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I don't know when the time will come.
I am 15 and my boyfriend is 16 and soon to be 17. We do sexual things but sex has been one of the subjects we have been talking about. He said he would wait until I'm ready and I just don't know when that will be. At times I feel like I am ready but then I just can't because I'm scared. I think I'm too young but all my friends have started doing it. I'm just in an awkward position. My mom makes comments like she'll kill me if i ever did and that scares me. My mom lost her virginity supposedly at the age of 17... I don't know if my hormones can wait untill then. I just don't know what to do.
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Well done for waiting! You should be proud as you are one of the precious few who respect themselves enough to wait!
I can't get over how many KIDS are having underage sex! It's ridiculous. Also, just because you hit 16, doesn't mean you have to lose your virginity then. Some may argue that's still too young. If you're boyfriend is genuinely decent, then he should be fine with waiting. But if you feel pressure from him then ditch him!
I'm still a virgin and proud of it as I refuse to lose it to someone that isn't THE ONE for me. I'm lucky to have friends who either lost their virginity in their late teens or are still virgins as they have mature minds and respect themselves and have never given me peer pressure.
In fact, I've had friends who say they envy me as they regret having sex so young. It's a big deal, and you need to be physically, mentally and emotionally ready for it. And you need to make sure you're 100% comfortable with the person you're going to have sex with because once it's done, that's it.
So pleeeease wait. My friend told me "Trust me, you'll know when you're ready...you just know 100%".
So the fact that you have doubts means you're not ready.
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My best advice is to just to what you are comfortable with. Don't push yourself to do anything, just because someone else wants you to. If you feel scared, then don't do it. Honestly, you have your whole life ahead of you, and you're really young, so take your time.
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If you even hesitate at the idea of having sex, then you are not ready. You just want to make sure you are with the right person at the right time. I lost my virginity when I had just turned 17 and I thought I really loved the guy, but I didn't. Now I'm with this really amazing guy and I wish I could have given him my virginity because the sex actually means something with him. I had the thought of sex at 15, but I was always too scared to do it. Don't take your friends into consideration when you are making this decision. Some may be lying because it's the 'cool thing' to do now.
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You are very wise to wait until you are much older before having sex. You will know inside when you are ready and at the moment because you are questioning it, you obviously are not ready. All the mums I know threaten their daughters regarding their sex lives because we do not want our daughters to throw away any chances of success because they become pregnant. Not only that, the chances of catching HIV, AIDs and STDs are increased with the number of partners you have.
When you decide the time is right, please use two forms of contraception - the pill to prevent pregnancy and a condom (also to prevent pregnancy) to protect against infections etc.
Sometimes it can be a struggle not to get carried away with the moment, so try not to get yourself into that situation to begin with.
I hope that I have been of some help to you. I wish you all the best and take care always.
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