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Image and video hosting by TinyPic" align=left hspace=10> hey my name is karen and i live in miami florida... im 17 and go to miami killian senior high.. anything you need help with ask me!! im great at answering questions about friends, cleaning, and relationships.

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ok so there's this guy that I like ! & I thought he was the greatest thing that ever happened to me(relationship wise) because I never trusted anyone as quickly as I gave my trust to him . he made me believe him when he said that he would never cheat on me! I felt that I had my guards up for too long and that I really wanted to be in a relationship where I was cared for/loved . was I wrong for wanting that? so it was thanksgiving when I met him . we exchanged numbers and he called me later that night . we just talked and stuff . & I absolutely loved his voice . wellllll . 7 days later he asked me out and I said yeah . then my mom brought me to her sister's house (he lives by her) and I was outside with him and his friends . his friends were trying to talk to me and kept askin me if I thought they were cute (which one of them was) and he was like "chill out" and we were just like cuddling and stuff . then I kissed him and it just felt like it was my first kiss ever (which it was not) .
then my parents and grandparents and stepparent started to not like how he was . because he dresses in "thug"ish clothing . & I started to like him more (i don't know if as an act of rebellion)but the more I started to like him the more it seemed like he didn't realize how much I did and didn't seem to care. ohhhh and did I mention there's a girl who claims that she's his girlfriend (she messaged me on myspace) but he told me no . so I looked at his myspace and she was first on his tops. so I asked him about it and he said it was old and that he had to change it but out of all the times he signed on the only thing he changed was that big pic of her on his page(she's still on his tops)i cried sooooooo hard last night and I couldn't stop for anythinggg . I don't want anyone elseeeee BUT him . & I really mean it . I want him to want me back

what's wronggggg ! =(

Unfortunatly, that was most likely his girlfriend. No matter how much you don't want it to be true. Move on now before you dig yourself into a deeper hole. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and about 2 months now, but he cheated on me more than once and did other things that a boyfriend shouldn't do and I should've broke up with him for. The thing is, I wanted believe him every single time something fishy happened. That's where I went wrong. Now I'm some what trapped in the relationship. I want to leave him, but at the same I don't because I love the boy. We're on the same boat; I don't want to be with anyone else. Be strong and good luck with everything. Don't get yourself hurt more than you already are.

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18 year old female.

helllooo :) okay long story, but please read i need advice i feel so lost right now. i'll admit, i'm in love with my best friend. we have a weird relationship. we're attracted to each other, we would hook up if it weren't for his girlfriend of two years. this is what happened. he's been saying he wants to get with me, i know he has feelings for me but hasn't straight up said it. well i was like i can't do anything you have a girlfriend. well he came over last night, my parents were gone. and at first we were just talking. i was trying to make food. and then all of a sudden he goes, "me and maria are on a break." and i was like don't try to pull that on me. do you know how many guys have said that they broke up with their girlfriends, and i've kissed them or something and i find out they were still going out with them, and he just laughed. so i didn't know if he was being serious about it or not. so i let it go, and we were in my bedroom and i took my shirt off to change and i was like i have to get a shirt and he was like no you dont so i was like fine, whatever i dont care. and we were cuddling and messin with each other on my bed and well he kissed me. and he was suppose to go to hockey at 8, and when he was like okay i have to go, i was like no don't leave me, your not going. i'm not letting you. and he was like i have to. i was like you don't want to though and he was like i know but i have to! and so then he stayed for awhile with me, and was like just holding me and being cute and he ended up leaving at 8:45 to hockey, he was late, just for me. i thought this was cute i felt bad but it was still cute. well after he left i went to my cousins house with my friend,and he is their neighbor. so we were there for awhile and then he texted me after hockey and was like we are seriously on a break. and then he was like "are you at jackies?" which is my cousin and i was like yeah. and he was like come see me and i was like oh yeah that wouldn't be obvious and he was like just tell them you haven't seen me for awhile. so i was like fine, and i went to his house and we just watched tv and i fell asleep in his arms for a little bit. and then i had to go, and he was like no you're not going, i'm not letting you (just like i did to him earlier) i knew this was going to happen and so like 10 minutes later, he let me go. and then he texted me after i left and we were talking and he was like you owe me for being late to hockey. and i was like no i dont :) and he was like yes. and we were talking about that, and he was like "i was trying to do stuff with you but you didnt let me" and i was like well i thought you still had a girlfriend. and then i fell asleep and this morning i had a text from him saying yes you do! about owing him. and i was like ok yeah i do! i feel bad. and then he text back and was like you do what? i was like owe you and he was like oh. yea. and i was like okay? seems like he doesn't want to talk to me so i didn't say anything back. i don't know whats going on. i was even like even if you were on a break i bet you would be going back out tomorrow anyways and he was like no!! and now i feel like he is talking to her again or something, i dont know. i feel like he wanted to take a break with her, to see how it would be with me. but now i'm so confused.

i've been on the other side of that before. even though he's your best friend he could be lying to you. keep that in mind. he's been going out with the girl for 2 years. that's a long time. if they are on a break, getting back together is most likely going to happen. starting over after a 2 year relationship is hard. it sounds like the guy is playing games. it's probably best not to get yourself into this mess.

