0OHKAY S0O iM BACK F0R S0ME M0RE ADViCE ;
i WAS RECENTLY iN A RELATi0NSHiP WHiCH DiDNT LAST MORE THEN A MONTH (WE DECiDED T0 BE FRiENDS] BUT i STiLL HANG 0UT WiTH HiM AL0T && HiS FAMiLY L0VES ME ! (LiKE WE SiNG KARA0KE && WATCH MOViES WiTH HiS MOM && DAD ALL THE TiME]
SO0 THE PROBLEM iS i WANT HiM BACK . i REALLLY LiKE HiM. BUT HE G0ES T0 AN0THER SK0OL && F0R SOME REAS0N i GET THiS GUT FEELiNG THT iT W0NT W0RK 0UT =/ (MY GUT FEELiNGS ARE USAULLY RiGHT]
&& 2ND PR0BLEM iS i LiKE THiS 0THER B0Y NOT AS MUCH BUT i LiKE HiM && i D0NT WANT T0 BE WiTH HiM BUT HE REALLLLY LiKES ME && i DONT KNOW H0W T0 TELL HiM THT i D0NT LiKE HiM AS MUCH AS HE LiKES ME .....
Well, glad to hear this isn't the first time you've come to me :) I'm always here to help. First thing i think you need to do is tell the first boy that you still have feelings for him. Tell him that being around him had made you realize that maybe deciding to be friends wasn't the best idea and talk to him about giving it another shot. Even though he goes to another school, that doesn't mean you guys can't work it out. I know plenty of couples who go to different schools and their relationships are just as good as anybody elses. I noticed you said you have a gut feeling that it wouldnt work out. that may be true, but you never know until you give it a shot. Try it out again and see where it goes from there. I think that's the best thing you could do in this situation. Now, about the second guy. It's always hard to tell somebody you don't feel the same way about them as they do about you. But, to lead him on and make him think so wouldn't be fair. my suggestion to you would be when he starts to get flirty just give him friendly reminders that that's all you are, friends. if he doesn't get the hint then try talking to him. tell him that you kind of like him but you still have feelings for somebody else and that it wouldn't be fair of you to lead him on and make him think you feel a certain way about him when you don't. Hope I was able to help! -Hannah
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well i like this girl but i freeze up in front of her idk why i mean when we talking on the myspace the convo flows but when im around i freeze(this doesnt happen to me often) what is wrong with me?
aww that's cute (: well, first of all, nothing is WRONG with you. lol. you like her! A LOT apparently. :) you get nervous around her and freeze up. that's all it is. it's nothing bad. :) you said this doesn't happen to you often, but maybe that's because you reeeaaallllyyy like this girl. maybe, on the other hand, you're afraid because you don't know what you want or maybe you don't know if you're sure you see this girl as more than a friend so you're just being cautious. I'm not you so I don't know for sure. my advice to you would be to start talking to her more. push out of your comfort zone a little more than you normally would. maybe you're worried she doesn't like you the way you like her (?) so ask her questions like, so is there anyone you like? are you interested in having a boyfriend? questions like that. if you don't have her phone number, ask her for it. the more you talk to her the more comfortable you'll become. then maybe you won't freeze up as much in front of her. :) obviously there is already a little spark there if when you talk to her on myspace and stuff you have good convos. just talk to her more and when you see her, loosen up a little! chances are, you have nothing to worry about. hope I was able to help :) xxo Hannah
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How do i get in your pants???
j/p April fools :)
Haha! Talk to me on aim about that. ;)
Hannahbabyxxo
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okay so theres this two people that i guess you can say im into. okay well one i have always been into but hes had a gf. the other one is like recent.okay so the one i have always been into just broke up with his gf.we texted for a while which makes me like him more .so now you can say im talking to him. okay, so i didnt think i would like the recent one. but it ended up that i actually do. through all this talking on the phone, school made me like him as any girl.the problem is i like them both. i have NO idea what to do. i think about both of them. get so excited to see both. but i kind of like seeing the one from a while ago then the recent one.like the one i have alwyas been into, i wouldnt want him to see me with another guy. i mean i know if he saw me with another boy i think he might get jealous cause i do think he could be into me.but i think that if i had to see him with another girl he might not have the same problem i would. but the recent guy i started liking, i wouldnt want to hurt him either by being with the other boy. i like them both, but i dont want either of them to get hurt or me to get hurt by hurting them. i kinda want to be with both of them. but of course thats not possiblee.i know the recent one likes me, i KNOW that. the other one, ehh now im not so sure about him. i want to find out without making it obvious.but i think he might have a "thing" for me. how can i do that ? and also what can i try to do to help myslef make the right decision on who to choose, if i would have to choose.
