I'm a girl and I'm 15. My mom has always hit me when I did something wrong. She stopped when i was like 12 to this year. Now shes starting again. And its for stupid stuff like me forgetting to put my pajamas in the hamper and then me talking "fresh" to her because shes yelling at me for a stupid reason. I don't have an attitude utill she yells at me. Then I do. And then sometimes i get hit. One time when I was 11 she hit me with a cat litterbox. Just a few weeks ago she punched me in the back of the head repeatedly. It was hard enough to hurt and leave a bump. Then the same like 5 minutes she was about to punch my face, then i answered the ringing phone so she stopped. I could defend myself. But if I do, i'll get punished. And because that is totally unfair, I'll try to go against it and yell and get hit again. I threaten my mom that i'm going to get her taken away. My question is is it possible? I don't have any bruises or any proof, except my hatred for her. I really want her to get send away. I can't take it anymore. Next time she hits me, its either going to be me or her who will leave. By the way, my dad is a nice guy but he doesnt defend me. I hear him yelling at her sometimes. And when she randomly talks mean to me he'll say "what the hell is wrong with you?" or something like that. But she hits me when hes not home. I know he doesnt love her. I think he does, but just because shes his wife. I one time found, what i thought was, pictures of stripper on his phone. Please help me
This is wrong your mom shouldn't be punishing you for no reason. sounds to me as if she's taking out her frustration on you which is wrong . The next time she hitts you or tries to hitt you calmly ask her "why are you hitting me" but don't say it in a way that'll get her started just calmly ask her why and after she's done hitting you tell her " what was the purpose of that? Do you feel better about yourself?" if she continues treating you this way I'd get help as much as you don't want to get taken away from her its not worth sticking around getting left marks and pain for nothing. As for your dad what he's doing isn't enough he should put his foot down and put a stop to this he should be helping her deal with her issues by not taking them out on you . I'd get HER help not you simply because you haven't done anything wrong and she's the one doing everything wrong I'm sorry you have to live and deal with this I hope you get her help .
Good luck
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i straighten my hair every other day because theres nothing else to do with it. my dad & mom found out that they did, told me i couldnt do it anymore because it damaged my hair. so they took my straighteners away. honestly, ive talked to them SO many times about my hair being straightened. they said i can't ever do it again. so i have no clue what to do with my hair. it looks bad natural and i need to straighten my side bangs, but no i cant do it. they hid my straighteners 2 times, i found them and used them, and they found out again and threw them out. honestly i have nothing else to do with my hair. it looks so shitty you have no clue. please help me, no curling, scrunching, braiding, buns, pigtails, ponytail, anything like that. im going crazy i have no clue what to do.
Try and bargain with your parens make deals with them about how you'll do this if they give you your straightners back and how you'll promise them not to use them a lot only on weekends. Why don't you make your mom pick the days you can straighten your hair? That way you'll show her you care enough to work this way. You know there are hair products you could buy to fix damaged hair and you can use them while straightning your hair . Google hair products on damaged hair and show your parents
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My dog just died. I' mreally sad. I feel funny inside too. I don't know what to do. I don't want to forget him, but I feel hurt. Like someone justkicked me in the stomach. My question is: Where was God? Hm? Answer that? Where was Mr. Hig hand Mighty?! Answer that!
--Izzy Uchiha! T/_\T
I'm sorry for your lost and I understand why your so upset with god but god isn't to blame for y your pet passed away.
Every one and everything has to pass away its the way of life and when we pass away we either go with god to heaven or burn in hell. Your dog was taken away to a better place he was taken for a purpose so that he could rest peacefully although it hurts to deal with the fact that (he/she sorry you didn't state what it was) is gone you'll understand.
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Well, let me clarify that I am not at all racist in any way, shape or form.
My mom is, though. She's always talking about African Americans as if they were criminals or something. She's always saying "Don't hang out with those black kids" or "Those black people are trouble/mean/not proper/etc" That's my MOM's view on them. Not me.