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15/f
do you think this kid likes me?
[ i suck at knowing if someone likes me ]

-he talks to me alot. like about anything. its so random sometimes.
-he like always looks at me.
-he sometimes will put stuff on my desk.
& like he didnt just do this once, he does this stuff every day. and he like will make little remarks to me like, can you walk any slower? & stuff like that. [hes kidding though obviously]

He could like you, but those aren't necessarily signs that he does. The stuff he's doing is friendly.

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My boyfriend and i decided to break up while he figures some things out. For the time being we are going to be friends. He told me that he Loves me. Then he said that he might get back together and we might not, he's not sure. So I am giving him time, but one day he will be negative about us, and the next he will be positive about us. And I have been trying to give him time and space, and he ims me when I am online. Does anyone have any idea what he could be thinking and why he is sending mixed messages to me?

Him sending you mixed messages is the reason he broke up with you. He wants to figure things out. I think in order for him to figure things out he's going to have to stop talking to you, and be on his own. That way he'll stop confusing you too.

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ok I know i've promised my bf that id never breack up with him, but i need to know, IS he boyfriend material? It seems that EVERY two days, he's allways saying...well you don't need me, and i don't think i can do this anymore.then i remind him that he promised that hed never break up with me. so he stays with me. Well, i'm done with that. Another thing is, yesterday, he compleatly cutt me off. He icnored me, never returned my call, and never even botherd to freakin give a call. NOw in the mean time, my feelings for this one guy are growing stronger, and i know he likes me, but a part of me dosn't wanna let my bf go. So is my bf exactlly bf matereial? Or am I the crazy one here?Cause i just know as his over a year gf, I deserve to have my hand held-huged-and NOT shod off every five mins. Also a call every now and the, and an email, or note when he says he'll write me, and NOT to be yelled at when i ask about it. I'm open to any thoughts. thanks

If he's treating you like that then most likely he wants some space. You probably deserve to be treated better than that, so I say get out of it now before you fall deeper for your boyfriend. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and three months and kind of feel the same way every once in a while.

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Okay, so me and my boyfriend are going out for 7 months it will be our 8 month anniversary on February 27th. He is absolutely amazing and i am really in love with him. He literally is like the perfect boyfriend. but for a little while we had a period where we would like get "testy" with each other over everything, even jokes. but now we are okay is that normal in a long relationship like this?

(I'm 15 (almost 16 in september) and hes 17 (almost 18 in july) and we had sex for the first time at the end of our 6th month. it was Both of our first times if that helps at all.) (i was ready to do it, so please dont say i wasnt even if thats what you really think)

That is perfectly normal. Don't stress it. I've been in a relationship for a year and three months. The same thing happens with me and my boyfriend every once and a while.

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My boyfriend & i of about 5 months fight non stop every night for like the past month. We have been fighting about his exs & about stupid stuff. Such as hes trying to be friends with them even though i don't want him to talk to girls. I feel like hes going to go with them because there better.and lately he's been acting like he doesn't love me. Like he doesn't show it in the ways he used to. I just don't want this relationship to be over. I need advice how to get over this fighting. adn how i can trust him more.
Thankkkkss

Five months is a little too soon to be fighting so much, but anyway I think that unfortunatly you guys probably need some time apart. I think you might be too dependent on him. It shouldn't really matter whether he thinks if his ex-girlfriends are better than you. What should matter is what you think of yourself. Tell him how you feel. Try being more independent.

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Ok, I've been dating this girl for 3 weeks she is amazing and i dont see us breaking up anytime soon, or at all=D. anyways i need to know what would be good to do for valentines day....any ideas would be great

Get her a dozen roses and a decent size teddy bear. Take her to a nice park with a lake at night; bring a blanket.

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okay well when me and my boyfriend hang out once a week we never can think of things to do soo any ideas? we cant really go anywhere sooo if you have any ideas of things we can do at home please help!.

You guys could watch a movie together, have a sock fight, go in the pool, play video games, board games, play basketball or football or even baseball. Tickling him is also a good fun waste of time. =]

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okay well i have kinda a big problem.
me and my boyfriend broke up like 2 weeks ago.
and my ex from before him is starting to come back and wants to be with me again.

but before in our relationship he was an ass and he did kinda treat me like shit and cheated on me. and alll my friendds hate him because of what he did to me.

but i lost my virginity to him last year, so i never really got over him completely.
and now hes back, and saying hes never got over me and hes always loved me and all this stuff

so my question is should i give him another chance?
or just kinda be with him for a couple weeks and see how he is?

There's never really a right answer when it comes to that stuff. Speaking from experience though, getting back with him might not be a good idea. You might end up getting hurt again and if not trust issues can be a big problem. Getting with him for a little while to see how it is could also be a bad idea because you might end up getting stuck in the relationship. I feel stuck in the relationship I'm in now. I love the guy to death, but he did cheat on me. I kind of wish I never got back with him, but at the same time I think it would've hurt me too much to not be with him. It's not the same though. I can't trust him like I used to and trust is a big part relationships.