Wow, seems like you have a little problem on your hands. Well, if I was in your situation I'd probably stick to the newer guy for a few reasons.
First of all, you KNOW he likes you. It's not a guessing game because you already know how he feels. On the other hand, you would need to be sure you have feelings for him in return and wouldn't be going out with him because he's an easy catch. That wouldn't be fair to him.
Second of all, I understand you like the other guy and you have for a while. But, you need to take a few things into consideration. How long ago did he break up with his girlfriend? Does he have any kind of emotional attachments to her still? How long did he go out with her for? The answers to these questions are essential in being positive that you wouldn't be the rebound. Nobody likes to be the rebound because then you might end up getting hurt if he decides he's better off with his ex or better off single depending on his emotional state with his past relationship.
If you want to know how the guy you've liked for a while feels maybe you should ask him questions like "So, are you interested in having a girlfriend right now or do you not know what you want at this point?" or simply ask him "I was just wondering where we stand right now, like are we friends or what?" or you could say "Well I was just wondering because I've heard you have a thing for me but I'm not sure if that's true or not so I figured I'd ask you and get a straight answer."
If it comes down to you having to choose one of them, I'm suggesting you really put a lot of thought into who you have stronger feelings for and who you could see yourself with for a while. Think about who makes you happier and who you think you could have a more successful relationship with. you also need to consider who you think is more trustworthy. Making sure you don't put yourself in a position where you're going to get hurt is essential. I hope it all works out for you!
Well hope i was able to help! xxo Hannah
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I'm 17/f and my boyfriend is 19. we've been dating for about a year now, and we're pretty serious about each other.
he swore into the navy a couple weeks ago. he'll be in it for about 5-6 years.
as it stands, we've said we are going to stay together while hes gone for now. unless something comes up etc.
its a lot of time though.
should we stay together?
dont say i should experience dating others--im not going for that reason.
Well, you're right. 5-6 years really is a lot of time. I think it really depends on how attached you are to him and if you think you're stable enough to wait it out. It's going to be extremely difficult to have a successful long-term relationship with somebody who is going to be so far away for so long. If you think you can handle it and you honestly believe that it'll ultimately be worth the wait, I say go for it. If you're really serious about each other and think you can make your relationship work in your situation, then my suggestion to you would be to stay with him for now. If you find it getting difficult down the road or feel like waiting that long won't be worth it, then maybe you two should go your seperate ways. It really all depends on how badly you want your relationship to work out. Another suggestion: if you find being in this situation too difficult and find that it's causing you mental distress or whatever but you do want to be with him, maybe you two should agree that you'll keep in touch over the 5-6 year period but try picking up your relationship again when he returns. Hope it all works out for you. Good luck! :) xxo Hannah
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okay ,
so theres this boy and when i was younger we dated...we both liked each other so muchh and we literally would do anything to see each other because we didnt go to the same school..unfortunately i found out he was in a gang..i was in middle school and really didnt care but then my mom found out!..she wouldnt let me see him or talk to him or even text him..i felt guilty because if i did talk to him it would be behind her back..well its been about 3 years now..he went to my highschool for a while..hes been doing so much better hes not gang affiliated anymore however he will always be one. we finaly started talking again and im starting to like him again even though i know his reputation may not ever let me be with him in a stable relationship because of what my mother thinks, i still want one..theres this side of him shes never seen and thats the side i love hes a great person and would never want to harm my mother and i.he doesn't go to my highschool anymore but I saw him the other day and i was so happy! He lives conveinently close But my mom didn't know..i dont like hiding things from her but if thats what i have to do to see him am i wrong? im going to be 17 soon so i should be able to make my own desicions. please help me i need a second opinion..i just don't want to loose him again. but i want to live happy and pure what do i do?
