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i'm Ange, a 19 year old female aussie and i love helping people! I am willing to help with almost any issues you may have... so feel free to ask me. i wont judge you on what you ask so dont feel embarrased. :) but beware! if you ask a stupid question with a logical answer, i will be very blunt... and remember...
*~respect yourself~*

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I love my brother with all my heart. I would do anything for him and he knows it. Im 14, he's 17. He's barrowed money from me never paid me back. I bailed his butt out've jail once because his car wasn't expected, and I'm 14! I've been saving up money for cloths, whatever and I spents a lil over 200 of that on him. He need's gas money, he needs this he needs that and when I don't give him the money he makes me feel guilty because I just went shopping and boughta 30 dollar purse. Well I work for a friend of the neightborhood, I do yard work.. anything because I know my parents can't afford some things I might want. I want him to learn and me bailing him out's not going to do that. I've tried telling him that if you keep running away its gunna make tomarrow harder to live than today so he needs to get a job and stop moocking off his LITTLE sister. I don't wanna constantly worry about him. Yess I know my parents should worry but there so rapped up in there own lives I could go missing and they wouldnt know for 2 days. I dont blame them, there live are important to, but enough is enough! He's planning on runningaway to go to my aunt precillas and needs money. I told him no! He;s like whyy not?? So i explanned to him that its barrowing its giving and that you need a job and he got all mad me.(couldnt careless) Well He called me 3 in dah morning saying he needs a ride home and he told me where he is and that hes wasted, So i get my Bf's mom to do it. She understood and actualy apoliized to me, I gave her gas moeny to go all the wa down there and for inconvinice, and I started yeling at him. Calling him a bum asking how it feels to be dependent of his little sister younger by four years who has more money than he has had in his whole life and That was the last time I talked to him. Im worried about him. I feel bad for saying it o him but its the truth and he needs to understand im not gunna be there 24-7, If i have plans in not gunna drop them cuz he needs a ride.

G'Day mate, i reckon the only way to help him is to stop helping him. i know he makes you feel guilty if you dont bail him out but you need to work through that. as long as he knows he can talk you around he will continue to do so. it must be really hard for you but he needs to stand on his own two feet.
hope i helped

~Angie

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my cousin asked me if i would ask this boy out for her so i did and he said that he didn't like her but he said hell no iam not going to go out with her and now somebody spread a rumor that i told everybody that they go out and now my cousins mad at me for something i didn't do what should i do?

just tell your cousin straight up what happened. if she is still pissed then she doesn't trust you so who cares?

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hi! im 16 turnin 17 soon and im going to be the maid of honor in my sisters wedding and she asked if i was going to write a speech and im not sure...i mean i really want to because then it would be special. her best friend is also in the wedding and she is going to be the matron of honor and its either one of us will write the speech or the both of us could write a speech. i thought she might want to write it more than me because she is more creative in writing then i would be. what kinds of things could i write? if anyone has written a speech for their friend or family member in the wedding then please help out! please and thanx

oh yeah im very shy and i have a hard time talkin in front of people.

the best thing to do is be sweet. i know people say to try be funny but down. it'll be a complete flop. just say how happy you are. my sisters 21st party was huge and i did a speech. i hate speeches too but i wrote a poem. it made it easier.although she started crying then i cried. we all cried. lol. but it was good. from the heart. just speak from the heart. if you REALLY cant do a speech, do a photo collage or something. when they ask you to stand up. say something like 'i wish you all the best and love you so much, we all do. and give her the collage. i dunno. up to you.

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hey,
well you know how my sis and bros are always getting me into trouble even with things i don't do,my dad always hits me for no reason and sometimes my sis does something bad and blames it on me and my dad hits me,sometimes for no reason..there's never one day were he doesnt.. he hits me about 4-6 time a day for things i didnt even do..i tell him i didnt do them but he doesnt believe me he believes my sis and bro cuz they are younger,i try talking to my mom but she doesnt listen or believes me anyways she is never home so she never sees how my dad treats me,i want to talk to someone in my school ,a counsulor(w/e its spelled) but i'm shy and scared i dont want my dad to go to jail or anything but i just cant stand it anymore when he hits me like mad for absolutly no reason..and also bosses me around i understand thats his job but...i mean he tells me to pick up my SIS OR BROS OR HIS stuff but its not fair why cant he boss my sis and bros around i mean its there mess sometimes i tell him 'why should i its not my mess why would i need to pick that stuff up'..but he just hits a bunch of time and i csnt defend myself cuz he might keep hitting me harder and that hurts....what should i do? (i sometimes think about cutting but thats not the way out of a problem so i dont i just hold in my anger?

