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does anybody have any tips on how to become at peace with yourself and accept yourself? i know its not something someone can just tell you how to do but any piece of advice would help. thanks in advance.

What i did may be different than what you may want or do. What i did was this:
I became more in tune with myself and tried to really understand myself and relax before i could get ready rebuilding my life. You can't just keep the cracked foundation and reconstruct the building on top of that...you have to do it from the ground up. So i started meditating, tried to even out my life and sort it out like laundry-kept the good friends and good things about my life and dropped the friends that weren't the best for me and got rid of all negativity. If someone was bringing drama or negativity i didn't want it. I expelled the bad and tried to rebuild and add on that 'good'.

So like i said, i meditated, i started listening to relaxing music, i read buddhist quotes and Confucius quotes, started reading a book called 'The Secret' and watched the movie, and started doing things that would improve my life.
I found myself, and in turn my confidence came with it.
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im a 16 year old guy who is 6 foot 5 and was 180 pounds i am now 130 am i an idiot for losing thT MUCH WEIGHT but before i lose weight i was unhappy can anyone tell me whats wrong with me

You were about the right weight for your height before...and now i fear you are drasticly underweight. Maybe you were feeding into the pressures of needing to be thin and skinny?
I suggest to see a doctor, he should tell you the proper weight for your height and age.
If you are eating regularly and not binging and purging you should be okay for the most part. But if you feel something is wrong or feel weak, i think you should change what is making you feel as so.
Wish you the best.

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15/f.

I'm obsessed with myself..
like...not in a healthy way.
I used to VERY self conscious. But then...after losing weight and growing and stuff...I find myself to be okay looking.
And so I started to take pictures.
And then more and more pictures. Until I had a humongous library of pictures of me alone..
I can't stop. I don't know WHAT to do..I have SO many pictures of myself, and I take more and more and more.
Gah. Mirrors as well..jeez...I'm obsessed with them.

What do I do? O_O I want this to stop.

I agree with BitsandPieces ont his one. I think you stating that you weren't so confident before and you liking how you look now is a key fact in this all. You weren't use to the beauty and attention and weren't happy with how you looked, and now since you are you are taking full advantage of it all. I take alot of pictures aswell, but i do for how i look at the moment. Like "oh my gosh my makeup looks so pretty right now, let me take a picture of it," or "wow...look how fit and lean i look today..lets take a full body shot instead of just a 'top half' shot".
You want varification that your not just dreaming or percieving youself a certain way... that you actually are gorgeous right now and are loving yourself as you should be. I think maybe you should focus your photographing into a healthier form of capturing beauty...
take a picture of the sunset, a flower, a field of daisy's, or the rain drizzling down you r window on a rainy day. You can even include yourself in them sometimes...like take a picture of you laying in a field surrounded by flowers, on a cliff with the ocean behind you, things that you can share with other people that could help them feel better after a bad day. I do this. Photography is an amazing and gratifying hobby. Sometimes someone is like wow... this picture makes me feel so good, or calm or even beautiful(if i take one of someone).
Spread the love... you know your own beauty so why not help people feel happy and bautiful too. We need more people like this in the world.

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17/f.(really long, but please read) I was supposed to have a doctor's appointment next week because I have been having panic attacks, and my mother thinks I'm depressed(I think it may be bipolar, and I pretty much said that to her but she doesn't care), and for a bunch of other things. Well, my mother canceled the appointment because she has something to do. So, she told me that I pretty much can not get into the doctor's for three weeks! It's bullsh*t! I know I have to see someone before something bad happens. But it feels like my parents do not give a damn. They truly don't. The only reason she made an appointment was because my grades dropped because of everything. All she cares about is my grades, and college. Well, for me to get into college, I need to fix what is happening right now to bring up my grades. She doesn't see that. It feels like she is always blowing this off, like I'm faking or something. I know what a panic attack is, and that's what is happening. The only reason I know-I actually talk to someone once in awhile. I talk to my teacher from last year. I had a bad panic attack in his room before and he talked with me. Helped me understand some things and it felt better talking to someone. I've talked to him a few times. He understands what is going on with the panic attacks and he knows I have mood swings. So he knows almost everything that is going on. But I told myself that I won't talk to him anymore after I went to the doctor's, because....well that's just how I am.....I'm like convincing myself that he is getting irrtated with me and doesn't want to hear anymore. I always tell myself things like that...I don't know why. I feel comfortable talking to him though, I don't know if I would if I talked to like a social worker or something. I don't know what to do now that I don't have an appointment. I feel so awful and like no one cares. I'm falling fast. I'm starting to hurt myself too now. Snapping a hair tie on my wrist til it goes red and numb, and today I scratched my arm til it went red and numb. I'm really afraid that I'm going to do more, more often. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. It feels like I have no one to talk to, no one cares. I'm lost.

Oh gosh, I know exactly how you feel. I had to convince my parents to take me years after I asked them initially. Its a long story, but basicly now I'm being treated. I have depression/anxiety/sleeping problems/ and anxiety attacks.
I know how it feels to feel like you're talking to a brick wall. Like they 'hear' you, but they're not 'listening'.
Your teacher seems like a comfort zone for you and you shoul keep it-just if you like... Keep it limited. I think if your mom won't make an appointment your school would help get you one. When something like that interferes with school and how you are affected in school relations they step in. Does your school have a counselor (not a grades and classes councelor, but a talking one-on-one kind)? If so make an appt with them, or your school could help you find a cheap or free one in your area. Mine gave me a list a while back.
Also, tell your mom what's been happening in your head. I can feel it somehow... The darkness and confusion your transmitting out. I hope you find your peace.