Well, in my opinion, I think you should explain to your mom the current situation with the fact that you guys are talking again. But, you should also explain to her the fact that he has also changed over time and is has made attempts (and been successful) to getting on the right track. Maybe that will help change her perspective of who he is a person. Also, (just a suggestion) if you want your mom to be able to trust that he has changed and is a good person, when you hang out, try to hang out in a setting (like your home) where your mom can see for herself the change in who he was then to who he is now. The key here is to be honest with your mom. If she is worried, it's only because she wants to protect you. Just be honest with her and hope that she can change her mind about him, even if it takes some time. Hope i was able to help! xxo Hannah
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Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...
Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.
He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!
I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...
Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad...
Ha, well thank you for the compliments. :) Actually, I have beaten several guys at a number of different athletic, sporty-type things. It's difficult for a guy to grasp the concept that sometimes girls happen to be better at certain things than guys are. But, you're definitely right. It shouldn't make him mad. He should be proud he has such an athletic girlfriend and deal with the fact that it is possible for cute girls come out on top when it comes to certain things. :) Hope I helped! xxo Hannah :)
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so basically long story short : girl [me] is in love with guy. guy lives not in the same state. guy told girl hes in love with her. but sometimes he can be totally weird. like hes up and then hes down. its like talking to two different people sometimes. and i mean dont get me wrong i love both of "them" lol but its hard, i want a constant and stable relationship and i cant have that with him, but i cant picture myself with anyone else. even if im not "with him", i would rather spend my days without him, then with any one else. /: if i give yu more info you'll know who i am. lmao. cause you already knw the whole situation anyways. loser. so yeah am i crazy hannah? i'm giving him my heart, and i think he gave me his, but sometimes i feel like hes shutting me out. /: how do i know this is real? i mean i trust him that it is and that hes not lying but im totally stressing.
Well, to answer you're question, no you aren't "crazy" but you do have feelings for him that tend to get overwhelming at times because you can't be with him as often as you want and sometimes can't even talk to him as much as you would like. you also have to take into consideration the fact that distance plays a huge part in where your relationship would be heading. You don't need to stress because from what i know he really did mean it when he told you he loved you. I don't think he's trying to shut you out but maybe for him, talking to you round the clock is hard because not being able to see and spend time with the one you really have strong feelings for hurts and talking to you may remind him how much it sucks that he can't be by your side. I agree that his moods do in fact change rapidly without warning which may be giving you mixed signals but at the same time, you have to remember he has bi polar disorder. I think you just stress out easily because i know you've been hurt before and you know for a fact he can treat you right. He really does love you and you need to just relax and live in the now. Let things just flow and fall into place. It may take a while but it'll be well worth it in the long run. Hope i helped. :) xxo Hannah
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Hey Hannah,
Ok, so i have this totally awesome perfect boyfriend. we're so great together and i really enjoy being with him blah blah blah. there's jsut one thing...he's always flirting. i know he doesnt mean to, but hes a naturally flurty person and he's just nice. but when it's his ex girlfriend and a past hook up (there's 2 of them!), i feel like it's a little wierd. im not worried about him cheating or anything cause i know he loves me. but i feel a little awkward and jealous. idk what to do! am i being dumb? or should i say something?
help boo!
xo,
im sure u know who it is.
Ha, yes I do know. Okay, so my advice to you in your situation would be to be honest with him about how you feel. I know he's naturally flirty and extremely nice in general. Maybe he is unaware that it makes you feel awkward and jealous or maybe he's unaware that he's even doing it. You aren't being dumb. You're just a little concerned and you're more than entitled to your feelings. You just would expect him, being your boyfriend, to tone it down a notch and not be too comfortable with other girls besides you. I think you should say something to him and let him know how you're feeling. He can't change what he's doing "wrong" if he isn't aware that there's a slight issue to begin with. Well, hope I was able to help you out. (: xxo Hannah
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my girlfriend lives in another state and i really love her and dont want to lose her. what can i do to keep things going until i can move closer to her?