go to a counsellor. dont be scared. its not your fault. he deserves to go to jail. no man should be able to get away with beating an undefensless girl... especially a 'father'. get help and get out of there. it will only get worse. if you think he's gonna all of a sudden think 'oh, i'm doing the wrong thing. i should stop.' it wont happen. get help

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Last night I just figured out that my mom, dad, and sister (that's my WHOLE family) just parished in a car accident. I can't seem to control my anger. I keep thinking it's my fault and I throw fits. My school counselors try to help but I hate them! The worst part is, I'm only 11 years old, and I'm being sent to a child's homeless center in 1 week.

this is VERY difficult to answer. but i'll try my best... for starters i cannot even imagin what you are going through. props to you that you are even talking. i'm not all churchie or anything so i wont tell you to find god or anything like that but i will tell you that i believe your family are in a better place. and i believe they are looking out for you. you also have to try not to blame everyone else. it isn't the counselors fault that you family passed away. so, try to let them help you. i know all you want to do is cause others pain so they know how you feel but that isn't going to help. you will be living with other children who have been through the same kind of thing as you so you can relate to them. try not to let your anger ruin any friendship that you might make at the homeless centre. i'm sorry i cant help any more... but if you need anything... i mean ANYTHING feel free to e-mail me at angiemills88@hotmail.com. good luck with everything and talk to someone. if not councellors, a good friend will do. try not to blame other people!

luv
angie

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Hello everyone i have a grandpa ( sorta ) well he doesnt talk to me ever i try calling him to see if he would like help around his house and garden and stuff but he says no ill ask katie to do that. On Forth of July last year i was trying to help clean up and then mii cousin ran in and spilled water all over the gradage on top of me so when she was sitting in there i did it to her and i got "grounded" to my grandpas basement by my grandpa. He has Ryan, Me , Jon , Katie , and Jessica as his grand children but he is always bragging about Ryan mii older brother and my 2 cousins Katie and Jessica its like he doesnt even notice me and my little brother. Please Help Me

he doesn't deserve your love and attention. dont try so hard. he will either realise what he's missing or not. if he does... YAY for you. if he doesn't then he's a stupid bum with no respect for family. so dont stress about it. Dont call him. Dont offer to help. Be civil when your with him but dont go out of your way to accomodate him. find someone deserving to give your attention to. like your little brother. he is in the same situation as you. dont grow apart from you younger sibling. mine passed away and i wish i had one. you never realise how good something is until you lose it.

~ange

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I have a 17 yr old nephew that I am fairly close too and really care about, yet not close enough where he trusts me enough to talk openly and honestly with me.
A couple of weeks ago he got into some trouble in school. This is the story he told his parents (my sister is his mom) and the school principal. A kid his age threatened to beat him up in sixth period, and even shoot him. Come sixth period, the guy took a swing at my nephew, infront of all the other students as well as the teacher, my nephew ducked, then punched the guy in the face. Then everyone was cheering them on when the another teacher broke it all up. Long story short, my nephew gets suspended, and since this was his third suspension, all for stupid, stupid actions on his part, he was sent to a local continuation high school. Coincidently enough, so was the bully who threatened him.
I fear for my nephew. I want his entire family to move out of their bad neighborhood, but they are too scared to face the facts. I am on the outside looking in, and I can only imagine what the future holds for my nephew and his other siblings.
My nephew appears to have no aspirations for anything. I have always been the nice uncle who has freely experienced the world. I want to help him, I want him to see that there is a HUGE world out there just waiting for him, but how? How do I help him see outside his little box?

you could invite him to spend some time with you. take him outside the box so he can see it personally. good luck.

