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Grandpa
Hello everyone i have a grandpa ( sorta ) well he doesnt talk to me ever i try calling him to see if he would like help around his house and garden and stuff but he says no ill ask katie to do that. On Forth of July last year i was trying to help clean up and then mii cousin ran in and spilled water all over the gradage on top of me so when she was sitting in there i did it to her and i got "grounded" to my grandpas basement by my grandpa. He has Ryan, Me , Jon , Katie , and Jessica as his grand children but he is always bragging about Ryan mii older brother and my 2 cousins Katie and Jessica its like he doesnt even notice me and my little brother. Please Help Me
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You can tell your parents that it seems like he doesn't care about you and most likely they will address it to him and he will explain himself. Then, tell him that it makes you feel the way you do.
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I am sooo not my Grandmother's favorite that I completely understand how you feel. She didn't see me as a person worth dealing with till I was 18 and she broke her ankle. Of the three people there I was the one who took over and directed my Grandfather and aunt into calling the paramedics and putting the dogs in the house. Then I took care of her until help arrived. Until that moment she'd had no use for me whatsoever. I've known why for years, my mother. Sometimes when a parent doesn't like one of thier children, and my G'ma can't stand my mother, they take it out on the grandchildren if those children remind them too much of the child. I am my mother's child. We are very much alike. You can't change the way someone feels about you. I know it hurts, but I was lucky to realize that I was disliked very young, about five. Even at 31 it still hurts abit, but it is a part of my life that I've accepted. I'm sorry for you and your little brother. The only thing you can do is be yourself and try to accept that your love and attempt to win approval will most likely never be resiprocated or successful. I'm sorry. Big hug and much understanding!
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I hate it when grandparents chose favorites. It could possibly affect you for the rest of your life. Ask your mom or dad to talk to them for you about showing favoritism (whoever's dad it is) and make him understand how it feels. My grandmother did that to all of us cousins, and we really aren't close because of it.
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It sounds like you are doing everything you can to help. I guess if he doesn't want it to bad for him. Have you asked your mom why he is acting like that? Maybe she could shed some light on the matter.You're doing all ya can kid so you've nothing to feel bad about.He may regret his actions one day though...sooner or later you'll get sick of trying.Good luck
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sorry buddy, I think you're the pariah. either that, or he thinks you're the shit, and wants to toughen you up by being an asshole.
-hitler
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well if he doesn't care about you you shouldn't have to waste your time and energy on sumthin that looks bleek. but i do think it's odd for him no show you and yo brotha no respect. but all i have to say is that if you love him a lot you might ask him why he doesn't care about you, or you might forget about him and see how he feels. if he doesn't seem to notice forget about him being a grandpa, make him more like an acuaitence. you diserve respect.
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he doesn't deserve your love and attention. dont try so hard. he will either realise what he's missing or not. if he does... YAY for you. if he doesn't then he's a stupid bum with no respect for family. so dont stress about it. Dont call him. Dont offer to help. Be civil when your with him but dont go out of your way to accomodate him. find someone deserving to give your attention to. like your little brother. he is in the same situation as you. dont grow apart from you younger sibling. mine passed away and i wish i had one. you never realise how good something is until you lose it.
~ange
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You should really talk to your grandpa about this cause i wouldnt want my grandpa to do that to me.. i actually wouldnt want any part of my family to do that to me.. tell him how you feel about the whole thing and why you fee like that and tell him how he treats you cause he might not notice that he does it..much luv dez x0x0
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listen babe dont let him get to you. Hes old and cenile and well ur "new grandpa" is here for ya -mike
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