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My name is Sam. Im 15 years young and yes i do enjoy giving people advice. No im not afraid to ask for advice for myself because i have and i will. I'm not going to lie to you about something when im answering your questions or giving advice. I'm going to tell you straight up the truth about how i feel. But if i offend anyone or hurt your feelings just tell me and i will appologize. I do have a life other than this and please don't expect me to be on 24/7, cuz i probably wont be.

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Im 14 and a female, so if i did it with this guy how can you tell if he didnt like it? will he show you a sign or actually tell you?

well it all depends on the guy. some guys will show if they liked it and some guys wont. if it was awhile ago and he hasnt done anything then maybe you should ask him about it. be like oh so about the other night.. and see if he takes it from their. other guys if they really liked it will most likely wanna do it again. but alot of times you can tell. or he will say something. and if he does say something or he acts a certain way and you dont understand or are confused. just ask me (: im glad to help. i went through the exact same thing a few months ago (: hope i helped. xxx

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ok well i have been noticing that alot of people have a small (TM) next to there name and i was wondering if anyone knows the code for it to put it on myspace.

the easiest thing to do is to just copy it from their name and then paste it next to your display name. it worked for me. :]

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13/f last night i think i interuppted my parents having sex. my mom yelled at me through the door because it was locked and i knocked on it. it was like 10:45 pm. my parents never go to bed that early and they never shut the door and lock it. is this a sighn of ur parents having sex?? im just curious and i didnt think my parents still did that stuff. should i ask my mom or should i just let it go?? its really bugging me!!!

well honestly i wouldnt go asking about it because then you will have to hear about it and i dont think you want that. so just let it go and try not to think about it. i didnt think my parents did it either until i walked in on them once. its much worse. but it most likely was a sign that they were having sex. but its ur parents so just try and let it go. and try not to think about it. :] hope i helped oxxx Sam

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when is the best time to have sex.

best time to have sex i would say either whenever your in the mood which could be anytime of the dayy, :] or around 9/10 pm at night. after you have nothing left to worry about and can just have a good time with the person. :] hope i helped oxxx Sam

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16/f.
alright well ive liked this guy brad since my homecoming after party. well i wouldnt ever see him except at partys and he was always really nice to me. at the last hotel party in november he was all nice to me and we cuddled and made out. well me & him are friends kinda now. but he isnt as nice as i thought he was. he hooks up with all kinds of chicks in front of me but when i hook up with a guy he sits there and makes fun of me. he will repeat the name over and over and he always calls me names like a bitch and a whore and stuff. i know hes playing around it just bugs me because i like him. he will always say stuff like "i know your jealous you cant have my body" and he always winks at me and stuff from across the room. he will come up and poke me and turn the other way.. second grade stuff. when he hooks up with other chicks and makes out with them he is like all about sex and shit. before with me.. he was the nicest guy. i know he liked me before. there were all the signs like him staring at me all the time and flirting with me and he would call me for stupid stuff like asking if i wore contacts because he lost his. but now that i got to know him better i dont know if he still does. it was just that he acted different with me then i see him act with different girls. me and him constenantly fight. my friend keeps saying that she thinks he likes me but i just dont know. at a party the other night me and him were arguing and she was like "will you guys admit that you like each other" and i just stopped talking and brad was like "what'd you say? what are you talking about?" so do you think that he likes me back?

guys have very stupid ways of flirting. some being calling you stupid names and making fun of you. he wants to make you jealous by hooking up with other girls infront of you but if you do he gets mad and shit. hes a typical guy. He got to makeout with you and stuff and now he thinks that hes got you. Guys change all the time when it comes to girls. I went out with a guyfor like 6 months and he was the greatest guy ever then we broke up and i realized that he really isnt that great of a guy. Honestly i think he has feelings for you but either doesnt want to admit it to himself and to you or he knows he has feelings for you and that is he stupid way of getting your attention. We all think guys grow up and mature but really some of their ways of flirting are definately kindergarden-ishh :] lol :] hope i helped oxxx Sam

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alright so there is this boy in my life who i am maddly in love with and ive been dating him for a month on todays date. Well the other day i met this other guy who kept layin on the pick up lines realy strong corney i know. But he told me i had real pretty eyes which i guess flattered me because i started getting all excited when i found out he was talkin to all his friends about how hot i am. Well me and my friend are going to hang out with this guy i met at the mall this weekend. Do you think this is the best idea?

