I'm Melanie. I'm 18 and I don't know what else to write.
Gender: Female
Location: Baton Rouge, LA
Age: 18
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I want to know if i'm a mean girlfriend. Some people tell me I am. But my boyfriend says im not. The other people tell me im mean because I hit my boyfriend all the time. But im only playing around when I do it. Sometimes I will call him a bitch and other names like gay. But like I said im only playing around. I really want to know if Im mean. Because I don't want to lose him. So am I a mean girlfriend? (link)
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Okay. So I do the same thing to my boyfriend, but he knows I'm just playing with him and apparently it's not that big of a deal because we've been together for a year. As long as you don't take it too far and you aren't too rude with calling him names, it should be okay. If he doesn't have a problem with it, then it doesn't matter what other people think.
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okay the whole having him lay down and me get on him, it doesn't work because my legs are too short. the only length i have in my body is my torso. i'm 5'2" and my boyfriend is taller but he's got a 7 1/2" penis, and since my legs are itty bitty, i can't seem to get up and down fast enough. he gets either bored watching me try to do something impossible for my size, or he starts to get turned off. and both are not good. :[ we do this thing where i am turned away from him and he wraps his legs around my hips and it seems to work better, but not much. ahh its bugging me. i'm leaving in 8 days for five months, and i want to leave him wanting a lot more.... :[[
help?
thank you to the people that answered the last one, but i need a little more. (link)
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Instead of having your weight on your knees while you are on top, try having your feet flat on the bed. It may make it easier for you to manuever and it might give you a little extra height.
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will it calse more pain or can he streach me open if his penise is to big? (link)
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I have this problem with my current boyfriend. It's going to be painful. I recommend using lubricated condoms and KY jelly. Just take things slow.
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Well,.. kissing sucks.
Really, why wasn't I warned? I have waited my whole life for that moment, I have been nervous and excited and spent so many classes ignoring the teacher and dreaming about it - and it sucks. Not because he was a bad kisser, just cause.. well its nothing special. It's SO OVERRATED! Like, really, am I the only one who feels this way? In movies it looks amazing - time stands still, sparks fly, it's impossible to breathe - but noooo. Not at all.
Why'd I waste so long waiting for that kiss? I turned down lots of great guys cause I wanted my first kiss to be REALLY SPECIAL. But itwasn't. I'm so dissapointed.
Does it get better? Or is it really not that great and people just make it sound great cause they're in love? (link)
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Most people have a horrible first kiss. You don't know what to expect or exactly what to do. When you love and care about someone, it's MUCH better. Just think of it this way. You got the awkward first kiss out of the way, so it can only get better from there.
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My ex got a summer job at the same camp I'm working at. Last week was our first week working together and he kept flirting and said to me "you know you want me back" right in front of other counselors. He's been calling me at night but I've been avoiding his calls until I figure out what to do. I like him so much. We were together eight months and we broke up in March. We met at this camp last summer. He knows I go out with someone else now and he keeps asking me what he can do to make me like him as much as I like my current boyfriend. So far I've just smiled and gone on about my work. The guy I go out with now is great!!!! Almost too good to be true. We don't argue and he treats me like a princess. Life with my ex was drama filled. My current boyfriend knows we are working together and he has no problem with it. Should I stay with this guy that is wonderful? or should I follow my heart because my heart is telling me to get back with my ex? Either way the rest of the summer is going to be hard...seeing him everyday. Yesterday he started flirting with some other girl but made sure I was around to see it. It hurt so bad but I didn't let on like I cared. What should I do? How do I sort this out? (link)
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It's always been my belief that if you have feelings for ANYONE else, then you should not be with your boyfriend. It's really not fair to him, since he's really dedicated to you. I say that you should do what your heart says, but also remember that y'all did break up for a reason.