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my dad hits me. and i'm really afraid of him. when he comes home from work i stay in my room. but whenever i do something wrong. even when i get less than an A on a test he'll hit me and say i'm not living up to my potential. i don't know what to do. He hits my mom to and i get badly bruised from the battles. what can i do? who can i go to? and is there anyway possible that i can get out of my house and be adopted or something? help me Please.

you need to go to the police. its all you can do. if your mum has stayed with him this long i doubt she will leave him now but you can ask her to. you need to tell the police the next time it happens. and if he is beating your mum call the police while hes doing it. if the police say they cant do anything about it tell them that he will hit you if you dont get out and ask to stay at a friends place. you need a close friend with a nice family that you can tell. tell her parents so they know whats happening and ask to use their house as a safe house. then, whenever your dad hits you, go to your friends and call the cops. your in a difficult situation and you must be careful because he might do more than just hit you next time. so tell the police and they should sort it out. if your dad has to go to court and you have to testify, do it. dont be scared coz if you dont he will hurt you but if you do he will go to jail.
goodluck!
if you need anything at all e-mail me at angiemills88@hotmail.com

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my parents are divorced and i live a hard life....and what really frustrates me is when i see my dad and his gf making out... it makes me sick to the stomach!!!what will make me not feel this way????
♥ indeed2

divorces are hard on kids. but you need to realise that your father has to move on... you cant change how you feel but accepting it will help. your parents are seperated. your father has a girlfriend. so what??? my parents are divorced, both have remarried, i dont care. as long as they are happy. so think of it that way. your dad is happy. thats good.

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i don't have a question but i read your advice to the girl who didn't know who she was and i think you did an excellent job and gave great advice!
xO LiSA*

oh thanks! :) it's good to know my advice is appreciated. :)

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i live in a two family apartment and my aunt lives in the room below me and she got a new boy friend and every night and day all i hear is them screamin and mooanin and the bed squeeking they have already broke 2 beds and are buying another and i hate both of them i only my baby cousin grey i feel bad for him i want to adopt him but im only 14 but im his god mother i guess that counts what can i do about both problems?
-Kaylor

SHIT. you need to talk to someone. but not the cops and dont specify names. they could take your cousin away. find out your rights and if you can talk to your aunt. tell her that she is treating your cousin wrong and that he's gonna be scarred for life. ask to take care of him for a while or you'll go to the cops. keep me updated at angiemills88@hotmail.com good luck.

~Ange

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Ok well my sister tells me everthing. And this weekend she went snowboarding in frisco w/ her friends and boyfriend. And all her friends and her drink under age (she's only 17)and my mom always tells her not to drink or do sex. And our family friend who was only 17 died 2 years ago from achohol poisining. And I know there's going to be sex and drinks up in the mountains. Im just scared and I really want her 2 stop. Help. Wut shood i do?

you HAVE to talk to her. seriously. if you get desperate you can always threaten to tell your mum. but that might break her trust in you. just tell her how you feel and that your scared and hopefully she will listen.

~ANGE

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OK this is a really hard question to write. My parents got divorced when i was in 1st grade, and i live with my mom. Lately she and i have been fighting alot. i love her and everything, but she is just really stressing me out. ive told her this, and she does better the next day, but as soon as its a week later she totally forgets. My Dad is an air traffic controler and so h works weird hours. Me and him have a great relationship and rarely fight with him my question is, should i take a break from my moms house and move in with my dad for awhile or deal with her? Thanx!!!!!!

nah go stay with your dad for a bit. tell your mum that you love her u just need a break!

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when i get older im thinking about like adopting 2 kids and having 2 kids, does anyone have any ideas on why this would be a bad idea? i want to adopt because i dont want all my kids to have the same traits as me, but then i wanna have 2 of my own because having a baby that came from you is..good, right? do you think i would favor the kids i created over the ones a adopted?? suggestions, please??! thank you~~~!!!!!!

why dont you wait until you actually have a kid. they are a handful and you mightn't want 4!!!

~ANGE

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My brother in law is living with me and my husband.
I don't mind that he's staying in our house. What I can't stand is that he is messy. He'll go into the kitchen and get something to eat and not put it away. He'll get a glass of juice and not wash his glass. Not only does he not wash it, but he leaves it on the kitchen table for me to do it.

What do you suggest I do?

confront him. or better yet confront your husband. tell your husband that his brother cant stay at your house unless he learns to clean up after himself. just say it in the nicest poossible way and add that you dont want it to come between your relationship so you better figure it out before it does. good luck!

