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mom found out
i'm 16yrs old, &&' my mom found out that i smoke marijuana. I told my cousin, my cousin told her mom, and her mom told my mom. She's all crying and stuff, because she found out. My mom and dad both smoke marijuana, so i don't see why she cares. My mom isn't like a regular mom, she asked me why i didn't tell her. And it's because hes not the mom to talk about sex or stuff like that. I just yelled at her to get out of my room, when she asked me why i didnt tell her. Now i'm mad because i thought she knew all the times i came home and smelt like it. And i'm afraid she'll tell my dad. What do i do? please help in any way!
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you yelling at her to get out aint cool
i dont know why shes flipping out cause
sehe smokes to
what the hell kind of example is that
*but your dumb but shouldnt go around smokig pot either...
STOP SMOKING POT!
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You need to talk to her. You need to keep yourself as calm as you can and try to figure this out as a family.
The easiest way I can explain it is this.
Adults do things that they do not allow their children to do. They do these things this way because their children are not fully formed individuals. Your parents have made thier choices and have set themselves up enough in life that they already have success. They are supporting themselves and have managed to raise a daughter to 16 years of age. They have earned the right and proved both to themselves and others that they can handle the responsibility of maintaining their own lives while having a habit.
You havent done these things. You havent gotten to a point in your life where you CAN do these things yet. Parents dont want teens like you smoking weed because while they have the perspective and experience to keep a habit in check, they dont know if the same can be said about you. You arent old enough to have proven that you can be effective in life while allowing yourself vices.
The reason we have age limits in society for intoxicants, and tobacco, and things like that is that a certain level of life experience and maturity is required to make what society deems responsible decisions in regards to them.
They want to know that you can handle your life without drugs before you start injecting drugs into your life, basically.
Im explaining this so that you understand WHY your mother cares that you do, and why she more than likely does not want you doing it. She doesnt know if you can do it safely, if you can keep yourself under control and not let it affect you badly. And she doesnt want to risk the impact a mistake could have on your life.
Thats why you need to have a talk. And you yourself need to be open minded. Your parents obviously think that as an overall moral and life choice that weed isnt evil or anything like that. You need to explore as a family the risks, the costs,benefits, and your readiness to begin acting more like an adult.
Keep something in mind. Your parents are your safety net. They love you, and they want the best for you. Sometimes you and they will disagree on what is best for you, and how to get there. While you still are under 18, while you live under their roof and they provide you that safety net, it is your responsibility to respect that. So if they want you to stop and you refuse, respect their house and keep yourself safe enough that they never find out you disagree.
If you are going to disobey your parents in this do it so well that you never get caught, and keep an eye on yourself that you dont fuck up your own life. Because if you take on the responsibility alone you should be confident that you can handle it alone.
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your mom is only upset at the fact that your following in her and your dads bad footsteps you seem to see them doing it making you believe its ok for you to do it WHEN ITS NOT! But then again I'm not going to ramble on about how bad it is for you bla bla but your mom shouldn't be surprised I mean if she's doing it then obviously your going to think its ok
about her telling your dad all I can say is that its going to happen but maybe you should try talking with them mayb try to tell them that you see them doing it making you think they wouldn't care and how you really didn't mean to have her find out by some one else that it only happend because you feel you can't talk to her about anything.
Hope I helped =)
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Stop smoking. That aint the way to go. Thats why she is upset. Because she knows it isnt a good thing to do. You cant get a job like that. Not a good one anyways. People are starting to test hair these days and it stays in your hair for a long ass time. Bad habit to have picked up.
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