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Hey my names annemarie, I'm 15 and in tenth grade...I need advice on someone ive been with for 6 mnths on wend. the 14th.Okay heres my problem, I've been dating this guy for 6 mnths but i've been knida sick and so has he,we havent really spent alot of time together but I'm not sure if he..I guess you could say has the feelings he did b4 for me. I dont know if maybe im thinking this way because we havent really spent alot of time together or if maybe thats happening. Me and him spent time together on wend. but i was really sick the that day so i couldnt really say that was a good day so i went home after my track pract. but i dnt think that day was good for him I-ther. I just need to know whether i should maybe take in my thoughts and try to talk with him or just wait to see what happens? Can you give me some advice? Thank-you! If you can please write back the advice as soon as possible to my page on myspace. the title is: Ha-ha! If you cant find me please just write back on this I'll find it .Thx (link)
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I think your best bet is to just talk to him about how you are feeling. If you don't put your feelings out there, they are only going to get worse and you don't want that. You never want to let feeling build up, plus I'm sure you are just reading too deeply into the situation.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven months. We've been having a hard time lately because I've been very angry with him about stupid things. =/ He just told me it bugged him today & he actually broke up with me.
He's "broke up with me" in the past. But, it seems like he's serious this time, like he kept saying no when I'd say please.
I want to be with him, so bad. I'm seeing him tomorrow & I was thinking about making him something. Can you give me some ideas? Please.. Or just what to say to him.
Thankyou (link)
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I have a very similiar problem to you. I've been with my boyfriend for seven months too and I tend to get upset about things that don't matter.
If he's willing to just walk away and not help you work this out, then you are probably better off.
Relationships are going to get hard sometimes. Obstacles are thrown in your way to see if what you are fighting for, is really worth it.
When you talk to him, just tell him how you feel. Tell him that you are really trying to change and that you just need his help and support and then go from there.
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I am going to be 20 in march and Im a female. I've had a man for 3 years this july. He's in the military so its like im livin two lives. Neways, I went out with my friend and I met this boy. He is so sweet and we hit it off pretty good. I've ended up stayin at his house hangin out, talkin to him, gettin to know him better for the last week or two. I love my boyfriend, but i got feelings for this other one. I dont know if i should tell my boyfriend that we need some space. Should i see what its like with this other guy? Take the chance? Is it true that if i realize i messed up by lettin him go, we will find our way back to eachother again? (link)
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If you've been with a guy for 3 years then I'm sure you both have very strong feelings for each other. If you two have a good, stable relationship...I wouldn't risk it. Remember, the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
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So i recently asked a Q about what I should do with this guy I like hwo is 18 and I am almost 15 on whether or not we should date. And I have been getting anwsers of "its a bad idea" Well what about, Not officially dating, but hang out, hug, kiss, hold hands, and talk and stuff? Is that still wrong? I care about him a lot and I just want to share something with him... Eeeck I do not know what to do. Help! (link)
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The main reason most people might think it's a bad idea is because it would be considered stat. rap if y'all were to have sex. However, I don't think age is a big deal. If you aren't planning on having sex, then I say go for it. I know what it's like to be attracted to older guys. Just be careful.
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So, for Christmas I had every intention of buying my boyfriend of five months an iPOD shuffle. [The new one, the one with the clip.] I pawned my alto saxophone, and got $150 for it. I gave my parents half of the money that I had gotten. So I had $75 left, and had an extra $35 to spend. I bought the shuffle for $80 and I had $30 left over. So, I wanted to get him the FEAR computer game. Which is $30. I have enough money for it, but my sister & mom are getting mad because they don't think I should be spending that much money on him.
He bought me a $70 pearl necklace and is buying me more, we made our price range $110. Everytime I ask them to take me to the store to buy it, we'll get into a huge argument about spending too much money, but I want to buy it for him. What can I say to defend myself?
Thanks mucho.
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I don't think it's too much. I spent about $200 on my boyfriend of 6 months.
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well do they or not?just wondering... (link)
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Usually no. I like riding with someone who is a safe driver, although there are always exceptions. My boyfriend drives fairly fast and he drifts a lot, but I know he's a good driver, so I don't worry about it.