honestly i dont think it's the best idea. i mean im not going to tell you not to go hang out with him but does your boyfriend know about this? does he know that you are going to go hang out with this guy? if he doesnt then why didnt u tell him? maybe you should ask your boyfriend how he would feel or ask your boyfriend to go with you while you are hanging out with him so that atleast you have him there to remind you of what you love.
- ive been in a similiar situation before and i ended up breakin up wit my boyfriend to go out with the other guy and it totally wasnt worth it. and i hurt the guy i loved and a guy that liked me as well as myself in doing that. so just think about what you are doing before you do it and i know that its nice to get compliments but if you really love this guy then tell him what you just told me. :] hope i helped oxxx Sam

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okay so i have a dog and he was on the couch and i wanted to sit there and he was in the way so i sat on him and he bit me. i bit him back and he bit me again so i hit him really hard and now i think hes mad at me... wat should i do?!

well he has the right to be mad at u for sitting on him in the first place. but try talkin to him and tell him that you are sorry for wat you did and hopefully he will forgive you. give him a treat, rub his back, cuddle with him, let him know that you didnt mean to hurt him. :] hope i helped oxxx Sam

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Okay, I'll cut right to the chase. I've had this best friend for like over a year and a half now and lately i just can't stop thinking about her. Like when I'm all alone I'll even go on her mypsace and just stare at her pictures for hours. I'm beginning to think I've developed more of just a close friendship with her. I don't know why though. Like when I'm around her I get butterflies and I a have urges to hold her hand. Is there a possibilitiy that I could be a lesbian? WHAT SHOULD I DO?!
from: "confusedd&abused"

well if you are lesbian there is nothing wrong with that. but i wouldnt suggest holding ur friends hand if your friend isnt lesbian or bisexual, she might freak out and not want to talk to you anymore. If you are attracted to your friend in a way that is more than just wanting a friendship you should #1 think about the fact that she might not feel the same way. #2 - she might not want to think about you having feelings for her that way. Some people dont want to hang around with people that make them feel uncomfortable. but if you two are truely friends then tell her how your feeling and hope for the best. If she stops talking to you for any of these reasons then she wasnt your true friend to begin with. but it is natural to want to experiment as a teenager. :] hope i helped oxxx Sam

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I went out last week with this guy I have huge crash for a while.
We made out, and he called the next morning to applogize whatever he did, and doesn't want me to have the "wrong idea".
I don't think I ever want him to be my bf, but what he did/said actually hurts my feeling. I'm not sure I want to talk to him again, but there's this feeling inside of me wanting to go out with him again.......

what should I do?

(I felt he took advantage of me, just because he knew I really like him but obviouly he doesn't like me enough to consider my feeling.............)

guys can be extremely low sometimes and just want to do stuff with you without having to take responsibility for it. so he got to make out with u and have a good time without having to worry about it and he clearly wanted you to know that he didnt want you to think it was anything more than just a makeout by calling you to tell you that.

- for example i know exactly how your feeling bcuz i went out with this guy but wen he broke up i still had feelings with him and he still had feelins for me but he didnt want to go out wit me he just wanted to make out with me and do stuff but not have to worry about my feelings. it completely crushed me because he knew i liked him.

-its okay to still have that feeling inside of you wanting to go out with him again. thats how you feel when you care about someone or have a "crush" on someone. if you dont want to talk to him anymore dont. its good that you dont want your feelings hurt anymore. Tell him what he did was wrong and that he cant just makeout with you. its all of you or none. or just ask him if he cares about you.

-if he doesnt then its best that you just move on, im sorry that a guy would do that to you, because i kno what it feels like to have that done to you.

hope i helped :] oxxx Sam

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I've been talking to my exboyfriend a lot lately. I made a vow not to fall for him but, I think I am! I want to talk to him and he's so funny. I tried staying away from him but it made me relieve I can't stand being without him or talking to him. He's one of my best friends and I've known him my whole life. He's a big part of my life. What should I do?