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okay, im a sophmore in high school.
& i havent done ANYTHING with a guy.
I mean, i've kissed but not madeout.
I dont know what is wrong.
Everyone askes me if ive kissed a guy before & i say yes, but im lying. & I dont want to lie about something stupid anymore. There isnt a particular question but any advice will help.
Thankss.


You shouldn't have to lie. I'm sure there's someone else out there that's in the same place as you.

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14/f
i have a question on the rules of cheating.

okay well i had this boyfriend and we had gotten into a fight because he was playing witha girls hair and hands infront of me. i asked him why he did that and he gave me the "rules". he said what he did was being "friendly", kissing is "innocent" flirting and sex is the only thing considered to be cheating. i told him that those rules only apply to him. i told him what he did was flirting (innocent i don't know intentional? yes).kissing is where the cheating starts and the only he got right was that sex was cheating too. would you agree with me or not and why.

please and thank you! =]]

What is to be considered cheating is all up to the other person. What you consider cheating is up to you. There are rules of cheating.

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17/m

ok so me and my girlfriend are reaching out 6 month. and i love her. she is my first love. and well i want to get her a promise ring. but do all promise rings mean "i want to be with you forever"? i mean i want to give her a promise ring and make 2 promises
1. that i will do whatever i can to be with her
and 2. that i will wait for marrige for sex (i know that would mean alot to her)

i mean we have said that we want to be together forever and we hope to get married someday
but you never know what can happen so i would like to make those promises insted.
is that okay or do promise rings always have to me "forever"?

please helppp

Speaking from a girls point of view, a promise ring can be easily mistaken as a "forever" commitment. A good idea would be to say to her that you will do whatever you can to be with her and that you're going to wait for marriage for sex and then give her the ring and tell her that the ring stands for those two things, those two promises you're making to her.

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Hey!
Im f/17 soon to be 18!
My question is do you think that and 17/18 year old should be datting a 22 year old... like im finishing gr12.. and he's finishing University...
Is that a really big age diffrence to you?

It shouldn't really matter what other people think. All you really have to worry about is if your family cares or not.

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i dont know what yo domy bf want to have sex but i dont want to do i just tell him?

Telling him would definatly be the right thing to do. It's most likely not going to be easy, but it'll be worth it.

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Me and my boy friend have been going out for 11 months now. We are madly in love with eachother. He cries to me at night and i cry to him becasue we have been arguing a lot and hurting eachother. He has anger problems and so do i he disrespects me by calling me names and ignoring my phone calls i get realy upset when he ignores my phone calls. So i call back over and over agin maybe 50 times in a row even thoug he says leave me a lone i dont want to be with you go away i hate you. He said he has a lot going on in his life which he does he has court and he hasa job and school hes trying rally hard to do good in school. I ush him all the time to do good in school and im hapy he wants to organizehis life btu now hes throwing me out of it becasue he doesnt have time for a girl friend. He cares for me and loves me but he covers it up by saying i havnt cared about you in so long i dont love you i havnt and mean things i get so hurt over it but i cant let him go no matter what. Then at night when i talk to him till like 2 on a school night he says he loves me and cares but he doesnt have time for a girl friend even though im moving 10 min away from him and he doesnt work everyday our one year is coming up and it hurts for him to say all those things i cant instantly stop loving him what do i do? I cry every night feel like dieing

I'm guessing you're a teenager. I know you might not want to hear this and this might not help you at all, but I think the best thing to do is get out of it now. If it's meant to be it'll find its way back. You guys just might need to take a little break. Serious relationships as teenager can get really frusturating.

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Ok.....me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and a half. I try so hard to be the "perfect" girlfriend or whatever...but sometimes I think he doesn't even realize or appreciate anything I do. What should I do?

Wow... I feel exactly the same way. I'm sorry I just... it's nice to know I'm not the only one that does that.

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How do I know if my boyfriend REALLY loves me?
we've been together for close to six months.
i know it's very quick, but after about 1 month, he told me he loved me..
But how can I be sure it's true love and not lust or just a deep like?

How can I be sure it's the real thing, a real love?

Because..i know in my heart that I love this guy. :)

if your asking this question then your not in love.. its most likely lust or deep like like you said. its hard to determine the difference but in time you learn how.

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I have this girl i met in darwin when i went for a holiday there and she likes me and i like her. But she dont wanna do long distance...
What do i do?

long distance relationships are often really hard.. sometimes its better not to get into them!! but if you really want to and she really doesnt want to do that whole long distance thing.. theres really nothing else you can do!

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God I'm so lonely, Why must I be the only person i know still single its like even the most hideous people have bf/gf. I am so alone and need some advice how to get a girl.
Thanks

dont be shy.. be respectful but hands on. go to a mall.. best on a friday night.. depending on how old you are.. you could probally just introduce yourself to a girl thats with some friends and tell her your name and that if its okay if you could have her number to get to know her! if you need other information or have any questions dont be afriad to ask! i hope i helped.

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