can ruin a party but your health is more important here.
You can't start taking it, stop, drink, then start taking it again, because it just won't work - antibiotics take a little while to do their thing, that's why you get a course of them.
If you really want to drink, then don't start your course until Monday/Tuesday, because if there's still alcohol content in your blood, it can also make you sick when you start mixing it with Metro tablets (or metro gel).

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It hurts to go to the bathroom and I've had this problem before 6 months ago, I went to the doctor and they had to look at me and then they gave me some powdered white stuff to drink. I'm not comfortable with a doctor lookin at me though. Now it hurts to poop and it stings
A couple of days ago when I try to poop there was kind of a lot of blood, but there isnt anymore, it just stings and hurts. What can I do to get rid of this pain?

We aren't doctors but a doctor wouldn't be able to diagnose you over the internet anyway.
The symptoms you have described could be caused by a number of things.
Make an appointment asap to get it sorted and stop suffering.

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ok i have quite a few questions like 1.i have a really bad pain in by lower back i don't actually know what sort of pain it is. 2.i have been vomiting uncontrollably.3.my tempratures been sky high.3.down below hurts when i pass urine i went t the doctors and they ruled out a kidney infection. please help soon!!!!!!!!!! i am 13 yeas old.

What.. so the doctor has ruled out a kidney infection and that's it? They're not finding out what's wrong?
Get whoever takes care of you to take you to hospital to be treated there. When it comes to your health, don't mess about. Don't forget, it's such a busy time of year at the moment, so get it sorted out whilst you still can.
Noone here will be able to tell you what it is just from reading your symptoms - lots of things have the same symptoms. You need a thorough diagnosis.
I hope you have a speedy recovery.

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When i use the bathroom i do my buisness and wipe a couple times after i pee. when i come out i can smell pee! its imbarasing and depressing. i have a large labia minora, how do i wipe after i pee?

Are you sure there's an actual odour and you're not just getting paranoid?
Do you have any other symptoms or is it just the fact you can "smell pee?"
If it's quite a strong smell of urine, I suggest visiting your doctor, as there are reasons for this, ranging from not drinking enough fluids to an underlying problem.
In the mean time, I suggest drinking plenty of water to dilute it - it might not smell as much after that.
and as for wiping properly, don't just give it a quick dab.. you say you have large labia, so make sure you don't leave any bits damp - as it could be something so simple like having dried pee in your undies which is causing the smell!
Buy some feminine wipes, then blot yourself dry with tissue after using them.. see if it changes anything.

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How do i shrink the outter lips of my vagina? I believe they are called "Labia". Is their any natural way to make them smaller or just surgery?

Why would you want to do that? They all come in different shapes and sizes, it's natural. You should learn to be happy with what you have.
but in regards to your question, the only way to "shrink" them would be to have surgery.

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what can i do to prevent my face from getting oily throughout the day? i wear a loose powder oil free foundation, but at school by around third period my face is super shiny and its AWFUL. does anyone have any ways to prevent and any quick fixes for my oily skin problem?

Next time you go shopping, look out for shine control blotting paper. You basically rub it over the oily area and it absorbs it, leaving a lovely matt finish on your skin. You can use them whenever you want and they're completely hassle/mess free.
If you have trouble finding them (they can be in the make up/skin area of the store) ask a worker!

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17/f , I'm kind of a hairy girl and I have been made fun of for it almost my whole life. When I was 15, I started shaving EVERYTHING including my legs, arms, underarms, and stomach. Now, I completely regret it because it's growing back too thick and feels gross when my boyfriend touches me. I want to stop shaving my stomach, but the hairs grow back disgustingly, noticeably thick . Is there anyway i can make them thinner or less noticeable?

Shaving is a quick way to get rid of hair, but it just grows back too quick. I've never noticed mine to come back thicker though, I assumed that was an old wives tale - are you sure it's not just the way the hair is growing which is making it appear thicker? Perhaps you're shaving the wrong way?
Either way, alternatives to shaving which you'd be better off doing are waxing, bleaching, or hair removal cream.

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Im only 13 so i don't have a lot of experience with guys. This boy just told me he liked me, he is a great guy and i like him too. The problem is that i'm almost a head taller than him, and if we ever kiss it would be really awkward. What should i do?

Who cares about height? You said you like him too, so why don't you just go for it. Kissing isn't awkward if someone's shorter than you. Boys don't always have to be the taller ones. :)
Plus, he will have many years left to grow, don't sweat it!

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I just got my braces off, and I have the retainer for my top and bottom teeth with wires. I've been wearing them when my orthodontist told me to, but tonight (3rd night) it feels different when I put it in. It kind of hurts one of my upper left teeth, and I'm terrified that I put it in wrong and that all my teeth will move! How can I be sure that I put it in right? Is it normal for my teeth to hurt a little when I put it in? I tried taking it out and putting it back in 5 times, but there's just no way for me to tell. Help!!

Yes, retainers hurt, especially when you just get them. I remember mine used to ache quite a bit.
To be honest, there's not really a wrong way to put them in. Did your orthodontist not put them in for you or show you/tell you what to expect?
If you think you're doing it wrong, just see your orthodontist again. Or if you think they're fitting your teeth wrong, make another appointment. I remember my retainer came loose once and needed a few tweeks.