-dying slowly wihtout him...

well "dying slowly without him..." my advice to you is ... you cant stop yourself from falling for someone. its not possible. TRUST ME. i know. ive tried to stop myself from falling for someone and i ended up falling harder. loves hard and it makes you do stupid things. try talking to him about how you feel. if you cant stand being away from him, dont be away from him. i could tell you to just forget him but heyy, its not as easy to forget people as we may think it is.
- take me for example. im sitting here completely upset because my ex "coughskaterhomiecough" :] is being a complete jackass to me. and says he wants me to leave him alone. and i hate him right now but on the other hand im completely in love wit him and i dont know wat to do... but thats a different story.
- if you care about him that much. be wit him. or dont. if he doesnt like u or something. i dont know. move on. shit happens. move on. :]

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i think i totally screwed up my friendship with my ex. [i yelled at him and called him by his fullname (which is REALLY bad)] i think i might still ahve feelings with him. im not sure. but i still wanna be friends with him but he wont even talk to me! wht shld i do?!?!

~heartbroken~

Appologize. But honestly if you had a good reason to be mad and yell at him then he deserved it. It's understandable to still have feelings for an ex. I still do. But if you're not sure i think that this may help you see that you do. If you are this upset over him being mad then you do still have feelings for him. but seriously appologize. tell him that you're sorry and that you didnt mean to hurt him, and tell him how you feel. if hes really your friend he will understand. :] oxxx Sam

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So, there's this guy. I thought I really liked him, but I heard all this stuff. He likes other girls, other girls like him-thats the stuff I heard. I don't think that I can compete with those other girls and I don't know if I should give up. I'm always thinking though, even if he did like me I don't know if I'd want to be in a relationship or anything with him. I think I still care about my ex. Not like I would want to date him either, but it's almost like I don't really 'want' either of them but I can't pick which one to like. help!

i think you seriously need to sit down alone and think about if you truely have feelings for this guy. i kno ive felt the same way about a guy before and it relle sucked cuz i heard that he liked other girls and other girls liked him too. but sometimes you just have to forget wat other people are saying and do what your heart wants you to do. and its natural to still care about or have feelings for your ex. i kno i still do but i dont want to date him either but i still care about him. its what happens when you care about someone or love someone, you cant just make those feelings go away.

everyone doubts themselves when it comes to guys. "those" girls probably are nothing compared to you. if your friends with this guy talk to him. find out the truth from him. not from other people. find out the facts from him. if your not get to know him. it will make everything muchh easier.

and maybe you do like this guy but not enough to date him. get to know him better. and then make your decision. maybe you still have feelings for your ex and your afraid to start liking someone else. loves tough.

but you always need to remember that confidence is key. i think you might need to stop thinking about this so much and just see what happens. your heart wont lie to you about how you feel. if hes right for you. you'll know. hope i helped :] oxxx Sam

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ok. there's this guy and he always flirts with me. we're friends but idk if i like him and all. or if he even likes me. wht shld i do?

well you first of all need to think about if you honestly have feelings for this guy at all. because theres no point in stressing about a guy if you dont like him. and if he flirts with you then maybe he does like you, but you need to talk to him about it. because im obviously not him so yeahh. but dont go straight out and be like do you like me. find a way to hint at what you're tryin to ask him. and if you're friends you need to think about possibly changing a friendship because of this. :\ hope i helped :] oxxx Sam

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i know how to babysit but i don't kbow how to tell people about my interset and that if they need a babysitter im available...help

you could make flyers and put them around your area, or maybe try and tell your parents and have them tell their friends so if their friends need a babysitter you could do it. my parents always tell their friends about me if i wanna babysit or not. so maybe it could work for you.


lol . there are classes you can take to get certified. im not a "certified babysitter" and i still babysit. but some people want you to have a lisence. but no u cant get arrestedd for not being a certified babysitter. but it is good to go to one of the classes to get certified. :]

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okay, so theres this kid alex who ive liked since 6th grade. now, i still go on and off about liking him. i think he likes me but its really hard to tell. he is the type of boy who is into alot of girls at once. anyway, so when i hang out w. him its always fun. and i like him but idont know what ppl would say. ah! i dont know what to do.
plz help=]

f/13

i know a guy just like that. its very hard to tell if he really likes you or not because he's always trying to flirt with another girl. but if you have fun with him and you like him then you shouldn't care what other people think. If you're happy then they should be happy for you. and since you're not sure if he has feelings for you ask him about it. or maybe have a friend talk to him for you. it can't hurt to ask. if your friends then you should stay friends even if he doesnt have feelings for you. but definately find a way to communicate what you said to me with him. I'm sure he'll be happy to know how you feel :] hope i helpedd

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I've liked this kid for a few months now, and we've become close friends. We talk all the time, and hes in half of my classes. But, because we've become so close, i can't tell if he likes me as a friend, or if he wants to be...more. In class, he talks to my friend and I, but he seems to pay attention to me more than her. When I started dating this kid 5 year older than me, and he got mad at me, and wouldn't talk to me for weeks, even after I had broken up with my boyfriend!