Well, I want to take a extracurricular activity & the only places that teach that activity are in the city/downtown. And my mom doesn't want me going there and stuff because "The place is filled with black people and it's not a safe/nice environment to go to." But I really want to take that activity and I hate learning through videos and DVD's. But there aren't any place else where I live. I've googled & looked on yellow pages. And my mom doesn't want to drive me there often. So what should I do about this?
I can maybe convince her that I won't be drugged or killed. [She always thinks I'll get drugged, raped, or killed even if I go to like a friend's house. Paranoia.] I mean she encouraged me to take on the activity herself but now that she knows where the schools are located at, she might be backing out of her words...
Let me just say I know how you feel I have a friend who's dad is against african americans and its just awful how parents stoop that low
there's really nothing you can do about your moms opinion towards african americans but how she's acting is really not necessary for a mother to act especially at this age . She can dislike african americans but to not allow you to go to a certain place just because they might be around is stupid she needs to understand that there going to be around every where no matter where you are in life. Try making her understand this .
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i'm 16yrs old, &&' my mom found out that i smoke marijuana. I told my cousin, my cousin told her mom, and her mom told my mom. She's all crying and stuff, because she found out. My mom and dad both smoke marijuana, so i don't see why she cares. My mom isn't like a regular mom, she asked me why i didn't tell her. And it's because hes not the mom to talk about sex or stuff like that. I just yelled at her to get out of my room, when she asked me why i didnt tell her. Now i'm mad because i thought she knew all the times i came home and smelt like it. And i'm afraid she'll tell my dad. What do i do? please help in any way!
your mom is only upset at the fact that your following in her and your dads bad footsteps you seem to see them doing it making you believe its ok for you to do it WHEN ITS NOT! But then again I'm not going to ramble on about how bad it is for you bla bla but your mom shouldn't be surprised I mean if she's doing it then obviously your going to think its ok
about her telling your dad all I can say is that its going to happen but maybe you should try talking with them mayb try to tell them that you see them doing it making you think they wouldn't care and how you really didn't mean to have her find out by some one else that it only happend because you feel you can't talk to her about anything.
Hope I helped =)
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I am finally getting a job, so when I told my parents about how I won't need their money to go the mall anymore I felt mature and glad I wasen't going to have to keep asking them from cash. Well, in the middle of the conversation my mom was like "You do know that you are putting a third in the bank and giving a third to us right?" I couldn't believe that I have to pay them my money. My dad was like "Well what about our hard earned money? We give it to you two (my sister and I) all the time. Besides the family needs it." Um hello, isn't that what you two are for? My mom thinks since I have a job I have to pay "room and board" WTH?! Are my parents being unreasonably rediculous here???
(Keep in mind I'm earning minimum wage here, so saving up for anything now is foolish)
Ok first of all let me just say one thing ....I SO KNOW WHAT YOUR GOING THROUGH!! Because that same thing is happening with me my parents want third of my checks too trust me I've tried arguying about it with them tons of times and that doesn't help I've tried reasoning with them still that doesn't work its ridiculous and really low how they act this way but if I were you I'd try those two options *reasoning* *arguying* I don't know your parents so maybe there diffrent and maybe it will work
Hope I helped =)
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my mom says i dnt love her but i show it in my own way wat do i do??
it seems like your mom is asking for attention when really it should be the opposite try communicating with her more often in a way that wont get her feeling the way she does such as helping her out or even suggest having a mother daughter day out go out for breakfast; take a walk;buy her something hey! mothers day is coming make this one special
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My uncle has the hotts for me. What should I do?
I know because:
1. At family gatherings when I wear things like short skirts, he always asks me to bend over to pick up random stuff he doesn't need.
2. He always follows me especially when i go to the bathromm or am getting changed and since i'm his only neice he ignores everyone else and says i am "special"
3. One time our family was watching a movie and he MADE me sit on his lap.
4. He offers to shop for bras with me. My mom passed away a few years ago and he feels obligated to replace her or something.
He keeps trying to invite me to sleep over his house but luckily, i've been busy. Whenever i'm alone he's always there and he sometimes say's things that make me feel uncomfortable.
What do i do?
hunn you have to someone about this or atleast confront him with some one else in the room tell him that youve been noticing alot of wrong things and that it makes you feel uncomfortable but most importantly be careful
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