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ive been talking to this guy for almost 2 months. we have sex and everything, and im 17 and hes 20, but weve been friends ever since we were little kids. and we wouldnt be able to have a relationship because people would say stuff about it and i dont like that. and now i think im starting to develope feelings for him and i dont want to if we cant be anything.. cause im still in high school, and i dont think he has feelings for me cause he has a history with girls, like cheating and stuff.. and i dont think hes in for that.. and since im younger, i think he just wants to have sex and thats it. like when we have sex as soon as were done, he puts his clothes on and drops me off.. but when i talk to other guys, he gets mad and i dont know if hes acting like he cares.. what do you think? (link)
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He might be getting mad because he's worried that if you start talking to another guy, then you won't want to sleep with him anymore. Why don't you just talk to him about it? Ask if he does have feelings for you. What's the worst he can say? No...? If he does say no, then you can just say goodbye and move on to someone else. The whole 'friends with benefits' relationship starts to go out the window when someone starts having feelings, especially if the other person doesn't feel the same way. If he is ready to just jump out of the bed and leave afterwards, he doesn't seem very caring and you shouldn't be with someone who is going to be like that to you...even if y'all aren't dating.
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Okay, if a girl is under 16 and a guy is 18, is it a legal for them to date? Someone told me that it is as long as you don't do anything with them but someone else told me that you can't date at all until the girl is 16. What's really legal? (link)
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If you want to get technical, if you don't have sex then it's not really illegal. Stat. rape can only be accused if y'all have sex, but I would be careful with what your state defines as legal or illegal.
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For the past 4 days I've been getting an "unknown caller" showing up on my call display. This has never happened before. Usually when someone calls their name or phone number will show up; like it might say "private caller" but then have the number. Well the weird thing is whenever this"unknown caller" shows up and I answer; whoever is on the other line never talks to me- I usually will say "hello- hello-- hello? and then I hang up. This was the third time this has happened to me in the last 3 days. Also; I check my missed calls and this "unknown caller" has also phoned when I've been out and has not left a message. My gut is telling me it's my loser ex. I think this is because he has also been getting friends of his to come into the store I work at and they just stare at me. Do you guys think I'm right? I don't know who else would be that creepy- maybe he's not ready to talk yet but wants to hear my voice; and he doesnt want me to know it's him so he's been phoning from a line that would say "unknown caller'. (link)
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There is a possibility it's your ex. He probably isn't over the fact y'all broke up and he's probably still hurting. I would just ignore the calls and don't answer them. If he can't show his name and number, then why waste your time?
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Ok im 14/m and im in grade 9. Theres a girl I like whos in my class i dont know if she likes me or not. She always walks over to me and starts a conversation with me and other people say that shes all over me. I dont think she likes me because she always changes the subject when I ask for her msn or number. If she liked me wouldnt she have given me it? Do you think she likes me? (link)
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Girls that age tend to play mind games with boys. Maybe she really likes you, but is playing hard to get so she can see how much you really like her. Then there's the possibility that she is just a big flirt. It's hard to tell. If you keep pursuing her and she still doesn't, then she is probably just a flirt.
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yeaa soo me and my boyfriend have been goin out for about 2 weeks now..well just these past few days hes been acting all strange for some reasonn.. like he talks about how is ex girlfriend is a skank....and crap like that..... but as it turns out they hung out all weekend..and now they are cool which is totally fine with me considering the fact that she is one of my friends...every time my boyfriends around his friends wich are all skater by the way he never talks to me he pretends like im not there...but when hes not around his friends he talks to me non stop...alsoo hess veryy cute therefore ALOT of girls like him in my school...my boyfriend tends to flirts alot with these girls that like him. well today there was a rumor going on around my school about him and people went up to me saying that he likes some other girl...welll then i went and talked to him and asked him and he said no he doesnt like any1 but me..well i was cool with that then i asked him wy does he always ignores me and flirt with other girls...well he said sorry and he didnt mean too and that he loved me.. later on in the day my best friend says that he might break up with me and go back out with his ex and when they dont work out hes gunna ask me back out...
my question iss am i just his backup girlfriend?does he really care for me?or is he just dating me to get over his ex?andd shud i stay with him or dump him?
plzzz helpp!! (link)
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I don't think he knows what he wants. On one hand, he likes you but then he might still have feelings for his ex. If he is still flirting with other girls, he isn't taking you or y'all's relationship seriously. Plus no guy should be telling you he loves you after 2 weeks. I'd be very suspicious if I were you. Don't jump to conclusions about the rumors. Most of the time, rumors are lies anyways. I would just try talking to him again and tell him that he doesn't seem to be taking the relationship seriously and see where it goes from there.