Do you think he likes me, or is he just watching my back?

In my opinion from what you just told me it seems like he has feelings for you. You should talk to him about it. Ask him how he feels and tell him how you feel. Guys tend to get jealous really easily when it comes to a girl they like or maybe kinda like dating other guys. but he could have just been looking out for you and not want you to date someone 5 years older then you. but i think that the chance is that he likes you . but im not him so talk to him about it. or talk to one of his friends if you are friends with them. :] hope i helped. dont hesitate to ask me for anymore advice on my column. oxxx Sam

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Ill cut it short.
I love him.
We dont talk anymore , we used to be really good friends.
We had sex and all that stuff .
He has a girlfriend, they have a horrible relationship.
He stares at me at lunch.
Why why why?

ps, we dont talk alot anymore becuase we dont live as close anymore and a few other reasons.

he still has feelings for you which is why he stares at you. he might just be afraid to make a move and he might not know that you have feelings for him. so maybe you should make the first move and try talking to him . Maybe tell him how you feel :] hope i helped. dont hesitate asking me for advice oxxx Sam

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well i have this best friend lets say his name is umm starr lol anyways i figured out a few months ago that he liked me...a lot and like i told him a few days ago that since we were friends i couldnt hide anything from him and i told him i knew he liked me.. but now everything is all akward but the thing is we`re trying to get ourselves through it and we`re helping eachother get throught it.. we call eachother everyday which is kinda weird b/c the problem is us. but i`m really glad that we`re helping eachother b/c if we werent it would be really akward.. i guess i do like him a little but what am i so confused about?? and what should i do?

You should try talking to him about the possibility of you liking him. Its good that you were honest with him and told him that you knew he liked you and its natural to be awkward around eachother now but if you like him you should tell him and maybe talk about going out/dating but make sure that you guys always stay friends no matter what because im sure you dont want to lose "starr" as a friend :] and im not quite sure what you mean by being confuzed about it. but maybe you're not sure if you have feelings for him or not? best thing to do is talk to him about it but only if you're comfortable telling him :] hope i helped. let me know oxxx Sam

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14/f
okay well i like this guy and he is really great funny, smart, and way cute.but i found that he was 11 turning 12. one i am an eigth grader and he is a seventh.what do i do i want to talk and flirt with him but what is stopping me is that he is 11. he doesnt look 11 he looks 13.

age is only a number. you shouldnt worry about how old he is. Yeah right now you being 14 and him being only 11 seems like a big deal. But you shouldnt let that stop you from talking and flirting with him even if you dont start a relationship. if you thinks hes all those things and more then you should just accept that hes that old and try to be happy and flirt with him. hope i helped :] oxxx Sam

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My ex & I speak once in awhile. I'll be great for a few weeks, getting over him and not contacting him, but then he'll call me out of nowhere. We'll catch up, laugh about our memories together, and he slips in a few i miss yous. Then, he won't call for another few weeks. He hurt me badly but hearing his voice feels amazing. What am I supposed to do? The minute I feel like I'm moving on, it's like subconciously he knows and brings me right back to where I started. Do I tell him how I feel or will that sound pathetic? I feel like saying I want it all or nothing at all, but I don't want to lose him completely.

I know what that's like. i have an ex who is the exact same way. The question you need to ask yourself is do you still love him enough to possibly go through more hurt and pain? Ofcourse you dont want to lose him completely. Nobody wants to lose somebody they love. But guys do stuff like that. My ex literally did the exact same thing. I'd start getting over him and I'd be soo happy then he'd call and act like everything was great and i'd fall all over again. It sucks. He may still have feelings for you but not enough to be with you again. you need to make a decision do you really want the possibility of getting hurt again? :] hope i helped oxxx Sam

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