Aww okay. Well, long distance relationships are really hard to maintain when you can't be with that person as often as preferred. It's also really hard to display your affection for that person when you can't be with them face to face. My advice to you would be to just talk to them as often as you possibly can and remind them how much they mean to you. Chances are, if they feel the way you do, you're not going to lose them anytime soon. Other than keeping really close contact with her, there isn't much you can do until you actually move closer. Hope i helped. :) xxo Hannah
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k so theres this guy & my best friend used to like him but now she doesnt at all and wants us to go out ( me & the guy) & that guy talks to me every single day ont he phone for hours...but he wont tell me if he likes me and sometimes i think he does sometimes i think he doesnt but hes not the kind of guy to go tell his friends who he likes he just keeps it to himself so should i move on or not?
well, he must feel some kind of connection with you if he continues to talk to you... so maybe he does have feelings for you but doesnt know how to show them or maybe he just likes talking to you for whatever the reason may be. obviously asking his friends is going to be no help at all so my advice to you would be to tell him EXACTLY how you feel. let him know you want straight answers and if he doesnt give them to you give him about a week or so... still no answer, move on. don't waste your time on something that you dont know is actually going to turn into something. as much as you may like him, you can find something better. no doubt. hope i helped! xxo Hannah :]
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i like this girl, but she doesnt like me back.. well sorta but idk.. i went out with her for like 3 months now and she just broke up with me... what do i do?? like im kinda obbsest with her, but she likes me still a little bit!! what do i do? do i give her the time she needs?? please help me.
Thanks
Well, of course after going out with somebody for three months you are still going to have some kind of feeling for them. Maybe she just needs a break and wants to explore her options. Maybe she's just confused. I'm not her so I don't exactly know for sure. Give her time. See what else is out there for YOU as well. It hard to just forget somebody and move on but you don't know what else you could find. :] You also need to let her know how you feel if she doesn't already know. Getting things out in the open will make is easier for everybody! Well, hope I helped! :] xxo Hannah
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hey. i like two girls right now. and im so confused. one i hangout with a lot more, and im too good of friends with her too goo out but then i like her. she told me she likes me. and then the other grl i see very rarely, but when i hangout w/ her, i like love her haha. HELP ME HANNAH!
Haha. Okay well my advice to you would be to try it out with the first girl. I mean, you get to see her more often, you're really good friends, and she likes you... why not go out with her? And yeah everybody says, "Oh my god, going out with one of your best friends is going to put you through hell once you break up!" But honestly, from my experience, i doubt it will. So, why spend your time waiting for somebody who youre never going to see? Sure, she makes you happy but it seems like the other girl does too. Take a look at who you can see yourself better with and look at whats positive and negative about each girl. THEN make a decision. Hope I helped! :] xxo Hannah
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I have come to the conclusion that I am afraid of commitment, I think. I really like this guy right now, like a whole lot. I can only think about him like all the time. I like love school just so I can see him. It's crazy. I am scared though about when he asks me out. I like to usually just flirt and hang but maybe going out won't be so bad. Any advice on how to get over this fear?
Well, I used to be scared of commitment too and my advice to you would be to think about all the possible reasons why being committed to a relationship scares you. Question yourself as to what it is exactly that you fear and find out why. There's ALWAYS a reason for things like this. What's soo horrible about being committed to a relationship? In my opinion, go for the guy! Don't worry about what could happen or be afraid. Just have fun and live your life. If you find yourself questioning if you want to still be in a relationship because you are scared of commitment, talk to the guy or to a friend and always stay positive. Chances are this guy isn't the guy you'll wind up marrying so you don't have to feel tied down or in a position that you can't get yourself out of. Relationships are supposed to be fun! Don't stress :] Hope I helped! xxo Hannah
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i was in a relationship with this guy before he lives in a different state and we dated on and off for almost 2 years and over the summers and breaks my family and i used to go where he lives and visit him and his family cuz we were close and then my parents got divorced so we stopped going and now 4 years later here i am and i still have feelings for him and him the same for me but im not sure if im ready to be with him again. i mean i really want to but its just awkward because it was 4 years of not seeing eachother because now we are seeing eachother again. so im not sure if a long distance thing would work? i need some advice.