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So there was this one guy, we'll call him Michael, and I found out that he REALLY liked me, like aloooot. He told my friends how hot he thought I was and he "couldnt stop thinking about me" and "man you gotta get me with her." So at first I didnt like him, but then I eventually did. So he asked me out to the movies but i didnt talk to him alot because i was shy, but i was smiling and stuff. Then the next day friday at our schools football came he told me "I think your really hot and stuff, but maybe we should just be friends. Im sorry.."
Does anyone have any idea why all of the sudden he would just say that to me? He had been hurt in a previous relationship, I thinkk.. THANKS SO MUCH! (link)
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Maybe he felt insecure because you didn't talk to him much. Guys tend to be bad with subtle hints. Trust me, my boyfriend felt the same way the first time we went out. It may be because he was hurt in the past, but I think it's because he didn't want his ego to be hurt because he was worried you didn't really like him.
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I am 15 and my boyfriend is 16 and soon to be 17. We do sexual things but sex has been one of the subjects we have been talking about. He said he would wait until I'm ready and I just don't know when that will be. At times I feel like I am ready but then I just can't because I'm scared. I think I'm too young but all my friends have started doing it. I'm just in an awkward position. My mom makes comments like she'll kill me if i ever did and that scares me. My mom lost her virginity supposedly at the age of 17... I don't know if my hormones can wait untill then. I just don't know what to do. (link)
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If you even hesitate at the idea of having sex, then you are not ready. You just want to make sure you are with the right person at the right time. I lost my virginity when I had just turned 17 and I thought I really loved the guy, but I didn't. Now I'm with this really amazing guy and I wish I could have given him my virginity because the sex actually means something with him. I had the thought of sex at 15, but I was always too scared to do it. Don't take your friends into consideration when you are making this decision. Some may be lying because it's the 'cool thing' to do now.
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so i like this guy who likes me back. he`s never admitted it but i have a strong feeling he does and my friend was with me last time i saw him and she is convinced he likes me too. i can`t get him out of my mind, but i know i shouldn`t like him. he`s in his 20`s and i`m 15. he is friends with my older brothers, who highly disapprove of me dating. also, i see him very unoften. the last time i saw him, other than this past saturday was the begining of june. but i can`t get him off of my mind and every time i see him, he makes it harder for me to forget it. should i forget him or should i wait and see what he will do? but he`s older than me, so should i just forget him? (link)
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At 15, that age difference is a big deal and very much illegal. If you think he really likes you, he will respect the fact you are underage and that your brothers aren't happy with that idea. The age difference thing is a tricky situation. My boyfriend is 21 and I'll be 18 in January. People give us a lot of grief because of the age difference, even though I'm legal in my state. No man that is 20 years old should have a strong interest in a 15 year old.
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I am having to make a decision about whether or not I stay in my relationship with my boyfriend of just over a year. To clear my head I wrote down the good points and the bad points. Could anyone take a look at this list and tell me what they think - does the good outweigh the bad or vice versa? Are any of the 'goods' enough to keep me with him, or are any of the 'bads' indications that I have to end it? What do you think?
Thanks
GOOD
It is comfortable.
I understand him absolutely.
He understands me absolutely.
I need him in my life.
He loves me and finds me sexy.
He never looks at other girls.
I can tell him anything.
He is my best friend.
I don’t think I will ever find the connection I have with him with anyone else.
He is willing to work for our relationship.
BAD
The sex is not satisfying.
He irritates me.
I have little respect for him.
I often dislike him.
He doesn’t know how to touch me.
I am jealous of him.
I think he is arrogant.
I don’t find him sexy.
His self-importance frustrates me.
I want him to be more subtle and mature.
He thinks he is wonderful.
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After you've been with someone for that long, the little things irritate you, but you have to decide if the relationship is worth it in the end. Maybe you could just sit him down and tell him you've been thinking about ending it because of some of the things he does that you don't like. Don't tell him the sex isn't good...maybe just give him some pointers or tell him of a new idea you've been having. The thing with long-term relationships is you have to keep things interesting or it will die away. Try some of the stuff y'all did when you first started dating. Going out to the movies, double dating, etc.
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