If you ever want to talk, my email is on my page.

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im kicking off with freinds, beind down aroudn my girlfreind and its puttin her down, im stressing n my cousin as texted me their soem shags for me when he knwos i have a girlfreind and i showed my girlfreind and she was bein off, and now she was puttin down the fone on em when i tried with her. my school is make me have a downer, i need help i dont really knwo what im goin through. im always being depressed, aggresive, and having fantasies abotu gettin hit by a car

First of all... Do you want to be with your girlfriend or not? Sounds like some things you do, she doesn't approve of. Does she make you HAPPY?? If not, you have to let her go and find someone who does. No one can run your life but yourself, so if someone wants you to do something use your own judgement. It seems like your friends, your cousin, and your girlfriend all want different things from you... But what do YOU want? Ask yourseld that, eliminate in your life things you don't, and try to go after the things you do.
Its hard when you're trying to please everyone, but you only have one life, and I always say "Make it count". I think what others think is weighing you down and putting stress on you. I think not being able to make them and you happy is also depressing you. It may even aid in your anger-and being angry can cause angry thoughts like the fantasy about being hit by a car. I say try to clear your mind. Keep asking what YOU WANT, and keep your cool about things that just bug you. I think you'll be alright.

Goodluck!

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15/f

I have some really strange things that I do.
I'm constantly talking to myself (but not really talking out loud, just sort of just mouthing what i would say if i were talking to another person.)
And If I've just walked away from having a convo with someone, I keep repeating what i've said to myself for like 20 minutes after.
I can't focus on ANYTHING no matter how hard I try and I'm always oblivious to everything.
I always isolate myself in social situations because it's the only thing I feel safe doing. I never say anything to anyone because I know that they won't want to talk to me.
I feel like people are watching me when I'm alone and I worry that people can hear my thoughts. I know that's irrational but it doesn't make it go away.
I'm also in some kind of negative mood all the time- be it sad, mad, upset, lonely, etc. I never feel happy and when I smile it's fake unless I'm laughing at something.
I'm always horny and I can't stop my sexual behavior even in public.


so just tell me what you think is wrong. am I schitzophrenic? (sp?)

You may be a Sociopath. I'd see a psychiatrist, babe. You may be 'socially awkward'-its a term, I'm not insulting you in any which way. I really think you should try to get a psych evaluation, it may give you peace of mind. Really only someone like that can officially diagnose you and help you with any further treatment you may have.

Goodluck & hope all goes well.

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I think i need counseling. I haf anger issues and me and my very best friend (friend fer 10 yrs)got into a massive fight and she said that she wasnt my friend ne more and i cut myself all over and then i started hyperventalating. i couldnt feel my hands or my feet and the room was spinning and she called me and i was freaking out on the fone with her and i was so afraid. we worked things out but i think i need help idk waht to do im so scared.

What you had there was called an Anxiety Attack. You were too stressed. You need to calm yourself and please try not to cut anymore. The scars suck to have to cover up later on.
Just try to see a psychologist and keep everything zen. Try some yoga or meditation sometime.

Goodluck.

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14\f.
Today has sucked. For months know ive been completely moody, and it ruining everything.
Whyy am I for one moment happy, laughing and enjoying myself, next completely sad.
Its weird.. Im not on my period. Im not PMSing!
My Mother calls it hormons. I call it being depressed because im always in a bad mood. then maybe for a day ill be hyper, happy then crash and wanna stay in bed forever.
Help!

Maybe you have depression, but it sounds more like mania to me. I just answered a question like this and you can see the answer on my advice column. I'd see a psychiatrist and get diagnosed if I were you. As for your mother, let her know that she needs to be more supposrtive and more empathetic for your problems. Also, I'm not sure if your heading has anything to do with how you feel or if its a random title, but if it does, maybe your making yourself sick thinking your fat. Like I said, I'd see a psychiatrist.

Goodluck.

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Is this some kind of personality disorder im going through?

I jump from happy to angry to sad to just about different emotion to the MAX so if i am happy, im really really happy, but if i am angered by little thing, i get so aggrevated and mad.

I act on my emotion, such as yell at people, punching walls, swearing like crazy (which i have stopped now), saying i hate someone, and then pretty soon after, I just feel so sad and bad that I had done all that and regret so much.

Is that some kind of disorder? I would love to get that checked out by some kind of therapy, but my parents thinks im lying and they are kind of in denial because I said i need some help because I am sick and tired of crazy mood swings. They basically doesnt like to think there's something wrong with me, especially mentally.

It sounds like 'Mania' to me.
Mania is the terms psychiatrists use to describe a state of elevated mood, rapid speech, grandiose thinking, and agitation that can occur in several different illnesses, but which is the hallmark of bipolar disorder, previously known as manic-depressive disorder.

Approximately one percent of the population develop bipolar disorder during their lifetime. And if you have been diagnosed with depression its important for you to know that one out of four people with depression develop a manic episode- at which that diagnosis should be changed to bipolar disorder. As with depression, bipolar disorder may be a manifestation of an imbalance in signaling between neurons, the cells in the brain.

Do a google on 'bipolar disorder' or 'manic-depressive illness'.

Goodluck with your diagnosis.

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