Well,the chances of you being able to see him and spend time with him are slim to none. I personally don't suggest long distance relationships because you never really get to see or talk to the person and you begin to feel tied down, like you have an obligation of some sort. And, yes there's a chance that calling him or talking to him after four years out of nowhere would be a little awkward. I wouldn't doubt it. My advice to you is not to get involved with a long distance relationship but to keep in touch with him. Who knows what could happen in the future? Maybe you guys will be reuinted again but who knows? For now just do your best to not entertain the thought of a relationship and think about moving on. I'm sure there are plenty of guys in your area worth dating :] Hope I helped! xxo Hannah
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alright so there is this boy in my life who i am maddly in love with and ive been dating him for a month on todays date. Well the other day i met this other guy who kept layin on the pick up lines realy strong corney i know. But he told me i had real pretty eyes which i guess flattered me because i started getting all excited when i found out he was talkin to all his friends about how hot i am. Well me and my friend are going to hang out with this guy i met at the mall this weekend. Do you think this is the best idea?
Well, in my opinion, it's not the smartest idea to go. I agree with the person under me. If you are "madly in love" with your current boyfriend why not bring him along? My advice to you is don't ruin what you already have for something that you don't know will last. Yeah, the other guy seems like a nice guy and all but you seem to be in a pretty stable relationship and you seem happy already :] if things wind up not working out with your current boyfriend though in the future, maybe think about getting with the other guy if he still shows interest in you :] Hope I helped :] xxo Hannah
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13 going on 14 =D female !
so then, theres this guy.. hes my bestfriend, and hes the only guy i can trust.. i talk to him everynight on the phone.. && guess what ? i fell for him.. i liked him for a long time.. and the thing is that he likes my bestfriend.. me & her are also close.. we call ourselves "twinnies" because we have so much in common.. and that really hurts because i waited for so long for him .. hoping that i'll get a chance & i like prayed everynight hoping that too.. and im still hoping.. the thing is that my bestfriend my "twinnie" likes him too.. and she thought it was wrong because she js started liking him because i started liking him in the first place, and she knew that too.. but then i put her happiness before mine, so then i let her have him.. and she thinks that i've been happy for a long time and thats a good thing, but i HID my sadness because i knew it would make her feel bad.. and then it hurts even more cause when i talk to him on the phone hes talking about her. im js really upset about the whole entire thing.. help me out please.. please give me some advice and help me get over him.. because this hurts too much for too long.
Well Mary, join the club. I've had the EXACT same problem. First of all, yes, it was very nice of you to let her have him, but at the same time, you are only hurting yourself. My advice to you would be to let your friend know what it is you have been feeling. If you're as close to her as you say, then she will understand and hopefully do something about it to make sure you are both happy. You shouldn't have to put yourself through all of this pain. You need to remember, you need to work on pleasing yourself and not trying to satisfy everybody around you, whether they are your best friend or your worst enemy. So just talk to your friend about how your feeling and hopefully things will change for the better. Hope I was able to help :] xxo Hannah
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I need advice on getting a guy.Well, i know things take time and that i need to wait for the "One" and all, but i need an escort to a friends ball. and a date is requed. Is there anything i can do to make a guy a i like like me? i need to know wht kinda stuff guys like.
Oh and i am 14 and a female.
Well, guys tend to like when girls smile a lot and show interest in them. You need to put yourself out there and let it be known that you are a likeable person. I know everybody says, "Oh, just have confidence," and "Oh, just be yourself," and yes you do need to do those things but there is always going to be more to it than that. Make sure you let your good qualities be known and really put yourself out there if you want to be noticed. And worst comes to worst, you make a new guy friend and ask him :] just be casual about it... don't make it a huge deal or anything. Well, hope I was able to help :] xxo Hannah
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dear reader,
i am 14 old boy. there is this girl that i asked to be my gf and its already been about 2 weeks and i still didnt get my answer. every time i call her up she says shes busy and cant talk. i think shes trying to avoid me also. what should i do?
rafol boy
Well "rafol boy", I'm a 14 year old girl and speaking from experience, I'd say don't give up. Maybe she doesn't exactly know what she wants and that's why she's questioning which answer to give you. Girls tend to think every little detail and possible consequence through to make sure that the decisions they make are the right ones and sometimes it takes a while. Maybe she is doing the same. (of course I dont know for sure because I'm not her.) Just give her space and time to think about what she wants and maybe wait another two weeks and if she's not giving you straight answers or doesn't even want to talk about it then maybe it's time you move on or at least confront her about it if you're comfortable. Girls can be cruel... trust me :] Love isn't an easy thing to deal with. Well, hope I was able to help :] xxo Hannah
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