~ANGE

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I didn't know what to put this under but i truley need some advice... i will rate rate you high even if you just try. I'm got in a fight with my teacher today and i got arrested and my mom picked me up at the jail a few hours later. I have court and that was my last strike so i am gettin sent away. this has been streesing me out all day , and i can't stop crying. The hardest part was seeing my best friend crying in my arms and telling my boyfriend.. ne ways what I'm asking is what should i do or say that will make everyone feel better including me.

if your a serious problem child and everyone knows it then put on a brave face and tell them all that you are going to go away and change. tell them you have your mind set on figuring your life out. your family especially will be proud that you realise you need help. so tell them that when you come back you will be better. tell them all to keep in touch. Good luck honey.

~ANGE

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this probably happens alot.. me and my best friend came to a public school for the first time.. and she met a guy who shes supposedly in love with.. it bothers me alot because they are constantly together and she totally ignores me.. but when hes not there she acts normal around me. i told her about it before and she apologizes.. but she does it over and over again. they are always showing pda and they always have to be alone. im not jealous.. i just want my friend back

she isn't a really good friend if you ask me but heres something you could do... tell her that b/f's leave but friends are always there. tell her that you want her back as a friend and if she still doesn't change then ignore her. hang out with others. when she comes crawling back coz her boy dumps her DONT take her back. she needs to learn a lesson.


~ANGE
*~respect yourself~*

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I hate my life and I have a lot of problems. My dad left me when I was 3 years old and he lives in Tenneessee with his girlfriend and my half brother. I only get to see them once a year on Christmas. My half sister lives about 45 mins away from me and I only get to see her about every other weekend and on some holidays. My mom lives about 30 mins away from where I live with her boyfriend. They are getting on my nerves because she wants me to move in with them and I don't want to be away from my friends or switch schools again. I live with my grandparents. I have gone through a lot these past 2 or 3 years. I moved away from all my friends in the 3rd grade (Im in 7th grade now), but my best friend changed to the same school as me. Then She moved About 2 and 1/2 hours away in the 4th grade and I didn't even know untill about 2 or 3 days after she left and I hardly ever get to see her. Also school is really stressing me out. A few days ago I cut myself and im thinking about doing it angain. I snap rubberbands on my rist and I get bruses and scars from it. I am thinking about going goth but im probably not. I just have a really bad life. I was wondering if anyone could give my any advice on how I can try to make it better. It's ok if you can't i know it's probably hard to give advice like this. Please and thanks.

~*~Britt~*~

look. dont hurt yourself. what does that do? does it make your life better? NO! so stop. you may have some bad things in your life but whenever you get depressed think of your grandparents! they obviously love you, to have taken you in. and if your mum keeps pushing you to move in with her just tell her straight that you are happy where you are. and about your best friend... 3 years ago my best friend left... really far away as in a 6 hour flight... and i didn't know. a week later she still hadn't come to school and i was worried (her mum had just died) i tried calling her but no luck. she called me and told me her dad was an ass and she is living with her godparents. 2 weeks ago she moved back, she lives with me now and we are the bestest of friends. so dont worry. if you are really that close then you will keep in contact and be together one day. if not then there ARE plenty of people out there. you will always have people in your life you just need to try to be their friends. good luck. keep me updated and if you need to talk e-mail me at angiemills88@hotmail.com

~ANGE

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hey .. can someone on here .. like be an internet friend to me? & help me out ? because im going through alot right now and i just need someone to talk to .. my AIM sn is HARDC0REx EDN0LB .. and please dont IM me saying .. TELL ME WHATS RONG .. cuz i dk thats just not what i want .. i just want a friend.

sure! if u dont wanna talk about certain stuff we can discuss the difference between wherever you live and australia!!! (no i dont ride a kangaroo to school. lol) i havn't got aim but feel free to e-mail me at angiemills88@hotmail.com i have MSN too.

~ANGE

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ok my grandma used to live with me and she passed away(in my living room) and everytime i close my eyes to go to sleep i see her laying in her bed and she is Dead i do not know what is wrong with me! i have not been able to get to sleep for awhile. Does anyone know what i can do without seeing anyone??? Please help me
~~~~~~~I'll RATE A 5 ~~~~~~~~~

nothing is wrong with you. it's all part of the grieving process. you need to come to terms with your grandma's death... in time you will sleep again but in the meantime the only thing you could do is see a doctor and find out if theres anything you can take to help you sleep. good luck honey.

~ANGE

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