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older admirer?
so i like this guy who likes me back. he`s never admitted it but i have a strong feeling he does and my friend was with me last time i saw him and she is convinced he likes me too. i can`t get him out of my mind, but i know i shouldn`t like him. he`s in his 20`s and i`m 15. he is friends with my older brothers, who highly disapprove of me dating. also, i see him very unoften. the last time i saw him, other than this past saturday was the begining of june. but i can`t get him off of my mind and every time i see him, he makes it harder for me to forget it. should i forget him or should i wait and see what he will do? but he`s older than me, so should i just forget him?
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Right now the age difference seems a little too far apart so you may want to just forget about him now, but later on in life, when you're both older and more mature, look each other up and see how it works. Good Luck!!! =)
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From what you've said, the age gap seems more than 5 yrs. The age gap wouldn't be such an issue BUT FOR the fact that you're only 15 and still a minor.
It's so sad when lovely young girls like you are in such a rush to grow up! I know you may see this guy as attractive and exciting, but you need to try and think objectively, you're still not at a legal age to be having sex and it's highly likely that this guy will be expecting this. Also, if he's attracted to young school girls, it should make you question the kind of person he is. Is he the type of guy who would want an enduring proper relationship, or a quickie behind the school bike shed!
I'm 21 years old and the idea of me going out with a guy your age would make me feel like I'm sick! If you were 20 and he was even 28, then fair enoguh! There's still a gap,but you'd be more mature and ready for that kind of guy. I can't stress to you how important it is to be with someone who's on the same wave length as you.
Another thing to consider is that you're both of a different generation. How will you feel going out with him on a night out with his mates? Mates that will probably all be his age, whilst you're only 15. Again, won't it be painfully awkward for you to invite him to a school party or mate's birthday party when all the guests are teens!?
I say this not to be cruel, but because it's the reality. My mate date an older guy whenshe was in her teens and she told me how incredibly awkward her boyfriend felt when sheinvited him to our mate's birthday part and how they had to leave early because of it. It caused and embarrassing barrier and ruined her night.
Just please think about it logically and then decide.
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At 15, that age difference is a big deal and very much illegal. If you think he really likes you, he will respect the fact you are underage and that your brothers aren't happy with that idea. The age difference thing is a tricky situation. My boyfriend is 21 and I'll be 18 in January. People give us a lot of grief because of the age difference, even though I'm legal in my state. No man that is 20 years old should have a strong interest in a 15 year old.
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The wisest thing to do would be to forget about having a relationship with this guy. Five years is quite a big difference at your age and your brothers obviously feel he is not right for you. We always want what we can't have and the more you are told no, the more you want to go out with him.
If you still feel the same way when you are 18 or older, then perhaps that would be the time to find out if he is right for you.
I also think that your brothers will not like anyone that you decide to date, but they are only being protective. When you are older get your Mum on your side if you are having problems with your brothers. The best way to do this is to respect any house rules, always arrive home at the stated time and never tell lies about who you are seeing and where you are going.
You might think that life will be difficult for a while but every stage of your life does have an ending. You have a very rosy future ahead of you. I wish you all the best.
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