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Whenever I get fingered by someone, I have a dark almost like a discharge thing. I really like to get fingered and stuff like that, but I think it's gross that I have discharge. What is it ?

What do you mean by "dark"...? Is it blood? This could mean you're doing it a little too hard.
It's good to be wet down there when engaging in sexual activities... it's your natural lubricant and means you're excited. There's not a lot you can do about it either than keep some tissues handy for when you're done.

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I've been getting migraines a lot i had stopped for a while but they came back , followed by dizzyness im afraid ill faint and no one will know. Point is i need advice on what to do advil or aspirins etc arent working please help(: thank you.

Migraines are awful, awful things.
What's really important though.. have you actually been diagnosed by your doctor? If not, don't assume.
Plenty things can trigger a migraine, including certain foods, stress, etc.
If you have already seen a doctor, go again - I received different pills than your every day painkillers and they worked a charm. Tell him/her how bad they are and they might be able to give you stronger medication. Also, you could find out the reason why you are getting them.
Either way, make an appointment asap. You don't have to suffer with them!

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is a tampon or a pad better. and which brand of each is the best.

There's no right or wrong answer, it's whatever you prefer.
Try both out and see which you feel most comfortable wearing.
People differ depending on how heavy they are and what they are doing, for example, sleeping in a pad and wearing a tampon when doing sporting activities.
Personally, out of most people I know, I seem to be the only one who isn't the greatest fan of tampons.. although I will wear them if I know it'll be better with whatever activity I'm doing.
Don't forget, tampons run the risk of Toxic Shock Syndrome.. and you wouldn't want that.

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would u really think it would be ok if i let my dog eat me out?

It's bestiality.. and no, it's really not okay.. not to mention all the bacteria inside a dogs mouth.

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I'm now 13, I started my period when I was 10 . Ever since than I have been the same height and bra size??

Noone here can be certain how much you're going to grow, but what we can tell you is you've got years of growing left to do, sweetheart. So sit back, wait it out and enjoy life :)

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I've had my navel pierced for 5 months now.I was cleaning it this morning and when I dried it up with a Q-tip there was a little blood and a bit of yellow discharge but it wasn't a lot or seeping out of the holes. My belly ring isn't red, I don't have a rash, there are no bumps around it, and it's not inflammed or has green pus. Does anyone know if it might be infected even though there are no other signs?

Maybe you banged it without knowing - you should remember that a naval piercing is a trickier one to heal - 5 months isn't that long.
Sea salt soaks will be your best friend for the next few days. 3 times daily, 15 minutes each time - just hold the soaked cotton wool ball over it and relax. The water shouldn't be cold - boil the kettle first and use that water (obviously let it cool down a little bit before applying to your skin!)
Don't put ointments on it, because they get trapped inside the piercing creating more damage than good.
Happy healing! :)

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I got my belly button pierced about a week ago. I clean it with salt water and I put antibiotic ointment on it. I clean it 4 times a day and add the ointment on every time I clean it. But now there is a red circle around the piercing about the size of the top ball and its peeling. It doesnt hurt anymore unless it gets snaged or its pushed on. I dont touch with my hands not even to put the ointment on I use qtips. In the morning there is crusties but I was told thats normal. What is wrong with my piercing? Is this normal? What do I do to fix it? Should I take it out? Please help. Thank you.

Just thought I'd add an answer to this as I have lots of piercings.. All the salt/ointments you're putting on it is probably drying it out, creating the red/dry skin.
You don't need to clean it 4 times a day. Once/twice is enough and stop with the ointments. Perhaps reduce the salt in the water too and I bet it clears up!

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my piericing is stuck mmm like the flat side is stuck in my lip whaat should i do?

I have my lip pierced.
How long ago did you get it pierced? If it was recent, swelling does occur and makes it seem like it's sinking in to your lip - this rectifies itself when the swelling goes down and when it's healed, fits snugly.
but if you think it's actually getting stuck in there (I can't tell because I can't see) you will need a longer bar and possibly one with a bigger disc. Go to a piercer and get it checked out sweetie, without a pic and more info, it's impossible to 100% say.

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for the past week ive been experiancing intense pain on the right side of my lower stomach. It lasts for hours at a time and then stops and comes back again.What could it be a sign of? Should i see a doctor?

Could be a number of things, which is why you need to see a doctor asap, to pinpoint it and give you the correct medication.
We can't tell you exactly what it is over the internet.
http://www.medicinenet.com/abdominal_pain/article.htm

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I'm 13, and I haven't started my period yet..... I sometimes feel sort of like I'm " leaking" and then in my underwear, I feel wet, but it's not a period because it's colorless ( or sometimes opaque) and it's kinda sticky..... Ive always been paranoid, but no matter what I search or read I can't find anything like it! I'm really starting to get worried. Is there something wrong with me?????

Thanks for inboxing!
It's totally 100% normal. It happens to all us females. It's just something called discharge, the vaginas natural lube/cleaner. You might find you get more or less at certain times of the month.
Only time to get checked out is if it has a foul smell/change of colour.

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